#im queer tag

[gravesaint]

part of my job as archivist for a LGBTQ center involves working with an interviewing elder queers, and the disconnect between our generation and theirs is so upsettingly palpable. so many young queers think that elders aren't up-to-date on identity politics and are "set in their ways" when it comes to understanding the nuances of gender and sexuality, but that is so incredibly far from the truth.

if anything, the real problem is in the reverse. young queers aren't giving the time of day to our elders and its only alienating all of us from our shared history. just about every elder I've spoken to is doing their best to understand how our identity politics have evolved and is actively supportive of our generation adding our language and experiences to our sprawling rainbow tapestry.

there is also this strange idea that elder queers no longer contribute to that tapestry, that their time is gone and its only the youth making progress. but again, that prevailing idea is just alienating our generations from one another. most elders I've spoken to are extremely active in the community and work hard to do what they can to preserve our histories and assist in current activism.

the fact of the matter is that we are losing our elders, both to time and estrangement, and it is critical that we make conscious efforts to bridge the gap before its too late.

TLDR: We have to do better when it comes to including queer elders in our current activism. They are our history, they are our family, and we need to give them the same love they give to us.

#lgbtq #queer #pride #idk what to actually tag this but. yeah #thoughts from the archivist's desk #im digitizing interviews from 2004 and.. ough #ok to rb #my stuff

[sentient-forest]

#cecilsweep and Welcome to Night Vale trending #1 in 2023

#welcome to night vale #wtnv #ive said it before but people not knowing wtnv makes me feel old #i remember the days before cecil had a canonical last name #so tumblr just gave him the jonathan sims treatment #aka called him cecil baldwin (the voice actor's name) #wtnv will always have a special place in my heart as my first fiction podcast #cecil palmer #cecilsweep #oh to be young and queer and stumble upon a funky little gay podcast about a horiffic and absurd little town #yes i am just reusing my tags from my last post #added a description #glad yall are enjoying my shitty meme #i made it while half-awake and unable to sleep because my tummy hurt :( #follow me for more shitty podcast memes #im currently going feral for malevolent #important note: girlies is gender neutral #tumblr sexyman poll

[bidoofenergy]

pleas please ambrosius is the model knight, he's what all knights should aspire to be, he comes from the right family he does well in training, he's the model knight, he works within an institution because it benefits him--as long as he works in it, because the second the director thinks he's questioning things too much she kills him--are you picking up what im putting down? he keeps his true feelings buried--never show doubt, don't show conflict, keep your head down, do what you're told, aren't you so lucky to have this chance, aren't you glad you were born as you are and not like the others--are you hearing what im saying

(listen to eugene lee yang talk about this on the trypod)

#IT'S ABOUT THE MODEL MINORITY MYTH THATS WHAT IM SAYING #nimona spoilers #nimona #ambrosius goldenloin #nimona movie #listen i love queer allegory as much as the next person but can we be intersectional for a moment #in this movie about a police state you MUST consider race #the link starts at the important part but honestly i think everyone should listen to eugene talk about this movie #bidoof thinks #mixed kid tag

[nakakabaliw]

Monster High redesigns of some Ghouls!

#the live action designs upset me #why does deuce look like jughead riverdale? #where did clawdeen's fierce freaky fashion sense go? #why did they de fang draculaura's fangbulous design :[? #i found out i was queer bc of monster high #and to see it being treated like this...sobs.. im just cautiously optimistic. i like frankie so far. okay #time to tag #monster high #monster high fanart #deuce gorgon #clawdeen wolf #draculaura #monster high redesign

[beetroot-merchant]

petition to make cishetallo the norm instead of just cishet please

edit: badly phrased post, apparently. my point is when referring to non-queer people, if you're not going to say non-queer, put an 'allo' somewhere in there. where you put it does not matter.

edit 2: the 'het' does not exclude ace people. demisexual homosexual: someone who only feels attraction to people of the same gender after they have formed an emotional connection.

#im not even cishet but it feels like intentional aspec erasure at this point #like the amount of fucking work cishet aspecs have to do to be accepted as queer is so gross #aspec #aspec pride #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbt community #queer #queer community #aromantic #asexual #aroace #acearo #aromantic asexual #sorryyyyyy about the tag spam but this really bothers me #🐞 || beetle babbles #edit. oh my god the reading comprehension on here realy is That Bad.

