#i'm having my mid-life crisis 20 years in advance help

[adulting-with-autism]

(2/2) I mean what do adults even do? I'm sort of having an existential crisis being 23 because I feel like I'm being dragged away from my life that was 22 and under and that I can't enjoy the things I used to enjoy even though I'm only 23. Have any of the mods experienced this? I don't want kids or a partner, I never really have, and I don't really know what this new adult world is. I still feel like a baby in some ways but also "too old" in the same breath? I don't know, do you have any advice?

(1/2) I'm autistic but I'm not sure if this is related to autism or not but I've never really felt professionally ambitious. I mean I thoroughly enjoy the subject I have a degree in and plan to start looking for jobs in that field soon (I just graduated in May) but I don't feel ambitious to conquer the world or anything. I just want enough to pay bills and I mean hopefully the ambition comes later but right now I don't feel it. The most important thing to me is what my life is outside of work.

As someone who is nearly out of their 20s I can say it’s a common feeling. Your 20s are a hard time where you adjust to being an adult. It’s okay to take comfort in things you used to do or enjoy. You might find new interests too. 

You can even find people mid-career and of an advanced age who feel like they’re faking it. It’s a strange experience, being an adult. No-one really knows how to do it, so we muddle along as best we can.

For many of us now, it’s hard to get started and it can take a while. Hobbits only become adults at 33, and I personally have started applying that metric. You’ve still got ten years to get stuff together.

Hope this helps

Nick

#Anonymous