#internet mobs

[jessiarts]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but no one ever learns from being yelled at.

I've watched from the sidelines of many discourses/"cancellings"/what-have-youse that've happened around the internet and one thing I've noticed is none of the "Internet Public Enemies" ever learned from their mistakes or changed their minds by being bullied, receiving death threats, or threats of cancelling.

At best I've seen rejected public apologies. At worst I've seen people have genuine mental breakdowns and develop intense fear of ever speaking up again in case they accidentally say the wrong thing or their thoughts are misconstrued. Because the human mind is simply not equipped to deal with the very real effect of hundreds of thousands of people very loudly saying how much they hate you and that thing you said.

You know what I have seen change people's minds, though? Kindness.

I know, it sounds corny and not nearly as satisfying for some, but I've genuinely seen more people change their ways of thinking when someone has taken time to have a calm conversation with them instead of screaming back.

I think we need to try more love with these interactions. The goal should be to get the other person to grow as a person, not to "win" because you made the "bad person" leave the internet. Most people genuinely don't want to be hurtful, they just aren't informed.

The best way I can put it is to think about it like raising a child.

When a child says or does something bad, and they get screamed at and/or smacked, they don't "learn their lesson." The person who yelled at and/or hit them only took out their own frustration on that child, they didn't teach them anything. The child doesn't learn why what they said or did was hurtful or why they shouldn't do it again, they only become afraid of the punishment and usually try to find ways not to get caught the next time. They also just become resentful of the person who screamed at/hit them.

However, when a child says or does something bad and instead they are sat down and talked to like a person about why what they said/did was harmful, they're more likely to learn from that mistake and not do it again. Yes, they may mess up a few more times now and again as they're still learning and not perfect, but as long as you keep coming back to them and calmly explaining to them that what they did wasn't very nice and why, they'll grow as a person and learn they can trust the person who helped them through it.

The same is very much true of adults. I know it can be frustrating when someone who we believe should know better about something doesn't, but we also can't go after everyone like they are a Big Bad Evil for making a mistake either. (Save that energy for corporations.)

Will there be some people who just won't listen no matter how much it's explained why their behavior is hurtful? Of course, but they likely won't be the norm. And it's perfectly ok not to consume the content of someone who makes you uncomfortable. It's ok to state your disappointment and leave them to slip into irrelevance. But I've rarely seen a big flashy announcement for a boycott of a person result in that person believing anything other than they were being persecuted and then doubling down on why their behavior wasn't bad.

It's honestly a very Terminally Online thing to do, assuming everyone is meaning to be a bad person for supporting or saying the wrong things, and propagating the idea that if you mess up you must grovel for forgiveness that will never come because mistakes mean you are inherently bad forever and can never change.

Honestly I believe that's why so many people double down when confronted anymore. The internet has cultivated a culture with no forgiveness. Admitting you were wrong has become weakness in the internet's eyes- Better to double down and show everyone how Right™ you are and really how Wrong™ those bullies who disagree actually are. And if someone does come to change their mind, they're met with jeers for not getting there sooner or for believing the wrong thing in the first place. It's toxic.

We need to allow apologies and encourage growth and guidance. We need to let people know that if people make a mistake they'll still be welcome when they change that behavior. And also that they won't be met with some variation of "See, was that so hard?!" or "FINALLY!" That's important too.

We can't punish the behavior we want to see, and punishment isn't going to help us see that behavior.

#idk what to tag this? #idk who needs to hear this #social justice #discourse #internet mobs #purity culture #cancel culture #accountability culture #fandom discourse #? #idk #i suck at tagging #behavior #toxic behavior #care #changing #internet culture #twitter culture #tumblr culture #jessi rambles

[timetobeaghost]

Your post about the little witch hunt is a voice of reason in the Byler tag. A lot of these girlies will defend the worst kinds of men, and you'd better not say a bad word about their male faves, no matter how badly they fuck up. But there is always the collective consciousness to beat on a random anonymous— let's be real, usually female— social media user for some innocuous thing. A lot of the people doing it are minors and have no idea what kind of fandom culture they have waiting for them the second they turn 18.

They'll all be perverts and creeps in the eyes of the fandom people they've helped to embolden. There are actual dangerous people in this world, but most of the fandom women I see being harassed lately are not those people. In the interest of positive change, alienating anyone who has made a slight mistake or who you suspect might have bad intentions does not pull them to your side or help to facilitate a safer society. It actually radicalizes people and makes them have kinship with the only people who will support them for their "crimes," usually the actual bad guys these teens should be concerned with, and that is not what anyone wants. Calm meditation is far better than online bullying ever will be and getting people to change their ways or see your perspective.

