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sirenserendipity · 21 days
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you said you don’t want rad fems interacting with u, any reasons why? Genuinely just curious! Are there other branches in feminism you agree with?
by “said” i can see you’re referring to my pinned post in which i have a specific dni.
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as you can see, radfems are grouped in a rather curious category of people. almost as if they share the same philosophies that i would consider offensive, oppressive, and usually even dangerous. but let’s pretend not, for now.
let’s take a look at some of the top hits when we type radfem into the tumblr search bar
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two different posts. strangely, both radfems here seem to be incredibly transphobic. how did that happen?? well for that, we have to think about what makes a radical feminist.
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at large, radfems are against sex work and the consumption of adult media. they believe there is no way that other women actually want to be involved in sex work unless they’ve been brainwashed into liking it by men. another thing is an extreme amount of genuine hatred towards men and the patriarchy. it is an extremely radical and blind hatred. pretty much like watching someone swing their arms around in a dark room and hoping to hit anything in front of them. and let’s be clear though, radfems aren’t out here protesting or really doing anything. unlike most movements that wish to dismantle oppression, most of being a radfem is talking about how much you hate trans people and voting against their rights, discussing how gender isn’t real and therefore they’re women but other people aren’t, and talking about how they consider themselves to be the divine rulers of human rights even though they don’t know what those words actually mean.
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christianity ties heavily into radfem ideology. the same as you would see from those with conservative views, it’s influenced deeply by a feeling that you are of free will and mind and made perfectly in his image (so why would you ever want to be trans- like as if it’s a choice and you’re just mentally ill) so these are basically recruitment posts. it’s the “here’s a valid argument, and you agree so you’re the same as me” type thing. what they fail to realize is that many people can have a similar view on something and hold extremely different values. for example- many radfems support abortion (cool), but they don’t support trans rights (not cool). most radfems recruit people through commonly agreed upon feminist topics, then slowly introduce ideas of discrimination and weigh that against what they believe are “facts.”
now most all radfems are online trolls, they don’t show their faces or give their names because they know they’d lose their livelihood or respect from peers and family if they ever did reveal themselves. but what they lack in identity, they make up for by judging everyone else’s. see how that works?
this isn’t radical feminism, it is radical hatred selectively woven into feminist discussions. i consider that to be synonymous with dangerous :) so no, radfems are not welcome here. genuine feminism is entirely separate from what these people are doing. it’s like saying “im not republican but i am conservative” yeah mhm but if i laid out the chart, the points of agreement and rhetoric are suspiciously alike with only a few outliers.
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athenawasamerf · 5 months
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What's life in Egypt like?
This is a very vague question so I’m not sure how to answer, really. It’s kind of tense these days, anyway.
Ig the day to day is pretty typical. I’m not exactly the average citizen, most of my time is taken up with med school so I don’t explore or go out as much as I should. I live in Alexandria, and I love it here. Coastal, the old section of the city is beautiful, lots of greenery. It’s pouring down rain all through winter, driving is near impossible because everyone is fucking insane (which is typical for Egyptian cities lol), it’s pretty densely populated, the food is phenomenal. We have a ton of museums and historical sites, and the library of Alexandria is pretty rad. The economy is shit and getting shittier, we’re under a military dictatorship (again but worse than last time), inflation is insane and the country is in a ton of debt to the point that the central bank of Egypt has stopped all foreign currency transactions on debit cards, and credit cards have a foreign currency limit of the equivalent of $250/month.
From a feminist perspective, it’s not the best place to be. Alexandria is better than most of the country, but I still get harassed regularly. Egyptian men are paternalistic and have a weirdly entitled attitude towards all women, we have in-jokes in feminist circles about the fruit vendor from down the street being mad at you for coming home late. Tbf I’m fairly open about my feminist opinions and that hasn’t caused me any trouble, and basically all my friends and acquaintances know that I wear a hijab in front of my family and take it off at school/when I’m out with friends, and 4 of my cousins know about the hijab thing as well. Dating culture is fairly normalised in Alexandria, so everyone in my circles including two of my cousins know about my love life (but not my sexuality). In some places of Egypt, I’d be honour killed for any one of these things, so I’m grateful to be where I am. There’s still a line of chauvinism running in the country, though that’s the least of our worries as feminists. I have a post about marriage and divorce in Egypt under my Egyptian feminism tag if you’re interested in learning more about that aspect.
From an LGB perspective, unfortunately the little progress we’d made in the late 00’s and early 10’s has been receding quickly. We’d gotten to a point of live and let live in some areas, but the introduction of trans ideology in the west caused a massive recoil in perception of LGB people here, and there’s been a crackdown on LGB-sympathetic ideas. Every time it’s brought up, you get a look of disgust and ‘they’re teaching kids to change their sex’. It’s going to take massive amounts of time and effort to repair this damage.
And finally, from a religious perspective, well. Not much has improved re acceptance of atheism or non-abrahamic religious beliefs. Egyptian law technically protects your right to freedom of belief, but, crucially, not your right to freedom of expression of religious belief. National ID cards must have your religion listed on them, and the only options are Muslim/Christian/Jew. Contempt of religion and ‘violating Egyptian family values’ laws are pretty strict and are used to prosecute everything from girls dancing on TikTok to blasphemy. I don’t see this improving any time soon, though foreigners (non-Arabs) are given some leeway.
I hope I’ve covered the most important points, but please feel free to reach out if you have more specific questions!
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slithymomerath · 8 months
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Another post about TransTape
I decided to stop reblogging the same thread because it was getting really long and just make a new post. Here’s the original. (I should mention that I identify as a trans man now!)
