#is there something im not understanding about these dreams?

[cgogs]

would rivals /r become real *holding my breath*

i think that dream would definitely misinterpret technos friendship and kindness as romantic advances... dream gets really in his head about it. he doesnt mean to make moments alone with techno so weird but its like, he can't fathom safety not having a price. he feels like he owes techno something, or that techno must be expecting something in return eventually. the logical part of him just wants to work for the syndicate but when theyre alone together and techno is just being nice theres this parasite in dreams head that tells him techno wants something more out of their relationship. but he figures that is probably not true at all. but it still makes everything very. *gestures vaguely*

and on the more emotional hand, dream hasn't had close personal relationships with anyone but his son and sam for a really really really long time. he misreads social cues and makes up things in his head to justify techno's kindness as being a logical thing and not an emotional one. he really appreciates techno being kind to his children and i think he is just really unsure of how to process it, or where to put this positive emotion in his head. he likes watching techno play with his kids. is this indicative of romantic feelings? <- forgot what having a best friend feels like

i think its definitely like. possible for them to be involved way way later down the line but i think techno is smart enough to understand like. dream needs time. and if dream ever flirted or tried to kiss i thnk techno would be smart enough to understand dream doesnt fully mean it

i still want to write a little drabble about this ending but im about to get crazy busy so it might not happen crying emoji but i want it to very bad

#if anyone still gives a muffin about it #scream eureka

[irafuwas]

i don't know why, but in the sparse five hours of sleep i got last night, my brain decided to plague me with dreams of lilia taking care of an elderly silver, up until the final moments of his life. i could hear silver's thoughts the whole time, and he was so absolutely inundated with shame and guilt it almost seemed like he was suffocating. he kept thinking over and over and over again that this all should've been the other way around. he should've been the one looking after his father in the twilight of his life. he should've been his aging father's rock, his safe place to land, his stalwart defender against a world so unbelievably cruel to its most vulnerable denizens. again and again his heart cried out in vain, it should've been the other way around.

as a child he had once wished - prayed, even, to the same force now threatening to reclaim his spirit back into its unconscious designs - for his father to live a long and prosperous life, and it was as though that very wish had backfired on him in a way he never could have possibly imagined

#twst silver #lilia vanrouge #twst spoilers #twst #mumbles #txt #i hate it here #i litearlly woke up crying you gusy dont unerstand #he was so ashamed of himself but not once in my dream was lilia anything less than happy to take care of him #i feel like part of the reason lilia is trying to run away is because like so many of our elderly and our disabled #he didn't want his loved ones to worry about him and “waste” their time taking care of him #so he thought the best decision for everyone would be if he just went off to go die alone #i have no idea if twst would actually touch on something like that but i do think you could interepret his departure that way #anyways if any of you have caretakers or aides or just are disabled in anyway #i want you to know you are not and have never been and never will be a burden on anyone or anything #and that i love you so so much #im getting so emotional over a dream fkjgh but i want silver to understand that good parents dont have kids expecting that #their children will someday “pay them back” for everythinng they did for them growing up!! u don't owe ur parents jack shit!! #silver you just existing as you are is enough for your father!!!

[socksandbuttons]

when i made an underrem 'height' chart BUT theyre like smallified versions SO I CAN DRAW THEM BETTER AND CONSISTANTLY THUS NOT A VERY USEFUL CHART.

