#ideal and real and romantic

[j-wilson-md]

romantic killer but from junta's perspective where he's an absolute bi disaster bcs he's constantly in the presence of his crush and his other crush who are too pretty for their own good

#look the real ending is probably anzu/kazuki and that's fine i like their dynamics anyway #but the ideal ending is one where no one ends up with anyone #or anzu/kazuki/junta throuple #romantic killer #hayami junta #hoshino anzu #kazuki tsukasa

[everyscreentoobeseen]

Maybe im just Stede-pilled but I didn't see him doing anything wrong in ep 6&7 till the Zheng Confrontation.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Killing Ned was inevitable and a good thing because it rid the world of a monster. Him getting praised and respected by other pirates isn't a crime. Him burning a dude is just a more direct version of burning the party boat. Plus the dude wanted to kill him. It's not shown that he died either so he's probably fine.

Not once did he act mean or nasty for no reason. Especially not during ep 7. He was just basking in receiving validation from the community he so desperately wanted to be accepted by.

The only reason he wanted to fight Zheng was because he not only lost Ed, but he was also losing Olu/Jim/Archie. His family. Which Zheng had no problem mocking him for. Then Steak Knife got pinched to ??death???unconsciousness??

Of course he's gonna act irrationally and draw his sword. Everyone is acting like Stede was becoming evil and corrupted but none of the shit he did even touches what Blackbeard did in his Kraken era... Not here for the Stede slander.

He's my little meow meow that can do no wrong.

#ofmd #ofmd s2 #our flag means death #stede bonnet #oh no stede is becoming the mean pirate he tried not to be #shut up #this whole season is about stede no longer deluded by the romantic ideal of pirates #and him realizing what it means to be a real pirate #and not a noble playing at one #zheng is the wake up call but the rest of the episode is just proof that he can achieve his dreams #like zheng said in ep 3 #There's time for talking and time for fighting #you can be a gentleman pirate #as long as you're still doing the pirate part

[theatricalnebula]

thinking about how akio sees his younger self in utena and wondering if there's any fondness there. doesn't change the horror of what he does to her obviously but i do wonder

#akio and utena #m #long ramble in the tags sorry: #the thing about akio is that he's so evil bit he's also so human #he has feelings. i just don't know what they are (if anything) toward his victims #he loves anthy at the very least i'm sure of that. even if he hates her too. just like she loves and hates him. the lines are blurry. #and i just. i have to wonder whether any of that extends to utena at all. we know anthy at times feels similarly about utena and dios #(and akio by extension.) the simultanious love and resentment. so it's not too unlikely i think. #like. even though he never had anything but bad intentions in getting close to her #i'm not sure it's possible to do everything he did and feel nothing #not that he has any meaningful amount of guilt or remorse for it. i don't think that. #and i obviously don't think he “loved” her in any of the ways she might have thought he did #but did he not care at all? did he not feel any kind of fondness or sympathy or just. idk. pity? for her? #whatever the case it wasn't enough to reconsider having her killed so you know. how much does that actually matter anyway #idk. i think about it a lot. how abusers are rarely entirely indifferent toward their victims #the role he's playing in her life is so fucked up but it IS a role he's playing and i wonder how much he you know... internalizes it? #how much does he believe the illusion of family that he invites her into? because akio DOES often buy into his own illusions. #(similarly i think it's possible that akio is fond of touga too. their mentor-protégé relationship is horrible and abusive #but that doesn't make it less real. you know? maybe real is the wrong word.) #when he talks in episode 25 about wanting utena and anthy closer that's obviously so he can continue to groom her #but is there something genuine there too? i don't know. #again. it obviously does not make anything he does better or even different. but it is interesting to think about to me. #on the other side of that coin does seeing his own past youth and naivete and desire to do good that he (maybe) once had #reflected back at him through her mean anything? #is there resentment there? that she is what he couldn't be? or more likely he just thinks that idealism is stupid. #either way it's something he wants to take from her. anyway ramble over. #i talk a lot about utena's feelings toward akio (familial vs romantic love and the way the two are intertwined in fucked up ways) #but not much the other way around. probably because utena is actually a sympathetic character whose feelings the show very clearly #wants you to analyze and think about. #which is... less true for akio i think. though he's still a complex character with complex motives. he's just harder to get a grasp on.

[natsmagi]

??

