#if loveless aros exist

[redysetdare]

Some of you people need to stop acting so shitty over aspec stereotypes because it's starting to get to a point that you are just shitting on the people who experiences match the stereotypes and it's hurting a lot more aspects than it's helping.

#text #aspec #ace #aro #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aplatonics #loveless #loveless aro #afamilial #adding you guys heree too because aplato afamil and loveless ppl get shit on constantly #for embodying the 'doesnt feel love towards anyone' stereotype which is often seen as something aspecs need to fight against #too many of you are more focused on seeming normal to the allos #that youre willing to throw some of us who dont fit the mold under the bus #because we 'make aspecs look bad' or 'prove allos negative stereotypes' #and idk maybe we shouldnt be theowing experiences under the bus because aphobes throw a fit over them #shouldnt we protect eachother from aphobia not try to surpress those who 'cause it' by existing??? #aphobia

[uncanny-tranny]

It's fine to be loveless as an aro. It isn't the end of the world, actually, and you aren't a threat, nor are you an annoyance. If others feel threatened by your completely loveless aromanticism that says more about them than it does about you <2

#aro #aromantic #lgbt #lgbtq #it's very weird to be in queer spaces that are pro-queer until aromantics (specifically loveless ones often) start to... exist in any way #it can be hard to remember that alloromanticism isn't the norm because there isn't a norm #alloness is an aspect of humanity but it is by no means inherent to your worth or your humanity #maybe i've talked about this before but: i still will say it 💚🤍🩶🖤

[oroniusn]

“But!! If you don’t want to get married and have kids what else is there to do!!! That’s the only option!! You don’t want to die sad and alone do you?!?!?!!!” (Something I was actually told today)

Idk man, world domination? That’s an option /j

#Serious answer: I want a farm in the middle of nowhere and a dog #That’s pretty much all I need to be happy #Preferably as far away from the city as physically possible #Maybe a few dogs #Three sounds like a good amount #And of course Opal (my cat) would come with she’s my baby #Maybe some sheep I’ve always liked sheep #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #aro #ace #loveless aroace #loveless aro #aplatonic #< recently learned that term existed and it fits me pretty well :] #specifically Demi aplatonic #And probably some type of afamilial as well since I really don’t feel familial attraction ever #oh well

[uglyaro]

fuck having partner(s)

fuck romance

fuck committed relationships

most importantly, fuck valentines day

reject queerplatonic relationships

embrace singleness

embrace joys of not having to deal with your partner(s) whining

embrace being yourself and not giving shit about ever having partner(s)

being single is valid as fuck, don't listen to those, who tell you, that you'll find "rIgHt PeRsOn"

#aromantic #aro #arospec #aqueerplatonic #aquaplatonic #aqpspec #asexual #ace #acespec #aspec #right person doesn't exist #my ex friend said once that ill find right person #and they were sooo fucking wrong lmao #fuck my ex friend #lmaoo #evil aro #heartless aro #heartless aqp #loveless aro #loveless aqp #love loses #romance repulsed #qpr repulsed

[bitchfitch]

I have the general rule that I just, don't let myself give a shit about other people's dumbass opinions but I have one pet peeve that I just. Can Not let go of. and it's posts that go

How to write [Minority Group]!

Step 1: Make sure all your characters are exactly like me the op, or are exactly what I like to see in media.

Aside: Anything else is impossible, unrealistic, bigoted and you'll go to hell forever.

Step 2: They also have to use the exact language I do to describe themselves btw, no matter the time period or setting. See the above aside for further explanation.