[demonophilia]

i need to have weird depraved gross sex or im going to fucking die

#mine #subposting #domposting #ftm nsft #trans nsft #queer nsft #ftm t4t #t4t nsft #t4t kink #t4t sub #ftm sub #ftm switch #trans sub #trans switch #bd/sm community #bd/sm masochist #t4t switch #t4t dom #ftm dom #trans dom #i used both tags bc well tbh this isnt either. i just need to either Get dommed so very much Or dom somebody so very much.. #well ifff im being honest rn i do need to get dommed . ive been thinking wayyy too much and i need to shut off 4 a bit but i havent been #able to. Due to my maidenless nature (joke)

[boylikeanangel]

neil gaiman really got don draper to sit butt ass naked in a tartan shawl whilst playing comedic relief third string to dr who and aro twilight acting out the greatest supernatural love story of our generation . the fuckin g silly billies won today I absolutely cannot fucking wait for this season

#ITS GONNA BE SO SILLY AND SO SO QUEER AND YASSS AND CRINGE OHHHHHHHHHH HELPPP IM SO EXCITED #good omens #wails from the abyss #go spoilers #< will be tagging as that going forward xoxo

[milocelium]

while I've been opening up more, allowing myself to be vulnerable and rejecting shame, I still find it extremely difficult, if not impossible, as a chubby trans man, to imagine someone loving me. The lack of media and artistic representation of trans men being loved is not insignificant to this. I cannot name a single book, movie, tv show, song, or other form of media (except visual art such as paintings) that explicitly depicts a trans man experiencing love. If there is clearly a lack of romantic sentiment towards trans men, why should I think I would be privy to such experiences? Why would I look at myself, someone who I am trying so hard not to hate, and think another person could look at me and see someone worth their heart?

#trans experience #not sure if this counts as poetry but im tagging as such #poetic #poetry #trans man #transgender #trans art #lgbtqia #queer #lgbt #gay #and lets not even get into trans GAY love. nonexistent is the word im looking for.

[tiredyke]

every time queer discourse surges on this site everyone is so quick to jump to “it was actually the evil lesbians who divided us” because y’all heard the term “political lesbian” and never bothered to figure out what that meant

#‘political lesbians’ were and are predominantly STRAIGHT WOMEN #and a good chunk are bi #what don’t you understand about these women thinking lesbianism is a CHOICE? that it’s only used by women as a reaction to the patriarchy? #like lesbians can’t possibly like women and not men for any reason that isn’t some deep-seated hatred for men? #they all think lesbianism is dirty and impure and here you people are saying that this is PROGRESSIVE #and that they actually think that lesbianism is some golden standard for its purity???? you guys are so fucking stupid oh my god #you go on and on about learning your queer history until it comes to lesbians and then you’re perfectly happy rewriting our culture #and narrative #wtf is wrong with you people #and y’all braindead mfs use this to act like men are actually oppressed by the meanie dykes #i hate y’all #but none of y’all actually give a shit about lesbians so i guess im yelling into a void #lesbophobia #top posts #neon talks #LOL at the fucking idiot who reblogged this and tagged it ‘misandry’ not sure how you got that from my post but i hope your day sucks <3

[inkskinned]

it is hard to explain without sounding vain or stupid - but the more attractive others find you, the more you're allowed to do. the easier your life is.

i have been on both sides of this. i am queer and cuban. i grew up poor. for a long time i didn't know "how" to dress - and i still don't. i make my sister pick out any important outfits. i have adhd in spades: i was never "cool and quiet", i was the weird kid who didn't understand how "normal" people behave. i was bullied so hard that the "social outcasts" wouldn't even talk to me.

i got my teeth straightened. i cut my hair and learned how to style it. i got into makeup. it didn't matter, at first, if i actually liked what i was doing - it mattered how people responded to it. like a magic trick; the right dress and winged eyeliner and suddenly i was no longer too weird for all of it. i could wear the ugly pokemon shirt and it was just "ironic" or a "cute interest."

when i am seen as pretty, people listen. they laugh at my jokes. they allow me to be weird and a little spacey. i can trust that if i need something, people will generally help me. privilege suddenly rushes in: pretty does buy things. pretty people get treated more gently.

