#if you want to unfollow me for this post bc I offend you then maybe you have a problem

[jalnandanz]

user fleurated.

hello, i am making this bc i truly have had enough of the shit they have done lol. don't go send hate asks to anyone though, it's not right, whatever they have done.

my main issue here is regarding the c slur that they and their sister have said. i myself am chinese, and i have talk to a few of my chinese moots as well and all of them have all been extremely offended by what bree has said and how she handled the situation. for privacy purposes, i will not be naming them.

first issue: c slur.

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i seriously cannot even explain how much this affects the chinese community and i really have no words. if you genuinely don't know what the slur is, it's "chink".

i then sent in an anon ask about it and wow! she ignored it while she continued answering her mutuals' asks. then suddenly i couldn't send any asks to her! i and i could still send asks to my other mutuals so i can only assume that she had blocked me. typically way of handling a situation! hiding it from moots and blocking the person who called you out.

i then sent in a public ask to her about the same situation, to which she responded with "what". yes. just one word! at this point i really had enough and i sent in yet another ask. bree had privately answered this but i am so fucking appalled by her reply.

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you have said a slur, so i really don't care if that was your older sister or friend. the second part is what really took me off. " i apologise if you do think its offensive or not" excuse me?? please fucking tell me you are joking lol... of course im offended by it ??

i dmed her and these were her replies.

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(to be clearer, the first pic was her sister, enhyxkat, who was sending the message)

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the anon or your past experiences do not fucking give you the right to use a slur you cannot reclaim. you could have answered without using the slur OR the dog eating part. you are asian, but are you chinese? i don't fucking think so!

the fact that you had to answer privately is really weird because i think you just didn't want your mutuals seeing your fuck-up. ofc, maybe it was genuinely because you didn't want to clog your dash. then why aren't you at least apologising?

they have apologised to me on private but its really not about the slur at this point. it's about how bree and her sister replied and how they handled the situation.

second issue: user moatrash

if you don't know, user moatrash had faked her race a few weeks ago, claiming to be korean when she was south asian. i am neither korean nor part of the south asian community but i really, really detest people who do shit like this. also, i don't know if i am the only one who thought her apology was literal ass but whatever lol this isnt the main issue. in bree's carrd, this is what she states in her "do not interact" section.

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yet she is constantly interacting with user moatrash, or liz. she claims that liz had already apologized, but honestly i personally thought the apology was just her giving excuses for her actions. but again thats for another time. why are you friends with an east asian fisher when you seem to strongly object them? it doesn't sit right with me. its like you're picking and choosing just because shes your friend. so just bc you're mutuals, your dni doesn't apply to her? man tell me a better joke than that...

this really shows how she doesn’t care much about the people who's feelings have been hurt by this, and that she also doesn't care about everything that liz has caused to the ea community, as well as her own race.

that's all for now... i have a lot of other people to talk about but .. ☺️☺️ again, don't send hate asks please. she has apologized in dms but i have seriously had enough. that's why i made this post. also thank u to my moots who helped w this ^^

also P.S !!! she was the one who followed and unfollowed me 4 times in the hopes that i would fb but 🤣🤣🤣👍

#impt!!

[onelonelystory]

I know a bunch of people are making way more helpful beginner’s guides to tumblr but for anyone who may be making the leap during the Reddit exodus here’s my two cents:

try following friends first. get the hang of how reblogging functions and of all the posting features. if you use desktop add an xkit extension and use their quick reblog. change your header and profile and title from the default. consider not using an unstylized picture of yourself as a profile; anonymity is valued here (though of course, coming from reddit, I’m sure you understand.)

curate your own dash. follow people who post about things you’re interested in, follow friends, follow friends of friends, unfollow anyone at any time if you notice that their posts are not for you. don’t feel obligated to follow certain people just to participate in certain corners of the internet. if they really have so much good shit to say, it’ll probably make its way over to you eventually. the trending and for you pages are kind of useless and serve best as an occasional peek into a funhouse mirror version of the internet you thought you knew.

don’t overuse the add-to-reblog comment feature. if there’s additional commentary you want to share with your audience, that’s what tags are for! it shows up in the poster and previous reblogger’s notifications just the same. somewhere down the line someone might see your tags and decide to append them to the main post. we affectionately refer to this process as “peer review,” because once something has been added to a reblog any further iterations of the post will include that addition so it’s really just a way of saying said commentary adds to the post in a way that is not exclusive to your own audience.

that said if you do feel you have additional context or a necessary perspective to add to a post and you deliberately want to attach it, don’t be afraid to say your piece. people can reblog it or ignore it if they like, that’s their business.

if you disagree with the contents of a post, try not to do a discourse about it. If it seems like well-intended misinformation, you can add a correction with a source, or whatever additional context you feel is necessary for anyone who may not know better. any questions about what the post really means or follow-up is maybe best directed towards op’s ask box, as the narrative of reblog threads can get lost in the notifs tab. don’t be argumentative, don’t make assumptions; this is the internet. nobody on here gets an editor to make sure their words are framed exactly as they intended. if you really feel like being negative take a screenshot of the offending section, redact op’s url and any tagged or visible accounts, and make your own post. we all want to just tear into something from time to time and disagreements are a part of life. but try to avoid unnecessary conflict, it’s neither fun nor productive for any party.

if you see someone being a bigot block them. don’t dunk on them, don’t send them anon hate, don’t argue against them in the reblogs. there’s no algorithm on this site and nothing spreads without people spreading it. the best way to stop vitriol is to disengage.

block anyone. block people for being hateful bigots, block people for being annoying. block people for trying to start discourse on your posts even if you feel bad about it. if you start thinking to yourself wow, my life would be just a little bit better if this person couldn’t see my posts and I couldn’t see theirs, block them. block me for being preachy. block your best friend of six years bc they’re spamming your dash with their untagged spongebob liveblog and then dunk on them in your 20 person discord server.

treasure your mutuals but don’t feel like you have to be following people to be friends. tumblr dms are busted as hell just send someone an ask instead unless it’s that private. the search function does not work. polls are new and we’re all still constructing the etiquette of those together, but so far they’re mostly a vehicle for pitting characters against each other chunin exams style. ignore any part of this post that you don’t want to listen to I am legitimately not the boss of you. make your own truth go crazy drink water have fun.