I’ve been using TransTape for about 2.5 months now. Every time I apply it, I do it slightly better. I’ve understretched it (final result: hm, looks like tape on a breast), overstretched it (final result: it’s slowly tearing my skin open over a period of days, awesome (don’t worry, it wasn’t that bad, I’m mostly just being dramatic. Also while it was on there it looked awesome, super flat. Beauty is pain)), and every type of doing it wrong in between. I was reading this blog by a trans man and he mentioned that he used TransTape for years and continuously found better and better methods, and I think that’s going to end up true for me too. However, I’ve gotten good enough at the moment that this has become my primary binding method. This is how my application looks nowadays:
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As compared to me in a sports bra and a binder, respectively:
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Pretty good, right? And all the same benefits I’ve talked about before: extremely comfortable, no rib squeezing, can leave it on for multiple days, can sleep in it, having bare shoulders/back. It doesn’t really itch noticeably anymore. And the application in that pic isn’t overstretched, it’s perfectly comfortable. It’s my favorite application so far.
Some more notes I’ve ended up with:
- When you’re applying the tape, don’t think of it as “I’m using the tape to pull my chest into place”, think of it as “I’m using my hand to pull my chest into place and then using the tape to secure it”. Still stretch the tape while you’re using it to secure your chest, but take your tensionless anchor parts on both ends very seriously. Made a huge difference for me, way less overstretching and way better results.
- Recently I’ve stopped doing the alternate methods discussed in my previous post and gone back to the original way they show in the videos. I think pulling your chest to the side is more impactful than pulling it up in the overall look of it, and whatever you do first will have a greater impact. The biggest reason I didn’t want to go horizontal first was that my vertical piece would pull on my skin and make a wrinkle of it that folded over my horizontal piece and that was super uncomfortable, but turns out that’s just a symptom of overstretching/not taking the anchor part seriously enough and making sure it’s attached with no tension to both your skin and a small part of the previous tape.
- I tried the medium size instead of the large. I think if I was going for optimal results it (or even small size) would be best, because I can use three total pieces of tape and get another bite at the apple of pulling my chest to where I want it. However, I’m more going for comfort/not a giant hassle putting it on, so I prefer my two pieces of large tape at the moment.
Random thoughts:
- I love that I can take my shirt off if it’s hot or during sexy time and feel like a shirtless guy, not a person with a mildly uncomfortable article of clothing still on. This is enhanced by the fact that the nude color is a pretty good match for my skin.
- I have an appointment about HRT in Aug, so I’m really hoping it’ll cause my chest to deflate a bit and then my binding will be even more rad!
Feel free to message me with any questions about my experience :)
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1-800-avatarofpride · 7 months
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Alright hear me out. Gender neutral Mc or Mc gender of your choosing: wearing lipstick and then kisses the demon brothers, and it leaves a smudge brothers lips. (If your male trans masculine or go by another gender identity and don’t feel like using the lipstick prompt. Just imagine it as a lipgloss if you’re choosing).
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Lucifer:
Just imagine Lucifer coming back from a very difficult needing for RAD. He’s exhausted and he’s tired, but the moment he sees you his mood is instantly lifted. He doesn’t pay attention that you have some blue lipstick on your lips. All he cares about in this moment is just kissing you after missing you from a long day by the time he’s done not only is your lipstick smudged, but it’s also all over his lips as well, and gives him a sense of pride to know in a way he has your mark on his lips.
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Mammon:
Mammon comes back home disappointment that he lost yet again another quick money making scheme. He can slowly, but surely walks to your room and just wrapped his arms around you while bearing his head into the crook of your neck. You gently try to soothe him and rub his back in a comforting manner. Once he has calm down enough and looks cute in the eyes he leans down and gives you a kiss, not even paying attention that you have some lipstick on when he pulls away after kissing you he has a little bit of your lipstick on his lips while it’s smudged on yours and he’s not sorry about it. After all he’s your first man he deserves to be the one that smudges your lipstick.
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Leviathan:
You go to visit Leviathan in his room. After all he invited you to come watch some anime with him. He's shy as you sit in his lap while watching the new anime he's into. He wants to kiss you but feels so nervous. So it's up to you to make the first move. After you kiss him he becomes a blushing and stuttering mess. But you enjoy how your lipstick looks on him.
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Satan:
Satan had another argument with Lucifer. He goes to his secret spot to cool off. While he's playing with some kittens, you happen to be passing by. You decide to walk over to him and see the kittens as well. Almost immediately he senses your presence which calms him more. You lean over and give him a gentle kiss to the lips, which, intern he deepens the kiss for a few seconds before pulling away not only is your lipstick smudged, but he’s happy to know that your lipstick is all over his lips.
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Asmodeus: Ah yes our lovely Avatar Of Lust. Our Pretty boy. He has just gotten back from his latest shopping spree. He immediately goes to your room not only to show you all the new self-care products he has and clothing products, but also some new makeup products. He pulls out a lipstick for you to try and you do and he just find it so irresistible on you that he just hast to kiss you. He’s not the avatar of lust for nothing darling. Of course, when he’s done kissing you, your lipstick is smudged, and he couldn’t be more proud to see that look on you which causes him to see you again.
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Beelzebub:
Our precious cinnamon roll. He just got back from grocery shopping so he can make dinner for the whole household and you decide to help him as you two are making dinner together. He gives you a sweet smile which you return. You notice that he’s staring at your lips, and it’s like you both knew exactly what the other was thinking. You both slowly, lean in and give each other a sweet, quick kiss, which causes, your lipstick to smudge just a little bit not too much like the others he can’t help, but chuckle cutely about it and helps fix the smudge so it’s not noticeable
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Belphegor:
He didn't get much sleep today due to his brother's being loud and all over the place. Which is why he invited you to nap with him in the attic. But you couldn't rest instead you played with his hair as he rest on your chest. He looked so cute in this moment that you couldn't help but pepper his face with kisses. You forgot you had lipstick on and lefr kiss marks all over his face. He stirs awake and kisses your lips as a thank you for the kisses and for resting with him. After a while he pulls back and smirks softly at the lipstick smudged on your lips.