❤️ Well said! Yeah, let's find a random defenseless woman and publicly shame her for made up shit. It's an old story, but made so much easier by the accursed internets. Now the Byler tag is mainstream, everything that is wrong with the internets is here, I guess. The price of success. ;)

#byler #internet mobs

[sopuu]

WHAT TIMELINE AM I ON

#OF COURSE HE WON BY 0.1% #LITERALLY EXPLODING #i’m so happy to have watched this battle unfold in real time #context for those who don’t know it’s the tumblr sexyman poll on twitter. internet history was made today #and also toby fox writing fanfic is absolutely the very last thing i expected this year #dw sans likes it #mp100 #mob psycho 100 #reigen arataka #undertale #sans #sanssweep #reigensweep #my doodles #edit: ​i’m glad this is my legacy #sopuuart

[r3d-c4r4m3l]

copying the artstyles was kind of difficult (specially with Kaito xd) but it was actually really fun, too

#mob psycho 100 #magic kaito #dcmk #reigen arataka #internet sex symbol #kuroba kaito #kaito kid

[yuumei-art]

Doing hand studies!

This is one of Reigen Arataka's special techniques, in which he makes 100 hand gestures per second to help artists improve their hand anatomy ✨

#mp100 #mob psycho 100 #reigen arataka #reigen #internet sex symbol

[pierogish]

happy birthday, you lovely old hag!!

One of Reigen's special moves is to show em assholes the Power of Former Japanese Whack-a-Mole Championship Competitor

#The Greatest Self-Proclaimed Psychic #Internet Sex Symbol #Ranked 4th on Japanese Whack-a-mole Championship #Best Babygirl #The Ugliest Old Man #The Ultimate Dad #Reigen Arataka #Happy Birthday Reigen #mob psycho 100 #my art #will i ever have a constant artstyle

[45liza109]

Internet sex symbol

#arataka reigen #reigen arataka #mp100 #mob psycho 100 #mob psycho season 3 #mp100 season 3 #internet sex symbol #character illustration #illustration #mp100 fanart #mob psycho fanart

[jackawful]

Y'all have got to realize there are ways to protect older teens from sexual predators without insisting that teenagers don't think about sex or sexuality until the magical moment exactly 18 years from their birth. Trying to reduce harm to teenagers (especially teenagers online!) is a good and valid goal but pretending none of them have ever viewed porn or fucked isn't it. You've gotta acknowledge that if they don't have safe ways to explore their sexuality with peers they are going to explore in unsafe ways & that secrecy, shame, and censorship are what open the door to predators & allow them to normalize unhealthy power dynamics.

Shit like (professed) minors allegedly being on ezra's site is most likely the result of that community being the only thing they could find that treated them as like, humans with autonomy and desire, and that's a pattern that plays out with adult exploitation of teens in-person too (the "you're so mature for your age" routine). Of course teenagers exploring sexuality for the first time fell into a community that told them they weren't bad for being attracted to adults or having sexual desire in the first place! Thing is, an "Adult Attracted Minor" is like, the default state of teenagerdom.

The shit that's actually been demonstrated to help with this isn't carceral whackamoling of bad actors - it's giving teenagers education about healthy relationships and power dynamics and safe sex and yeah, kink, and also giving them the autonomy to make their own decisions about sex. Specifically, you let them know that it's normal to be attracted to adults but that adults trying to date or fuck them are in a position of power that means those relationships can't be healthy. In absence of that, teens are vulnerable to the first adult that appeals to their need to be taken seriously. And for fucks sake, using "minor" to equate teens with young children in these cases makes this tactic easier for abusers to pull off, not harder, because it is self-evident to teens that they have more capacity for autonomy than the average 8 year old. Sure, it makes the people you're targeting in your callout Sound Worse, but it also immediately loses you credibility in the eyes of teenagers themselves.

And for fucks sake, don't let a handful of bad actors using a leftist framing for that old song and dance lead you to believe that's what youth lib is about OR take away focus from all the times the right wing has systemically & institutionally done this.

#csa tw #posting this may very well be inviting piss on the poor levels of bad faith but it's important #I've seen the doc & based on the professional experience I have I'd be surprised if LE actually takes action anyway? #it's uh. always surreal to see how badly the internet handles this shit & meanwhile have multiple years of professional experience on it #like even when allegations are reasonable there's still a lot that seems more designed to stir a mob than help kids #toonimal #ezra orena #also like. the fallout from this one to people who are obviously unconnected and just easy to target? bad bad bad bad bad #csa prevention

[gale-gentlepenguin]

You ever realize how fucked up the internet culture is. Someone posts something that is not common consensus and they get attacked for it. Death threats, doxxing, and so on just over a few mistakes, misunderstandings or badly timed jokes. Doesnt matter if the person apologizes or claims it was a mistake. It doesnt matter to the mob, its is just a relentless barrage that usually results in someone (usually the person on the receiving end) getting hurt.

#internet culture #gale rants #internet #just kind of fucked up #mob mentality #ive seen this in fandoms

[p0rk-guts]

Gift for @cryptamen because she loves these guys. They seem nice !