#long post #196

[hartz-penny]

idk where to post about this bc i kinda just need a void.

the last month i've been regularly talking to this guy, not just some random match off of hinge / bumble / tinder, but my instagram crush. he was a teacher from relatively close to me who ended up on my explore page and i thought he was really cute. i followed him two years ago, and despite a lil bit of delulu thinking he'd maybe find me cute and we would fall madly in love, i knew it would probably be just a one-sided thing.

couple of years ago, i replied to something he posted, we had a brief convo in DM, but went nowhere. i noticed around this time that he had a wedding ring on in videos so i really began to just erase the hope of any reciprocation.

i always really liked his content (it was all either really positive stuff or "millennial teacher" content) so every so often i'd reply to a story, again getting just a quick "thanks!" or smile back.

then a month ago (quite literally almost to the day), i replied to a story and we started having an actual conversation. then he seemed to start getting flirty, and i quickly checked any and all of his recent videos to see if that wedding ring was still in them, it didn't appear to be there anymore. so i flirted back. and we had a really nice long convo. i went to bed, hoping maybe he would venture into my DMs again.

the next day he did, and the next, and we continued to talk and get to know each other and flirt pretty much every day. he was really funny, we'd send goofy pictures, we'd get a little spicy with our convos.

from my insta snooping and having had followed him for 2 years, i knew he had a kid, and i hoped and assumed he'd bring it up when ready and necessary. he brought it up the 3rd day we were chatting. he was a "full time solo dad of two" (the two surprised me). while i'd spent most of the last year moving towards the "i don't want kids" side, i don't hate kids, we hadn't even gone on a date yet, and he had a lot of really, really great qualities, so despite his "i won't be offended if the kid thing scares you off" i said that it didn't. this did however make planning an eventual date trickier especially since we lived about an hour and a bit away from each other.

but we continued to chat every day, and he was refreshingly honest with me, very forthcoming that although he really liked some of our spicy conversations, he liked just chatting with me and getting to know me. it was so great, i was enjoying conversation in a way thats normally tricky when you've never met them in person, i was so excited to see where this would go, even though i didn't know when that first date would happen.

then this week got a little weird. we chatted as normal monday morning / afternoon, and then monday evening my message stayed at "sent" for way longer than normal, i figured "oh he's probably dealing with kid stuff like the other night", tuesday comes, i send a meme, a goofy picture when i'm at work, it stays at "sent" vs. "seen". i start checking if he unfollowed me and he hadn't, he viewed my story when i posted those, but i was still like "weird, but again, he's probably just busy". finally last night he replied (his kid was sick) and i felt so much better. we sent goofy pictures back and forth, and we ended the convo completely normally.

then this morning, i open insta and i'm on my profile, and i notice my follower count had dropped and it was just one of those "i know" moments. he hadn't just unfollowed me, i was blocked.

literally as recent as sunday he was telling me how he wants to just sit on the couch and watch a reality show that i like with me, that he wants to figure out how we'd tell my parents that he has kids, and then this.

i'm just so confused, and so hurt, and i once again feel like i will always be the one duped by guys, even when its someone who on paper, very much doesn't seem like the type.

#anyways i'm probably going to die alone

[storytellering]

Hi :) was coming back to your blog again and again (mostly by accident and bcs I'm following your here). And I had your sad thoughts about your more explicit art stuck in my head and I don't even know why. I love your artstyle and portraits very much. Even the concept of your mpreg art and other stuff is interesting. I don't respond to nsfw/explicit art anymore on any social media bcs the any fandom is super toxic towards those topics. But your last postings made me do

"-I'm sad to hear that you can't find a place to post and enjoy the audience and can only do the "right" for the big community. Even I got put into a hate-list on twitter and I don't even draw nsfw. Bcs of this I unfollowed mostly any dmc artist there (and also you). Saying "don't keep track of numbers" won't work bcs I also do this and get encouraged if people unfollow me for posting personal thoughts there. Sorry for writing so much and we don't know each other at all ^^; It's just that I had your sad thoughts about art keep stuck in my head for days. I hope you don't feel offended or anything. Maybe you'll find the right place soon :) (have you tried twitter circle? apparently you can post personal stuff/explicit art for a few selected people and other art etc for everyone). Hope you're doing well and have a nice day :)" Hey there! Thank you so much for the compliments, and I'm so sorry you had that experience :( though that's not exactly what I was talking about in my post ;; Honestly, for the most part, I've had a great experience in the dmc fandom, especially on twitter - I haven't even gotten that much shit from antis aside from the odd "wtf that's his dad!" comment on some of my VN art (which always makes me chuckle because like. yeah, i know? that's half the fun about the ship lol) (though that might be because I've always been into "problematic" fiction so I was well into the practice of blocking antis on sight, it's very possible they simply can't see my account, lol) - and I do have a nsfw twitter for explicit art that I post to quite often! (or at least used to, I haven't drawn anything worth posting there in a hot minute but that's more because I haven't had the energy and inspiration for it, not because I don't want to) What I was talking about wasn't explicit/nsfw art, as much as art depicting more "controversial" subjectes, that might make people uncomfortable - like, say, mpreg, noncon, shotacon, watersports, period kink... that sort of thing, it's not that I don't feel comfortable posting nsfw, it's just that I'm afraid about certain types of it (and not even just nsfw, because honestly almost all my mpreg art is sfw, I'm more into it for the feels and the angst than it as a kink) are a bit contentious, and I would hate for people to follow that account for "normal" nsfw and then get ambushed by stuff that might make them uncomfortable, or even trigger them - it would be tagged for, obviously, but you never know... so, my issue is less not finding a place for my art, and more knowing that no matter what, some things will make people uncomfortable/hurt them to see, and not wanting to take chances with that ;; So sorry your experience in the fandom was a negative one, from what I've seen it depends a lot on in which time period you got into it, and who exactly you end up engaging with - at one point I almost quit because I had ended up in quite a bad place where everyone around me was negative and only feeding more negativity, but once I cut those people out it was all even more fun than it was before. Hope you manage to find your little corner like that!

#asks

[gaykey]

So are we allowed to be violent towards ppl just because we’re offended? And what limit is there because I may have seen that happen to one of my people on national tv and wanted to drag Chris Rock to the floor but would that be defensible? I think saying it’s okay here or expected there or “you say something then be prepared for consequences” ignores that no one should have a right to put their hands on anyone else or be excused just bc their currently on the right side of public opinion.

anon, are you alright? it must be awfully chilly up there on your high horse.

never have i felt such strong white emanating from my inbox. it makes me uncomfortable tbh.

maybe from your point of view, it was just a little offhand comment made in poor taste, but chris rock and many many other male stand up comedians have had long careers profiting off of misogynoir and exploiting back women.

and, it will's wife's medical condition that he was making a 'joke' about.....on national tv????

if a slap in the face is what needs to be done to put a stop to that, then so be it.

if you think people are saying it's just a case of 'lol well, you talk shit, you get hit' then, i don't know what i can say to you tbh? i feel like you're entirely missing the larger issue with what chris did.

maybe go scroll through a couple of the posts i reblogged and actually read them?

chris rock got what he deserved.

also, please PLEASE unfollow me right now, thank you.

