#it's both unhealthy and toxic

[tobisiksi]

every time I think abt saiki's bothers I just- AAA

I alredy said it before but I HATE when people genuinely say that kusuo isnt human or he's a monster and that shit

BUT UUGH I LIVE FOR NON-HUMAN KUSUO

I LIKE IT EVEN MORE WHEN WE ADD KUSUKE BC

it's literally mad scientist and experiment relationship (in a brotherly way I cant believe i have to explain it)

kusuo being a lab experiment? a weird creature from the forest?? A GOD?????? I like that

but kusuke being a crazy scientist? an horror movie main character?? A PRIEST?????

AAAA

I'm not going to elaborate this pic explains everything I need to say

#i would elaborate but my english isnt working #where i want to go with this??? that we need to talk more abt the potential #just saying #they both are soooo bad and toxic and unhealthy for each other #i like it #saiki k #saiki kusuo #kusuke saiki #saiki kusuo no psi nan #thinking thinking thinking #drawings wii

[aoneko-lee]

"I want people to tell their children terrifying stories about the things we did for love."

#I don't ship them and never did #But I saw this quote a few days ago and I had to do it #I don't see it as romantic but as a forced alliance that is toxic for both #and maybe I like a little how unhealthy it was #boat boys #smalletho #ethoslab #etho #etho fanart #smallishbeans #joel smallishbeans #smallishbeans fanart #double life #double life fanart #trafficshipping #traffic smp #my art #artists on tumblr

[companion-showdown]

Who has the most toxic relationship with the Doctor?

TOURNAMENT MASTERPOST

#toxic relationship: quarters #the question of the century #both pretty unhealthy but in such different ways #chalk and cheese

[skelecentral]

Day 4 (Angel x Demon) and 6 (Neko/Animal Person) of cringetober drawings that I’m too shy to post on my main 😭 anyways, demon nightmare x angel Y/N and fox killer x Cat Y/N

In my mind, every single person here (except Angel Y/N, they’re just in a bad spot) is toxic as hell, but gets significantly better as the story progresses.

#myart #doodles #sans #Killer #killer sans #fox killer #cat y/n #nightmare sans #I’d imagine nightmare and Y/N’s story to be a lot like beauty and the beast #starts out super toxic and unhealthy #but eventually he learns what it means to love #and she leaves #but eventually (prolly after like 100 years or smth when he’s had time to improve and she’s had time to heal #they meet again #and they start over #and work through any future problems in a healthy respectful manner #and they love each other #cat girl y/n and fox killer are just both players with trust issues #they start off casual #but soon grow to actually love each other #and it gets really awkward and angsty before their relationship ever improves #i love all of the cliches I’m so glad they were cringetober prompts 😭😭 #both Y/Ns are female presenting #but I’m probably gonna switch between she and they depending on how I feel in the particular sentence #cw suggestive #just in case! #sans x y/n #sansnomaly #nightmare

[burntblueberrywaffles]

"Ew liking unhealthy ships is so toxic-"

"Actually toxic ship are INTERESTING unlike those boring healthy ships that have no flavour-"

Meanwhile me, who can appreciate and enjoy any ship dynamics:

#like yeah sometimes the unhealthy toxic af ships just HIT but so do the soft friends to lovers #I’ve made many posts defending toxic ships but then some people would go in my notes and be like ’YEAH healthy ships are always boring’ #and it’s like;;;; you took my post about letting ppl ship whatever they enjoy and turned it right around to ship bashing #like no actually soft and cute and healthy can be extremely compelling if done right #anyway that was on my mind and yk me gotta meme my way through any thought that enters my head #signed: someone who ships both Juke and Snowbaird LOL #shipping #fandom #burntblueberrywaffles #meme #memes #fandom memes #blue makes memes

[insinirate]

ww snr would describe nai's hatred for his son as just "being prickly", calls him a little cactus. it only furthers his instinct to act dadly and hope nai somehow softens up if doted on enough (like that ever worked on his own kid - probably explains why he blindly keeps on with nai).

