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houseofdonald · 6 months
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- Sometimes it takes a village
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theeblackagenda · 1 month
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more to come
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graceandopulence · 6 months
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Currently reading Lisa Marble’s How to be Irresistible to White Men: Interracial Dating Secrets of Asian Women. You may not want to hear this but as women of African descent we need to open up to the idea of dating outside our race. Respectfully.
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heartshapelocket · 8 months
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when mitski said “i guess i couldn’t help trying to be your best american girl” when sza said “wish i was the type you take home to mama, the type your fellas would be proud of” when robyn l said “you with a malibu barbie, but she don’t know you like i do” when fka twigs said “they’re watching us they’re hating they’re waiting and hoping, im not enough” also when mitski said “your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me” when jensen mcrae said “passion player almost biblical white girl arrives i turn invisible, i don’t like who i am to you”
dating as a black woc
(your best american girl mitski, normal girl sza, malibu barbie robyn l, cellophane fka twigs, white boy jensen mcrae)
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cute-st · 1 year
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Why is it always “Would you date a Black Girl?” and never asking Black Girls, “Would you date _____?”. I’m sorry but why are we assuming that a Black Girl would date the men they ask this question to and if so where does this come from because I’m confused 😐
I’m reminded of an article when a Brown boy was highlighting his marriage and the title was “We don’t date Black people” but speaking as a West African I know that my family also wouldn’t be too happy if I brought home a Brown Man but no one’s going to highlight that are they? and that’s why I regularly describe the world as “fake” or “agenda based” on my blog because it wants to position Black Women in a certain space almost as punishment for our choices/ behaviour/inaccessibility. There’s this weird imaginary rejection surrounding Black Girls around who would and wouldn’t date them (the real reasons for the latter are rarely expressed but I digress…) but is your average Black Woman checking for these men? You and I know that this is not the case. Next time we ask this question, can we check if there’s a Black Woman willing to date him first ?🤣😒
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classycookiexo · 6 days
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THIS
I’ve even come across non black men who thought they were gonna pull me all because they refused to date their own race 🤢 I don’t want to be used to shit on another woman
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with dating outside of your race but I definitely wouldn’t entertain a man who doesn’t at least see the beauty in his own women (people who look like his mom, sister, aunt, grandma etc.)………
I ENCOURAGE MORE WOMEN TO WAKE UP AND REALIZE THIS
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alwaysbewoke · 9 days
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houseofdonald · 5 months
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theeblackagenda · 1 month
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What a peaceful balance relationship looks like
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melaninpov · 8 months
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News Flash:
Not all melanated brothers who date outside of their community have self hatred. Not all dislike or disrespect melanated sisters. Not all have a preference that doesn’t include you. My husband has dated white women in the past. So what? He loves women period. Please stop projecting your insecurities.
The same women who clowned Majors for his afrocentric features are upset that his ex is white. Accusing him of being anti black when it is them exemplifing that anti behavior. Make it make sense!!
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notesfromthepalace · 7 months
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Vanilla Coconut
I don't mean to boast but I am a well-traveled woman and I know how it feels to be sought after by men from all Nationalities, okay.
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And as said before, the Lord has sent me my African King so I am not looking for attention from other men or woman - I am beyond happy.
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And as I write at one of my favorite places, "On My Mama" by Victoria Monet is playing - and I know I've been giving big body gyal and goals lately - "I look fly, I look good".
But back to being world-wide and highly sought after.
Prior to being with my Ghanian heart-throb, I have and have always been open to dating outside my culture and race, meaning dating men that are not Haitian, and also men who are not Black. Even now, with both he and I being Black, we're still of different cultures.
Friends, when I went to Europe at 19, the men were enamored. The hair, the curves, the skin, I was exotic to them.
Now, at 25, I understand some of it was the hyper-sexualization and fetishization of Black women, but for others, that were just mesmerized by the beauty, I allowed them to take me to fancy dinners and have amazing conversations about the world and everything glamorous and expensive.
Point being, I am not un-accustomed to they eyes of men that do not look like me.
Now, what I have noticed is you'll have men that are not black, but are well traveled and when they compliment you its:
"You are so beautiful"
Actually, it's always that.
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But when it comes to American white men who are not from a diverse community - and you can tell their version of traveling is just being on guided tours and not immersing themselves in the culture of whatever country they're in, the compliments are either very racially insensitive or super "frat-boy" language:
"You're so hot" "You're so different" "I love how long and straight your hair is" "You're hot AF" "I always thought you were so hot"
Emphasis on the "hotness" thing right? That's how 16 year-old horny teenagers talk. And if I'm completely honest, after hearing it multiple times from the same person, especially with the statement being an assessment of just sex-appeal, it starts to make me feel a little uncomfortable just because I don't like being hyper-sexualized. And those comments usually come from a place of hyper-sexualization.
Sometimes it doesn't, but you mean to tell me that there are grown men who are well established who don't know how to talk to women?
Further more, there are women who are actually receptive to this type of dialogue?
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*Bombastic side eye
Mind you, I am so messy when it comes to spilling the tea to the African Chief: I was literally on the phone with him telling him everything this man was telling me as he was slipping and sliding in my DM's, and still is - even after I said I had a boyfriend and that I'm not interested.
