#in this post im not bashing on people headcanoning the kinds of characters described in this post as queer

[peachdoxie]

Two people of the same gender: *are very close and emotionally intimate with each other but show no signs of a sexual or romantic relationship*

Some of y'all dumbasses: there's literally no heterosexual explanation for this

Me: You do know that not every intimate relationship involves sex or romance, right? That people can be very close to each other without being sexually or romantically involved? And that claiming otherwise actively damages real non-sexual, non-romantic relationships by spreading the notion that people can't be emotionally close without being sexually and romantically involved? You do realize sexual and romantic relationships aren't the only kinds that are important to people, right?

#anecdotes by peachdoxie #*bangs my head against the wall* #clarification tags added January 28 2021: #please read before you accuse me of homophobia #(tho i 100% see in retrospect how it can come across that way) #in this post im not bashing on people headcanoning the kinds of characters described in this post as queer #i know from personal experience what it's like to desperately seek representation in media #and clinging to anything that's close enough #what i do have a problem with is people seeing deep emotional (but non sexual) connection #and using that as justification to INSIST that those characters are sexually attracted to each other #when there's no evidence that that's the case besides an emotional bond #being able to identify what is actual representation and what is headcanon/wishful thinking #is a skill that a noticeable amount of people on this website either lack or ignore #and THAT'S what i was frustrated about what i made this post #NOT people seeking representation #bc people being unable to tell the difference is how we got the voltron shitshow #it's a problem of critical reading skills and literacy #please know that i made this post out of frustration at that and not out of homophobia #and not out of malice either #i was frustrated with that phrase for reasons I've since forgotten #and i didnt anticipate this post getting this popular #so please consider this before you write a lengthy essay condemning me as a homophobe #as many have already done #also ive elaborated on my reasoning for this post before id you scroll way up in the notes #and lastly im sorry if i offended anyone #that wasnt my intention