vash gotta hate it when he notices because doting on nai is his job. stay in your lane, he's been here long before you.

woo sr dotes on nai and nai soaks it UP like the sun to the stupid little plant he is

and not that it was ever even a competition, let alone a close one, but he decides he likes this woo best between the 2 woos and it drives vash crazy bc 1) woo jr is perfect wdym and 2) dont i dote enough or am i doing it wrong :(

#this nais problems are so nothing compared to other au nais #like wahhh my brother who shares my unhealthy borderline toxic codependency and the local dilf in my area both desire me carnally what do i #anonymous

[tooquirkytolose]

I love Tom Wambsgams, man is so psychosexually obsessed with his wife's loserboy canadian cousin he's pushing the gas floorin it down so hard toxic masculinity road he lost control of the wheel and veered off course to homoerotic lane

#and its so fucking FUNNY #tom said YES im gay YES im homophobic we exist #tomgreg #man i just think this ship is hilarious i dont even watch the show i hate them both so much ❤ #its toxic its unhealthy its weird its kinda gross and most importantly its ENTERTAINING

[evie-writes-sometimes]

1800s AU with Attic Wife Will who became more mentally unstable over the years due to trauma and mental health issues til the point he could no longer interact with others and live life normally, becoming shunned by others due to the stigma surrounding mental health, and Mike who married him because he has always been, is and will always be in love with Will no matter what, and couldn't bear the possibility that he could be sent to an asylum. Mike has kept him isolated ever since because 'he loves him' and 'is doing what's best for him'. Sometimes Will screams at him and digs in his nails into Mike's skin and pulls, leaving long red scratches decorating his skin, only to break down and profusely apologize to Mike for hurting him to completely becoming like a hollow she'll of himself, unresponsive. And yet Mike's adoration and reverence never falters

#bylerween #tw abuse #tw mental health #tw mental instability #tw unhealthy relationship #tw toxic relationship #tw toxic behavior #going full freak mode for bylerween will probably go back to normal once it's finished #tw ableism #due to the stigma surrounding mental during that particular time period #just to be safe #dark byler #they're both toxic for each other in here but it's also not really either of theirs faults and they're happier together than apart #stranger things #will byers #mike wheeler #byler

[yume-fanfare]

talked it over with shav a couple of days ago and the conclusion we came to regarding kouchabu was:

ritsu: more likely to get mad at who they like [mao] when jealous

eichi: more likely to get mad at the other person [tomoya] when jealous

hajime: secret third thing. i feel he is more like eichi but his way of loving is already a little aggressive so i think tomoya might be a bit in trouble as well anyway

#eichi gets mad at tomoya in sanctuary and so does hajime at wataru kinda (i like you more than hibiki-senpai!) #and ritsu gets mad at mao for paying too much attention to other people (trickstar anzu) #(in band ensemble for example) #and while hajime wouldnt do it like that i feel like he'd get this brand of unhealthy overprotectiveness you know #his let's be together forever and ever swag #got the worst of both worlds at the eiritsu school of toxic yuri #mar's midnight rambles

[wu-kongs]

thinking about wukong's blood being liquid gold, liquid sunlight, ichor that gods are meant to bleed, a single drop more priceless than than anything else in the three realms--some say that single drop is the truth, the path to the Way, the golden elixir--

and it's all over macaque's fangs, dripping haphazardly as wukong wantonly moans for him to draw more, his claws digging viciously into macaque's back and dragging out tar so thick and black that it's capable of snuffing out anything, and wukong is drenched in it

he bleeds wukong greedily, steals from him so heedlessly like he has before, in hopes that maybe he too can someday become holy

#shadowpeach #lego monkie kid #lmk sun wukong #lmk macaque #six eared macaque #you're gonna tell me i'm WRONG? #anyway will i write a fic about this? who knows #mickey.txt #something something toxic relationships #something something i love unhealthy codependent relationships because it makes both parties sick freaks

[rattotheimperialcheesegod]

Im a modern aphmau watcher (not out of liking it really its more out of me just watching it to shit on her newer stuff cause its utter trash and she made her already decent ish at best, characters into the most annoying fuckers ive ever seen)

And with this, came a kinda guilty pleasure of seeing my girls, Nana and Kim, and i ship them.

a lot, alittle too much, they are littary dating in my rewrite...