Step 3: you should never ever even think about the actual mechanics of what makes a trope problematic in its impact in the real world. J ust memorize this list of things that should be banned in all fiction (for being problematic because I don't like them/someone else I agree with said they should be banned)

Step 4: Nuances in identity don't exist <3

#this is specifically about the number of how to write acearos posts that dont recognize people can have motives outside their orientation. #or that demiromantics/demisexuals exist #They are also always Really particular about how its unrealistic for aro characters to be anything other than disgusted by romance #Hi im an ace aro who fucks often and adores romance #as like a genre and form of social performance #I like sex because I like attention thats socially simple and doesn't require the upkeep of a relationship #I like romance because im a human person who doesn't think every story has to be about me to be interesting. #I like new experiences and seeing the world from other perspectives i like the pagentry of dates andnthe aesthetics of love. #Whether im loveless or not is an ongoing question because my ability to process my own emotions is zilch. #Maybe im incapable of love (the chemialcal reaction) but still chose to love (the social contract) #its not unrealistic for people tobe different from you #it just Frustrates me to no end when folk try to define anyone who shares their lable but arnt like them out of existence.

[strawberrymilksystem]

Heyyyy it’s bad opinion time again.

I’m taking qpr away from the allos until they stop using it as an excuse to put every single character in a relationship. Jesus fucking Christ one of Admins comfort characters is a pretty obvious relationship repulsed person (like. Canonically) and the amount of people who use qpr as an excuse to ship him with his best friend is :/ the allos don’t get qpr anymore until they can fucking accept that people who don’t want to get into any sort of relationship need representation, too. The world is already so couple centric please for the love of god “they marry for tax reasons” They don’t marry at all.

-Pearl

#aroace #aromantic #loveless aro #begging. hands and knees #just let loveless people exist let us have representation omg #HIS WORST FEAR WAS A PERSONIFICATION OF BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. WHY DO THEY CONTINUE TO SHIP HIM

[whatareyoudoingwithamaserati]

She mcyt on my aro till i week . Uhm . PURPLE DUO HANAHAKI for the prompt trope subversion!!!!! @mcyt-aro-week

#lifesteal smp #purple duo #mcyt aro week #HOUGH I have been waiting so long to start posting my aro week fics. literally vibrating with excitement #spent far too long teasing a friend with the existence of this one >:) #VERY excited for tomorrow’s prompt😇 I can be normal about being loveless and alloaro and also about worldbuilding and gods😇 #subz voice was so fun to write in also. I don’t watch him much but I have a pocket subzboy who was vibing with what I sent so!!!! #cats.writes

[uselessnbee]

i am tired of the way people act like aromantics feeling other kinds of love is some kind of redeeming quality

every time there's a post about aromanticism the comments are flooded with people saying how aromantic people can still feel love it's just not the romantic kind and like yes it is important to point that out because it is true that some aromantic people still feel other kinds of love but not all!! and that's okay!! some aromantic people don't feel love at all and it doesn't make them any less valid! and i'm not saying people need to stop with those comments there's nothing wrong with that but the moment someone tries to point out that loveless people exist and are valid others start acting so fucking weird about it

i have a really weird relationship with love i use the word "love" to describe how am i feeling about people or pets or other stuff because it's the closest thing to describe how i feel but at the same time i'm not 100% sure what i feel is actually "love"

it doesn't probably makes sense but i just feel like i don't feel love the same way others do, the same way this society deems normal and how i am supposed to feel it and so having people act like me feeling other types of love or attraction that are just not romantic and sexual is something that redeems me from not feeling romantic love just makes me really uncomfortable

i don't want people to keep pointing out how i can feel other types of love as if it's the only thing that makes me valid

like and what if i don't? what if i don't feel love at all? does that make me less valid? it should not. i should be valid for being me for being who i am not for being able to feel any kind of love.

i am tired of the way love is treated as something that makes us human. i'm tired of people acting like people who do not feel love are suddenly terrible and inhuman. it's just a fucking emotion and not everyone needs to feel it. if someone told you they can't feel hatred would you suddenly tell them they're terrible and inhuman because feeling hate is what makes us human? no because that's fucking stupid. how is it any different with love?