i am the same ugly little girl, is the thing. still odd. still not-quite-fitting-in. still scrambling. still angry and afraid and full of bad things. of course it became my obsession. of course i stopped eating. i had seen, in real time, the exact way it could change my life - simply always be perfect, and things can be easy. people will "overlook" all the other things. i used to have panic attacks at the idea others would see me without makeup - what would they think? even for a simple friend hangout, i'd spend a few hours getting ready. after all, it seemed so obvious to me: these people liked me because i was pretty.

i worry about how much i'm being a bad activist: i understand that "pretty" is determined by white, het, cis, able-bodied hegemonies. if i was really an ally, wouldn't i rally against all of this? recently there's been a "clean girl" trend which copies latinx aesthetics: dark slicked-back hair, hoop earrings. i almost never wear my hair like that; i can hear the middle school guidance counsellor advising me that i might fare better if i toned it down on the culture.

the problem is that i can take pretty on and off. that i have seen how different my life is on a day where i try and a day where i don't. i told my therapist i want to believe the difference is confidence, but it's not. and when you have seen it, you can't unsee it. it lives inside your brain. it rots there; taunting. i get rewarded for following the rules. i am punished for breaking them. end of story.

pretty people can get what they want. pretty people can feel confident without others asking where they got their nerve from. pretty people can be weird and different. pretty people get to have emotions; it's different when they get aggressive, it's pretty when they cry with frustration.

of course people care about this. of course it has crawled into you. of course you want to be seen as attractive. it's not vanity: it's self-preservation.

#pretty in this post is a stand in for . literally all forms of normativity #warm up #tbd maybe idk #ps! hi!! i'm queer!!!!!!!!! it is how i identify! if you tag this 'q slur' i will fight you!!! #i am using it here in the EXACT way it is NOT a slur !! i am identifying as a queer person! #this is EXACTLY how people reclaim it !!! #it's like practically ACADEMIC in this usage!! #please do any reading into what the fuck the history of the word ''queer'' is before telling me #as someone identifying as queer #that i'm a slur. that the place i find comfort in is a slur #''well it makes me uncomfortable if people use it for me'' #im sorry to hear that dude. that sucks. i hope things get easier for you soon #but you don't get to take it from ME #in case you can't tell by the REST of this piece #i DID hear queer used as slur against me. i DID get bullied with it. i DID hear a lot of shit said #i also heard it about lesbians #about ''being gay'' #about pretty much any fucking term that could describe me. #i like queer. i like how it feels. and it's mine. #you don't get to undo the work i've done personally because it makes u uncomfortable #it's ahistoric to pretend like there are ''safe'' ways to identitfy if ur queer. #none exist. it has never been safe to be like this.

[p-h-a-n-t-a]

Nimona was the first piece of media i found after realizing i was nonbinary that spoke to me, i read the webcomic every wedsneday in my history class in 7th grade. Middle school was hard for me because i was one of two kids in my whole grade that was out as some form of queer (pan, i didnt come out as nb until high school) and i lost a lot of friends from it. But also from just being "weird." I tried to come out to my dad at one point and heard nearly the same line balister says to nimona in the new movie "wouldnt it be easier to be a girl?"

I am now 21, working in a library where i see kids gravitate more and more towards graphic novels and we have the nimona graphic novel on our shelves, and i have waited so long to watch the movie, that when i finally watched it, i could not believe it was not just speaking to me, but screaming to me. Im a nonbinary individual that loves men in a queer way, and yet has been a weird little girl outcast for things other people did not understand. I have seen grown adults attack children online for not being straight or cis, and seen them say it is under the guise of protecting their kids. In the time between now and reading the webcomic in my history class, i have felt so many different ways about my identity and my existence, and holy shit does the nimona movie speak to me. In almost every stage of my life.

N D Stevenson, and all the people who made this movie survive and be possible, you were able to reach into the core of my being and make me feel just as seen as i first did when i laughed about shark boobs in a middle school computer lab. Thank you so much!!