#my art #aphmau #mystreet kim #mystreet nana #mystreet aphmau #Like the girlies don't even interact at all in mystreet and they basically are friends/enemies #because of aph wanting more shipping drama all the fucking time with zane x nana by #having kim try to hit on him and than leading to nana basically targeting her house of a nuke #but to be fr #kim x nana has kinda been my jam since i notice shit in videos that no one even sees because im insane #also um zane in modern videos is very creepy and gross and i hate him a lot #im chill with mcd zane and mystreet zane just this verison of him is THE WORST #also im chill with zane x nana by the fandom just the modern content of them is...very unhealthy and pretty toxic on both ends #and zane is like really gross about nana to the point where even her va sounds uncomfortable #so kim x nana has been my default for these videos #also i dont believe kim liking noi for a second she is a women lover you cant change my fucking mind

[neverwasreddie]

i already made a post on my personal blog about how we don’t talk enough about the fact that richie murdered a man (as he was right to do given the everything about their lives) but there was a fic I read this summer where richie and eddie were about to have sex possibly even for the first time??? and richie just strokes the scar on eddie’s cheek and says “I killed the man who did this to you” and then kisses eddie before he can respond and WHEW that should….NOT be giving me the types of feelings it does but holy shit

#see also: my post on my personal blog about unhealthy romance #no one does it like richie and eddie #idk how a relationship can be so loving and lighthearted #while also being SO codependent and trauma bonded and toxic #I’m obsessed with them #if anyone knows which fic this is I’ll send you a million rays of love beamed from my brain #**obviously they’re not toxic I just mean their lives and the way they’ve been affected #they’re both disasters and they’re absolutely perfect and I love them #reddie #richie tozier #eddie kaspbrak #it chapter 2 #reddie fic

[theinheriteddutchess]

Edward leaving in new moon is such a shit thing to do.

I don't like him nor bella nor them together, but that was what they choose.

Bella knew the risk and wanted to be with him. He knew too. After one attack of his brother he got scared, but it was always that. Dangerous. Tempting natural behavioral.

You are either a danger or not, and if you are, why go to school or be around people. Because you are selfish. Because you want to experience something you are not a part of anymore, and you don't care as much about other people's well being as you are about your own comfort and pleasures. It's not to hold onto any humanity they had, because they stopped caring about people a long time ago and they definitely don't respect humans.

I digress. Edward leaves for Bella's well being. Actually destroying her well being (yada yada therapy was needed all along, but it does not seem to exist because bella ain't like that! (Who is? Who's meant for therapy or who fits therapy? you go because it's needed not for funsies) point is she's fragile and this broke her).

He makes decisions for her all the time, or forces her to follow his. And this is the biggest one. He isn't honest to her, he lies and crushes her and leaves her, and moves and breaks all contact with her, including with the rest of the family (side eyeing Alice here for being a shit friends, honestly, if it were me I'd never be closer to her again after she came back).

It's for his own guilty mind. Was he really thinking of her? Because he admits he would've gone back (and uproot her life again). He is selfish. He doesn't communicate and there aren't mutual decisions and this relationship isn't equal.

And she took him back, within a second. Because she's afraid to lose him again.

It's so unhealthy. And that's okay for a book, but in real life, you'd worry your love would leave your again everyday and you'd pay attention to little things if they're a sign and you can never relax or trust fully. You change your behavior to make them pleased enough they'll stay.