i could write whole essays about how fucking stupid it is that people act like feeling love and empathy is what makes us human and good people. there are some absolutely vile and cruel people in this world capable of doing monstrous things and some of them do feel love or empathy. does that suddenly make them good people? does that suddenly erase all the terrible things they've done just because they feel certain emotions? no it really doesn't. so why should it be any different if it's the other way around. good people are good because they choose to be kind. people can be the kindest souls on this earth and don't need to feel love and empathy.

i know i'm rambling and probably don't make sense but i'm just really tired. i'm tired of people acting like me being able to feel other kinds of love is what makes me valid. like me feeling love is that one good thing about me. i want to be able to say proudly that i am aromantic that i am aroace that i don't feel romantic love without needing to clarify that yes i do feel other types of love as if that's what makes me better. i am not better or more valid than loveless people just because i "can" feel love or whatever other bullshit

they're valid too and i want to be valid without needing to "feel love" i want to feel like i would be valid and accepted even if i wouldn't feel love at all

#i'm sorry guys i just needed to vent #vent post #aromantic #aromanticism #aroace #loveless #i am proud of being aro of being aroace and i want to stay proud even if one day i decide #that what i feel isn't actually love and i do not feel comfortable using that word #amd i don't want to feel like i'm seen as better or more valid in some peoples eyes #because i feel love #loveless people don't deserve to be treated this way #i needed to rant about this because i saw a post where people were only commenting how aros can still love #and i commented that not all of them that some people don't feel love at all and that's okay amd it #doesn't make them any less valid #and majority of yhe replies were other aros saying they still feel love #and like great good for you babes but that was so not the point of my comment #no need to take it personally that someone points out loveless aros exist like what's the point of that

[dogkin]

The aromantic community really needs to get rid of it’s obsession with platonic love :/

#Literally #like aplatonic folks exist!!! I exist!!! #Loveless aros exist!! #Think abt us for at least 1 second!! #oliver.txt #mine #aro posting #aplatonic #aromantic #aroace #arospec #aspec #loveless aro

[the-irken-pony]

Everyone thinks aro headcanons are just “they hate people and I can’t imagine them caring another someone or having someone care about them” when 99% of my aro headcanons are “they show either a passive disinterest in or blatant rejection of romance while placing a lot of value on platonic or familial relationships”

#yes loveless aros exist and deserve rep but loveless and aro are not synonymous #aromantic #mine #random

[jestcoining]

paradox aro ; arolovedox

⟿ pronounced [ PAH-RAH-DOX AY-ROH ] or [ AY-ROH-LUV-DOX ]

simultaneously being a loveless aro and arolovic.

some reasons for being arolovedox include:

⟿ being arofluid, aroflux, and/or loveflux.

⟿ experiencing love in a disconnected way

⟿ not feeling love but feeling that it plays a key role in describing one’s identity

⟿ not fully understanding what love is and if one feels it or not

⟿ experiencing some types of love but not others

and many other reasons that one might use both loveless and arolovic!

🔳 etymology !!

♡ paradox + aromantic

♧ aro [ from “aromantic” ] + love + paradox

🔲 flag meaning !!

old rose ⟿ arolovic aromantics

dusty rose ⟿ redefining love for oneself

pink-gray ⟿ deep and personal experiences with love (negative, positive, or otherwise)

pine ⟿ acceptance

dull green ⟿ community between aromantics

pine ⟿ tolerance

green-gray ⟿ fluid and flux identities

light green ⟿ disconnect from societal view of love and rejection of amatonormativity

dark green ⟿ loveless aromantics

read my pinned post before interacting ☆彡

♠️♥️ credit appreciated but not necessary !! ♣️♦️

#🃏 coined by me 🃏 #paradox aro #paradox aromantic #arolovedox #loveless aro #arolovic #neolabel #mogai #lgbtqia+ #aromantic #arofluid #aroflux #loveflux #not doing a flag meanings on the flag thing this time bc the meanings r kinda long LMFKAAK #this is meant more as a combo term than a new one btw! since it is v much based on existing concepts