And of course, my Lover-man makes the joke "Oh, you thought you would get a man and other men would stop trying to get with you? No baby, you are a beautiful woman, men will always seek you".
Before I continue with the story, I just wanted to thank God for my man. He is truly a Godly man who understands that:
He is with a woman who loves him unconditionally - meaning I tell him these things because he's my man, but I am not going anywhere. He gives BIG HUSBAND BIG PROVIDER GREAT FATHER GREAT LEADER - and that's what I prayed for when I felt like I was ready to be with the love of my life.
He also understands that he is with a very desirable woman - meaning he's so secure in himself that he knows men will throw themselves at me because I am attractive. But he loves the fact that when we walk into places with me on his arm, we're the focus of the room - really me but we all get the point *wink wink
And we talked about it and from a Spiritual standpoint, the devil will always try to destroy good things. But my GOD is greater and rebuke all of that.
And even as I am writing this, this man is still in my DM's.
And yes, the Ghanian Protector will hear about this tonight.
But I thought this was just too juicy to keep to myself until the weekend.
Moral of the story is homie is giving single-white-female and the Ghanian King knows everything!
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As always ladies,
Fall is here and it is time for the oranges and yellows, boots and coats, and smoky eye-shadow.
With love, a little shade and tea,
Sarah Chanel
bisous
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awhitegirlspassion · 1 year
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I get asked a lot about why I am so open about my passion for interracial relationships and about how I want to encourage more white women to date black guys. The answer it actually quite simple! As a young woman who has battled her own feelings about this subject, I feel a strong desire and determination to let other young women know that it's okay to be open about your desire to date black men!
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The truth is that as a teenage girl and also as a young woman in my early twenties, I struggled a lot with my instinctive attraction towards black guys! I felt ashamed about my feelings and I was afraid that my friends and my classmates would shame me and think less of me. Because of those feelings and because of that anxiety of becoming "a social outcast", I kept my feelings to myself and started dating white guys like most of my girlfriends at the time. I had to endure being unhappy for so many years and I even endured being miserable in relationships with white guys just because I was afraid to be true to myself! I was never happy with a white guy and to be honest, I hated it when white guys would try to flirt with me or hit on me! Now don't get me wrong... I am not a racist (far from it)! I just felt a stronger attraction towards black guys than I ever has with white.🤷‍♀️
It wasn't until recently - and I'm 28 now - that I decided to come out and be open about my passion for black men... and I am so happy that I did! I feel so much happier now and all of my girlfriends have accepted how I feel. Some of them even admitted to me - after a drink or two - that they too have had fantasies and thoughts about black men! I feel so stupid for having endured so many hardships because of my ignorance and anxiety to be myself and I don't want other girls or young women to make that same mistake! So girls! If you want to date black men and if you feel the same way that I do... Then just GO for it! Don't let white guys, your parents, society or anyone else stop you from following your heart! Never!!! There is a black guy out there for you too❤️
This is the main reason why I am being open about my passion for interracial relationships and for more white women dating black men! I want women to find the courage and determination to follow their own hearts! See! I said there was a simple reason, didn't I?😅😉
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alwaysbewoke · 2 years
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🗣🗣🗣🗣
so let's me take a crack at this.
coons: so this is the category that most black people think is the only category but that's a problem we'll discuss that later. but yeah coons (in this context) are black guys who straight-up hate black women cuz they've been brainwashed into believing that black women are base. bottom of the barrel. the worst of the worst. lowest of the low. they're not silent about their hatred of black women either. they mock black women and their appearance, their names, their dress, their style (while dating white women who do nothing but bite black women btw) and more. additionally they brag about their hatred of black women to  other haters of black women ESPECIALLY if those people are white people. these are the worst of the worst and while it is easy to simply hate them, the reality is they are victims of white supremacist brainwashing (which could be any of us since psychological warfare against white supremacist brainwashing is a constant thing that black people must engage in). not only that, sometimes these people grow up in homes that support these ideas. i wouldn't be surprised if often times behind a cooning black man there's a cooning mother and/or cooning father. like kanye said "hater niggas marry hater bitches and have hater kids." so these black men date outside of their race because they sincerely hate black women and they do so because they in truth hate themselves. this hatred of themselves is expressed in many ways but the hatred and mockery of black women is ALWAYS one of the ways it expresses itself. and now they go about trying to resolve that self hatred by chasing after white approval which they understand comes by showing disdain for black women (among other ways). now they will try and hide this fact under any number of bullshit excuses (like when those coons fresh&fit tried to make their hatred of black women about "preferences" (foh)) but it's always mega transparent to those with at least half a braincell.