#anon #the energy you sapped from me with this one.....

[scaryorganmusic]

sorry this is really petty but like. this drama is so funny bc ultimately ppl are being accused of liking w*ncest just for like. being mildly dean critical. babes you know you can just block people for disagreeing with you. it doesn’t have to be that deep. in fact it’s literally the only way to survive fandom with more than a quarter of your brain cells left. anyway I’m a dean stan bc I imprinted on him as a child but when I see posts about how he sucks I either agree, disagree and ignore it (and sometimes just unfollow bc I’m curating the most fun online experience for myself as I should), or just say “that makes a lot of sense but it makes me sad so I’m just writing it out of my personal secret good spn”. It’s not that hard.

also like. fellas is not wanting to talk about incest on the blog you run for fun the same as supporting incest /s

also also. the cycle of destiel shippers being annoying and condescending to non destiel shippers -> non destiel shippers understandably deciding they dislike destiel shippers -> destiel shippers being offended for being called annoying is SO funny. tony you CHOSE to do that- like I ship destiel and even I think you’re annoying lmao

Okay I don't plan on talking about this too much anymore but I'll take this as an opportunity to address some things

It is wild how lightly people are treating very awful accusations here. I understand being suspiscious before following someone, because I have accidentally followed people who put that content on my dash (untagged too! because i do have it blacklisted) and it felt so gross. But people are just taking anything they don't like as "sus behavior"

Here are things I've seen people honestly mention that makes you suspicious: obviously being mainly a Sam blog, being "dean critical", being too intense about liking seasons 1-3, shipping sastiel (????), posting mainly about the brothers and not about Cas, criticizing an actor, being reblogged by one of them (even though we also hate when that happens! but it's not something we can control because i don't know every single one of them in order to block) and of course being associated with someone else that's sus.

And here's where I completely agree with what you said: people could just block others for all those things without throwing accusations around! You can just say "most of Sam blogs, or all Sam blogs who don't post destiel, are annoying as hell and i'll block them all" and that's fine! Or, better yet, don't say anything, you don't need to publically announce when you block someone.

Also yeah, a lot of people don't add banners on every post or post nonstop about how gross the wincest shit is because we prefer to avoid it and not be constantly thinking about it. I have the tag blacklisted but I don't do a deep investigation of OP of every post that makes into my dash, and that's kind of a wild expectation.

Quick note on the "dean critical" thing, I've never seen a fandom so weird about people critizing a character. The whole reason people started using the tag was exactly so we could still hang out with people like you, who love him and maybe don't wish to see negative analysis on him, so you could have a tag to blacklist instead of unfollowing! And although it's the bare minimum, I respect the honest attitude of "I know this happened in the show, but personally it's not an aspect I want to read/write meta about" instead of straight up denying stuff.

It is a wild cycle, with so many people (including myself) rejoining the fandom recently it's like you could see us going from "this is fun! i'm gonna follow a bunch of spn blogs" to "this is mildly annoying" to "i hate all of you, blocking spree". Not to be a hypocrite, I was onboard with destiel for most of my time in the fandom, I think I fell out of love with the ship partially because of my rewatch (and it shouldn't be that weird that rewatching something as an adult your perception on it changes!) and partially because of the fandom being so very Like That about it. And the whole fandom experience once you leave that ship is just very different. The bitterfication of the sam girl or whatever.

I do still have destiel mutuals who I appreciate very much, I don't even blacklist the tag because y'all have some amazing artists and I'm always up for fanart, even of things I don't ship (of course with the exception of gross ships).

Anyways yeah it is so infortunate that all of this happened but we move on, idk if anyone took the time to read all of this because it turned more into me venting than anything else but I also appreciate the support i’ve been getting from some of y’all

#fandom wank #Anonymous

[night-dragon937]

Sorry i accidently Unfollowed trying to hit the ask button: Im a little anxious about this but, I want to know how best to refer to you/yall? I know, the basics of DID and im sorry if this just, comes off as wrong/bad, but im, assuming that DID is specific to each system (I think im using that term right? im sorry if im not) and i just want to know how best to, like. avoid making you feel bad/wrong? (like, im anxious about referring to you as, you or do i need to refer to you as, like. them? or yall?, because i think all of you is valid and great and deserves respect? individually and as a whole?) and i saw the post where like, people think the Host (I am so sorry if i am messing up these terms) is more valid then the others, and that made me sad because, I think everyone is valid? and its like, i dont want to refer to you as the wrong thing (eg: a singular person, incase that strips away the importance of being known?, or as multiple, incase that invalidates?) like, im sorry if any of this comes off as tone deaf. i also got anxious about asking because, I dont want it to seem like the first thing i think about is, this? when interacting, but its why i get really nervous about using you/yall? not that anything was done to make me feel like that, i just want to be respectful? I also dont want to ask tons of questions cause, i know what it feels like to be bombarded with questions about something like this and being treated less like a person, more like a thing to gawk at i guess? like, ive done my best to read up on DID to, better try to understand, but if its unique to each person, I dont want to generalize it? I also am trying not to refer to this as a disability? as im not sure if its, ok to? because it just felt, strange, referring to, what to me seems like a Group of people? as a disability? Im sorry if thats, incorrect or wrong, or even ableist? im genuinely not trying to be. I just, think its important to give everyone individuality and importance? and if you all ? are, different people with their own personalities (if im, understanding that right, i know its possibly different from one person to another?) Then i want to respect that to the best of my ablity? Sorry for all of the rambling and if this is too much a wall of text. im also extremely sorry if anything ive said/done in our interactions, or this ask were offensive? Its alright if you dont want to answer this of course, or if any of this was too personal/touchy, im not gonna get upset or anything and thats completely fair ? I honestly second guessed asking, but figured i needed to before i accidently messed up and said something wrong?

hey no need to apologize! we are willing to answer questions about our experiences with did/plurality! (in fact, it's nice when singlets/non-systems ask questions when they're unsure bc it shows that they care about respect n stuff)

each system's experience with their diagnosis is unique, yes! we have did, but there are various types of osdd that are diagnoses for systems as well

we have what's called a singletsona, essentially a "sona" that's a single person. we mostly have this irl for safety reasons, but we also understand that a constantly changing roster of many people can be confusing esp for neurodivergent people. so, generally, we go by night (cause we're the night system lol it fits perfectly!) and use they/them.

some people do want to interact with us individually (like. maybe four singlets so don't feel bad if you'd rather just interact with us as a whole, but we will let you know if we switch or about alter-specific things) and they refer to us either by who's fronting or by "night sys" or "night system" and refer to us with plural pronouns

you're so very sweet <3

so that refers to people who act as if the body belongs to the host and no one else in the system, the life belongs to the host and other alters shouldn't get as much of a say, or as if other alters aren't really people, like the host is.