It's sickening if I think about it. I wanted this to be short. But Edward is so infuriating that everything he does is just so wrong. Because yes he's a vampire and at any level could be wrong. But his worst decisions aren't vampire based, it's his arrogance and selfishness and self-importance that causes all this pain.

Fuck you Edward! Go mope in a cave and stop bothering everyone with your shit.

#I've liked my fair share of toxic fictional relationships but twilight never pulled me in #they don't feel romantic all that much to me. i have to really look for it and let all my annoyances go to go aww that's is sweet #it's not just toxic or theory it weird. it's annoying. #or unhealthy* #a love story shouldn't be annoying! #it can be wrong. but annoying is were the line should be drawn #mostly it's get that fuck outta here. for both of them #twilight saga #twilight #Edward Cullen #twilight Renaissance #bella swan

[mrsmiroir]

listen. i think that kaz and jesper have the potential for a great friendship. hell, they’re straight up brothers, of course they could easily become best friends! but their friendship really truly begins the second jesper walks out of the slat and leaves the dregs.

#get that man OUT of there !!!!!! #free him !!!!! #only once the playing field has been leveled can the two actually have a normal relationship #or as normal as they get #the thing with kanej is that both recognize the power dynamics and know the limits #and inej doesn’t take any shit from him #kazper… kaz actively uses his power over jesper to keep him close by #(just say he’s ur friend u DORK) #(​and probably manipulates his feelings for him too) #and jesper just takes it #they have a deeply unhealthy friendship and nobody rlly wants to acknowledge that #like yes they’re literally brothers but also that is. so toxic. #so like. brothers. #soc #six of crows duology #six of crows #crooked kingdom #jesper fahey #kaz brekker #kazper #i guess ? not really #grishaverse

[dyed-red]

How do you think Sam felt about having sex with Ruby’s vessel? Did he need to rationalize that to himself or just the fact that Ruby was a demon?

this is such a delicious ask, i'm sorry it's taken me a while to get to.

there's just so much going on when it comes to sam/ruby. i draw a lot from comments from others on this, specifically those who are more familiar with the production and things the producers have said over the years in interviews. two things i've read as insights from the creative team (i think mostly from sera gamble?) are that:

it was important to sam that ruby's vessel was empty, otherwise that sex wouldn't/couldn't have happened (i think sera gamble had to fight for this or push its importance to her male co-creatives?)

sleeping with ruby was a form of "self harm" for sam.

I'm not sure where/how to find the original sources for those quotes as they're secondhand things I've read on tumblr about things said at cons and through other sources, but I fold both into my read on how Sam felt about having sex with Ruby and with her vessel.

So - to answer your actual question -

he felt like shit about it. and continued to feel like shit about it. and continued to do it. because he was in an incredibly self-destructive space and continued to be, and that self-hatred manifested in this particular way, for a variety of reasons.

And to unpack that a bit more...

1. sam has been possessed (by meg). he knows how it feels, and it Does Not Feel Good. his body was used to hurt people he cares about, to kill.

2. sam is consistently concerned about possessed vessels, where practicable. in the precinct seige during Jus In Bello, the fact that the "kill the virgin" spell could blast the demons out of the many possessed people outside is important to him. where dean reads the situation as killing an innocent woman, sam reads it as saving a few dozen people (at the cost of one, rather than the potential cost of many others if they try to shoot their way out). neither perspectives are singularly right but their different perspectives are informed by their different experiences, imo.

3. sam is saved by ruby wearing her 1.5 vessel and he promptly berates her for wearing some poor woman's skin, even if she saved his life, tells her that he doesn't want her help, and to get out of the car. he literally leaves her by the side of the road.

4. ruby 2.0 shows up with a certificate to verify that her chosen vessel is empty except for her. sam does not argue nor slam the door in her face, but asks for details. it's a major shift from one scene to the next in terms of how he is responding to her.

i'll also note that sam didn't complain about her 1.0 vessel's occupant during the time they were getting to know one another, which i think is interesting. my personal read is that sam considered that acceptable collateral damage in order to save dean from hell (what ruby promised him in season 3), and that after she failed to deliver, this compromise he'd made with himself over that collateral damage was no longer in play, nor was his patience for her.

