#internalized cringe culture

[poolsofabyss]

Me: I shouldn't care about being cringe.

Also me: Not caring about being cringe is pretty cringe, though.

#internalized cringe culture #cringe culture #cringe culture tw #/lh #late night posts 🌑

[forget-me-not-automaton]

Letting everyone know that I came here to deal with the internalized cringe culture, and so I will be very insufferable (in the eyes of the average coward) on purpose.

#and yes I will treat my favs like UWU beans #i don’t care #there are hardly any right or wrong ways to fandom you guys are just stingy #cringe culture is stupid #cringe culture is ableist #internalized cringe culture #newcomer #new to tumblr #new to this #first post #entering my villain era

[sincerely-sofie]

I'm imagining a scenario where, for one reason or another, Ark let's Twig know that Giratina has made veiled threats towards him. And Twig does some ritual or something to summon Giratina so she could give her a piece of her mind.

Giratina witnessed the power-level equivalent of a toy pomeranian defending a doberman when she’s a tibetan mastiff and said “yeah, I don’t need to keep an eye on Darkrai. This mortal would rip his throat out with her teeth if he did anything funny.”

(After the confrontation:)

#posting these two being mushy and cute as the embodiment of cringe culture I internalized threatens to shoot me dead for it #shadow baby au #travailshipping #Ark/twig #pmd darkrai #giratina #pokemon mystery dungeon #pokémon mystery dungeon #pmd explorers #pmd sky #pmd eos #pmd2 #pmd #sofie answers asks #stuff by sofie

[m-a-salter]

People are (again) not enjoying the most recent episode of Ted Lasso. Which is, of course, their right. And I have all kinds of ideas I will not share with you about why some people are unable to withhold judgment on ongoing stories, or separate personal preference from objective merit, or simply enjoy a thing they used to enjoy. But right now I just want to make one point, that transcends this particular fandom:

"Cringe" is not an intrinsic quality of any media. You can say "X is cringe," but all you mean is "X made me cringe." If you cringe at something, that is a function of your psychology, your historical and social context, your history of media consumption, etc., etc. One person's cringe is another person's comfort watch.

The earnest-moralizing-speech show has made you cringe with its earnest, moralizing speeches? Processing internalized shame is a hard road, and I wish you well.

In other words:

#on fandom #cringe culture #ted lasso #international break

[chaos-in-one]

"Unpopular opinion but -insert relatively small but overall harmless group of people- is weird/stupid/etc."

Your opinion is not unpopular. Being a hater isn't some super uncommon thing. Stop acting like you're oh so special and different in your opinions for shitting on people you don't understand for harmless things. You aren't. You're just another judgmental asshole. And there is a LOT of those.

#in general people saying 'unpopular opinion' followed by a fairly popular opinion just makes me sigh internally #mini rant #cringe culture #cringe culture is stupid #but yeah no seriously #if its not hurting people it costs you nothing to just ignore them

[nanowatzophina]

Reentering my mlp phase with unknown speeds.

#mlp #pen sketch #art #discord #applejack #Idgaf about cringe culture. my first oc was a mlp oc and I shall be doing art of her shipping her with Princess Luna #also she’s op as fuck and I ain’t changing that for nobody cuz it was 13 yo me’s wish #however 13 yo me would have a homophobic crisis over learning she gonna be smooching Luna #my internalized homophobia was NOT fun #but we good now 👍 #and very gay and very ace 🏳️‍🌈 #and very gender… #anyways. prepare urselves for that shit show

[thermodynamic-comedian]

fighting against the internalized cringe culture. and losing. badly!!

#hope u all do better in ur own fights against internalized cringe culture #me: cringe culture was just a tool used to shame neurodivergent and queer people and everyone who deviated from the ''norm'' #also me: but im being so cringe rn

[snixx]

ya know we south indians were onto something when we decided to put coconut in everything

#coconut makes everything superior forever <3 #also every time i say south indian i internally cringe because i hate it when northies lump us in together like that #but like sometimes i genuinely don't know which part of my south indianness is related to the thing #like im half tamil half telugu and i lived in karnataka for five years ok #and my family's lived in karnataka forever #so sometimes i genuinely have no fucking clue what larger culture the traditions and shit i do are part of #brb gonna google what part of south india started with the coconut obsession #ALSO a lot of them overlap big time okay #girlblogging.pdf #tamilposting

[quoththemaiden]

I saw your tags in the poll comments and I had to jump into your ask box. If you want to reply to comments, don't be afraid to do it! People love nothing more than to interact with the author. People comment to express their love for your work, and I can promise nothing make them more happy than to have a reply from the author!!! It's a "my comment had been seen and made them happy, yeah!" feeling.