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drill-teeth-art · 2 months
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Heya Otto! Sorry if I’m getting a little obsessed with yall, but I just wanted to tell you how much your art has been helping me. well, I’ve had a rough few days, gender-wise and self-image-wise, and earlier I caught my reflection, but instead of thinking “I hate myself” again, I just thought “oh hey I kind of look like those gorgeous guys on the Drill Teeth Art blog.” (And SO gorgeous, like your art is so cool and pretty and expressive that it can get me invested in characters from a show that I’ve never even seen (granted they ARE giant robots which is pretty sick no mater how much of the lore you understand)), anyway, Idk if you remember, but I’m the guy who wrote that ask about you being a fellow fat/trans/gay Orin truther, but idk if I mentioned that what got me to become a fat/trans/gay orin truther is that I am fat and trans and gay and Im playing him in my HS production of Little Shop, and seeing your art made me so happy, and I think it’s cause It taught me that my version of Orin wasn’t just an exception made in leu of the “ideal” thin cis actor’s portrayal, and that like, **I** can be the ideal, if that makes sense. Anyway thank you for your art, it does a lot of good, you’re rad
I do remember you! Hi there again! Always nice to see you in my notes I'm so glad you like my art that much! I'm transcending fandoms here.
And hey omg congrats on the role you will do excellent! Living out the high school dream I missed out on, actually. I wanted to audition for my high school's production of Little Shop of Horrors, but they never really cast trans students to play characters with their gender identity or anyone other than a handful of the same conventionally attractive students every production lol. So I didn't even try.
You're doing excellent out there and living a dream I could not huge congrats on that! You'll make a great Orin. Also being trans, fat, and gay is so cool that's incredible. Immeasurable swag!
Thanks for reaching out and for the kind words and have fun on stage!
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c0ffee-gh0ul · 2 months
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Hello! I'd like to request maybe the Seven Evil Exes finding out the Reader is a trans woman and are generally supportive, please? Whether it's romantic or not is up to you.
i really like this one! thank you for your request, i hope you enjoy!
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HEADCANONS: SEVEN EVIL EXES REACT TO READER COMING OUT AS A TRANS WOMAN
Matthew Patel: “That’s totally cool! Good for you.”
Lucas Lee: “Um, okay, so I should, like, use different… pronouns? Is that the word? Sorry, I’m just really confused and I don’t want to be rude…”
Todd Ingram: “So that means… you’re, like, a girl now? Right? Was that mean? Can I still call you dude?”
Roxie Richter: “Rad! Being a girl is pretty cool, if you ask me.”
Ken & Kyle Katayanagi: “Cool! Coming to a realization like that can be kinda hard, we’re proud of you!”
Gideon Graves: “What does that mean exactly?”
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cannibalcaprine · 1 year
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Hi! I just stumbled across you blog and all I wanted to say is that hearing your name was Hera changed something in me fundamentally. I think that’s so beautiful and awesome. We trans people are pretty neat, and I think we’re even neater when we choose fucking AWESOME names. You’re really rad, and I hope you’re having a wonderful day! Thank you for existing
goddess of women, at that!
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rotationalsymmetry · 1 year
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re: how we talk about terfs
at least as far as this blog goes, I’m not really bothering with nuance about terfs. Expecting any way of talking about terfs to result in zero terf recruitment is probably not realistic. So is a hardline “terfs are just evil and not really feminists, nothing to see here” actually less effective than a more nuanced discussion? Probably not actually. Most people don’t look further. Gross simplifications are effective. They are not 100% effective, but it is not realistic to expect any strategy to be 100% effective.
(As far as I can tell like most political movements there is a broad spectrum of ideological commitment, from people who have done very deep dives into theory to people whose analysis is mostly based off of memes. I’m not overly bothered by calling the latter type not really feminist — fuck knows Harry Potter is not especially feminist literature, I did a gender analysis on major characters in Prisoner of Azkaban and I think 1/4 of the characters were female, and it’s not like JKR makes up for that by exploring feminist themes, so yeah I’m fine with saying JKR is not a feminist — although yeah, obviously the ideology in any sort of relatively intact/consistent form is about women’s issues. It’s, uh, it’s kind of as though there were a strain of self-identified environmentalists who only cared about plastic straws and didn’t have anything to say about industrial fishing or fossil fuels, there’s a point at which it doesn’t matter where your ideas came from, the result is not that thing any more.