[dyketubbo]

whatever. i am sooo aro in ways people could never comprehend. ive got that advanced deluxe aromantic shit going on. im on a higher level than those who think they gotta make up for being aromantic by saying love is what makes us human and just adding a footnote of *I TOTALLY MEAN ALL TYPES OF LOVE HERE. actually being human is defined by the simple fact that we Are humans. that is our species. love can go suck it and i shouldnt have to find a way to fit in with everyone else to be respected. i dont care if you dont understand but the least you can do is let us be

#i dont even WANT to be human. im not in headspace and im therian and delusional and all this other shit #but it still irks me. i dont need to make up for being aromantic. i dont need to replace any boxes with new ones #i dont need a box. i can just exist. #if youre aro and/or ace and are purrsonally validated by talking about how you still love all the power to ya #but respect the people who dont ascribe to that #mask mews #loveless aro

[demento]

reasons randy jade is aromantic:

he says (paraphrasing here) ”i don’t have a preference- anyone who treats me decently will work”, implying he doesn’t ACTUALLY feel attraction to those he goes out with (despite that statistic being in limited numbers), and since the amount of people who do like him is very small he wouldn’t be opposed to dating them

his first thought after being allowed to live with gingi is sex. kind of aroallo

i said so

#randy jade #dialtown #randy #dialtown randy #he’s a romantic aro though. beacuse i said so :) #<- NOT ME HATING ON LOVELESS AROS!! LOVELESS AROS EXIST AND YALL ARE SO SO VALID!! however i am a loving aro and i like to project #i’m also ace i’m not allo but i think he is. so

[marshmellowtea]

“every great story is about how the spirit of humanity is based in love!!! 🥰” just say you hate aromantic people and go lmao

#smacking people upside the head not all people feel love!!!!! #‘oh but they don’t just mean romantic love’ I DONT CARE #loveless aros exist and i’m sick of y’all erasing them!!!!! #aromantic #aro #discourse #marshy speaks

[redysetdare]

*looks into the camera as ppl miss the entire point of the aromantic part of my aspec post*

#text #y'all are doing exactly what my post is saying!!! Stop it!!!! #If i have to see one more person say 'there are other types of love' i'll scream DID YOU NOT READ THAT PART OF THE POST??? #we should not have to feel love of any kind for it to be acceptable for us to exist!!!!! #LOVELESS AROS EXIST!!!!

[chisatowo]

I wanna rant abt aro shit again buttttttt it involves getting all philosophical abt the concept of love and I don't wanna touch that with a ten foot pole my mental health can't take it rn lol

#rat rambles #I just think. it barely means anything. besides what it is to individuals. which is important but not world defining. ok dont yell at me #also god damn am I struggling to find info on the history of the concept of love thats not just extremely christian #and also every attempt to define it seems to define it less so like. if someone doesnt connect with the word and idea of love who cares #well evidently a lot of ppl but like thatll always be the case unfortunately #I just rly dont like love as a moral standard because its definition can therefor be argued to exclude whoever you want #I just think. hear me out. we shouldnt be trying to prove for or against ppl being human with a extremely vaguely defined emotion #or any emotion for that matter #I just think that maybe. possibly. someone being a literal actual human. might be enough to prove that theyre human. idk just a thought #and that all humans deserve basic human rights. wild concept right /s #and like its great if love is the meaning of life to you. but maybe. just maybe. we shouldnt be demonising ppl who dont feel that way abt #themselves. and like. idk. maybe some ppl might have good reason to feel disconected by the concept of love as it exists. idk. #like who knows maybe the way we discuss love makes it an ample weapon both for and against minorities and that can be kinda scary #and as a neurodivergent mentally ill agender acearo lesbian person I mean rly scary. #just. pls be kind to loveless aros and other aspec ppl or just ppl who dont center their worlds around love pls. thanks #again if love is important to you and your life thats genuinely wonderful for you and Im glad. just. dont be shitty to ppl abt it pls. #ok I accidentially did rant a bit but I am holding back so like. idk consider this the polite short version fkfnfjfnf #rat rants