-Commison Info-

#mob psycho 100 #mp100 #mp100 fanart #shigeo kageyama #serizawa katsuya #reigen arataka #internet sex symbol #certified babygirl #anime #gay #moe salary man #note: i was forced to put half of these tags this is not of my volition!!! #commisions are half off also. right now. currently. btw. i have no money #serirei #my art #digital art

[1945sellmeats]

you're the souvenir of sadness

#mob psycho 100 #mob psycho fanart #mob #mp100 #drawing #art #sorry for the inactivity ive been feeling liek shit and my internet is fucked up i cant open tumblr much...... #blood #cw blood

[haveyoureadthisfanfic]

Summary: "This is a world in which Mob and Reigen’s paths have never crossed, in which 10-year-old Mob found psychic guidance in the form of the aging, retired tv personality Keiji Mogami, in which Reigen followed through on his plans to close the Spirits and Such Agency, in which a cruel twist of Mob’s powers forces him to confront how dangerous he really is. 10 year old Shigeo Kageyama has vanished, his trail instantly cold, and his case gathers dust in police archives as a kidnapping never solved. Four years pass before a chain of events causes his path to cross with that of the despondent, unfulfilled fake-psychic-turned-fake-investigator, Arataka Reigen. Reigen finds himself in over his head caring for an escaped victim of abuse who, for reasons unfathomable, has been taught to believe his very existence is a horrifically dangerous thing…"

Author: @phantomrose96

Notes from submitters:

Literally The most iconic MP100 fic written by the lovely @phantomrose96 (If it makes it into the competition, u should tag her tumblr. She's amazing and I want her to know how much I appreciate her work <3)

Huaghhhh oh my god. Litchrally so good it’s insane. I actually read this before watching ANY of mp100 and it still worked completely. Like it works for someone completely unfamiliar to the source material, but it’s not unrecognizable by any meaning of the word. The characterization is so good, tge way everything slots together, and now that I have seen mp100 it all makes sense for their characters. It’s so good I cannot stress this enough. Read it!

abot my beloved when will it return from the war

#official fic poll #haveyoureadthisfic #pollblr #tumblr polls #fanfiction #fandom poll #fanfic #fandom culture #internet culture #a breach of trust #mob psycho 100 #submitted multiple times

[bleepzip]

watched mp100. i will be babygirl posting

#i get it. i get reigen. i get why he’s. why you guys. yeah #internet sex symbol #reigen arataka #arataka reigen #my wife #my babygirl #hottest anime woman #etc #mob psycho 100 #mp100 #mp100 fanart #reigen fanart #my art

[kyliafanfiction]

Sturgeon's Law says 90% of everything is crap. While I might quibble with the specific percent, it is true that for all the things in a given category I may like... a lot of it is stuff I consider crap.

But while most of us are used to this idea, I think a lot of fandoms have yet to internalize the logical corollary to this:

If you want more not-crap, then you're going to have to be willing to accept a lot of crap too.

That is to say, if you want more of the type of fic you're looking for, or more stuff for this ship, or this genre of store, or more of this trope in your sci-fi fantasy TV, etc -

You're going to have to be willing to wade through the 90%!

And, the harder you make it for the 90% to thrive, the less of the 10% you're going to get, because the whole pool of content will be smaller.

In other words - if you want more F/F content in fanfic, or sapphic TV shows, or movies or games or books, etc (for instance), you need to stop coming down so freaking hard on the stuff you deem 'imperfect', stop organizing internet hate mobs over these things, because all you're doing is decreasing the number of the things you want, in toto. Including the good stuff.

If 90% of everything is crap, then that means if you want the 1 good thing... you need to accept that the other 9 will exist.

Learn to embrace that. You don't have to love the 90%, but you have to include it, you have to allow it.

Because if you don't, you never will see the other 10%.

#Musings #Just Little Fandom Things #Sturgeon's Law #Seriously People Please Stop Organizing Internet Hate Mobs Over Content That Gives You The Representation You Claim You Want #Imperfect Is Not Ideal But Please Please Criticize Responsibly #Rage Gremlins

[kyokyeo]

I love my daughter

#mob psycho 100 #mp100 #mob psycho fanart #tome kurata #kurata tome #Tfw you dont have internet so you just start drawing silly anime girl with your finger

[nitw]

reigen being gay and asexual isn't just an observed headcanon to me it's what the universe intended it's written in the stars etc

#it also has sooooo much comedic potential YOU GUYS DONT GET IT !!!!!! #renowned internet sex symbol and nr2 tumblr sexyman being thirsted over by the masses. in-universe and by the fandom #and he just does not fuck #does not care that much but he appreciates it #he's Like That because hes a fucking fruit and an idiot but he still reads as undeniably ace to me #god. #leo.txt #arataka reigen #mp100 #mob psycho 100