??????????????????

surely not. are you implying that during date plan natsume was struggling with coming up with an idea and not only went to tsumugi, a completely irrelevant third-party with probably ZERO dating experience for advice, but then used tsumugis OWN IDEAL FIRST DATE as a base to work off of rather than, oh, i dont know, GOING WITH YOUR IDEAL DATE????? WHY ARE U BASING UR DATE PLAN ON TSUMUGIS IDEAL DATE AND NOT UR OWN ARE U STUPID. ARE U GAY. my eyes must be deceiving me bc aint no way

#WHAT ARE YOU DOING #ARE TOU CRAZY #whatever. #WHAYEVER #THIS IS SO DUMB SOMEONE LOCK HIM UP #nat rambles #nats enst posting #no bc i feel so ill bc if we're going by my delusion then natsumes idea is such a cute and romantic twist on tsumugis initial idea #bc its kinda like. Showing u those starry skies in a natural environment rather than going to a planetarium #(which is arguably more convenient if u wanna guarantee a gorgeous view) #but natsumes idea makes it sound like No we should be experiencing the real deal out under the night time sky #But this is me being crazy. ignore me. #NATSUMES OWN IDEAL FIRST DATE IS SO CUTE TOO HE LITERALLY COULDVE JUST GONE WITH THAT #WHATS WRONG WITH HIM #THE DATE PLAN ISNT EVEN CLOSE TO SIMILAR

[bandtrees]

Annoying fandom people when you tell them characters do things based on writers’ decisions and biases and are not fully autonomous sapient beings they’re watching in a terrarium

#babbles #this is in general an ideal i hold very close in fandom stuff but like especially abt wc cuz that fandom sucks with this #i hate warriors fans so much it’s unreal. it’s not ‘these writers have weird ideas about what is romantic’ but ‘this character is toxic!!1’ #boiling down what can be a meaningful discussion about abuse and patriarchal standards into a purely blorbobrained character argument #about in universe traits like these characters are real and we need to give them counseling #because having the 500th soapbox about bramblestar or nightheart or whoever being abusive makes you feel progressive #like. i'd love to discuss for instance the misogynistic standards that the erins have as writers and how that affects their work. #i dont however care to discuss which Fictional Cat For Ten Year Olds is the most Problematic. bc that does nothing #reminds me of that tweet abt like the fatphobic trope of chars being depressed or hitting a low point and being fat slobs #and ppl came in waves like 'no it makes sense because he was depressed and xyz etc etc' like we're discussing a real person #and not constructs made by writers that show fatphobic ideologies. missed the point so hard dude. #less 'character does this' more 'writer made the character do this'. not even in criticism but in discussing themes etc etc

[howifeltabouthim]

I suppose, like anyone, I've never lost the hope for perfect love to come out of nowhere.

Lisa Taddeo, from Animal

#when you least expect it #true love #love #idealized #waiting #hoping #like lightning #out of nowhere #romantic #if only #relationships #just like me for real #quotes #lit #words #excerpts #quote #literature #lisa taddeo #animal

[seasaltmemories]

Thinking about my boy

#aono kun #i want to hold aono kun so badly i could die #ryuhei aono #to be clear normal aono is my boy more than dark aono (yada yada how different are they yeah but their vibes are distinct enough for me) #but this screenshot was too good to ignore and I can appreciate dark aono for being a great unique antagonist #just a little freak who is scheming things but not very good at hiding that #but real aono the real costar of my heart- i need him to be happy by the end just as much as yuri #I do think his conflict with his dark side is interesting in how it reflects his trauma and everything I learn about his life #up to the present day breaks my heart #he didn't get a chance to grow up and make up for his mistakes he never got to be more than his mother's child #so I will forgive a little murder and possession as a treat #unless WEIRD REDACTED TWIST ends with him hurting Yuri for real bc she is the other costar #but yeah sad little man haunted by his trauma and goes 'don't worry about it' as he tries to be the ideal romantic partner until it all #comes crashing down all around him is very seasalt-core

[rawliverandgoronspice]

one thing you must understand about me extremely fast is that the only pairings that make any sense to me are those where it's the worst idea you've ever heard and both participants are getting out of there in tatters

#thoughts #ganondorf and saeruk are actually the healthiest pairing I've ever written #and it's fucking saying something!!!!!!! #because it's Absolutely Not Healthy!!! #but it's still my best attempt u___u I know and I'm sorry #(that does include all my halfway home pairings btw for those in the know) #weirdly enough maddsen and gwynevir are not the worst either they do make it work for the time it lasts them #but yeah I have #“I can see people have healthy relationships in real life and that romantic love is objectively real. seems fake but ok" syndrome #so it's pretty hard to project myself re: healthy attraction and desire and couples as something that isn't a trap #this does impact my writing! in ways that are not super ideal honestly! #but oh well!!

[jupiterjunebug]

Shaking the bars of my enclosure, screaming "they're fucking nineteen. The reason they are making suboptimal decisions is that they are nineteen! And going through trauma!"