I think there is some necessary work that can be done in trying to smooth the way for terfs who are considering de-terfing or whatever we want to call it. (I’m not going to say de-radicalizing. I think being a radical is a good thing, I also am not impressed by any version of supposed radicalism that’s pro-cop.) But it’s not necessarily compatible, within the same blog, with the also necessary work of creating online safe space for trans people. So. there are values we can promote which, for people who adopt them, are going to make them very unlikely to adopt terf views, without necessarily talking about terfs at all. Obviously there’s talking about how identifying as trans and transitioning can be a positive force in people’s lives. But there’s also sex positivity (ie the idea that the foundation of sexual ethics is consent, not normativity or purity), talking about sex worker struggles as labor struggles (which is incompatible with the view of sex workers as victims in need of rescue, probably in practice by cops), talking about how cops and prisons suck balls, and talking about the importance of intersectional feminism (ie how it’s important to acknowledge race and other axes of oppression when talking about women’s issues.) And generally the “do whatever the heck you want” individual choice > social cohesion value. I suspect in practice tumblr suppresses non-terf feminist discussion because posting about feminist topics and then having to play terf whack-a-mole is so fucking exhausting. But it does have the unfortunate consequence that if you’re getting your politics from tumblr, there reallt doesn’t seem to be that much to feminism outside of terf circles. Which is unfortunate because this is very much not my experience with the blogosphere of the 2000’s and 2010’s. But probably people who are becoming politically aware now aren’t getting their feminism from the same places I did. And admittedly most of where I got my feminism is more progressive than radical as such; it pretty sure there are thinkers who are radical and feminist without being sex negative/rad-fem-y, I just don’t have names off of the top of my head. I mean, pretty much by definition radical feminism is the feminism that centers patriarchy as the primary form of oppression, but surely it’s possible to have good feminist analysis as a radical without downplaying class, race, disability, colonialism…
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swamp-spirit · 2 years
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Trans-fem nonbinary people with facial hair in cute skirts make me feel so much more comfortable.
I’m trans-masc nonbinary. I’m sort of a jeans and a t-shirt person, but I like skirts and dresses and think binding is a pain. I’m also 6′ and have visible facial hair and super sensitive skin that makes shaving every day a pain (and have notable hair even when I do shave. I have very dark hair and very pale skin). I get pretty self conscious about my facial hair. I mean, I’ve been teased for my body hair my whole life, and the way people talk about women with facial hair is so hurtful when you’re an awkward teen.  The thing is, I don’t actually dislike my facial hair! My wife thinks it’s cute and I think it flatters me, but I’m aware a lot of people will see it less of a Gender Thing and more as a “ew, weird lady doesn’t realize how out of control her lady stache is“, and I just... love being in places where I can just have the body hair I have and the body I have and relax.
And every time I am in public and see somebody rocking a cute dress and a rad beard, it’s just the best thing. I stop feeling like I have to hide the lower half of my face and start feeling like maybe I look as cute and cool as them, and that seeing DMAB people who keep their facial hair while still being feminine might introduce people to the idea that DFAB people can intentionally have facial hair even if they’re not trying to look ‘masculine‘.
Thank you thank you thank you. It shouldn’t be brave to step out of the house just looking the way we do, but I know we were both taught to hide, and you help me be brave too.
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restr1ct1ngmoondust · 4 months
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I’m so glad you’re not a TERF 😭 it sucks that pretty much any variation of “rad” or “radical” in someone’s URL makes people suspicious, but for good reason. TERFs relentlessly bully trans people on here, especially trans femmes
Yeah its pretty upsetting to me bc like, I just like poptropica 😭 thanks bigots for ruining words
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wait lemme tell y'all about how Italy made me trans
*disclaimer, I was already iffy abt my gender and working through my own feelings. I looked pretty androgynous and was like "fuck it what's the worst that could happen."
*my program coordinators were dope and made sure I felt comfortable as a soft transmasc person, especially when going to religious sites where there was significant gender segregation
ANYway
Got yelled at at outgoing airport, but didn’t get pat down. Mad about shit I had in my pockets, but no issues with the binder!
Used the mens bathroom exclusively at the airports (gross y'all live like this?)
Got on the flight, correctly gendered by flight attendants every time (he/him)
Made it through customs nonissue. Literally the most chill customs agents—barely looked at my passport. like talking in Italian and not giving a shit. peak
Used mens bathroom when I got to Italy again exclusively. Was able to get my own room so didn’t have to worry abt roommates 
Presented male throughout Italy. Almost got accosted by a street vendor by the colosseum but that was more of me being American than being trans. Literally had to dodge and bolt bc he was coming at me I was cornered against a wall all while my friend was watching, concerned but amused from afar.
So many hot men in Italy. I’m sorry, but my dumb gay ass was dying.
Also EXTREME gender dysphoria around Italian youth. they didn’t all look like Timothee chalamet in cmbyn but they were pretty goddamn close. 
Italian bathrooms are superior to American bathrooms. There I said it. Except for the mens bathroom at the Roman forum, but there were a bunch of international tourists there, so what can I expect. 
Got called “sir” by Italian folks, which was rad. 
Walked around at night alone. Needed to run to a convenience store late and went by my self. Told my friends where I was going but otherwise wasn’t afraid. 
Was designated the navigator™️ by all my fem friends when we were hanging out. Designated “keep an eye on things” and watch out for creeps, which was super validating. 
Went to the great Italian mosque where women had to wear head coverings. I was pre-everything (HRT, surgery, etc) at the time so the coordinator of the trip talked to me about it beforehand. Passed well enough where it wasn’t an issue. 
Also went to the synagogue where they had all the mean wear (Jewish head coverings) I was given one, but my friends told me the rabbi hesitated, like he couldn't tell.
But I was getting pretty wiped by this point so I sat outside for a breather. I'm scared of organized religion #TraumatizedExCatholic
Spent the evenings alone often and worked with trying to get my top surgery consult scheduled. 
The end of the trip was quickly approaching and I realized it didn’t want to come back to the US, not just because Italy is wonderful, but because I’d be coming back to a world of misgendering, discomfort, and depression. 
Obvi I had to go back tho, and here’s where the issues started.
Leaving Italy was fine, no issues there
Had to get my passport checked again when we got to Paris. Customs hesitated but let me through. 
As I was in line to get off the plane, they were checking passports again. The French official took mine and spend a good minute just looking at me back and forth before saying “ah, you got a haircut.” 