trophy hunters: so these guys are very close to coons but they don't out right hate black women. in fact many trophy hunters have a history of dating black women but when it comes to serious, long term commitments, they're looking for a trophy and for them a trophy is always a non-black woman, usually a white woman. the brainwashing is virtually the same with these guys as it is with the coons because they've been led to believe that the signal that you've made it, that you are somebody, that you are at the top of the mountain is to have anyone on your arm other than a black woman. most often they have it in their minds that the woman that they need to have on their arm is a white woman. they've been convinced that white women are the zenith of femininity, elegance, grace, refinement, style, worthiness, etc.. like i said however they're not exactly coons in that they're not mocking black women, often they're not speaking ill of black women, and they even have a history of dating black women but their actions show that when it comes down to making that serious commitment or the person they want to have on their arm when they've "made it", they're not willing to do that for and/or with black women. in that regard that only slightly less brainwashed than coons but still fucked up nonetheless. once again, look at kanye.
made the best out of a unique situation: so now we're going to start to get into the categories that i think many black people refuse to understand exist and can lead to black men coupling and/or marrying women who are not black. there are many black men who are not currently living in a situation, in a place where they do NOT have access to a plethora of black women. i know for some there is this belief that all black people grow up and live in black communities surrounded by blackness 24/7 but that's not the reality for a lot of black people. there are black people right now who are born and  raised in places where there's maybe one or two (maybe three) other black families. and if the few black girls in that community, in that town aren't feeling you, what the fuck are you supposed to do? just be celibate? that's not how that should works. on top of that you have black men who are living outside the country for various reasons including work-related and military reasons. when i was a freshman in college, a senior i knew (who took me under his wing and also was a computer science major) right before graduation got a major job offer to go with a major company and making major dollars. the catch though was that this company was and still is located in japan (sounds like dwayne wayne type shit lmaoo). so he had to make a choice. either stay here in america for opportunities that weren't on that level or he had to bite the bullet move his entire life over to japan. now i don't know if you know this or not but japan is not exactly a place you're going to find a plethora of black people (men or women). especially not back in the day like i'm talkin about. so he moved to japan and many many many years later we friended each other on facebook and guess what? homie had a beautiful japanese wife and kids. why? not because he hated black women but his situation made it so that his options were different then mine and probably many of the black men reading this post. to bring this closer to home there are black athletes right now in sports like football who if they're going to make it to the nfl have to go play college sports in places where the student body is overwhelmingly white. so again, are we expecting them to be celibate if the few black women on campus aren't into them or aren't available? i know i'm not saying that. there are certain situations where your dating pool requires that you expand your options otherwise you just going to be lonely as fuck. shit one of my closest friends in the world a while back got relocated by his job to sweden hahaha. homie was making money but was lonely as shit. he had to make adjustments and yea dated a few swedish white girls because you're not running into a bunch of black girls over there. i understood 100%. these black men are just making the best out of this situation and i don't fault them no more than i would fault the number of black women who i know who were born and raised in places like idaho who dated mostly white boys because that's what that's what was around them. expand your mind on this one.
made a genuine connection: now this is the one that many black men and women refuse to accept is even possible but i'm here to tell you the world and human beings are complicated things. it is 100% possible to be a black man who doesn't hate black women, who isn't a coon, who isn't a trophy hunter and end up with a non-black woman because you made a genuine connection with one. i know for some this is sacrilege! this is unacceptable. this is beyond the pale. however again life isn't that simple. sometimes you meet someone and unexpectedly you have matching interest, matching goals, matching personalities, you find this person attractive and they just so happen to be a non-black person or, in the case of this specific topic, a non-black woman. this shit happens man.  there are many people reading this needs to grow up and realize that life isn't the straight line that you often think it is. it is 100% possible for a black man to not  be out here thinking or talkin about how black women are loud, black women are always angry, and all that other bullshit but just so happen to a fallen for someone who isn't black. what i typically find is that people who know that they are incapable of something can not fathom others having that ability since they know they can't do it. and so you have this weird projection where you know you could not be with a non black woman without hating on black women (or be with a non-black man without hating black men) so then it is impossible for you to understand how someone else could. so you end up shutting down or arguing with people about how is there is absolutely no way that is possible without being a traitor and all the while, in reality, you're just telling on yourself. now clearly i already listed out that they are coons and trophy hunters out here but they are also black men out here who just happen to have fallen for an asian chick, a hispanic chick,  a middle eastern chick and yes even a white chick. i know that last one made many faces go sideways and i get it. the realities of white racial hatred, white supremacy and the wounds thereof are very fresh for many and the idea of coupling with the people from the group who created and maintain this white supremacist hellscape wherein black people can be shot down by police and the cops just get a paid vacation or black college grad have the same shot at a job as non college grad whites with a criminal record and etc turns the stomach. i get 100% because i feel that way often too. however i can not deny the realities where i've met black men married to non-black women who are still down for the cause and yes love black women and want to see black women succeed. i've even met black women married to white women doing more in the community than many of the people who call him a coon. i'm not going to pretend that didn't happen and that can't be a reality. this inability in some of us to accept this reality ends up trickling down to how we treat black biracials (whose crime to some in the black community is just existing) but that's a whole other subject. so yeah the last one is simply; people make genuine connections (sometimes unexpectedly) with people outside of their race that includes black men.
so that may take. like the woman in the video said, leave black women out of this. if you're with a non-black woman (for whatever the reason (good, bad, whatever)) just fucking own it and move on.
thoughts?
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