you're not being tone deaf at all! even if you were, we'd still be willing to provide info

so, referring to a system depends on a few things. if you're referring to a singletsona, then singular pronouns/preferred pronouns. if you're referring to a single alter, then singular, but if you mean the whole system, then plural. also, if you feel weird about using "you," just know that you was originally a plural pronoun (but has changed in meaning and usage, like they! and thou was the singular)

we're generally pretty understanding and won't get offended unless one is being intentionally malicious (understanding what one is doing, what the affects of the actions are, and still choosing to do it)

we don't know enough to comment on osdd but did is absolutely 100% a disability because this impacts every aspect of our lives, for several reasons. there's the obvious sharing every life decision with a multitude of others with their own personalities and opinions, but did is a trauma based disorder and thus has a lot of symptoms of trauma. did is usually concurrent with ptsd and c-ptsd, and often others. this is bc dissociation is a learned (unhealthy) coping mechanism where we put ourselves literally anywhere but the physical present rw to avoid trauma at a young age, which impacts development of the personality (talking specifically about did). did is... so much more than having brain friends, its freaking out bc someone used a specific tone of voice even if it's not meant maliciously. it's coming to front and having no clue where you are or what's going on. it's being held accountable for actions you have no memory of (and are often out of character). it's often dealing with depression, anxiety, flashbacks, anxiety attacks... you get the point lol

the group of people isn't the disability, it's how traumagenic systems form that cause them to be disabilities, and how that affects daily life. that sounds contradictory. it's... not that any specific alter is debilitating, but the cause of the condition (trauma) and the effects of the condition (dissociative amnesia, etc) that make it a disability. does that make sense?

and you've been nothing but respectful! but thank you for checking, it means a lot to us, truly.

feel free to send more asks/reply to this if you have any more questions or need any clarifications in regards to this (we've been awake for far too many hours lol). also we love talking about our system and info dumping about our diagnosis/diabilities lol

[hoziergf]

i’ve been wanting to ask you for so long about your feelings on larry but i wasn’t sure if you’re anti larry or not and i didn’t want to offend you hahahaha

maybe this is too long for the dash so i’m gonna add a cut to not bother ppl who don’t care

lmaooo don’t be afraid!!! i know a lot of my mutuals and a lot of harries in general are anti larries & larries dni and i can get why. it’s their blog space ofc they wouldn’t want ppl they disagree with on their blog. for me, it doesn’t matter? i don’t think about larry at all so i guess i don’t ship them. i don’t think my content really ever caters to larries specifically to attract any but if they come for my occasional harry posts idrc because i’m not actively anti larrie as long as ppl aren’t taking things too far. i don’t mind if ppl who follow me are larries or if i even a mutual does bc well it’s 🤷🏻‍♀️ to me. if you’re disrespectful or invading privacy, that’s wrong regardless of who it’s about, and then maybe i would be bothered and unfollow, but i don’t think i care enough to actively stop them from pulling up and hitting like or reblog on my posts yk ?

#asks #anon #discourse #idk just incase no one wants to read my thoughts on larry djfkdjdjd

[lethbians]

can you explain what's going on right now? i keep seeing big IT blogs talking about some discourse or something but i have no idea what they're talking about other than it involves you lol

alright i like. i truly do not like having diScOurSE out in public because i’m not one to air out my dirty laundry 24/7 but seeing as how it was brought into public against my will i feel like the least i can do is clear up the situation for those who’ve been seeing the posts. 

i’m putting this under the cut bc it’s long. tws for some biphobia, brief mention of transphobia and, at the end, a rape mention. 

so if you don’t know: hi, i’m migz, i’m an it fandom blogger. its okay, i know, its really cool. part of my shtick here is that i like to turn normal thirst tags into works of art for the sake of comedy. perhaps you’ve seen some of my highlights from my “fhg” tag - perhaps your brain has been spared. either way, it became kind of “my thing” around the third or fourth week (mid nov) of me having this blog. at first, i tagged just about every ask i got mentioning the thirst tags with “bill hader” - they had to do with him, so why not tag him? it would draw more like minded people! about two days into that i got a message asking me to tag my nsfw. i am a big dumb idiot, and apologize for not initially doing it. i havent had a following bigger than like 10 in several years and completely spaced on basic etiquette. so by the end of november i was tagging everything applicable  with “notsfw” and “bill hader”. 

now you’re caught up.

on december 1st i got this message from user billhaderanti:

now i want to start by saying i absolutely was in the wrong here. i didn’t even think about how many people were being subjected to the asks i was getting - especially ones who had no idea they were all jokes. i don’t track the bill hader tag, so it just didn’t even occur to me - that’s ignorance on my part, and to anyone who was subjected to the terrors of me before my tagging system: i am genuinely sorry. i relay the same sentiment in my response, though you can tell i’m on edge.

and they replied:

clearly they Were offended by it but thats.. not the point. at this point, im feeling Really weird about the whole interaction, but still understanding, because again - i GET it. i know my posts are gross - that’s the point. it doesn’t make it excusable, though, which is why i understand why people are offended. so i responded with the only solution i Knew would keep us both safe and happy posting on our own blogs. 

so i thought this would be the end of things! i’d been pretty anxious lately already since i’d started to receive anons telling me i was gross and whore-ish for thirst posting in this way (i delete all of those, so if ur thinking about sending one, i guess no one’s stopping you but it won’t be seeing the light of the dashboard). i’m unsure if it was immediately or a few hours later, seeing as how i have a bad concept of time and the post-dates are right on the edge between nov 30 and dec 1, but i went to their blog - because anyone who has been on the internet knows the opportunity to vague post is near irresistible. and...what do ya know

fair! it’s their blog. however i am an emotionally fragile egg girl and immediately got freaked out. the odds that they were the only one who thought this were low. and, again, i’ve been very open on my blog about how important it is to respect boundaries; my posts are absolutely prone to breaking those boundaries people have created for themselves. 

so i made my own, semi-vague post, letting my following know (and i’m pretty sure i’d answered asks about it before, but this is going to be long enough w/o me searching those up too) that i understood if they wanted to block me or unfollow or whatever - people need to create their own safe spaces. the tension is pretty clear in the tags, i’m not trying to hide that. i felt that the way this woman slid into my dm’s was pretty abrasive (just my opinion/how it made me personally feel) and i let myself be a lil emotional about it in the tags of my post.

alright! maybe this is the end. maybe we both go our separate ways and post happily on our own blogs... except it’s not the end. later in the day (some of this was happening like 1/2am, so now its Day day, i believe - again, not good w time passage lol)

clearly, i’m upset. my groupchat double checked that i didn’t get too emotional in my response - did i mention im anxious about discourse lol - and apparently.. it did the trick. she didn’t message me again. great. it was over. 

at this point, i decided i needed to make an even bigger change. so a few days after i’d calmed down i created an entirely new tag for my thirst posts so if people hadn’t already hidden the notsfw posts or just blocked me outright, they’d have a third option to escape the madness. at this point, id had my blog about 6? weeks, but there were still 2k posts for me to sift through - some of them were completely untagged. i also had to do it post by post, because one of xkits features - the mass re-tagger - was getting blogs deleted for some reason, and i wasn’t going to do that. so i spent a few days going through all 2k+ posts, adding the “fhg” tag. 