I just nodded bc obviously I didn’t want to be detained in Paris. No use in explaining anything. 
When I got to the door, they pulled me aside again for a “random security check.” 
The rest of my class was on the flight already. I was one of the last people in the kiosk to board. 
They went through my luggage—i only had a carry on. The guy checking me seemed to be American 
Swiped by hands for chemicals
Took my passport and asked “are you a girl?” And it was like being punched. 
I said yeah and explained that I’m trans. He just kept asking “so you’re a girl, right? You’re a girl, you’re a girl??”
And I’m like, yeah. Sure. 
So then he goes “no hard feelings, yeah?” And returns my passport. I’m like, yeah. 
Then I board the flight FINALLY 
Got gendered correctly by the flight attendant, which was rad 
Landed in the Atlanta airport, fuck Atlanta. Just generally but I also got “miss” and “ma’am” by security a bunch, which fucking sucked.  
Man FUCK atlanta
Absolutely exhausted at this point so I didn’t even give a fuck
Landed back home and was able to get back
Oh yeah, had my wallet stolen with 80 euro, my military id, covid card, and a bunch of other important stuff, so I couldn’t get back into my dorm.
Fortunately, one of my friends was an RA and able to let me in, so I got back, collapsed in bed at 3 am and woke up abt seven hours later 
and now im a Dude!
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hecksupremechips · 2 years
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The party dress scene from the fun home musical is just the STRONGEST butch lesbian/transmasc solidarity ever
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justsalpals · 3 years
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Here in the final hours before the Misfits and Magic finale comes out, I present to you my wishlist for this last episode.
1. More Nurse Stitchnit and Dr. Boodle: the first one is pretty much confirmed because this episode will confront Evan's exorcism appointment, but fuck I just want the crew to have more conversations with supportive adults
2. More Axelby: Described as unenthusiastically evil? Regret in his eyes? Yes! Yes! Yes! Tell me more. Please realize how you're letting a shitty society influence you into doing terrible things and that it isn't actually your only option (and befriend the PCs while you're at it). I also headcanon that he absolutely has a crush on at least one of the PCs after the classroom fuckery, but that's what fanfic is for.
3. Big Magic for Jammer: Pretty self explanatory I'd say. All three other PCs have had their Big Magic moments, where Jammer's magic has been rad as hell but mostly more passively active. He is the MVP holding everyone together, so fucking kindhearted and ready to go to hell and back for his friends, and he deserves his moment.
4. More of Sam's Big Magic: THAT MIRROR SHIT WAS THE COOLEST AND I NEED MORE THANKS
5. I think this is not an uncommon wish, but I'd like Dream to explore a bit more the happy medium between her goth aesthetic and pink crushed velvet dreams. I understand there's a timeskip for fans to play around with to make it seem less sudden, but the quick flip of a switch still feels a bit jarring without further addressing. Right now it just feels like overcorrecting, and honestly? I've been guilty of the same thing. Follow your fashion dreams, Dream.
6. A trans PC: While it wouldn't be the first trans PC on D20 (-blows a kiss to new york- for Pete), I think we all know why it would mean so much to have a trans main character in this particular season. Ideally for me would be that one of our PCs is pre-transition, to really bring full circle that HP theme of coming into yourself and allow us to explore and understand what it means to be LGBT+ in a magical world. I very much doubt this will happen, as the crew would want to give such a subject more time throughout the season. The most likely would probably be nonbinary Dream, as she's played by the lovely Erika Ishii (shout out to my fellow gender fluid!) and her story has already dealt with themes that could be interpreted as struggling with gender identity. Though however much I want this, I'm not holding out hope and will happily take my npc gender queer twins and trans daughter. (Once again, this is what fanfiction is for.)
And yet I would give all this up for the confirmation of my dearest and truest wish
7. SEASON 2 OF MISMAG
Good luck to all of us in the coming finale, and may we tear the wizarding system down from the inside. Goat House on 3! Family on 6!!
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(Tone/intention indicator: non-aggressive!! Pensive and open/hopeful for discussion and/or advice. Not at all trying to be a grouch.)
I do get the joke and I get that there's plenty of evidence that he does like to take it up the ass which is rad for him if he does, you know, but it feels crappy to me, the way a lot of the fandom (NOT you—I haven't seen anything like this from you) and actually also Misha treats Dean and sometimes/by proxy Jensen with the whole calling him/them a bottom, especially when Jensen isn't part of the conversation and doesn't even know that there's anything to respond to. It just gets said about him in public, and then onus is on him to find it and respond. It's a gotcha situation though, I don't think there's even anything he could say in his own defense (if he wanted to, that is. idk, for all I know, maybe Jensen is into it too, but that's sort of my problem.. I don't how he feels about being called a girl, a bottom, an omega etc) that people wouldn't claim that, by saying he isn't a bottom, sub or femme, he actually is proving he's a "subby little girlboy," or so I saw it said. I wish we as a community could talk about the nuance and inherent homophobia and transphobia in leering about it that way, in stereotyping 'bottom/subby behavior' and categorizing that behavior as feminine etc. I'm a trans dude, a dom and a top and a lot of the things I see people saying about Dean being a bottom or, worse, about Jensen being a bottom, are just so.. emasculating to me, because a lot of that stuff is stuff I do, too. Dean is a fictional character so his feelings can't get hurt, but Jensen is a real person, you know? And there's like a million people on the internet saying they can tell he's a subby, femme bottom despite whether he's ever said anything to the contrary or not. It's.. jarring, too, since I'm also a real person and they're often pointing to traits and behaviors that I share as evidence. It makes me so dysphoric to see so many people calling him girly and needy and in heat or what have you and citing how he (over)performs masculinity. I over-perform masculinity, too, but I do it because I enjoy the presentation, not because I'm over-compensating and Actually A Girl. I'm actually pretty comfortable in my relationship with gender at this point. Sometimes I also wear dresses. I'm still a dude. It sucks that it seems like the overwhelming opinion is that loudly performing masculinity can only ever mean overcompensation, and never gender euphoria. It seems like a lot more people are more interested in forcing Dean to perform femininity—like people want to humble and humiliate him for his past/present comphet and his idea of his own masculinity—not in allowing him to participate in traditionally non-masculine things according to what he likes, or to perform gender in ways that make him feel authentic and happy. It's like, instead of him aggressively overcompensating his Manly Man-ness, everyone wants to make him aggressively, stereotypically effeminate and one dimensional in the opposite direction. What are your thoughts on it, if you don't mind sharing? Do you think there's a way to have this conversation in the fandom? Or am I missing the point?