#like i can tell u how tall dream is vs asgore undyne is slightly shorter than dream #alphys and nightmare are around the shortest (not including the children) #muffet is JUST slgihtly taller than them. TSIURIS HEIGHT IS AN ENIGMA SOMETIMES WE'LL GET TO HER LATER #gaster???????? MY AVERAGE MAN??? good LUCK me #grillby has yet to even be in this au by the way hes not EVEN HERE i dont what to do with him yet so #(more designwise i mean. i dont need a story for him in this i have ENOUGH) #mettaton is like... maybe average sized i dont KNOW hes short than dream and undyne taller than muffet and MMM #WE DONT HAVE NUMBERS BTW U JUST HAVE TO G U ES S #its just cause im bad with heights so. i need a comparison to understand Tallness #anyway um i dont what brought this up i think i was thinking of something else #i really should share undyne or something cause i love her casual outfit cause HELLO beautiful lady THAR SHE BE #alyphs has every right to crush on her are U KIDDING #muffet is so proud of that woman (but also impressed how oblivious she can be about the swooning ladies) #underrem #goes in the tag because im just typing things now

[camelspit]

visibly clenching my jaw and shaking with rage. why are all the newer barbie movies trash.

#been clenching my fists getting through them with my brother #big city big dreams and princess adventure are the ones we watched and EW #the most horrendous crime is definetely the outfits. they are genuinley a nightmare to look at. #but also the plots ?? ass. the music ?? forgettable #there is no magic anymore do you understand #and it all takes place in the same shit ass world now to promote the barbie viog channel or something #AND they dropped rainmaker entertainment im pretty sure #since they havent been in any of the credits #i think they stopped being good after dolphin magic. if i have the timeline right. #about to watch mermaid power and from what i saw in the trailer the outfits are HIDEOUS #like how did you go from pearl princess and mermaid tale to this. yikes. #barbie the full blue hair is NOT a look and it does NOT match your outfit #god.. i could rant for ages about this you dont understand #its so incredibly awful. what happened to the barbie magic <- capitalism. capitalism happened. #god.. dont even get me started on the sister focused movies ?? #chelseas lost birthday and skippers babysitting adventure ?? #like oh my god. #tell me why fucking barbie butterfly diaries is better than the newer movies #at least it had heart !! at least it wasnt a cash grab and nothing more !! at least the music kind of slapped #at least it was endearing.. #and we actually had good barbie movies fairly recently ?? #one of my favorites ever starlight adventure came out in like 2016 #the animation was insane and the outfits were incredible #and now we are.. here

[poolboyatthevampiiremansion]

there's something incredibly healing about this

#ok bear with me bc i am NOT great w words b u t #there's just something so special about ray- ray who stayed alive for *six* years for norman and emma- ray who never thought he deserved to #be alive. ray who would undoubtedly struggle with his self worth because his entire life he existed to help or be of use to someone else #THAT ray letting himself dream about traveling the world and seeing art and actually Live #he spent his entire life focusing on others- and finally let him focus on himself #and norman. norman who always treasured his family but not in the way that ray had until the last two months #i just #im losing my train of thought god #but ok right so #in the anime they had the kids discussing what they wanted to do on the outside- that scene didnt happen in the manga so it's the only one #i have to base this off of #but anyways #in the anime right? ray was just like. ill have to survive blah blah and norman talked about wanting to travel #so if we're basing it on that- it's nice to see that ray let himself focus on his own happiness. and norman moreso treassured his time with #family because he understands that his time with them is limited #uhhhh ok i guess that makes sense ill probably try and rb this and explain it better not in the tags #tpn #ash is mentally ill #ray #norman

[opens-up-4-nobody]

God. One of my little sisters is such a bitch. She's done me some genuine damage in exacerbating my already social bad anxiety. But when I have dreams where she's been hurt or killed, it's so horrible bc she's still my lil sister :-(