#yang not noticing her sister is Going Through It #bc she got high on the exhilaration of not being a parentified older sister anymore #and DARED to get distracted by what might be the first real romantic relationship shes had? #nineteen #weiss telling whitley 2 go 2 his room rather than immediately recognizing hed gone thru the same abuse as her and also needs help? #blake panicking bc she got yelled at and fearing the first home she built after leaving her abusive ex? #ruby making suboptimal tactical decisions and self destructing when they dont work out? #fucking EIGHTEEN #thinking ur grown enough to take on the world but being young enough you cant make the ideal choices is like #Peak teen experience #esp in this chapter where the whole focus is on defining ur identity #and growing into who u r #no shit the teenagers wont b perfect when flung into the define yourself dimension #most ppl i kno r still struggling with defining themselves and extending sympathy to those they disagree w in their mid 20s #or later #rwby rant

[jtbb]

google am i on the aro spectrum or am i just a teenager

#ideal partner: someone i can flirt with and do romantic things with but most importantly we just hang out and talk about our hyperfixations #ik a lot of ppl say that your partner should also be your best friend but idk i just dont want the whole established relationship aspect #boy asks me do u love me and im like hell yeah bro we r good buddies . boy asks are you in love w me and i short circuit #google help i am yearning so bad but i dont want a partner i just want to meet someone my age who i actually enjoy the company of #we can do Romance Things for fun but thats not the point. the point is reblogging each others posts on tumblr #i think this is just a result of my elementary school years being so lonely like i never had a friend for more than a year #and even the friends i did have we were never close at all #the longest real friend ive had and consistently talked to ive still only known for like almost 2 years #which is a lot. for me. but the concept of just . any sort of commitment even just in friendship is still so foreign to me #and yeah it would help if ive ever actually had a serious crush on someone that i was sure wasnt just a hyperfixation #but that hasnt happened yet and idk at what age i should finally just label myself and stop waiting for it to happen

[moinsbienquekaworu]

Confirmed. There is something going on with me

#fork found in kitchen yeah yeah #no but okay. when my brain is confronted with The Possibility of romance (even if not real) #i suddenly do not want to be dating anyone. like. it's all yearning about not being the odd one out #until i am for real thinking about a real person as a romantic object and suddenly nope i like being single 4ever #my ideal partner is Aromantic. is the conclusion. #i need to find an aromantic person who agrees with me on romance & partnership and who i get along with well #and then we can do our thing forever #oh god romance is scary #says woman who's probably just making things up because 95% of the media she engages with is romance #wow i have a ramble tag now

[iwritenarrativesandstuff]

Been trying to write an analysis on Sasaki and the ending of Entrance Exam for days now and it just wasn't turning out so I deleted it... maybe another time when I can formulate a thought properly...

The only part I'll put here for now was the bit about my amusement with Dazai and Sasaki clearly near instantly realizing the other is a threat, which changed the way I read the scene of them chatting in the booth after she stayed the night. It probably boiled down to:

*sweetly smiling at each other* "oh this asshole has got to go"

Actually I went on an unorganized ramble in the tags so read that if you're interested in my Sasaki thoughts. Maybe I'll clean it up one day and make it proper.

#i've never seen anyone talk about her in depth so i thought it'd be fun; i really like her actually there was a lot of (wasted) potential #but my brain said no apparently #she has obvious implications for kunikida's character #but i wanted to talk a little about her dynamic with dazai and the paralleling between them #a seeker of justice who actually does not care much about justice and has no real personal ambition #merely acting in the memory of someone with much more strongly held values #she's also pretty cool i mean she has no ability and is quite intelligent #manages to puppeteer everything on her own simply through her skill at reading people and being selective with info #and yet is described as a puppet herself multiple times #and it was heavily heavily implied she wanted answers on what to do with herself and all her painful feelings towards the world #and dazai saw shooting her as 'kindness' #even as she was midway through telling kunikida #that she was happy when kunikida saved her even though it was all a set up #also i wanted to bring up how there's a really important difference between kunikida and the azure king #they're uncomfortably similar in some ways but very different in others #the point was that the azure king is to kunikida (if he valued ideals over people - the darkest path) #as sasaki is to dazai (if he'd been given no direction after losing his most important person - the darkest path) #it's more complicated than that and definitely not 1 to 1 but i stand by this interpretation #the main difference being that perception of humanity in self and others that is the running theme of this series #realized i paralleled a romantic couple to these two #does this count as kunikidazai lol #ugh anyways eventually i will write this i hope #storyrambles #also i know the point is that her and rokuzou died i know the point is the deaths were pointless #but what if she lived? what if she too got to find a reason to keep going in the face of grief and apathy? #and the continued conflict this could give kunikida too #something something the clash of different ideals of justice and how what is 'right' isn't so clear cut #but eventually he sticks to his belief that it is his ideal that no more people die if he can do something about it #this is so stupidly self-indulgent and an impossible scenario and probably i am the only one who finds it interesting but whatever #i think her living would've made things very very complicated but it's interesting to think about

[todayisafridaynight]