hi! okay first of all I love your tone indicators, we should all be doing this online tbh because it absolutely sets the voice for the rest of your ask and I appreciate it so very much.
preliminarily - I am not an expert on this topic in any way, so please take my response with an entire value-size canister of salt.
I think your feelings and thoughts are absolutely valid, and I don't disagree. I personally try to steer clear of most of the real person is this and that thing unless they uh. you know. tweet it out loud at the internet (for what it's worth, I do think - any joking I may have vaguely done aside - that Misha's past two top related tweets specifically were fairly pointed at himself (yes, I know one was about Dean and Cas fanfic, but he said "I" enjoy being on top, not Cas enjoys topping Dean). I am certain he is aware of the innuendo though, and how fandom will take it so your commentary on his being a participant is certainly correct as well. Also, I firmly believe that Misha does treat humans, especially those he is close w, with the utmost respect and any joking he has done re Jensen has been in a place of Jensen being okay with it (like I don't think he would ever say anything he knows would make Jensen feel uncomfortable whether he is within earshot or across the country when it's said).
*takes off Misha apologist hat*
As for the rest, I think your points are extremely well made and it's definitely a conversation that can (and should!) be had in fandom. I do agree that this topic can and has been misconstrued (sometimes for shitposting's sake sometimes not) as it applies to irl people and situations. I personally think that Jensen is a very multidimensional and layered human (which serves him greatly as an actor, I mean he contains literal multitudes) and to classify him as either pendulum end - as you mentioned, is doing his human self a disservice. I think it's also important for all of us to remember that gender is a construct and can be so fluid, so putting any of it in a socially constructed box just defies the entire point of the conversation.
I don't know if this is making any sense (your points are a lot more well spoken and coherent than mine), but I do think what you said is so important and needs to be out there. Also, I hope you know you are so freaking valid and nothing that's said on this site or others about traits/behavioors of Jensen's that mirror your own is a firm definition for those traits/behaviors, especially if people are putting them in a category you don't necessarily agree/feel comfortable with or identify as the right 'definition' if you will. Your words - "to perform gender in ways that make him feel authentic and happy" really resonated with me, and I think they hold true for both Jensen and you. To radically be our authentic selves is the goal, and I'm so glad that based on what you said you're feeling about your own relationship with gender it seems like you are in that place!!!
Sorry this is so long of a response and probably. muddy. I hope I got the gist of what you were asking, but also thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me, you expressed them really clearly and it's given me a lot to think about :) if I got anything wrong, or misunderstood a point you were making please feel free to pop by and clarify or correct me.
I hope you have an excellent day <3
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kcatta-wodahs · 3 years
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Trans, Enby, or anything not Cis MC + OM Demon Bros!
TLDR; they all fuckin love you okay you’re wonderful
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Lucifer
It happens right away honestly, as he is your introduction to Devildom 
You arrive suddenly in the student council, with no fucking warning, and with a bunch of people who are saying they’re demons. And like yeah okay sorcery obviously exists in your world so we can work with this but
He looks at a file, and states your deadname, and in a fit of bravery or just “i guess im here now” you correct him. 
The silence after that is palpable and every negative emotion you’re feeling as you wait shows up on your face. 
Lucifer only has a slight frown, looking at the paper, and at you, before it clears.
“Oh. Humans. I understand.” He marks something on the paper, and repeats your name. Your real name.
“Should I assume that the pronouns listed are incorrect as well?”
He calls for a RAD uniform that you’re most comfortable with, while Diavolo gushes over “HUMAN!!!”
Okay, cool, you’re hanging with demons now but at least they respect your pronouns? Guess this is your life. Your next question is whether you’re dead lol
So he knows the whole time, but it doesn’t change a thing! He loves you the same.
When you’re closer, he is very to-the-point about caring for you when you’re feeling dysphoric.
He offers you tips, makes sure you maintain your voice training even if you’re embarrassed about it, and always pushes you to express yourself how you want.
Hell maybe they use that princely riches to get you whatever surgeries you might want!
And he will *very clearly* show you how much he likes your body, however it is. 
After all, by the end of the game you belong to him, don’t you?
Mammon
When he's first assigned to be your guardian or whatever in Devildom, he didn't get the memo. 
Didn't read the paperwork, cause he's just like me and puts off homework for way too long.
So he doesn't know these pronouns of yours that Lucifer has fixed in the documentation.
Which means, unfortunately, you have to correct him when he first speaks to Levi about you.
What's funny about it is that he'll complain about LITERALLY EVERYTHING having to do with you and you being a human and UGH he has to take care of a FRAGILE HUMAN
But when you correct the pronouns he doesn't even fucking blink.