#its bc last night my dad had a dream she was in a car wreck. he transferred that anxiety onto me #shes such a bitch tho.just like intolerant of things she doesnt understand. and she does not understand my unwell brain #i think she likes my youngest sistsr best now. which fair bc i do too but we used to be besties. we used to explore in the woods together #and play ellos and barbies and legos and poly pockets and magnets. and now we never text eachother. its sorta sad #its not just me tho. my youngest sister and i have a 4 year gap so we weren't really interacting much when were were little bc she was too #bby to me but shes such a genuinely lovely person now. shes a special ed and preschool teacher. i asked her mom how she ended up with both #of my sisters bc my middle sister is the most like entitled person i kno. like my parents r very generous and she doesnt think for a moment #about not accepthing things from them. she thinks shes owed that amd more. its so strange #and my mom was like. thank goodness i got the youngest bc otherwise id think something was wrong with me #im prob somewhere in the middle of them. my brain is just more fucked up so like im greatful but im struggling. theres not a ton of like #really obvious mental illness in my family tho. just here and there someone should b diagnosed and get a bit of help. my uncle is the only #other one who could possibly be bipo1ar but hes also got a lot of problems: severe adhd and possibly b0rderline. so it could just b that but #my dad says when u talk to him sometimes things just doent make sense bc hes had convos in his head wuth you so he thinks u kno already #idk. its interesting tho #unrelated

[givemewallywestorgivemedeath]

your tags on parenting make me super emotional <3 that's exactly the kind of parent I want to be one day

Thanks! I feel the same way honestly. I have a lot of opinions about parenting and I can't say that I will be the perfect parent because that doesn't exist. I can't even say that my hypothetical future kid/kids will be perfect because children don't grow in a vacuum. I can only control what I do and say and try to be the best version of myself and hope for the best.

#i often hear people say that involved parenting is too difficult to be realistic or that modeling behavior is too hard #and yeah. yeah it is. it is one of the most difficult things a person can do. but who the fuck has a kid thinking it'll be easy? #kids are hard work and commitment. they should never be something done on a whim. you should never half ass raising a kid #and not to say that people should be perfect all the time or that people shouldn't have 'me' time #its just that i genuinely don't understand people who shove their kid into as many activities as possible to get away from them #or put all their hopes and dreams and expectations on them. if it's so easy and attainable to live up to your expectations as a parent #then do it first. you want your kid to have straight A's? great. show me your report card at that age #im just... kids are just people. and they just want to hang out with their parents and receive love and attention #and anyway ive lost my point im just very passionate about this topic #very passionate #when im older and financially stable I want to foster teenagers i think. i want to be there for them and model healthy adult behavior #and help them make that transition. i want to be that person for them. because everyone needs help and love and family #and honestly? my parents fostered kids my entire life. THEY MODELED THAT BEHAVIOR #i understand that family is not a given. i understand that family is above all else forged. and that applies to everyone #not just found family or fostering. if you don't know your bio child then can you really call yourself family? #family is *forged* regardless of the context. and if it isn't? if you skip that step with your bio kids? well thats a major fucking issue #anyway nothing but respect for my parents who bought groceries for my foster sister when she was out of care. FOR MONTHS #nothing but respect for my parents who took me with them to give my foster sister their old stroller when she needed it #nothing but respect for my parents who take in my old foster brother every weekend to 'babysit' because they know he isnt in a loving house #nothing but respect for my parents who adopted my siblings without a word when they asked #honestly they are why i am who i am today. i was a kid with adhd and learning disabilities who hated school #and now I'm an honors student and getting my doctorate. because they did the academia with me #and im not saying they did my schoolwork. im saying that they assigned books to read over the summer and we would read them as a family #and we would discuss the literary concepts and themes together as a family. i love dissecting media! and thats because of my parents! #it was a family activity! same goes for science and art and music #and coding and history ect ect #anyway im going off on a tangent but basically what im saying is that my parents didn't ship me off to camp every summer #we just did things as a family together. i remember the time and bonding with them. and i modeled that behavior #and not to brag but i think I turned out alright #anyway tangent over!