Genuinely hoping they don’t give Ichiban a love interest or something. I just detest focusing on romances with some exceptions like whatever Nanba and Saeko keep doing tbh 💀 And I do not have high hopes after the things they kept doing with Kiryu in different games. Actually that’s one of my fears with 8 😭😭

if it's any consolidation, i doubt they'll give ichi a love interest- or it won't be a main plot point anyhow

rgg's never really handled romance with tact, and i think as the series went on they kinda realized that and had romance plots sort of fizzle out (Y1's climax was Certainly a love triangle, and while Y2 had kiryu and kaoru romance is never a major prevalent thing again. closest we get is akiyama and yasuko but it's about as relevant as akiyama's part, then it's not really brought up again)

#snap chats #i dont wanna say i hate romance but it's really hard for me to get into it #i think love is beautiful but yeah it's not my favorite to have to watch if i'm playing an action game #also i dont interpret saeko and nanba's relationship as romantic tbh- i love their relationship for that honestly #like nanba def thinks saeko's attractive. We All Do LBR but he's not weird about it #their dynamic's really cute they're besties from how i see it #ALSO REAL QUICK IK SOMEONE GON BRING UP SOMEYA IN Y6 #i wouldnt call that romance like that's more so someya not being able to get over shit ☠️ #like romance is when both parties are like. into it yk Let Me Explain Oh My GOD #romance is when its kinda lighthearted and. dear god this really is hard to explain #like with someya his feelings feel more like.. a concern ? #like his love isnt supposed to be taken as ideal it's supposed to be like 'hey can you relax bro' LMAO #idk no one's here for that ramble anyways anon i think we'll be fine #considering they had ichi Frame One be like 'yeah i have no game :((((' i doubt rgg will let him score LMAOOO

[coloursofaparadox]

i ✨️cannot sleep✨️ and vaguing about shit on the internet feels more cathartic than writing it out somewhere else. suffer.

#im having. thoughts. on one hand. VERY badly want woods and chicken farm. #on the other hand. i do actually like friends? #and the likelihood of making friends as a queer person in a small town is uh. yknow. not as good. #but idk if its important enough to me to put my life on hold indefinitely to create more ties to an area that ill eventually have to leave #if i ever want a chance at supporting myself financially or buying a tiny lil starter house? #ideal situation is i start a gay commune with like minded friends. but uh. people have not been good to me #on the whole 'trust em with your plans' front #sigh. idk. id love to be able to afford a place thats still in the general area but that is never going to happen #unless i can spontaneously manifest /literally/ a million dollars #i am done with romantic relationships i think. if one happens at some point? cool. but i am not basing my life plans around it. #and will not sacrifice my own peace and wellbeing just for the sake of one #god. looking for queer friends who want to live on a farm with me platnically and we all have our own space but #also raise animals together and hang out sometimes. and dogs are a requirement. #i just! want! queer commune! where i can go back to my own little bubble and have my own space too! #aaaaahhhhh!!!! albertas real estate is starting to look real good right about now! #ugh. u g h. i fluctuate wildly between 'im very VERY content not speaking to a human for a week at a time' and 'platonic life partner. pls. #maybe i just....take a page out of 18 yr old me's ballsy ass handbook. and uproot my entire life to move somewhere completely new #where i know no one have no connections and in a completely different climate 😎 it worked out last time #i could so just fuck off somewhere. oh my god it is so tempting.

[ezhilmozhi]

Shaoshang recollects LBY's words and actions then decides to catch feelings?

Also, the imbalance of power is not in their social status or power or influence.

It's that they're both at different stages of their lives. Comparably, Niaoniao has less world experience than a military man whose led battles most of his life, is a nominal part of royalty, and is feared by most of the noble classes. Even if he were on their social level - i.e. not an adopted son of an Emperor or his Dad was an ordinary farmer, someone like Ling Bu Yi would still have more power in the relationship than a very young girl.

#silly #love like the galaxy #CDramas #unequal relationship #older man younger woman #ling Bu Yi #cdrama #this is a romantic trope that is viewed as ideal #LBY is GIVING Shaoshang equality #and she is falling for that rather than the actual person #I know this is an unpopular opinion #Shaoshang is 15+ #LBY is only 21 but is so much more mature #this is a drama so all's well that ends well etc #in real life such a disparity in life experiences would convince the male that the younger woman is after marriage

[colorsinautumn]

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#i would love to date right now #ideally #but like #i am not in the place for that at all right now #so yearn mode will be on until therapy fixes me <3 #until i fix myself i mean #idk to be real i just realized that i don't really have any solid friends around me #and i really wanna focus on growing my own self esteem and making friends #rather than focusing on a romantic life #cause that won't fill the void #but healing will #maybe not entirely #but i want to actually have the space to support a healthy relationship when it comes along someday #and part of that means doing the work ahead of me