YEEHAW! a brand new tagging system, no more hopping into the bill hader tag (minus one or two really funny, not super explicit asks, like the bill hader farquaad meme), and, tbf, i’d completely put this woman out of my mind. i don’t seek out drama and do my best to stay in my lane. yesterday, i checked my activity for the first time in awhile since id put out a couple new original posts that had started to get traction and i Love reading tags. i noticed a mutual had @’d me, and realized i havent checked my @’s in...ever, maybe. i see a post from my good pal billhaderanti. 

since i dont follow them and never check my @’s, i’d completely missed it. however, once i did see it, i was horrified. id gone through all that fucking work to keep my blog My Blog and also respect everyone’s boundaries and it still hadn’t been enough. i’d been awake for almost 24 hours and went. a little crazy. and i didn’t reply immediately because i just had no words. i sent it to my friends because i... i just wasn’t going to be able to figure it out myself. 

there’s a lot to unpack in this post alone, but whatever, i’m gonna put my own grievances with the immaturity of 1. making a callout post to begin with when i’d been nothing but civil 2. making a callout post about something as (in the grand scheme of Life) minor as some tags where i refer to a someone’s genitals as a “whack pack” and 3. making a callout post in such a rude way - aside. at the end, she calls me (and whoever else!) a demonic mlw (man loving woman, we assumed, and then later confirmed with a post further back on her blog). 

which - yeah, we started scrolling. at first we were looking for more vague blogs, and then we just...started finding things. billhaderanti is a self proclaimed lesbian separatist, which... fine. but it’s already pretty clear that this woman hates me on some level simply because i am a bi woman (demonic mlw, remember!) which is just. damn man i can’t believe we are still fighting the biphobic fight lol. so the more we scrolled, the more we uncovered - and not just the biphobic / vaguely mtf transphobic things they posted (or put in tags), but we also found that they had their OWN thirst tags. certainly not as hyperbolically comedic as mine, but they were there, talking about his body and his person the same (and, frankly, a bit creepier for other reasons) as mine. 

there’s one post in particular that snatched my wig in it’s creepiness - and i say creepiness in the sense that it feels personal. like this woman feels like she knows bill to some degree where she can say these things. my tags have always had a sense of distance, as they’re written for humor. and maybe this particular post was written for comedic purposes, but it doesn’t read that way, and if it WAS, then she has no right to call ME out for MY comic tags and posts. 

i’ll let it speak for itself, mostly because i don’t want to read it again. 

i also won’t be going through her blog again to find the posts with biphobic and other Interesting:tm: tags because there are plenty and i just really! want to be done with the whole ordeal! her blog is public and i’m sure you can all find it and look to your heart’s content. 

feeling a bit feral and a bit pissed off now that we knew the depth of how rotten this woman’s vibes were, a couple of my pals made a post or two similar to what my tag’s are like except turned up to eleven (if possible) - and tagged them with “bill hader” (and notsfw!!). yes, a bit childish, but at this point, the entire situation was childish, and making jokes was truly the only way we were going to get through it. another vague post went up on her blog soon after.

talking down to us, calling us children, and then for whatever reason calling us virgins... whatever, weird post. around this time most of us (est) went to bed, because it was nearing 3 or 4 in the morning. 

and then today happened. i woke up fresh and ready for the day after a wonderful 4 hours of sleep and found that jane had made an incredibly intelligent post in response to the situation. i won’t ss it, but i’ll LINK in case you missed it. attached there in the reblog is my own response. i think they can speak for themselves. 

after that, things were kind of jumbled, since i wasn’t online a lot and when i was i was Not checking my activity simply because i was afraid of what i’d see. for the most part, it ended up just being support (which i am very grateful to all of you for - it means a lot that you all enjoy my content to any degree). 

there was some more vague posting from both “““““sides”””””” of the “““““argument”””””” - mostly just people restating the fact that this is a public space and we should All be aware of how we effect others. i still hadn’t heard directly from billhaderanti, so i assumed we’d all be dropping and disengaging and moving on. i still wasn’t blocked, though, so who really knew what would happen. 

eventually, it culminated in this last post. tw for mentions of rape

i’m going to start by saying that 

1. there are nearly no teenagers that were involved in this. im turning 23 in january and most of my friends are 20+. maybe one or two are 19. 

2. none of us sent any sexually violent asks - most of us didn’t send asks at all. i believe one or two of my friends admitted to sending asks however they assured me their nature wasn’t bad; as far as i know, everyone remained civil in whatever went on (again, unclear to me as to what was being sent; no one was actively posting or talking about it. if billhaderanti wishes to elaborate, they can, but i don’t have anything to put in). 

3. before i finish this, i would like to apologize to billhaderanti. as a comedian - not just my stupid tags, i mean in real life, too - i know that humor can hurt. it’s not always funny, it’s not just stupid hahas. sometimes things that are supposed to be jokes just hit people differently and cause bad things. i recognize that. i never meant to trigger you (if you’re reading this) or cause you any severe mental/emotional harm. i apologize for my humor bringing up your trauma, and i never meant for that. regardless of my own thoughts and opinions about the nature of my posts/the thirst tags themselves, they hurt you, and i’m sorry. 

anyway, i’m going to wrap this up (i’m bad at endings, what can i say! steven king and i took the same writer’s class!). if you read all this... sorry. i probably won’t be taking any asks about it, because i find the whole “drama” of this to be stupid and rooted in some seriously biphobic issues this fully grown woman has. 

tldr; i attempted to contain my blog so this woman could exist and function safely on her blog, but it wasn’t enough for her, so she called me out, and then some of the fandom called Her out for being biphobic and mean and overall just immature about the situation. as of now, she’s yet to block me, though her and her wife have blocked a few of my friends. her wife continues to clown on my friends. this post was made for clarity’s sake. the end, i’m getting a drink. 

#discourse #biphobia tw #transphobia tw #rape tw #ok goodbye im done with this im back to #only posting gay clown movie #Anonymous

[iamanartichoke]

This is neither eloquent nor organized. I’m very frustrated and I just need to get things off my chest. 

Please do not reblog this post. 