[anaalnathrakhs]

uh oh i feel like i have a deeply maladaptative response to people knowing Literally Anything about me it's fine it's fine i'm handling it very well

#constantly daydreaming about throwing my phone in the river n leaving a nice note for my parents and fucking LEAVING #but like #if i just stop talking to my friends #then what's the point #do i make new friends? will i do the same shit to my new friends? #it feels like kind of a dick move to do that to people i like #and i DO like them #i like hanging out w them and just. i don't know. i feel like this freedom i dream of is something i could have in this life yknow. #i feel if i had balls i could just start living the life i want #it's not even like my parents are dicks or something they trust me and they've very understanding and loving #they wouldn't judge me for how i dress or be mad if i stay out late as long as i warn them #but i dont know. i dont know why i'm a massive fucking weirdo about it okay. #but i've caused them so much trouble already. i feel like i'm betraying them if i grow up. #i feel like i'm causing them too much worry no matter if i stray away from the nest or stay. #and i feel like a fucking monster for not loving them enough but i can't stand being near them anymore #it's too painful #i've never managed to completely hate them even when i was deep in depression and they handled it poorly #i'd get into a screaming match with my dad and an hour later we'd sing songs together in the car #but it's been so dull lately. it feels like im in a video game. picking prewritten dialogue and being fed prewritten answers. #and WHY does this happen. why can't i just have a normal relationship with people #why do i turn into an alien on his first day on earth whenever i start caring abt someone #why are we so fucking abnormal as a family that we never goddamn hang out #why am i such an empty husk of a person that i cannot for the life of me figure out something we could do together #i keep believing in this fantasm of one day changing everything in one fell swoop instead of growing up like a normal guy #because i know i'm a coward. i'm scared of other people seeing me fail. #i dont want to hurt my parents ever again and i dont want to settle for halfway freedom #so i repress hardcore things i want so that nobody not even me can decipher what it is #smth smth the enormity of my desire disgusts me #and of course it fails because im weakshit and cannot restrict anything ever #and i hurt them anyway

[mothslimes]

said it before i say it again. maybe it's less internalized misogyny and more "girls who look and act like this literally bullied me from kindergarten to 12th grade and beyond" so no i would rather not talk to girls who treat female beauty standards as the holy law

#mik talks #if you think criticizing female beauty standards and those who impose them on others = criticizing all women then you might be the sexist #like im so fucking tired of feminism being all about the poor stereotypically beautiful women wearing pink skirts who are soo forced into i #hey what about the girls on the playground who were their perpetual fucking victims in their pursuit of gaining mild power #those who coulkd never even dream of fitting the mold because they werent white or straight or skinny or cis or whatever the fuck #like even the fucking barbie movie is about some beauty standard white blond skinny feminine woman being sad about sexism #this is what many terfs dont understand lul. for some feminity is a cage they dont even fit into #they have no fucking safe area of just performing their societal role #if i see one more 'fixed' 'pick me' comic where they make the author kiss the girl thats based on their bullies i will kill something #yeah blablabla the plastics in mean girls are actually victims yaaalll.... its so sad theyre the real victims...... #when will yall accept that stereotypically beautiful (especially white) women still hold power. and are often bullies. #my mom is being harassed at her workspace by her exclusively female colleagues but u tell me again how female spaces are so wholesome #and oh tell me more about the perfect female commune and the matriarchy. god you guys make me sick #oh you felt forced into performing feminity and your friendships seemed a little fake? i was called slurs in 6th grade #they stole my stuff. destroyed my things. hit me. cyberbullied me. but oh you had it so bad #to be clear this is not to say these women hold the same power as men but yeah lets not infantilize girls who CHOSE to put others down #nerdy girls who make fun of popular girls being shallow were never the problem :skull: but you all called them misogynists for being pissed #for being bullied....and wanting to feel some mild sense of superiority in their lower social role

[rat-rosemary]

i need you to stay the fuck away from qt and that situation, if you outright acknowledge you shouldn't compare traumatic shit and then try to do it anyway that makes you shitty. i do not give a fuck about any of these people but you need to sort your tags or something because this echo chamber isn't working and no one outside of dream stans cares or wants to read this

Okay cool, I'm just going to say this,what Qt went through is literally a nightmare and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but you're kinda proving my point right now

