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portraitsofsaints · 7 months
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Saint Jane de Chantal
1572 - 1641
Feast Day: August 12 (New), August 21 (Trad)
Patronage: forgotten people, in-law problems, loss of parents, parents separated from children, widows
Born to the nobility, Jane was raised by her father after the death of her mother. Jane married at age 20, had 4 children and was widowed at age 28. Forced to live with her father-in-law, she spent much time in prayer and received a vision of a man who would become her spiritual director. The man was St. Francis de Sales. She became his spiritual student and close friend. In 1610 she founded the Order of the Visitation of Our Lady for widows and lay women who did not wish the full life of the orders.
Prints, plaques & holy cards available for purchase here: (website)
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aquavenus12 · 21 days
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Visiting the Grand-In-Laws
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They don't want to talk about the Mochi incident.
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ahedderick · 9 months
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MIL
   My husband is the only boy in his family, and has three sisters. All of them married before he met me. You can imagine the trepidation I felt upon meeting his mother for the first time. Only boy? Oh boy 😳
   Oh. my god. We pulled up outside his sister’s house. I’m not just meeting his parents for the first time, I’m meeting the Whole Crew. They come streaming out of the house, all twelve of them, led by Carollee. She flings her arms open to embrace me. She already loves me. I am just what the doctor ordered. Perfect. Everybody else in the family just saluted Carollee and did what she said (as per usual custom.)
   I was boggled to say the least. (also wondering if anybody in my family would want to. take notes or anything? Copy this behavior at all? No?) That woman proceeded to treat me like I was God’s specialest princess for the next nine years, until her untimely death from cancer.
   I think about her a lot as I meet my kids’ boy or girlfriends, and as I get ready to let go of them as they move toward independence. She was a role model. We’re not Jewish, but the phrase “may her memory be a blessing” is an excellent way to describe it. I think of her when I pull out the recipes she wrote down for me, or tell the kids family stories. Grandmom wrote this down when Dad was nine. Look how nice her handwriting was. She loved gardens and flowers. She was nosy and watched her neighbors a little too closely. She loved to sew and knit. She had a Baltimore accent. She lived a small life and made a fuss over her grandchildren. She lived. We lost her twenty years ago. Her memory is a blessing.
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alphagodith · 2 months
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it is tradition that every time my husband walks in the front door with his phone up to his ear that i shout 'I'LL KILL YOU' at him loud enough that the person on the phone can hear. usually it's his parents. the inside joke is that they think i'm threatening him, but actually the threat is directed at them, and the husband is smiling about it.
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mgasulatnihoney · 8 months
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Comparison
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Rosevelt.
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Loki: name a way to be nice to people
Anna: don't kill them? 😗
Loki: setting the bar really low but I'll allow it 🙄
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thatdeaffeel · 1 year
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tdfw you have to wear earplugs at the cinema because the film is so loud your teeth are rattling but then the dialogue is inaudible so really you dont understand any of it
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venusinloving · 1 year
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chiron in sag/9th house
I noticed with this placement that your in laws can become a pain in your life, either you have opinions about life that don’t align, you are from different countries, speak different languages, etc. Always some kind of difference and never seeing eye-to-eye on life.
I hope this makes sense to anyone else out there with this placement 🌎
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jenjen4280 · 2 years
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The Hot Wife’s family has descended upon us for our annual crab fest. It’s chaos in all the best ways. One of my nieces recently came out as a lesbian, of course the whole family was supportive. I’m so lucky to be surrounded by so much love.
We’re a no shoes house. You can see how many people are here and we’ve got a small house. But it’s filled with love and laughter.
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Im switching it up
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ahedderick · 2 years
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   Ocean City, Maryland.
   So. Disability accommodations. My vision is around 20/400. For reference, this works more or less as “The amount of detail that “normal” eyes can see at 400 feet is the same amount that I can see at 20 feet.” My vision is TERRIBLE.  Since it is not a good idea to swim with your glasses on (and contacts mixed with salt water and sunscreen turns out to be a Very Bad idea) I just swim blind. Not a problem in the water. Big problem when I have to return to land and find our spot on the beach.
   My husband’s family likes going to the beach en masse. We have as many as 25 people grouped together. Years ago when he first took me with him on vacation, before we even married, they all noticed me coming out of the water and squinting hopelessly around. Next thing I know, they all started waving their arms over their heads. Even I can see that kind of big movement. So I can find my way back to my towel, and nobody ever so much as mentions it. They just - spotted the problem, and spontaneously accommodated me. It should - always be that easy.
(Ok, just for fun I looked up more info on the 20/20 scale for vision. Turns out I’m legally blind! hurrah.)
