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[waitmyturtles]

(Wiling away time in nail-biting anticipation for the penultimate episode of Extraordinary Attorney Woo....)

So, like a good South Asian-American, I did absolutely binge Indian Matchmaking, knowing full well all of the problematic crap behind it and in front of it. Huge, HUGE biased caveat right now before this review: for me, writing about South Asian culture will often have me feeling that familiarity breeds contempt. I feel like my biases will seep through my pores when I think about these issues, but alas, at least I know I’m feeling these feelings. 

I honestly do not watch very much reality TV -- as this blog indicates, I mostly watch East and Southeast Asian shows. (If you’ve ever watched the daily dramas on Zee TV, you might understand why.) I also don’t watch very many Bollywood films. And finally -- I grew up in a Western religious background, so many of the customs around “Indian” relationships that are directly tied to Hinduism/Islam/Sikhism/Jain practices aren’t necessarily ones that I grew up with.

However. There are many cultural practices, sometimes loosely associated with the religious practices previously mentioned, that I AM familiar with and was expected to follow from my childhood into adulthood. 

Putting that all together, I could relate somewhat to what was happening on Indian Matchmaking. (Important caveat, though: my particular cohort of friends who are South Asian, including myself, have largely partnered with people of different races.) 

What I can’t stand about lazy show reviews is that oftentimes, viewers ask the show to do things that the show is not intended to do. I can’t ask Indian Matchmaking to, say, address intergenerational trauma of arranged marriages, especially those that absolutely don’t work out. I can’t ask Indian Matchmaking to address misogyny in the expectations that women -- very often, professionally educated and trained women -- are expected to give up their jobs to live at home, often with their in-laws, and produce and raise children. I can’t ask Indian Matchmaking to address to the parents of adult children that the purpose of marriage is NOT the actual wedding and party itself, but the lifelong commitment to a partner to create a family. 

And.... yet. Of course, I want this show to address all of this, because all of these expectations, including the expectation that I would give up a professional career, were placed on me by my own parents. Thus, did I get any joy out of watching this show?

Somewhat. I was actually fascinated by watching the continued journey of Aparna from Season 1, who very clearly does not want to do the work of dating. And you know what -- if she would just admit that, I would seriously respect her more. Dating is hard! Finding a partner is hard! She’s deeply committed to her career. How could a show about the antiquated notions of Indian relationships and marriage possibly push her to think any differently? She was just so not into dating, and I had to give her respect for kind of recognizing that. 

I ultimately think the portrayal of Sima Taparia as a kind of relationship guru is painfully detrimental, and unfortunately accurate, to my Indian culture. She states that marriages are “between two families.” For those of us who are a part of the Indian immigrant diaspora, that kind of “arrangement,” even with partners of different races, is, I think, deeply flawed. It doesn’t take into account, in multiracial relationships, how other cultures may view marriage themselves. And that notion places Indian cultural mores as dominant in the fashioning of a relationship and a marriage.

My partner and I fought against a lot of these practices when we were getting together, and frankly, even after years and years, I still suffer the effects of the stress of getting through those demands to get to a point where we could marry. Indian Matchmaking reinforces notions that a marriage is a surface agreement -- not a deep, lifelong commitment to creating a family between two people, and acknowledging the incredible emotional compromises that come with that pairing.

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[iwantanotherlife]

Okay okay. So the thing is, I do want to marry okay?? Like yes I want to marry and have children but ONLY when I am FUCKING READY!! Why do Indian parents, to their daughters in particular, make marriage THE ULTIMATE FUCKING GOAL OF LIFE!?! Like, NO tge reason for my existence is not ONLY MARRYING SOME DUDE! I also want to work and enjoy my life wtf. Like, yes I want to marry but at my own pace, not as soon as I turn 25 or something. The way my mother makes marriage seem like the life goal for me, makes me really hate the word and relationship altogether, it makes me never want to marry ever in my life... Why cant marriage be healthily represented as something beautiful to look forward to rather than forced upon you WHEN THEY DEEM YOUR AGE WORTHY OF MARRIAGE!?!?