If someone made a skit with Qt's trauma and tried to claim it had nothing to do with it it would be a huge dick move right? Especially if they used an event that was directly related to a bad event and then tried to claim it was completely disconnected

The same thing is happening to Dream,because belive it or not, having someone threaten to rape your little sister is an traumatic event

#im sorry but you're proving my point #you CAN see that if I took the exact situation that is happening and put someone else in it it would be fucked up #i hate comparing because life is not trauma Olympics #thats not a healthy way to live #but sometimes to help someone understand something you need to make comparisons #the way youre talking it sounds like I was saying Qt *should* experience this on my original post #and not me showcasing how horrible it would be #and how therefore you shouldn't joke about Dream's family getting in danger because of doxxing #also im not your mother you need to learn to block tags by yourself #because my shit is properly tagged #the dog barks #dreamwastaken #discourse #tommyinnit #tommy situation #controversy #the voices

[dnangelic]

smth that's good to remember about dark is that he's doomed. he'll never get what he wants. he can never get what he wants. he's allowed to 'dream' (to desire) but not to 'wish' (to attempt to fulfill those desires.) the other thing that's good to remember is that he's already redeemed. dark will never be able to have his own body or to love who he wants to love. he'll never have the true freedom and individuality that he craves above almost all else. he, as he is, can never be or become a proper human being- as a live artwork, he too is just a 'thing,' a hollow vessel for human emotions. alone and by himself, he's unfeeling and inanimate, no matter how otherwise convincing, no matter how beautiful. all of his 'feelings' are like single droplets in a dry well that evaporate in an instant. dark has no true heart, because he's an artwork. he has no humanity, no great amount of emotion alone that he himself can muster up or express. if he has anything inside of him then it's that very nothingness; an empty cathedral made up of restless, dissatisfied desire; a somber, passive longing to juxtapose krad's obsessive behavior. it's thus only with a tamer, or daisuke, that dark truly becomes someone. more than just a ghost, a phantom beneath the floorboards. the point is, despite daisuke's own terror of those around him rejecting him as worthless and unnecessary in comparison to dark, dark will always need daisuke. not just want, but quite literally need; 'to dark, i am a necessity.' dark doesn't admit it and very likely never will but he's already saved and endlessly comforted by daisuke's presence. there's the part of him that rejects others' comforts and attempts to reach out because of his own understandings over himself (he's doomed, he's already used to being avoidant and subtly excising himself,) but also the part that decides he just doesn't need any of it because he always has daisuke with him --- he's redeemed. he has someone to rely on and to always trust and to be proud of as his 'other self.' dark will never say it (both out of pride and guilt) but he'll always, always admire daisuke for the strength of the boy's emotions and the stubborn goodness of his heart.

#*･ﾟ⊰ 𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐎𝐅 𝐂𝐀𝐑𝐃𝐒. ⊱ ✦ › OUT. #reference. #i cant find the post i made commenting on satoshi's page @ insomnia so im just typing all of this shit up again #w more detail this time #saying it a million times until all 28943885 of my followers understand it. dark is not human. dark will never be human #emotional depth is an inherently human quality. dark doesn't have that. he can't Feel Shit alone. he has no heart. he's empty #it's DAISUKE who serves as his heart. both literal and metaphorical. daisuke who's his body. whose emotion dark reflects n vice versa #the hikari artworks all work in the same way: human emotions enter the arts and then produce magic #and anyways dark's pride and dislike of pity aside. he really is comfortable for the most part now #if it could be said of him. he genuinely. from the bottom of his heart loves and admires daisuke as another self #it's not a 'i don't ever need comfort bc im bitter' case. its 'you dont have to worry about me bc i already have sb to rely on' case #for dark and daisuke their relationship almost always remains the same. as long as the other is there #they can find some kind of strength to keep going #dark needs his heart. he has to protect it. to keep it safe. to keep it motivated and inspired #daisuke needs his dream. to have a direction that he can keep stepping forwards towards. something to proudly accomplish #for others- accepting only one half of the equation never works. to love dark you have to acknowledge dai #to love dai you have to acknowledge dark #etc