(side note: i wonder if sam's greater tolerance of crowley, eventually, is because he came to learn or understand at some point that crowley's vessel is similarly empty?)

anyway, bringing all those points together, my read is that sam had to do a lot of self-rationalizing when it came to sleeping with ruby's vessel. sam is nothing if not pragmatic (if unhinged and insane) in his approach to dilemmas, so i think he could and did rationalize to himself that the body being empty means he's not hurting anyone by having sex with ruby in that form, but i don't think he'd fully convince himself.

so the discomfort and guilt and self-loathing would be... intense. she's a demon. demons killed his mother, his father, his brother. everyone he's ever loved. she saved his life. he doesn't trust her, he can't trust her. he can't afford not to trust her. he's got nothing left to lose. the only thing he has left is the part of himself that's stayed on the straight and narrow, that respects dean's dying wish, that refuses to turn into whatever his family (his brother) tried (died) to save him from becoming.

(sam himself lies to dean and says "it was practically your dying wish" that he not do exactly he's been doing (and more). sam knows there's betrayal here, and it's a betrayal that matters to him personally, or else he wouldn't hide and lie about it. he's never had any issue picking fights if/when he thinks he has the moral high ground.)

so... yeah. sleeping with ruby is an act of self-harm. he's obviously attracted to her vessel, and to her personality as ruby in that vessel, but that's not the key point. the key point is he hates himself for failing to save dean, for his brother dying because of him and being in hell because of him, and he's literally suicidal at this point in the narrative.

the fact that her vessel is empty is incredibly important, and i think a line he couldn't cross otherwise, but that doesn't mean he's okay with the fact that he's actually having sex with the body of someone who hasn't consented. and there's no doubt in my mind that somewhere in the back of his mind is both the fact that he's been possessed and has had his body used for things he was Not Okay with, and the fact that he's been dead (an empty vessel) and it's not like he would have been okey dokey with a demon possessing his corpse and sleeping with someone.

he knows it's a violation, no matter which way he slices it. and he uses that fact to hate himself a little more, so that the very act of sleeping with ruby is, in a sense, a way to punish himself for:

a) being attracted to her as a demon,

b) being attracted to her (helpless, innocent) vessel,

c) wanting connection because he's so goddamn lonely, and

d) being a monster/freak in the first place.

these are either things he's not supposed to feel because they're sinful wrong (attraction to a demon or vessel), or he deserves them (loneliness, feeling like a freak). this is what he's convinced himself of, and therefore how ruby acts as a both balm and escape (how it feels, how she soothes him) and punishment (how he deserves the influx of self-loathing and guilt and shame that comes from all that he is doing with her, from how this verifies all the worst parts of himself he was afraid of).

that being said -- as it goes i think he suppresses those feelings more and more because of what he gets from being with her, the connection and the blood and the high and the power and the sense of control over his destiny. but it's never that far from the surface, and we know how all that goes.

#oh my god this got both long and like... really unhappy about sam/ruby and his mental state during that arc #read at your own risk #sam/ruby #like that being said none of this is anti or crit #i goddamn love sam/ruby #but it is... deeply toxic #and very unhealthy for him #which is kind of the whole point #meta #my meta #a bit overwrought but i'm out of time to reread edit so here we are

[blupenguinz]

Is it bad that I’m un-ironically shipping BatCatJokes now?

#the most unholiest of threesomes #but like #batman is catwoman’s little meow meow #joker is obsessed with Batman to an unhealthy degree #catwoman and joker are both frenemies and are constantly fighting for batsy’s attention #bats would also lose his shit if anything bad happens to either of them #(okay maybe less about Joker but definitely Selina) #it works so well #batman #catwoman #the joker #batcat #batjokes #batcatjokes #toxic yuri/yaoi