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[worldinyourpalm]

सुप्रीम कोर्ट ने समलैंगिक विवाह को वैध बनाने की याचिका को संविधान पीठ को भेजा | Supreme Court sends constitutional court with request to legalize same-sex marriage;

चीफ जस्टिस डी वाई चंद्रचूड़ की अगुवाई वाली बेंच

सुनवाई की अगली तारीख 18 अप्रैल है, कार्यवाही अदालत के YouTube चैनल पर लाइव-स्ट्रीम की जाएगी।

नई दिल्ली: सुप्रीम कोर्ट ने सोमवार को समलैंगिक जोड़ों के बीच शादी को वैध बनाने के लिए याचिकाओं के एक सेट को पांच जजों की संविधान पीठ के पास भेज दिया।

चीफ जस्टिस डी वाई चंद्रचूड़ की अगुवाई वाली बेंच ने सुनवाई की अगली तारीख 18 अप्रैल तय करते हुए यह संदर्भ दिया. चूंकि मामले की सुनवाई एक संविधान पीठ करेगी, इसलिए मामले की कार्यवाही का शीर्ष अदालत के यूट्यूब चैनल पर सीधा प्रसारण भी किया जाएगा।

सामाजिक मानदंडों के अनुसार

अदालत ने आदेश दिया, "याचिका में उठाए गए मुद्दों के संदर्भ में हमारा मानना ​​है कि उठाए गए उचित मुद्दों को इस अदालत की पांच न्यायाधीशों की पीठ द्वारा हल किया जाता है।"

इसने याचिकाओं की सुनवाई को संविधान पीठ के समक्ष पोस्ट करने का निर्देश दिया। अदालत ने मामले में दायर 16 याचिकाओं की प्रार्थनाओं को संकलित करने के लिए दो नोडल अधिवक्ताओं को 10 दिन का समय दिया।

यह आदेश केंद्र द्वारा याचिकाओं का विरोध करते हुए अपनी प्रतिक्रिया दाखिल करने के एक दिन बाद आया है, जिसमें कहा गया है कि शादी पर मौजूदा कानूनी ढांचे के साथ किसी भी तरह की छेड़खानी से कानून निष्प्रभावी होने की संभावना है।

इसने यह भी कहा है कि हालांकि सरकार समलैंगिक संबंधों को अवैध नहीं मानती है, लेकिन इसे विवाह के रूप में पवित्र नहीं माना जा सकता है क्योंकि सामाजिक मानदंडों के अनुसार परिवार की धारणा में जैविक पुरुष शामिल है जो एक पिता है, और एक जैविक महिला, जो एक पिता है। माँ और उनके मिलन से पैदा हुआ बच्चा है।

संक्षिप्त सुनवाई के दौरान

सरकार ने अदालत से इस विषय पर बहस करने के लिए इसे संसद पर छोड़ने का भी आग्रह किया है क्योंकि स्थापित मानदंड से कोई भी विचलन तबाही मचा सकता है।

इसमें कहा गया है कि विवाह दो व्यक्तियों के बीच का निजी मामला नहीं है, बल्कि समाज के विकास में इसका महत्वपूर्ण योगदान है।

सोमवार को संक्षिप्त सुनवाई के दौरान, याचिकाकर्ताओं ने केंद्र के सुझाव का विरोध किया और अदालत को बताया कि विवाह को एक जैविक पुरुष और महिला के बीच संबंध के रूप में मान्यता देने वाले मौजूदा कानूनों को पढ़ा जा सकता है....

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[weirdly-specific-but-ok]

i explain india but i'm drunk.

Hello maggots of mine you're all such babygirls and bastards just like Aziraphale and Crowley. I'm so proud of you all for existing. Yes i'm a wholesome drunk you now know this about me. The wine tastes like rotten grapes and smells of battery acid and cost 245 rupees INR. Speaking of INR, thanks to a maggot's ask, I'm here to explain India. I've never set foot outside of this country. But I'm also very very shit at general knowledge.

To any non-Indians reading this, this is a totally legit 1000% everything covered all-inclusive summary. To any Indians reading this, I'm so so fucking sorry.

India, explained.

So there's south india and there's north india and there's north east india. north india is very racist about south india and they're both very racist about north east india. Most of these people are also probably racist either to other countries or they have internalised racism. It's a wild trip.

There are. A lot of languages here. And a LOT of scripts. I can read two scripts, understand four Indian languages and speak in two of them (badly), and those two are not my native tongues. I cannot speak in my native tongues. It's basically English at this point. These aren't dialects, those are separate. Picture like, Europe, but more, in terms of how many languages.

Everyone hates each other which is valid for the entire planet honestly.

In south india we have a lot of coconuts. Like a lot. There are so many coconuts you have no fucking idea guys you cannot escape the coconuts. I was nearly killed by a shower of coconuts when I was 5 I escaped by one second.