[beastofwant]

im just saying i'd rather be locked in a room for an hour with someone that gets off on pretending to be a sexy baby or eating their own shit VS with someone who is Disgusted by things and doesn't even have a curiosity as to why

#mad scrawl #way more to talk about. a much more productive conversation #frankly I'd love to sit with kinky ppl that are into thigns im not #I love talking about it and trying to come to an understanding or mutual respect even if its something that I could never dream of being in #yk?

[designernishiki]

sometimes i kinda wish mirei wasn't killed off because boy the divorced exes dynamic with majima could've been so god damn funny

#everyones seen my 'if you see my ex-husband at pride' post. thinking about that sort of thing #like yeah i know y5 said they werent exactly on bad terms (though i think that was vague and debatable considering the way she #recounts her backstory with haruka not really painting him in a great light- for understandable reasons mostly dont get me wrong- but my #point is . i think there may have been more passive aggressive animosity lingering in there than what was presented in the romanticized #retelling of the story later on in the game basically). but come on. you cant tell me they'd get along just fine if she were to have lived. #say what you will about her and her intentions and etc but regardless she DID tear kiryu's family apart and guilt trip the SHIT out of him #to do so. knowing majima. and knowing how majima feels about kiryu. do you think he'd be like. cool with that #like if/when he heard the whole story i do Not think mirei's Heartwarming Vicarious Dreams would be enough to excuse the damage she did #and its such a wild coincidence itd be hard not to think- at least just a tinnnyyy bit- that she somehow found majima's weakpoint #(kiryu) and attacked it on purpose out of spite or something. #yeah all that and i think their relationship mustve been inevitably Very toxic and fucked up considering. everything about both of them #especially at that point in time. plus the very weird and not great gap in maturity (18-19 vs 27-28) and all that. no way that ended just #totally chill and amicable. no fucking way. she had fair reason to harbor resentment towards him and i wouldve liked to see that honestly #anyway so i mean you see what im getting at. perfect setup for the most toxic but kind of hilarious divorced dynamic Ever #if she were to ever come anywhere near kiryu again majima would be there in 0.2 seconds to sheild him from impending psychological warfare #rambling #majima #mirei #y5 #yakuza 5 spoilers

[eliasofsunhillow]

i am........... not well

#saw something about an ex christian asking christians why they believe and im just. having a lot of thoughts right now #^ex christian #idk man i was raised that way but there is no beauty in that form for me !!!!!!!!!!!! where is the love and joy and understanding #for those outside YOUR OWN FORM #idk idk idk #i hold no hatred or spite for anyone who follows 'anything greater' but i cannot hold myself in the hands of god #we are all the dancing god we tell our stories and make them real. do you understand me #we are shaping AND shaped and there is no existential truth beyond the breathtaking beauty that means we exist #WE EXIST #AND MANY THINGS WE CANNOT SEE AND OTHER THINGS WE CANNOT KNOW. IS THERE NO SHAPE FOR WONDER IN THIS WORLD #IS THERE NO BREATH FOR DREAMS #where is the space for beauty and joy outside the church and steeple. where is the room for breath outside the book. #where is the sight of skies without the glass between them #this is for every religion btw. not just this one #IDK #IM TURNING INTO MY DAD SEND HELP #i just think you should explore the kaleidoscopic wonder of the nature of nature without locking yourself into a black and white rainbow

[todayisafridaynight]

yakuza 5′s plot makes me feel bad for haruka ngl

like Y5 really had great potential to focus on her and her internal struggles, though i guess Obviously that wasn’t really somethin they could expand too much on