Cut for anti-Ragnarok discourse, pro-Ragnarok discourse, the Ragnarok discourse war, mention of Thorki, and general venting. 

I’m not using tags bc I don’t want this post to show up in them. Very sorry and if any of these things is one of your blacklists, please keep scrolling.

Yesterday, I read a fic.

I was wandering through some of the Thorki content on twitter, and followed a link to one of the big bang fics, bc it was a human AU and das my jam.

I didn’t recognize the author’s name. The fic was extremely well-written, though: lots of feels, beautiful narration, a sweet ending balanced with a lot of sadness. It was one of those fics that gave me a lump in my throat.

I was only going to leave kudos, but then I figured I’d take the extra five seconds and leave a comment, bc we all know how much authors like comments. I mean, I’d rather someone leave a comment than kudos, especially if the fic really affected them.I get it and I gotchu, fam. 

Anyway, so I left a comment and proceeded to click on the author’s profile to see what else they’ve written. As you do.

I recognized their AO3 icon, even though I didn’t recognize the name. I’d seen them around on some Ragnarok wank on tumblr. I went to double-check, and it was the same user, and also they’d blocked me.

I do not know this person. I have never spoken to this person. Yet they’ve gone out of their way to block me, most likely bc I associate with the anti-Ragnarok crowd. This happens to me a lot. I’ve even had a couple of former mutuals unfollow and block me (without saying anything to me) and those felt like punches to the gut.

I understand not wanting to see content that you don’t like or that upsets you. Everyone has the right to block whomever they wish. But I can’t deny that getting blocked like that – by someone I don’t know, let alone interact with – fucking hurts. I know it’s not that deep but I can admit it. It’s a shitty feeling and it’s hard not to take it personally.

It’s not really about this particular person at all, although it’s a shame bc they’re a good writer I probably would have followed otherwise. But this entire anti/pro Ragnarok war has gone so far and it’s exhausting. I stayed pretty neutral for as long as I could. 

And here’s the thing. My observations, both from being neutral and also being someone who, despite often being quietly blocked, tends to fly under the radar are this:

The majority of the negativity comes from the pro side.

Look, I side with and agree with the anti side on this one. I can admit, however, that sometimes it gets tiresome to see posts get turned into Ragnarok criticism or tiresome to see more posts on my dash about this that or another thing that sucks about Ragnarok and why. It, like anything, can be tiring.

But I also see that the anti side largely does its best to keep to itself. The pro side complained about the Ragnarok tags, so the anti side made an anti tag, and the pros still come into it to complain. The anti side will post their discussions and criticisms and they largely just circulate within the same group of people. The discussions are almost always criticisms on the source material (ie, the film) and not about anyone who enjoys it.

Now, maybe I don’t see everything. Though I don’t think I’m biased just bc I agree with the anti side – in fact, it was these attributes that made me take a closer look at what they were saying bc maybe they had a point after all. I don’t follow every anti Ragnarok user, but I do follow a lot. I can’t say personal attacks and whatever never happen - but, I hardly ever see them.

That’s not the case with the pro side. I don’t think I follow many from that side, but I see so much negativity from them. It’s like this kind of underhanded negativity that I’m not quite sure how to explain. It’s tonal negativity. 

I mean, sometimes it’s blatant. Name-calling (Loki stans, lackeys, pathetic, delusional, and racist come to mind) is an example. But more than that, there’s this collective tone among the pro side that smacks of condescension and I can’t stand it.

They make fun of the “dissertations” that have been written.

They always include an “lol” or laugh emoji or something to express that they’re not the ones taking this seriously.

They fall back on saying they don’t care about a two-year-old movie.

They’re laughing and making fun and at the same time acting like they’re so above it all.

They want us to just shut up already.

What it comes down to is this: it’s not just a matter of being able to agree to disagree because the pro side actively acts offended that the antis are even having these critical discussions, even if the antis have gone out of their way to not involve the rest of the fandom at all.

(Again, this is not every pro person, but the majority. Tone does matter online, and the overall tone of the pro side is not positive. I say this from a mostly neutral place.)

And here’s a thing about “oh my god, it came out two years ago, get over it!” Yeah, it came out two years ago. So fucking what? You guys are still engaging with it, via fics and headcanons and art. How old the movie is doesn’t matter when you’re having fun with it, but when someone wants to engage with it in a (valid) critical way that you don’t like? No. That’s unacceptable. That’s pathetic. That’s being a lackey. Get over it.

Even writing this, I know that things are much worse for others than they are for me. I get stealth blocked; others are called out by name in public posts, receive anon hate, and are actively targeted.

It’s just, this shit is so fucking toxic to this fandom and it honestly needs to stop. Both sides need to not only stop engaging one another, but also stop acknowledging one another. We get it: you either like the movie or you don’t.

Let people do their own thing. Don’t be fucking obnoxious. If you disagree and genuinely want to talk about it, then try to remember there’s a person on the other side of the screen and be civil. If you disagree and don’t want to talk about it, then just fucking don’t.

If you see a post you disagree with, scroll past. And, yes, block the person if you need to (and sometimes it might be me that needs blocking and I recognize my hurt feelings are my own personal problem, not whoever else’s).

There are a lot of movies in the MCU that are not perfect. (Btw, it baffles me a little to get hated on for my stance on Ragnarok, when I am so much more vocal [and emotionally invested] in hating the Russos and IW/Endgame – but, whatever.) There are a lot of interpretations of characters that are different. There are a lot of people who project their own identity or issues or whatever onto any particular character that resonates (and that’s okay!) and there are a lot of people who don’t project but still identify with a particular character (and that’s okay, too).

Stop judging whether someone is a “real” fan of a character/franchise or not. Just because someone isn’t engaging with the source material in the way you are, and just because they don’t see it in the same way that you do, does not make them wrong. (Yes, this applies to the pro side, too. None of them are wrong or less valid for enjoying and even stanning the movie.) It doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else here. 

Acting otherwise is honestly going to kill this fandom. Because it bleeds over. Fics will have less readers, bc they don’t want to interact with something posted by someone they dislike (or who blocked them). There’s less sharing of things like art and headcanons and content. People unfollow and block each other, people are having to watch what they say, people are losing friends (and potential friends) bc they may be a great person but they don’t agree with you about fucking Ragnarok.

I came to tumblr bc it was the only place where not only could I find other people who loved Loki as much as I did, but it was the only place where I could express that. Express it in fic, in headcanons, in meta. Being creative and starting dialogues and just interacting. I wish we could get that vibe back.

I wish none of this bothered me so much.