You don't even explain.
You just say the correct pronoun after he messes up, and then he repeats you and *continues complaining about you* but this time in the correct pronouns.
This is the first moment out of a million of "hidden endearing things about Mammon" that you will come to learn.
Later, when you're closer, he will always be there to stand up for you and put up a fight if anyone wants to give you shit.
He will defend you to the end of time. 
And he adores you. If he -- The Great Mammon -- adores you, then you must be perfect. So you can tell your stupid human brain to stuff it with the negative talk.
Leviathan
This one is written as AFAB
When you deny wearing the Ruri-chan dress for him, he's sad.
He KNEW you thought he was weird… and his thing for Ruri-chan was weird… and weirddmmm
So, you hesitantly tell him that… no, truly its not because of Ruri-chan
You just.. feel so sick when wearing dresses.
Something in you physically hurts, and you feel so *wrong* when in a situation where you're supposed to act "girly".
And you tell him that you don't really identify as female. You try to avoid that image whenever you can.
Levi is so touched that you would tell him and be honest with him.
He hugs you tightly and then turns beet red.
"D-Does that mean that you m-might.. kabedon… as Henry….?"
Cause he has that costume too and has never told anyone that he def would be seduced by his TSL hero.
You can get behind that one, and seeing how flustered he gets around you being yourself (through Henry?) has your confidence skyrocketing
This makes way to you flirting with ya boi 100% more often to see his adorable face.
Beelzebub
You go with him to work out, which is nothing really new, but this time he's looking at doing endurance training
...by swimming.
You have no idea what to do. 
He didn't think twice about it, either. He didn't assume there would be any problem at all. 
But for some reason your brain decided that his helpful and loving attitude wouldn't extend to this? Brains are silly when scared.
You try not to tear up when he questions why you've frozen in the doorway when he told you his plan.
You have no reason to be ashamed, or fearful, but the suddenness of the moment overwhelms you.
"I can't wear a swimsuit," is what comes out.
He pauses and then just looked vastly confused. He thought humans could swim..? Anyone could wear a swimsuit. You were wearing clothes right? What's the difference?
You wrap your arms around yourself, tryiing to soothe your nerves. "It's.. It shows too much.."
Then he looks you over, causing you to blush further, and he tips his head. "But you look nice."
Well if you weren't blushing before, now you definitely were. But it's not that. You hold your breath.
You try to explain without actually saying it, almost as if the word transgender has been blocked from your internal vocabulary. 
But this babe just insists that you look great no matter what. Is it scars? Like everyone here has scars, it's okay. Weird toes? You should see Belphie's. There's a reason he wears socks all the time. 
That almost makes you giggle, and you use that courage to say that you're trans.
He pauses for just a seond to blink. "Oh... nobody cares about that here."
He pulls you into a hug while you struggle for words. He tells you that you don't have to go swimming if you don't want to.
But he makes sure you know that he thinks you're wonderful. You're strong and brave and amazing. He will fight anyone who makes you feel differently. 
Asmodeus
This one is AMAB
It’s seeing Asmo be unequivocally himself that gives you the courage to do it.
You haven’t even told your human friends yet. Your human family.
You’ve known for ages, but..
Seeing Asmo flounce over to you wearing the most STUNNING evening dress has you weak at the knees, for reasons other than he assumes.
He assumes that you’re wildly in love as you duck your head and try to mumble something through your shaking breaths, and of course, who wouldn’t be?
But when he coaxes you to speak up for him, delight of a whole different kind lights up in his expression.
“Could you… make me as pretty as you?”
Oh, darling, he wouldn’t even need to try.
He dolls you up, hosting a lovely makeover session in his room. What he doesn’t expect is for you to start crying when you look at yourself in the mirror.
Asmo’s unshakeable confidence is shaken. He rushes over to you, trying to brush away tears and learning what’s wrong.
That’s when you tell him what you’d been hiding for so long.
The adoration in his eyes catches you off guard, and he takes your hands lovingly. “Oh, honey..” he mumbles, affectionate and sweet instead of seductive. “What’s your name?”
He takes you out shopping the next day, and is always ready to help you be yourself. 
He makes the switch almost instantly, and calls you the prettiest thing he’s ever seen even when you’re just waking up in the morning and kind of feel like a toad. 
(You blame him for those mornings, though, since he’s the one working so hard to *thoroughly* exhaust you the night before.)
Satan
This one is AFAB
You and Satan have begun meeting rather often for tea. 
It’s even gotten to the point where you’re both perfectly happy to sit in silence around each other. You’ve never been more comfortable.
But today, chaos reigns, and it has decided to make you clumsy today. Not even like, oh “that’s reasonable” clumsy.
No, you were enthralled in your fucking book, and you MISSED. 
Tea, all down your chin and neck, and you hear a snort of derision.
Satan is looking at you, very clearly amused. “Very graceful.”
You huff and puff out your cheeks at him to prevent from blushing. “Shut up. Do you have a towel?”
Looking no less amused, he just pulls a new shirt from the dresser behind him and offers it to you. 
You guys are chill. Good friends. Like. You don’t want to get up to go find a bathroom to change in. Your book is good and like Satan’s not about to be a creep, so you ask if it’s cool if you just change there, and he shrugs in response.
So, you swap shirts quickly, but when you’re dry he’s looking at you curiously.
“You have battle scars.”
You realize that you’d never told him. About your past, or your surgery, and you suddenly feel very self-conscious. 
“It’s- .. Not exactly,” you fumble out, realizing that now, instead of finishing your amazing book, you have to deal with *coming out?* Ughhhhhh. “They’re from a surgery.”
