#imagine a country that didn't have equal rights for women and gay people (etc.)

[a-faggot-with-opinions]

Unlike with most of my other posts, there isn't really a point or an argument to be made with this post. I kind of just wanted to talk about a lot of things and there's no better way to do it than to just make a post on the "talk about a lot of things" website. If you want to hear my thoughts about GNC, gay, disabled, and ND transmasc visibility at a very young age in the society we live in, you should probably read this post.

So you always hear stories about straight/male attracted transfems being visibly transfem or fem at a young age (like around 3-5 years old), and GNC cis gay men being fem from very young too, and maybe less so masc lesbians and female attracted trans men being visibly GNC around 3-5 years old, but I wanted to talk about how trans gay men may present when they are young before they can understand what being trans actually is. There are also definitely conversations to be had about trans lesbians too, but as I'm neither transfem nor a lesbian, I don't feel qualified to speak on their behalf. If you're a trans lesbian, feel free to reply to this post or make your own post about your experiences.

My experience having been a young transmasc gay person who didn't know he was transmasc or gay is pretty unique in that it's rarely talked about in media, but I have spoken to other transmasc achilleans about it and it seems to be decently common, but not universal, among us.

I was a moderately-visible neurodivergent and disabled (at the time not physically disabled) girl living in a non-USAmerican country. For the first five years of my life I would refuse to wear anything except skirts and dresses because they were neat and I liked them. However, around the age of five I stopped wearing skirts and would refuse to wear them at all for years until I discovered that I wasn't cis. No one knew at the time why I stopped wearing them. In my very early years of school I would have been considered a "tomboy" but as I got older the label started feeling weirder because I was not a lesbian. I had very stereotypical male interests (math, science, computer programming, etc) and presented as masculine but I was not attracted to women.

For many years after I moved to USAmerica I identified as bi despite not being attracted to women. I sort of tricked myself into thinking that I was in order to validate my gender weirdness. At the time I was very socially isolated, too—I would get bullied often for being too masc but also too fem to be a "real man," for being neurodivergent, and for appearing too gay. It's almost like my bullies knew that I was trans and gay before I did. Something about my mannerisms showed them I was trans even though at the time I had long hair and would dress fem (still, no skirts).

Because society shoved it down my young, egg throat that gender = presentation and that trans people must be gender conforming, I ended up convincing myself again that I was just a fem cis woman. I think what really made me feel comfortable with myself again was discovering FOB and developing it as a special interest very soon after that. My only sense of gender then was sexuality, and I knew I was really into men, so I convinced myself again that my femininity made me female because that's what men are attracted to.

Fast forward to when young, egg me started reading fanfiction. I would read everything but I started with x reader fic. Though I enjoyed the fics I always had felt like something was wrong. Fast forward to when I discovered gay, M/M fic. Something about it felt so right, especially fic where I could imagine myself being a feminine guy with a more masculine guy. I think that is when I realized that gender doesn't have to equal presentation.

What I realize now looking back is that egg me was extremely uncomfortable with a "biologically female" body. I should be allowed to be fem and attracted to men while in a male body, and I should be able to do that even if it's not a body I was born with. And this realization made all of my past struggles with gender make sense.

As I said at the beginning, there isn't really a point to this post, but if you found it interesting or relatable, feel free to add anything you'd like! I love my trans siblings :3

#star speaks #transandrophobia #<- not really but tagging for exposure #gay #trans #transgender #nonbinary #trans mlm #ftm #actually autistic #neurodivergent

[thetaylorfiles]

I think people need to realize that Taylor didn't have friends like Cara, Ruby Todrick, etc. prior to the 1989 era, so maybe she didn't see what the LGBTQ community goes through until she could see it through the eyes of her close friends. In their words, they have said they've taught Taylor alot. And with that knowledge from actual LGBTQ friends and the current political climate, I just think Taylor realized maybe her voice could make a difference and decided she needed to try.

If I had to guess, I’d say that she did know people who were lgbt. There’s no way you’re in the entertainment or music industry without working with gay men and women. But probably wasn’t ever super close to a bunch of lgbt folks.

Then she moved out of the south, out of country music and moved to NYC. Then her whole world opened up to SO MUCH diversity in the people surrounding her in the city and then in her friend group.

New York is just the best place in the world to be around literally every single type of person you could ever think of. And you’re taking the train with them all, walking the streets with them, partying with fiends of friends and you meet so many diverse cultures and sexualities and ethnicities and people with various mental health struggles and victories, etc. Its eye opening, world-expanding and comforting in the best possible way. I miss that so damn much about New York.

I agree with you. I’m sure Taylor has always been in favor of ending discrimination against anyone based on arbitrary reasons. Because she is clearly the type to treat everyone equally and with respect. But her new friends, who became her close friends, helped her understand what it’s like to be lgbt and the unfairness they’re treated with and the rights that are being denied them. And she grew enough to confidently step out into the daylight and shine her light on something that matters to her.

And also, frankly, it’s the easiest way to advocate. Just think about how ripped apart she would be if she tried to stand up for Black people and the treatment they face in this country. She’d be crucified. Or if she stood up for those in poverty? With how she grew up upper middle class, the media would gladly take her down. Xenophobia or trying to advocate for Muslims facing discrimination in the US? No way does the media and the salty ones in these communities let that happen without trying to take her down for it.

So she’s advocates for a group close to her heart and I bet you anything she will tackle other political issues and advocate for other communities. She seems like that kind of person. To want to right wrongs where she can and bring about as much equality as she can. I can’t wait to see her grow more and step up for others. If she does, she’s going to kick ass doing it.

Hell, if Angelina could become Saint Angie in the way she did, just imagine what Taylor Swift could do when she has the time to dedicate to it. Maybe I’m gettimg ahead of myself, but I think it’s entirely possible