#spoilers #snap chats #what rubbed me wrong bout the whole of Y5 is like. the entire time i was just asking What About Haruka #like she insists she WANTS to do this for park's sake #and sure she quits after she fulfills park's dream #but like.... poor haruka.... shes just kinda bein passed around without much thought #i can't be wholly madat kiryu either even tho i should #i understand where hes coming from and hes right to assume he doesnt know how to raise a kid properly #but dude cmon she's 16? at this point?? and she seems to have been doing just fine up to now #the idol industry is always something im interested in looking at in regards to idols and their mental health #and Again i get it we can't expand on that in a game about the yakuza but its just.. poor baby #and of course park suffered from RGG Woman disease and died so haruka couldnt even keep her new-pseudo mother figure #like ima b real i like park's tenacity right. Girl Boss Shit or whatever but i just hate the manipulative tactics she employs on haruka #itd be great if we were supposed to see park from a villainous standpoint but we aren't #tho i guess that also makes her really interesting- to actually have a female character somewhat antagonistic #of course the game doesnt really treat her like an antagonist but you catch my cold #thats enough y5 ramblin tho im supposed to be doodlin The Usual bullshit

[subconsciousmysteries]

what I like about 7s is you can tell when they are fuckboys unless you have a room temperature IQ. maybe it is a natural talent that only I have (I really doubt this but I dont wanna insult ppl who've been victimized by 7 fuckboys). however it is just so obvious to me when a 7 dude is a fuckboy trying to taste all his options vs. when he is ripe and ready for commitment. the way that 7s show you bluntly when they are bored with you by ignoring you or only responding with one liners is actually a good thing. I find 7s to be very transparent, very obvious about what they want from you even if they don't directly communicate it with words. they are not capable of leading me on because they never give me the impression that they think I'm special in the first place. they never immerse themselves in my world and make me feel special because they're too preoccupied with their own.

meanwhile other types of men cough cough withdrawns are confusing as hell to the point it feels like manipulation and deception. they can larp like they are all innocent when they are the world's biggest fuckboys. they become deeply connected to you as a friend, they show you that they have a crush on you that they are too scared to act on, and they act like they're ready for exclusivity to get you into bed when often they are not. with words and with showing a genuine interest in your world, they make you think you are extremely special to them, yet many of their actions (or lack thereof) imply that you are not.

no one talks about how 7s with the 1 line can grow up and develop an intense dutifulness towards relationships. the meme is that 7s struggle with commitment but in my experience it really depends on the 7 in question. relational commitment issues are a lot more complicated than "lol 7". any type can have them and its usually rooted in trauma or plain old spiritual weakness.

see my tags for more

#7s struggle with committment towards a lot of things but relationships arent necessarily one of them #i see it like its a bar #in a video game #and the 7 bar for “things you struggle to commit to” is SUPER BIG #but many 7s consume that struggle to commit on non relationship things #like their job their work ethic their dreams their good habits (they dont commit to these things) #7s also have a capacity to commit which is small #but they can develop it to be bigger over time #and many choose to spend the little capacity for commitment they do have on relationships #anyways a problem is that 7s can lack the ability to make you feel special because they dont like going too deep emotionally #ive had this problem with my bf and been like “im leaving” but then he was always like noo stay #and i was like well thats the first time anyones wanted me to stay #all these withdrawn dudes made me feel like a princess but it turned out to be shallow words & platitudes because they didnt want to persis #actions are all that really matters and this is what assertive types understand that withdrawns dont #the tradeoff is that assertives are insensitive fucktards who make you feel like theyre always thinking about something better than you #assertives literally never have time for you. even if theyre sitting inside scrolling thru phone all day. its a psychological thing #their thing is always better... more worthy of attention than your thing. #intimacy is difficult with an assertive type. regardless of what your type is #3s and 8s guilty of this as well #im sure ive made my partners in the past feel this way... like theyre unimportant and im always thinking of better things #and i make my bf feel this way sometimes too #he complains #as do I #lmao