#again #please do not reblog this #i wanted to get this off my chest #i don't want this post to start any fucking wank #please excuse my lack of tags #i am sorry #heed the trigger warning at the top

[lanshappycorner]

Hmm feel free to scroll this is just me rambling abt unfollow/follow culture (PSA it gets lowkey aggressive at times but I swear I'm not looking for fights so noo don't come preach to me ur so sexy aha)

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Basically I've been thinking abt follow/unfollow culture and it's honestly kinda wack. Like...you enjoy this person's content and you follow them and they follow you. Suddenly, they don't follow you anymore, and you unfollow them and lemme be honest w u it's so fucking stupid. You followed them for their content, but they're not obligated to follow you, you shouldn't feel pissy because they unfollowed. There's a possibility that maybe you've said or posted some things that make other people uncomfortable, and it's fair for people to still be friends with you even if they aren't "mutuals" with you.

Whenever I make posts abt certain things, I always clarify mutuals AND friends because some of my friends I don't even follow. If your only reason for unfollowing them was because they unfollowed you, your friendship probably isn't that deep, and if they weren't friends with you to begin with then ur just fucking petty. No one owes you anything and their social media is stylized to how they want it to be. If they don't want to see your posts, but don't mind going over dms or whatever, then that's their choice and you should respect that.

For example I've actually had people actually inform me that they would be unfollowing me because my acc has spoilers and stuff bc they dont want offend me or whatever and honestly?? That's fine, they didn't even need to tell me. Do what u like, have fun on your acc. I'm not going anywhere, heck you can unfollow me for life and I could still laugh w u over a nice conversation it's not that hard lol

Anyways if anything I think unfollow/follow culture is kinda shit. I mean, I guess there are some instances where someone is clearly using you to increase their follower count, and then they unfollow you, thinking you don't know. But here's the thing, if you followed them back or originally followed them to begin with even though the signs were obv (usually they have f4f and etc in their bio), all you really cared about was follower count too and surprise? That makes u automatically invalid in being pissy that they unfollowed you, because you tried to use them too (and they knew that)

I know this post kinda came off as aggressive but I mean every word of it and honestly if you feel like any of this actually targets you then maybe you should rethink your choices

#u can hear me screaming BITCHHH thoughout this entire rant ;^) #anyways thanks for coming to my ted talk i hope u had fun and i hope everyone comes out unscathed

[sometimesrosy]

How do you ignore the fandom’s negativity (this is about E’s tweets) ? I’m 100% sure that BC is canon because it’s there, in the scripts, the narrative, the framing and even the soundtrack but I feel like she just rained on my parade and took away my happiness. Do you distance yourself from the show or in the contrary, focus on it even more when there is too much drama ? Maybe it’s because of my anxiety but it’s hard to ignore. It’s kinda ruining my viewer experience.

I take her tweets personally because as a teacher and writer I am professionally offended by her abuse of her authority to get attention and acclaim. She just went too far for me, and I started publicly declaring that I think she is not reliable as an authority and calling her on her lack of ethics and trustworthiness. What she did was wrong and she did it without reason.

But in general, I decide what I want in my life and what I don’t want, and I remove the things i don’t want from my internet bubble. I unfollow, block, filter, mute, scroll past. I left fandom twitter. I dropped mutuals. I  refused to debate ANYTHING. I started blocking anons. I stopped answering asks I don’t want to answer. I stopped participating in bfsn. I stopped writing fanfiction and then I stopped reading it. I stopped reading meta and reviews. 

I have distanced myself from fandom. Sadly. Because a lot of fandom is fun, but there’s too much antagonism for me and I’m hear to enjoy my favorite show. So I’m pretty much just answering asks and reblogging gifset and talking to people privately at this point. And it has gotten much better. I’m not really hearing a lot of the negativity going around. My bubble is pretty good now. If anything starts being a problem again, I will probably stop taking anons and only allow people to send asks under their own names… but the antis haven’t been that bad lately (except whenever i say that they come back with a fury idk why. knock on wood.) I’ve worked on setting boundaries from fandom ever since i got here and almost immediately was attacked by CLs. After that, Erin and I had our dustup, and then when that died down, and the CLs left, the bellarkers started turning on each other. I don’t trust anyone in fandom, really. I take what people say at their words. But I find I am not so keen on the community anymore, with how many times the community has turned on me and itself. By season 5 with all the blorke antis, I was done, and it’s just been about managing my boundaries since then. Erin’s posts riled me up again, but I think fandom, the reasonable fandom who is more interested in canon than gossip, is handling it pretty well, so I’m trying to settle again.

I’m pretty down on fandom now, and I complain about it far too much. I’m not distanced enough to be dispassionate yet. But I’m enjoying the season better since cutting myself off from the blorke antis, and the rest of the negative fandom. 

 I kept my love for the show, and stepped back from fandom. I’d say about 75% of fandom pisses me off. So I try to limit myself to the remaining 25% but it’s hard. I say sometimes I’m in geekdom, not fandom, but I think that’s just semantics. 

[byunlucid]

This is gonna be really long bc I feel like I should explain myself properly, so uh if you care then click on read more.

First of all, it’s crazy how much y’all believe everything you read on tumblr dot com without fact checking.

That being said, when it comes to the first issue about Yixing’s braids - I usually don’t talk about appropriation on my blog bc I’m not the one affected and I definitely don’t want to talk over black people. I remember answering asks about Kai’s dreads and linked them to articles I’ve read about CA, and referred them to ask others affected cause I have no say in the matter - though I acknowledged that it was wrong of him. 

Regarding the tweets… I said that only tumblr cares bc in reality, its true. I checked the youtube comments and tweets about sheep and no one seemed to talk about his hair? My tweet may be read as offensive and for that, I apologize cause I didn’t mean to belittle the issue. 

Weeks ago I retweeted a quoted tweet of this tweet which basically said that this was cultural appropriation and was offensive. I got upset bc the replies were disgusting, and ppl were defending the girl for wearing an oversexualized traditional clothing as a costume. And the caption and emojis…yikes. Also miss silkstan girlie seemed really dismissive about that but you know, poc solidarity is a myth like you guys said lol.

Anyway, the only thing I tweeted about mamamoo was “the same white people hating on mamamoo are staying mute on the sweet and sour tweet ok.”

I NEVER compared blackface with appropriation. I did NOT say that this was worse than the mamamoo issue. It’s funny how the tweet was taken out of context cause the only reason I was talking about mamamoo was bc of a mutual. 

What I was so upset about was ppl deflecting the issue at hand by saying “there’s a lot of anti blackness in the asian community too!” as if that give y’all a free pass to be racist towards asians. The argument can literally be turned around and say that “there’s a lot of antiasian sentiments in the black community too”.

How am I antiblack for being offended by a black person using a slur or being openly racist? (referring to the replies on the tweet).

I’ve never blamed black people for our issues lmao i don’t even understand how she’d draw to that conclusion. I literally had a recent discussion about the negative effects black people experience bc of their hypervisibility, and I wish asians would speak up more without stepping on black people. 