My tags, for context:

This poll is wild to me. Tumblr's interpretation of fanfic etiquette seems completely backwards from my internet upbringing.

Back on ff.net, where the number of reviews wasn't even a sortable field, it was still uncool for authors to respond to the reviews. Every fic would end with "Please R&R!!!" but actually interacting with reviewers was the kind of thing you were supposed to grow out of as you went from a socially clueless young teen to a socially competent older teen. Saying "That's exactly what I was going for!" or "Oooh just wait, you'll love it!" or "I'm so glad you liked it!" was really just patting yourself on the back for being awesome, and saying "No, you don't get it--" was too defensive. (Putting "I've been blown away by the response to this fic" in an A/N is sufficiently self-effacing if used sparingly, though.)

On AO3, looking at the comment section of a fic and seeing that an author has responded to every comment with "Thanks!!" or "❤️" feels similarly desperate to me--

--and not just cringey, but also vaguely unethical because it's artificially doubling the number of comments on a site that does allow sorting by comments. Like, let your fic stand on its own merits instead of trying to game the system with fake reviews.

But on Tumblr, there's those AO3 etiquette posts going around saying "kudos are for if you finish reading a fic; comments are for if you enjoyed it." And that just feels backwards. Shouldn't kudos be for if you enjoyed the fic enough that you think it should be boosted in the rankings so more people read it? Comments, on the other hand, are mandatory on every fic you read unless you can't find even a single good thing to say about it. (And you're still obligated to rack your brain a bit to see if you can at least pull out a "Wow, that was an interesting premise!" or "I really love this trope so thanks for writing this!" or "This was such a fun line!" and just try not to be too obvious about damning with faint praise.)

I've had authors respond to say, "Hey, sorry I haven't responded to your comments yet, but I've been reading them" and I'm always like... my dude, that's not how this economy works. You write fics and I leave comments. You don't have to write fics and respond to comments. Take a load off.

Obviously if I say something particularly insightful it's nice to hear the author's thoughts back, and I've had some cool conversations about their inspirations... and the friend I talk to literally every single day is someone where we both loved each other's fics 20 years ago and we got started talking because of it... so it's not like I think it's never okay to respond to a reviewer.

(And, frankly, a lot of my comments are a couple paragraphs long or I'm leaving a dozen comments in a short timespan, so it hasn't usually felt weird when authors do respond to me to comment on some highlights.)

It's just absolutely baffling to look at that poll and see that 88% of authors do or think they should respond to comments, so I'm clearly in the vast, vast minority.

It's absolutely, mind-bogglingly wild. And since it's purely a cultural thing, being in the minority means I'm wrong, and I need to come to grips with that. Like, I'm going to need to actively, consciously work on flipping my judgement-o-meter from "responding to comments is inappropriately clingy and must be actively avoided" to "responding to comments is good and expected" because the former is a social norm I internalized decades ago and now I need to go through the active work of completely flipping what's rude and what's polite -- which is a thing that happens all the time as we get older, of course, but it was a shock to encounter it here.

#9-to-1 implies it isn't even a relative thing like “it's rude for Americans to eat with their mouths open but fine for other cultures” #9-to-1 is OVERWHELMING and “no that's cringe and weird” wasn't even an OPTION on the poll #i'd say it's a generational divide but it isn't like the Tumblr userbase is young #so there has to have been some other kind of cultural shift in the decade i was away from fandom #so i guess i just need to get over it and get with the times #but it would definitely help if someone could explain what changed so i could internalize WHY responding to comments is now acceptable #like does it have something to do with the shift from “reviews” to “comments”? #like because it's socially unacceptable for movie producers to respond to movie reviewers but exchanging comments on social media is normal #or is it something else? #but the culture may well have changed a decade ago so who would even remember? #so i feel like any responses would be “saying 'thanks' to a compliment is polite” #which... yeah #but also no #because the author-reader relationship is fundamentally different since authors are providing a service #and readers are obligated to repay them with comments #so #argh #fanfiction #ao3 etiquette #ff.net etiquette #Am I so out of touch?.meme

[local-magpie]

i ordered new cat ears to stream in and im both excited theyre in the mail now and embarrassed im excited. soon. pakige