#nimona #nimona movie #nd stevenson #eugene lee yang #riz ahmed #balister blackheart #ambrosius goldenloin #nonbinary #pansexual #pride month #pride #you can tell i care because im actually tagging shit #oh my god this movie is one of the most important pieces of queer media to me rn

[im-a-goddamn-cat]

really odd how ppl will advocate for sexual freedom and the ability to determine your own sexuality but then turn around and make fun of and/or insult ppl who don't have sex, ppl who don't have sex often, and ppl who don't have until sex later in life. you can't pick and choose whose sexuality is more valid. ik that sex and having a lot of sex is demonized to hell and back but the solution to that is not to demonize ppl who abstain from sex, ppl who don't have much sex, and ppl who stay virgins into adulthood for whatever reasons. ppl who don't have sex/a lot of sex or haven't had sex are already stigmatized as is. if you're gonna claim to be all-for sexual freedom but then look down on ppl who don't fit your criteria for how much a person should have sex then you're not truly for sexual freedom bc sexual freedom isn't just about letting ppl have as much sex as they want and how they want, it's also about letting ppl decide for themselves what their boundries are and if or when they want to have sex or not

#sorry idk if this makes sense #but damn im so sick of this shit man #its so shitty to many ppl #ace ppl and allo ppl who dont want to have sex or havent had sex yet get shit on so much and for what??? #fucking hate it #this isnt strictly an ace problem but im gonna tag it anyways #meowing #ace #asexual #asexuality #aspec #acespec #queer #lgbt #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #lgbt+ #mogai

[kitsumo]

Hi. im luno, im a nuerodivergent (autistic, adhd) and queer minor who is part of an also nuerodivergent 6 person family (5 children, one parent). i am homeless, i have been homeless for about a month now, and my family has almost no money. we have been using it to secure a place for our belongings (a small storage unit), our phone bills, and hotels to be at least a little comfortable. we became homeless under a terrible circumstance that i don't feel comfortable saying the exact details of, but someone really dicked us over. i really need people to spread this and pitch in via money, we have been trying to get resources and things to help but we live in LA, and so there are no resources to accommodate families of our size.

PLEASE please PLEASE reblog and spread, post it to other social sites if you need, we need help really bad to survive

i have made a post before it got this bad, but traction of it has been slow. i will provide weekly updates as much as possible

#queer #lgbtq #lgbtqia #trans #transgender #homeless #homelessness #mutual aid #mutual aid request #assistance #fundraising #financial aid #signal boost #spread the word #trans mutual aid #autistic mutual aid #im really just trying to tag this with as many things that could help. im sorry for the spam #homeless aid #housing aid

[gremlingirlsmell]

queer tme ppl when they see an extremely transmisogynist TERF movement in a different country: "this is so punk rock" "based" "heck yea" "faith in humanity restored" "this is so cool to see" "literal history happening there right now"

#im not gonna lie seeing that post has almost 30k notes makes me not feel any safer here #i can just hope that most of these are ruisa's addition #but just going through the notes theres SO MANY tme queers cheering this shit on like ??? #so you hate trans women. cool #transmisogyny #jeady rambles #these are all from the tags and reblogs of that post #the version without the edition the one that says 'no this is definitely not a terf movement just ignore them literally saying transfems are #male spies and checking new members for adams apples and shit'

[punk-pangolins]

i cant think of any more; what else if not these, you fucking aliens

#i need sleep #idk why im tagging everything i need answers #neurodivergent #neurodiverse #audhd #actually neurodivergent #neurodiversity #neurodiverse things #tumblr polls #polls #shitpost #neurotypical #lgbtq #bookblr #booklr #books #lgbtqia #lgbt #queer #not a poll #my polls #poll time #send help #mental illness #therapy #is what i need #spending to much time on tiktok edits of ofmd

[do-you-know-this-queer-character]

Do you know this queer character?

The Captain is Gay and uses he/him pronouns!

#TO THE 5 SUBMITTERS OF HIM THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH IM GOING FERAL #fun fact about me! This is my all-time favorite show ever #I can't express in tags how much I love this man but if y'all don't know him I will be so sad #not putting his name because spoilers (and cause everyone calls him captain anyway) #the captain #bbc ghosts the captain #bbc ghosts #ghosts bbc #six idiots #tumblr polls #fandom polls #poll #gay #he/him #live action #lgbtqia #do you know this queer character #finished