Satan’s eyes don’t leave you. “I’ve read enough about the human world to know what they are,” he said, then he nods to himself. “I didn’t know you’d had such a fight.”
You are either very, very impressed or very, very confused and you really don’t know which to lean towards just yet. 
“I’ve never been in a battle, Satan.”
“You fought to become yourself,” he answered, a small smile tracing his lips. “You never cease to impress me.”
Belphegor
The best part about becoming best friends with Belphie is the snuggle naps. It's the sweetest, calmest thing.
He is a little confused about why you insist on hugging a pillow when you nap with him, though.
He admits, its adorable. When he's big spoon he loves looking at you as you snuggle the big fluffy pillow. 
When he wants to face you, though, he wants to be closer, he doesn't really understand it. He doesn't want to make you uncomfortable but also.. why?
Eventually, he tries to get answers out of you by teasing you about getting closer *intimately*. 
He does expect the blush.
He doesn't expect the look of despair that you hide from him.
He's stunned for a moment before demanding to know why the hell you would look so sad about that.
You try to shake it off, but Belphie's nothing if not persistent and annoying when he wants to be.
He learns that you have been trying really hard for months now to hide your body from him. To keep your personal info private, even while snuggling. 
You didn't know how he would take it, after all. 
What if he got something he wasn't expecting?
Honestly, Belphie sulks after hearing this. He flicks your forehead and glares at you for doubting him. 
But he looks you dead in the eyes and reminds you that you could never convince him you were anything less than perfect.
If you expected him to be disappointed by whatever you hid during snuggles, he would never be. You would never be a disappointment to him.
Your next nap together doesn't feature the pillow between you, which makes your heart feel fit to burst while he snuggles you closer. 
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shatteredhourglass · 3 years
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AO3 Tag Meme
took me a minute to get around to this, but i’m doing it! thank you @trashkingtater​ and @hopelessly-me for the tag!
1) How many works do you have on AO3?
126, currently! there are more unposted. they’re coming.
2) What is your AO3 word total?
921,148. that sure is a lot of words! let’s see if i can hit 1,000,000 by the end of the year. someone check back in on december 31st.
3) How many fandoms have you written for and what are they?
on the shatteredhourglass account i’ve written for marvel variants, genshin impact, until dawn. on other, no longer existent accounts, i’ve written for various (emo) bandoms, hetalia, other anime, homestuck, supernatural, and a million other fandoms besides.
4) What are your top five fics by kudos?
Disclaimer: i hate this question because it’s never my best fics, it’s always the oldest ones.
Left Foot Forward (2018, M Rating, Winterhawk.) - soulmate angst where bucky’s soulmark was on his left arm and clint is generally quite tetchy about the whole situation.
Misinterpretations (2018, E Rating, Winterhawk.) - a/b/o fic with omega clint who doesn’t quite work the way he’s supposed to. generally smutty.
crack the whip, shape-shift and trick (2018, T Rating, Winterhawk.) - trans!clint. we love to see it. very soft and a little hurt/comfort.
Showdown (2018, T Rating, Winterhawk.) - stony romances annoy the winterhawks so much that they decide to also be obnoxious, because that is a normal response to PDA.
a little fun (not the number one) (2019, E Rating, Ameriwinterhawk.) - pre-war stucky, post-avengers steveclint, then post-breakup(?) winterhawk, then ameriwinterhawk. steve is bad at relationships.
5) Do you respond to comments? Why or why not?
i always respond to comments! i don’t know, i like people knowing i appreciate their support.
6) What's the fic you've written with the angstiest ending?
ooh. hmm. these fics are both part of a series so it’s not a concrete ‘ending’ of the series, but the endings of the fics are both pretty dramatic and sad:
goddamn shame of the goddamn pride (2019, T Rating, Winterhawk - Part 4 of 6) - musician au where everyone focuses on the female half of one of the biggest bands in the modern world and clint has one fan, bucky, who has a few more secrets than necessary.
Hit Me (With Your Best Shot) (2021, M Rating, Winterhawk - Part 3 of ?) - dc and marvel collide as we meet a poison ivy and harlequin that aren’t quite right.
7) Do you write crossovers? What's the craziest one you have ever written?
while i don’t write straight-up crossovers, i was 100% convinced that The Harlequin & Poison Ivy(?) series would not work. a series where clint is harlequin? bucky as poison ivy? but it’s rad and i’m proud of it.
8) Have you ever received hate on a fic?
i don’t often get outright hate on a fic and if someone is being passive-aggressive i just ignore it. bear in mind that if i did get hate, i’d just delete it. my field of fucks is barren.
9) Do you ever write smut? If so, what kind?
ugly snort.
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10) Have you ever had a fic stolen?
stolen???? people do that??? can’t say i have. or if i have, i don’t know about it and i like that for me.
11) Have you ever co-written a fic before?
nope! wouldn’t even know how it works. i’d be up for trying it one day, though.
12) What's your all time favorite ship?
oh, i don’t know, it’s so hard to pick...
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(special mention to moonhawks, though. my babey.)
13) What was the first fandom you wrote for?
uhhhh. warrior cats, probably. :,)
14) What's your favorite fic you've written?
i don’t know that I have an all-time favourite, but i am immensely proud of Off The Mortal Coil, (2021, E Rating, Winterhawk, 15/25 Chapters Published) aka ‘fucket barnes and the very bad, no good, zombie-infested day.’ it’s so long and i was convinced i’d never see the end of it but here we are, and i get to watch people enjoy the story unfolding. my greatest joy.
i’m not gonna tag anyone but if you’ve read this whole thing without getting bored, you have to do it now. you are tagged. go forth. onwards. tag me once you’re done.
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