#i flipflop a lot between actually cringe culture is dead i do what i want #and being mortified that i am trying to make cat ears part of my hashtag brand #i think! theyre cute! and theyre fun #theyre terribly unserious but all i do is play video games so who cares really right #pakige actually will not be here for 2-6 weeks bc it is international shipping #yelling at the void

[vogelmeister]

thinking about the australian cultural cringe on this sunny sunday hbu

#no but it's kinda true i do actually suffer from cultural cringe but i see how bad it can be for artists from australia #like idk its a big topic but like majority of our tv happens to be reality tv or imports #i actually saw a really good tiktok about how australian tv is stuck in a time warp #i feel like australian music is either indie triple j or x factor winners singles and x factor hasnt aired since 2016 #and international shit has taken over the hottest 100 #it says a lot that one of the few australian things to get impact internationally as of recent is bluey #dont get me wrong im so proud of bluey i love seeing my home country portrayed #but im 22. give me more. #and im not innocent to cultural cringe or alienation either but id love some good australian media that isnt americanised or makes me cring #even with heartbreak high i physically recoiled after realising it was australian #so i need to also work on not being so ashamed of australian stuff myself #and im not doing myself any favours by only listening to dutch music which in turn is a loop bc dutch ppl probs also have cultural cringe #actually they defs do #its an issue here but i defs talked to dutch ppl in nl who were suffering from cultural cringe she is international #hearing australian accents in songs is also a hard one for me. sometimes its cool but i cringe more than find it cool #even watching tina the tina turner musical when roger appeared i went FUCK NO NOT AUSTRALIANS #and the actor there is australian #idk i am rambling now #but like... this is a complex topic bc i know how bad it is for australian culture and locally produced music and shows and that #but like i do it myself #anyways doei

[meistoshi]

actually points & laughs at satoshi rq for getting to be on the morosexual end of the crush when he had that 2week long celebrity crush on leon n by the time he was already way over it he learned the guy had 0 sense of direction & was even more reckless n a mess than him somehow

#satoshi recognizing the self in the other when leon just kept provin to be more n more of a Mess #watchin leon run off into the woods like Adventure :D!!! while internally goin i feel like i need to apologize to serena...... #DO go training w your heroes it's fun but also Dont if u used to have a star-struck crush on em coz it Will make you cringe retrospectively #ok Now i eepy #ooc. pkmn is autistic culture.

[ablednt]

this next rewatch of the owl house will cure me

#media cw #if I watch this show enough times I'll internalize it's anti cringe-culture message and stop worrying so goddamn much abt myself /hj

[trainingdummyrabbit]

swords are cool as hell and im tired of pretending like theyre not

#swords are cool! swords that dont make logical sense kick ass! swords that are extra for no reason are cool! swords are fucking RAD #(<== unlearning internalized cringe culture) #piktalk #sometimes things that are dumb and flashy and cool....are better

[bijoumikhawal]

"Most copts are arabs" opinion immediately chucked into the dumpster bye

#Arabness #Cipher talk #The relationship between copts and and wether or not a Copt will allow themselves to be called #Arab may be weird but it's absolutely not something an Arab should be saying in the context of Nasser who literally like. Nationalized #Coptic schools in a way that had impacted cultural knowledge #Honestly it's not something an Arab should be so arrogant as to give themselves airtime on at all #But hey this guy was offended that I said I'd throw my lot in with Pan Africanists before Pan Arabists easily #And I absolutely will not be fucking around with people that go 'sources plz' with disaffected cringe airs regarding the internment and #Imprisonment of Jewish men under Nasser #Wait the idiot is 17 #Yeah no wonder you're dumb

[oasatelematics]

the secret actually good "they both die at the end" that lives in my head

#little more than halfway through now #and the writing style is still cringe #like I'm sorry but you can't convince me this is what the internal monologue of a teenager sounds like #the references to pop culture/social media and use of slang feel so forced #and with every page silvera seems to just dump beloved memories of the main characters on us as if to say #look! look how Human they are! they loved their family! feel Connected to them! be Sad that they'll die! #like I love the concept and the idea but the execution is just so mid and lukewarm that it's a miracle I even feel attached #to the characters at all #feel like my writer friends could write this book much better don't @ me im right #my writer friends if you're reading this I know you'd make me insane if any of you had written this instead I just know it #anyway. it's like a generous 6/10 so far. very generous #vegan.txt #this is goodreads for me btw this is where my book reviews will go if I ever write any more #straight into the tumblr post tags