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unintentionally-fukd · 9 months
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Every story has its obstacles but the ending… that is when you see what the story was truly meant to signify.
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merrybrides · 11 months
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How to Deal With a Future Mother-in-Law Who's Trying to Plan Your Wedding
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Ah, your future mother-in-law. Maybe you normally have a great relationship, or maybe you don't—but when it comes to wedding planning, there's a good chance she'll want to be involved either way. But what happens if she wants to be way more involved than you're comfortable with? Remember that weddings can be a high-stress time for everyone—you, your family, and your partner's family—and a little help crossing things off your checklist would definitely be a plus. Here's how to get your mother-in-law involved without letting her completely take over.
Tend to Your Self-Care
First things first: If you're not taking care of yourself, you're probably not going to handle problems in the best way. (Yelling at your future mother-in-law or sending a snarky text isn't going to help in the least bit!) Instead, focus on you, then deal with the issues.
Be good to yourself. Eat well, sleep enough, get a massage, and make time for exercise and yoga and to be in nature. You can only control your own energy and mood, so do your best to be in a state of peace and well-being. And when you feel especially triggered, remember to breathe deeply. You can even get a meditation app to get back your zen.
Talk to Your Partner—and Stick Together
The first person you should talk to about issues with your mother-in-law isn't your girls over wine—it's your partner. It's their mom, after all.  Getting married symbolizes creating your new life together so you both need to be on the same page and to have each other's back. Don't gang up on your mother-in-law, but sit down together and kindly and gently inform her of your plan. This way she doesn't come between you.
Involve Her in Ways That Are a Win-Win
Your mother-in-law loves you and probably doesn't mean to be overbearing, so try giving her some duties that help you instead of interfering with your plans. Maybe she wants to call on the RSVPs or go to food or cake tasting with you.
Don't Only Focus on the Wedding When You're Together
Instead of only talking about the wedding whenever you and your mother-in-law are together, take the attention away by spending time doing other fun things. That way she'll still feel involved in your life—just with a little more space. Maybe you don't want her along for the big wedding decisions, but you can do other fun things together. Have a girl's day, invite her to dinner, or go with her to try on her dress. Try and shift the energy from tense to positive and remember your relationship extends beyond this one day.
Set Boundaries and Learn to Say No
Setting boundaries is hard, but if your mother-in-law is trying to plan your entire day and is driving you nuts in the process, learning to say no is the only way to ensure more stress doesn't pile onto your shoulders. You just need to do so in a way that doesn't damage your relationship. You can be kind and polite while still doing things differently, and you can appreciate her advice, but make other choices. Practice saying no in nice ways and also learn how to politely set boundaries on whom is handling what.
Get a Wedding Planner
A wedding planner not only helps you create the perfect day for yourself but is also the perfect buffer between you and an overbearing mother-in-law. Get help from a third party and let her handle the big decisions while consulting you. Just warn her that your mother-in-law has a different taste and let her handle it.
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Listening to my husband and his dad cackle away downstairs warms my heart 🤍
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ravenousnightwind · 1 year
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My partners mom wants us to come over Sunday but I'm not going. He can go but I'm not. The reason is because they've already made it very clear that they don't like me. They've made attempts to make things better only to cause problems when I revealed what I felt about the things they did.
Like when his mom molested me in front of everyone and made it off like it was a joke. I was the one they blamed for causing a scene in front of his grandmother, because there was "no reason for that kind of language" because "I'm his mother, you respect me".
Their whole idea is that even if they do negative things to you, or abuse you in any sort of way, you're disrespecting them because you're not allowing them to do it. Because they expect anyone younger than they are to speak to them and act a certain way that's appealing for them.
Except, I'm not like that, nor do I tolerate it. And let me just say, I wasn't the only one who she's done things like that too. She's done it to her own kids, using the same reasoning.
I understand that she's his mother and he cares about her. But I don't. I think she's a piece of shit. I won't stop him from seeing his mom, not that I could if I wanted to anyway. But while he doesn't agree with what happened with everything that's happened cuz there's a whole lot more, she is his mother and he has an attachment to her emotionally. I don't really care if he goes if that's how he feels about it.
Thing is, I'm not going to subject myself to that nonsense all over again. They say oh we changed we are different. But anytime something happens and it's been a long while since it happening, they always say the same shit. But in reality they haven't changed at all. It's just a ploy they use to make people feel like they can reveal stuff and then they'll do it all over again. I know because this isn't the first time.
I already said it once before. They have problems, and I don't need that toxicity in my life.
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jugulate · 1 year
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The fact that I no longer need to ever see a horrible human being ever again far outweighs how I feel about her opinion of me. Especially now knowing that all her reasons for disliking me were of her own creation. She never wanted to like me, and now I have one less toxic person in my life.
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