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[akonoadham]

#uploads #videos #iyanlavanzant #iyanlafixmylife #iyanla vanzant #oprah winfrey #Oprah

[kimta22]

[ttbeinc]

Myesha Banks the founder and CEO of TTBE "Time to be Established" expresses her brand through motivational speaking ! #motivation #tylerthecreator #oprah #own #black #women #speaker #truth #motivationalspeaker #brooklyn #nyc #iyanlafixmylife #la #atlanta #tedtalks #established

[latina4rmbx]

I'm Sorry vs. Forgive Me

Do you know the difference between the two?

I didn't until recently.

One puts the focus on the sayer and the other puts the focus on the sayee. I think I just made this up, don't judge me, because I do that sometimes and if you're a fan of my work (LOL). you'll know this and have patience with me and understanding.

Sayer is the person saying the words.

Sayee is the person the words are being said to.

I hope that helps. That's what I got LOL.

Quick Sidebar: I love how my brain works at times.

Do you know which puts the focus on the person saying the words and which puts the focus on the person receiving the words? Well Reader, I will be telling you. No worries, the only brain capacity you'll need is the capacity to read and understand.

"I'm Sorry": These words are hard to say. It is hard to take accountability for one's actions. Especially when they affect someone negatively. However, saying "I'm sorry", puts the focus on you. Not the person you're apologizing to. Do you realize that? You're saying I AM sorry. You're essentially putting yourself as the injured party. You may not agree with me Reader and I love that for you (and for me). Talk to me about it. I love hearing other people's points of view and experiences. Maybe another blog will come of it.

"Forgive me": These words are also hard to say. The difference is, this puts the ball in the court of the offended, not the offender. You are asking for the person you've wronged, to forgive you. You are asking THEM to give you forgiveness. Here's the rub dear reader, the offended (sayee) does NOT have to forgive you. You do know that right? You don't HAVE to forgive someone for something they've done to you. That is your prerogative reader. If you didn't know, now you do. You don't have to forgive someone for their indiscretions.

Despite popular belief (and meme's on instagram) not forgiving someone is also freeing. It's setting a boundary. NO! You fucked up and I'm not willing to forgive you for said fuck up. I don't have to hate you or not like you. My life is fine not forgiving you. It doesn't have to weigh you down. You set your boundary and keep it pushin'.

Think about it for a minute.

Did you think about it? Ok.

Here's the thing, saying I'm sorry...I've been told "I'm sorry," plenty of times, but the behavior never changed. So YES, you're sorry, but you don't care for my feelings. You don't care if I want to forgive you or set a boundary. I'm sorry is about you, not about me and you can keep your sorry.

However, forgive me...WHEW, that's powerful. It's a supplication. That's a fantastic word.

Supplication: noun the action of asking or begging for something earnestly and humbly.

Can you see how powerful asking for forgiveness is? Ok Reader, yes, it is MY interpretation. Still, it's something to consider.

Dear reader, I wish I could be with you all day (at least today) but I have to finish up the business that pays me. With that being said, have a blessed one.

Thanks for reading.

XOXO

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[virgo888]

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[blackwomanvibes]

PREVIEW|BLACK MOTHERS ARE BREEDING THEIR SHADOW|BABY MAMA BLUES CLUES 😈 👹👩‍👦 NOOSE|#DIVESTORDIE

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We are continuing the discussion of SINGLE BLACK MOTHERS OF BLACK SONS, particularly the dichotomy of their relationship. We are heading right to the source which is HER shadow that she MANIFESTS from her WOMB which is the worst of her psycho-emotional baggage which the SON becomes burdened to carry while she programs him to be a man she wouldn't even MARRY much less DATE. This repels FUNCTIONAL/HEALED WOMEN from investing in a long term relationship with her son, thus cutting out the COMPETITION. 

There is something incestuously WRONG with the way Black Women parent their sons. It is BORDERLINE child abuse if not full blown ABUSIVE. In the words of reformed naker (only one in history) Malcolm X, "The chickens have come home to roost!" Since you love your sons so much, have them and keep them AWAY from EMPRESS ENERGY Black Women!! 

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[terpsichoresworld]

I am human. I make mistakes. I give myself permission to be human and to make mistakes.

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[quotetherapy]

What I know is that whenever there is a communication breakdown there has to be a bully and an attacker, a rescuer, and a victim.

Iyanla Vanzant

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[hilarybmp-blog]

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[daaaaaammmnnnn]

Im depressed rn. Leave me alone💔

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[akonoadham]

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[africanfashion]

It all comes down to setting boundaries ✨ | No matter how you treat yourself, people will always try to stretch your boundaries. All you have to decide is whether or not the boundaries can be stretched 🤷🏾‍♀️✨ #MondayMotivation. •| keep calm and set boundaries 🤗 •| What are your experiences with people treating you based off of how you treat yourself? 🤔| Link in bio for the video ✨ | #mondaymotivation #MotivationalMonday #motivationalspeaker #maandag #lundi #monday #montag #lunes #senegalesetwisted #sntwistedwords #quotes #quote #happiness #joiedevivre #jayshetty #princeea #youtube #iyanlafixmylife #iyanlavanzant #oprah #heureux #zelfrespect https://www.instagram.com/p/B0NjIxMokzc/?igshid=xkcexw2dibmp

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[tamsavage]

Somebody needed to hear this today I am Somebody Somebody is me #iyanlafixmylife #iyanlavanzant #leandriajohnson #gospelmusic #gospelsingers #youbettersing #theyhavetherange #shoutinginthecorner (at Magnolia Vinings) https://www.instagram.com/p/B1mVRCNBU2M/?igshid=1iug3t0g527fq

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[shadriekas-blog]

For all of you who believe you're not enough; You are way more. Reposted from @mr_letgo - 🔴 🔵 THE MORE CLARITY YOU HAVE ABOUT YOURSELF, THE MORE OTHERS WILL SUPPORT YOU * 🔴 🔵 YOU FIRST MUST KNOW WHO YOU ARE * 🔴 🔵 I'M USING SOCIAL MEDIA TO HEAL YOU * 🔴 🔵 SHARE "WHO YOU ARE" WITH US * 🔴 🔵 #letgo #fixmylife #iyanlafixmylife #marliesiaortiz #cityboyz #redtabletalk #lhhhollywood apryljones #makingtheband - #regrann (at Greenacres, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/B0JEVuKB_XZ/?igshid=wwdug819rw59

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[akiasi]

I want Iyanla to call me “beloved” and tell me about my pathology and give me a hug...whew, I need my life fixed

#iyanlafixmylife #iyanla vanzant #greenleaf #ugh i just cried my eyes out

[theshaunabrooks]

🤪🤞🏾 Gotcha 😁You ain’t think 🤔 I was SERIOUS tho Bro🙃😜Lissen, TRUST me 😌 I gotchu 🤭 It’s gonna feel like the MOON 🌚 & the STARS 🤩 like DIAMOND 💎 in the SKY✨ Put it in the hole 🕳🤤 #GotEm #Iyanla #iyanlavanzant #iyanlafixmylife (at The Big Hole) https://www.instagram.com/p/BuuhEzxhzQo/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=19zuso2l7agic

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