About that anon silkstan got about all of my friends being white because I live in europe - you’re erasing all of the pocs living here. I know yall americans are ignorant and dont know much geography, but pocs exist here! I grew up in a school which only had two white people in my class! :) 

I’ve literally never interacted with silkstan so I think it’s funny how they only have heard «things» from others… Don’t know why they’re bringing up an issue from three weeks ago either. If she really “cared” about me getting educated than she could’ve dmed me without making a public post (that I cant even read) stating “byunlucid is antiblack” and then skip out without any explanations or proof. 

Some of you should grow up and learn to form your own opinions maybe without eating up everything handed to you on here and realize that there’s a world outside of tumblr. Silkstan girlie is comparing me with pcys as if she isn’t the one making a callout lmao.

I actually just recently (october) started to use twitter more actively bc tumblr has been pretty boring lately, so if you’re looking to find more then you won’t find much. 

You can unfollow or block, that’s your choice - but if we’re mutuals, make sure to softblock/hardblock.  

For all of you who had the decency to actually ask for my side of the story, thank you i love you mwah .

#you can always dm me if there's smth that needs clarification

[trueheda]

so i said i wasn’t going to make any more out of character posts on ontari. which i’m trying to stick to even though i have like pages of shit i want to say already and i decided on this like less than twenty four hours. but i thought it was important to write at least one explaining at least why i find most of these whole the fandom hates the other half of the fandom shit and complaints the dumbest thing since drama in middle school. and here’s the breakdown as to why. a. this is the motherfucking internet. what does that mean ? it means we’re on the fucking internet which if ya’ll haven’t noticed tends to make people more comfortable with speaking their minds which by the way isn’t a bad thing. the way we fix problems is talking, not huddling up with people who think the same way we do and telling the other side they’re wrong. this isn’t world war iii. you can talk to someone about it. you realize that basically what we’re doing right now is creating partisanship in a fandom because ya’ll don’t wanna talk. the whole positivity movement while ( well founded ) is based on the idea hat we need to be nicer to each other in order to balance out the hate in the fandom. and the no hate movement ( while also well founded ) is based on the idea that people should put being kind above speaking their mind. neither of which i personally agree with. instead of getting mad at someone for hating one another part of the fandom why don’t you ask a better question:

why are they doing it ?

why is a person hating on, calling out, being salty over certain things. because more often than not in this fandom, there’s a fucking point to why they’re acting that way and instead of being like: yo don’t hate that’s wrong. without listening to their opinion and trying to wash it out by praising everyone or just telling them to not do something like it. maybe we should try to fix the problem instead. some things make some muns uncomfortable, while other things make other muns comfortable, which is why the roleplaying community invested this beautiful thing called the tagging system in which when someone posts something they can tag it with trigger cw or trigger tw and you can blacklist said thing allowing you to follow someone without having to worry about having to see this thing on your dash. which is a great first step in fixing it. but then you get to people like me personally who feel like there shouldn’t be a need to tag certain things and just don’t use tags. so how do you deal with someone like that ? the answers simple: you unfollow them. if you don’t like the content that someone is posting then unfollow them. even if you want to write with them, unfollow them. i know that i personally state that ontari is a private selective ( which means i only write with mutuals ) blog, but i’ve made various exceptions time and time again because i do like writing with people i don’t follow and sometimes i don’t follow them because their ooc stuff pisses me off on occasion and i don’t agree with them, and sometimes it’s just because i don’t follow multis. like there is no reason in which you would need to continue following and seeing content you don’t want in this fandom. there’s been waves of hate i’ve had friends come ask me about because they just don’t follow the people that it involves and they heard about it from someone who’d heard about it. 

but this also dosen’t solve the issue, rather it simply prevents confrontation. which is just now how you’re supposed to handle shit people. so calling myself out, i’ve been hating on the new kru’s a lot.  and i’ve explained why because i don’t like being told that im hating on things for no reason. because i don’t condone hating things for no reason. if you’re going to dislike something you better have a good goddamn reason. i made a post about this because i wanted to be clear and let people know, i don’t think the idea itself was a bad one. i’m all for creativity and spreading it but you need to understand that unless things in that post were met, i wasn’t going to jump on the bandwagon and think things were cool. i talked about it. i explained why i disliked what was happening and was shittalking about it and people talked back. muns from more than one of the new krus approached me and were like oh hey i may not have that information posted but you can always ask me bc i have it hced or asked me if they could use the thing as a way to develop their kru more. and now i’m chill with those krus, because now i can see them in a way i didn’t before. and i think that’s the main issue in the fandom right now, there’s a huge lack of communication because everyone feels like they can’t.

and i’m not saying i’m great bc im not. i talk shit behind people’s back and am chismosa af. but it’s because of the lack of communication in the fandom. if i feel comfortable around you. i’m not going to shitpost about something, i’m going to go straight to your face and tell you that i think you’re wrong ( also yeah i hate anon hate like ??? be an adult pls ). and what i expect is not for you to get offended but to be like bitch no you’re wrong when i’m confronting you about your character i want you to prove me wrong. when i’m confronting you about your behavior i want to see and hear your point of view so that even if i don’t agree afterwards i can understand and we can still be friends. thing is... if you play victim, and have a protection squad that rises to your defence every time someone says “um no i think that’s wrong” and they’re chanting about how you can’t say that because its “hate” then i’m not going to feel comfortable coming to ell you shit. ad the whole system of division and isolation in the community is going to continue.

so me being me: i’m not going to apologize for not taking an anti-hate pledge, why ? bcause  think the whole idea of not being able to tell someone you think what they’re doing is wrong is horrible. hey if someone was doing a wwii au with like blatant disrespect for the holocaust i think we’d all get up in arms no ? but if we’re going to start calling telling people that “hey i think that’s disrespectful” hate. then no. i refuse to make a pledge. because i’m going to say what i think. and i’m not going to apologize for not jumping on the positivity train because as awesome as i think sending people love is, i think the fandom needs to fucking fix its shit before we go around playing fairy god mother and pretending that everything is okay. you know what happens when people pretend shit is okay, yall remember the recession ? there’s a fucking bubble int he fandom rn and if we don’t pay attention to it soon, it’s going to fucking explode and ya’ll are going to start crying over it which you have no right to do because you never addressed the problem.

so this is a fuckin call out post at all of you:

START TALKING TO PEOPLE ABOUT SHIT YOU DON’T LIKE OR AGREE WITH. and even better DON’T TELL SOMEONE THEY’RE HATING ON YOU WHEN THEY COME TO YOUR FACE TO DISCUSS SMTH.

thanks. have a lovely day, yall know where to reach me.