There are also cows. People will tell you that you are being racist when you say India has cows everywhere. But it's true. Two weeks ago I had the pleasure to be stuck in a traffic jam. Next to the street barrier thing (what divides a street im too drunk for this) I saw a huge bull fucking HUMPING a cow. The vehicles just had to move around them. They were having sex right there.

If you're a middle class Indian kid, your career options are: doctor, engineer, scientist, CA, lawyer, government official or family disappointment.

Needless to say, I was going to be doctor and am now instead family disappointment. I'm babygirling so hard it's insane. The prodigal son.

It's very ace-friendly and heterophobic in the sense that you are not supposed to be exhibiting any sexuality whatever in a respectable household. Just shut up and give virgin birth already. But be married. That's crucial.

Oh yeah gay marriage isn't legal trans people are constantly othered by society and/or given no respect whatsover and we're just all vibing here this is totally not why I'm finishing a small bottle of cheap wine on a thursday past midnight alone in my room.

Foreigners are like a zoo species you see them you're instantly concerned like what are they doing outside the TV screens and then either people are normal (rarely), they run up and take photos or try to slip into conversation (more often than you'd think, even I've been guilty of the conversation thing as a kid) OR they start talking about how 'this western culture is ruining our culture'. Which is fair but honestly both the 'cultures' these people are talking about usually involve incredible amounts of bigotry and are more similar than they think.

I think the lesson here is that humans just suck as a species. Except for you maggots. I love you all and I will defend you with my life.

THE CHAAT. THE CHAAT IS INSANELY AMAZING. YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE CHAAT. I HAVE NO SPICE TOLERANCE SO I HAVE TO BEG ON MY KNEES FOR THE SPICES TO BE REDUCED BUT STILL. THE CHAAT. THE CHAAT, YOU GUYS. YOU NEED IT.

Sorry yes I'm normal. ALSO THE STREET DOGS. THE INDIES. THEY'RE SO LOVELY AND SWEET AND CHAOTIC AND I KEEP TALKING TO THEM. Once when I was crying I made the dog distress while and like five dogs that I didn't know came running to me and comforted me and licked me.

INDIAN DANCE MUSIC. I FUCKING LOVE IT IT'S INSANE. My family were elitist as fuck so I never got to listen to Bollywood music as a kid but it's AMAZING I'm so glad it exists. Bhangra too.

Beaches very very pretty hills very very pretty honestly the nature is fucking beautiful if you can just quickly pretend humans don't exist, which again is true of this entire planet. Yeah. Okay I'm so fucking drunk.

Yeah lots of diversity which is very nice when the humans aren't screaming at each other about it but the rest of the time it's very nice

The garbage and sewer stories? yeah they're all true im sorry

Traffic rules more like traffic suggestions amirite

Well, we still have far better healthcare access than america. so. there is that.

If you speak English well you'll be mocked and isolated. If you speak English poorly you'll be mocked and isolated. Honestly, just be rich. That'll fix it all.

All the conservatives hate each other and don't realise they're the exact same but in like different flavours.

Oh yeah we have auto rickshaws. Look them up. They're so much better than cars I don't get motion sick as easily in them. But the drivers all hate you and never want to take you anywhere.

Eyyyyyyyyyy it's so fucking fun here *drinsk more alcohol* I am so fucking not looking forward to college.

Please someone crowdfund me out of here let's all go chill in Alpha Centauri I've heard it's nice this time of the year.

I will, however, miss the casual live cow pornos. A true highlight.

[I got this peer-reviewed by my friend in India's top law school, just in case, because I'm too drunk and generally dumb. They say I will not be killed. And they've been on Twitter so.]

Irrefutable legal proof y'all. I don't mean to offend anyone except bigots. Fuck you, bigots, if you're not offended then I've disappointed my community.

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[storyofmyadultlife]

Morning shenanigans

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[gold-dust-angel]

Good to see this trending even though I have no idea why suddenly today but—

A historic debate on marriage equality and legalising same-sex marriage is underway in the Supreme Court of India. The Union govt. is against it of course but the SC judges and the lawyers representing the petitioners are very progressive. The recordings of the live hearings are up on youtube and worth watching because the arguments in favor are just ✨chef's kiss✨ The verdict is yet to be out but I'm really hopeful. Anxious but hopeful. So far the CJI's statements point to a positive outcome for the queer community but let's wait and watch. It's gonna be epic🌈

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[brokoala-soup]

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