*announcer voice*
CHOOSE!! YOUR!! DONNIE!!
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Not to be negative or judgemental, but I'm so tired of people with no manners and no spatial awareness on public transportation.
How hard is it to not look at your phone when you're stepping into the tram or the ferry so you can walk at a normal pace and not hold up the line? If you don't have any headphones, mute your phone, it's basic civility and respect. If you're going to stop walking, get out of the way if you can, don't just stand there.
I swear to god, either I'm getting more impatient as I get older, or people are just losing all fucking sense and decency.
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Hello!
I was wondering, could we know something else about the witness? I just saw on discord that they would be a supernatural and got really curious, but I don’t know if it will too spoilery (sorry if it is)
yep, the Witness will be a non-human!
my current draft has 16 different choices for what kind of supernatural you are (4 in each of the 4 main classifications of supernaturals/non-humans). they each have their own unique abilities and physical differences, and your choice will have both big and small effects on the way certain scenes play out--though there's no "better" or "worse" option, they're just different
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I think I'm like 70% of the way done?????????
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Look.
Listen.
Look and listen. 🥵
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I hope any Americans reading this have already voted for progressive candidates or have set plans to do so by this Tuesday ❤️
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it's honestly a shame that I'm very used to the little/no interaction here
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the good thing about having really bad anxiety is that when you're worried about something and that something actually does happen you've already suffered it in advance so it doesn't even hurt that much
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Truly embracing my inner old man by eating dinner at exactly 5 pm
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My brand is wholesome and kinky and no I will not be elaborating 😅😂
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i’ve reached the point where i feel like if i dont watch kp episode 12 at least once a day i’ll lose my humanity like other people need coffee to properly start their day i need to watch the vegaspete sex scene
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favorite hobby when I'm driving is to catch someone trying to climb up my back bumper while I'm going a completely reasonable speed and just slowly take my foot off the gas. you seem upset, brother. why don't we slow down and enjoy the view awhile
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My sister was telling me that she and her girlfriend went on a ghost tour for their anniversary, and at one point the tour guide mentioned there was a spooky haunted doll down inside a vent but phone flashlights usually weren't powerful enough to see it, so my sister whipped out the industrial-strength flashlight she carries in her purse at all times and the guide exclaimed "Oh! We should have lesbians on every tour!"
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“When I first heard it, from a dog trainer who knew her behavioral science, it was a stunning moment. I remember where I was standing, what block of Brooklyn’s streets. It was like holding a piece of polished obsidian in the hand, feeling its weight and irreducibility. And its fathomless blackness. Punishment is reinforcing to the punisher. Of course. It fit the science, and it also fit the hidden memories stored in a deeply buried, rusty lockbox inside me. The people who walked down the street arbitrarily compressing their dogs’ tracheas, to which the poor beasts could only submit in uncomprehending misery; the parents who slapped their crying toddlers for the crime of being tired or hungry: These were not aberrantly malevolent villains. They were not doing what they did because they thought it was right, or even because it worked very well. They were simply caught in the same feedback loop in which all behavior is made. Their spasms of delivering small torments relieved their frustration and gave the impression of momentum toward a solution. Most potently, it immediately stopped the behavior. No matter that the effect probably won’t last: the reinforcer—the silence or the cessation of the annoyance—was exquisitely timed. Now. Boy does that feel good.”
— Melissa Holbrook Pierson, The Secret History of Kindness (2015)
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We are always going to be a little bit sad and a little bit mad. But it's okay. We'll always be a little bit magic too.
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
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