#judge or bother me

[phoenixkaptain]

I love Stardew Valley and I love the community and I love how we all bond over pixelated chickens like we’re seventy-year-old women bonding over grandchildren- - -

But I get so annoyed with the character hate, like!!! All the characters are great!! All the romance-able characters are great!! I keep getting recommended videos about the bad parts of characters and I just want to scream!!

Penny: lovely. Charming. Kids are a big part of dating her because she teaches kids, of course she’s going to react a bit badly if you hate children. She is trying to teach kids so that they don’t have to have the same life she and her mother do, why do you hate this woman who is just anxious?

Shane: lovely. Charming. Perfect. “He still drinks after we get married, which ruins the whole story” NO. No. Shane is an alcoholic, and a severe one. If he quit cold-turkey, he would fucking die. “Harvey pumped his stomach” HE WOULD DIE. And I don’t care that my husband is messy, he has his own room and I don’t have to go over there!!

Maru: lovely. Charming. She hates working. She loves working on machines. She thinks about machines to build for you to make life easier. She’s adorable. She has a complicated relationship with her brother and I want to help them fix it goddangit because I love fictional siblings.

Elliott: lovely. Charming. An artist. He only leaves his home for like four hours a day. I can really relate to the desire to shave off all of one’s own hair. I feel that in my bones. Also, is friends with Willy and I fucking love Willy so A++

Leah: “she’s a lesbian” She’s fucking bi stop erasing bi rep in Bi Rep the Video Game

Sam: he’s a musician and a skater. This is what the perfect man looks like.

Emily: just the most charming. She has a complicated relationship with her sister because she takes care of her. She works at a saloon, how can someone not love a literal saloon worker? She’s crazy, she’s wild, she’s a flower child, I’m in love with her

Harvey: glasses. Doctor man. Occasionally puts on headphones to not so subtly hint that he doesn’t want to talk to you. This is what the perfect man looks lik-

Abigail: I don’t see a lot of people complain about Abigal, but I’ve seen a few and it just feels like- you guys love Sebastian so much but don’t like Abigail? What type of double standard is this?

Alex: everyone always says not to date him if your playing a female farmer, but honestly, his dialogue only cuts out parts if you play male. Like, he still says he felt different about you from day one even if you’re playing as a girl. The character affected the most by your gender choice in regards to dating Alex is George, and if you’ve already befriended George, he’ll apologize for being mean about your sexuality when he never even said anything mean about your sexuality, which is kind of funny

I never see people complain about Haley or Sebastian, which is fair, because Haley has a cute character arc and Sebastian loves frogs (this is what the perfect man lo-) My only problem is that people praise these two but rag on everyone else when I feel like all the characters are balanced pretty evenly in terms of good-bad traits.

Which trait is which is dependent on the person playing the game anyway, so when someone like me plays, I can’t help but find the characters perfect because I’m very forgiving when it comes to fictional characters’ undesirable traits. I mean, my favourite trait of all is stupidity, pure and unbridled, I’m talking facepalm-inducing, groan-worthy, the type of character people complain about the most; the type of stupid that makes people stop enjoying things. How can I dislike these characters who are cute and a bit awkward and so ready to bed the first hot farmer they come across even when that farmer sifts through their trash and passes out three steps away from their own house and drinks mayonnaise and would eat hay given half the chance. Like come on. They’re all moron-sexual. I can relate to that.

In conclusion: your favourite bachelor and/or bachelorette is as wonderful as you think they are and screw the people who try to tell you otherwise. The characters are great because they appeal to different people. Enjoy the game and enjoy the dating and I swear to God if I see another person say that certain farm layouts are bad because they don’t make enough money- the game doesn’t have a time limit! You can make as much money as you want! You could sell one sap everyday and nothing else and you would still be able to make it to however much money you desire to have. There’s not really a fast way to make ten billion gold, that doesn’t mean that the farm layouts you don’t like are bad and yes I’m ranting just because I love the slopes of the mining farm its layout is chamrjng and picturesque and provides a unique challenge to decorating and placing buildings and it’s actually the BEST farm layout because I just decided so and-!

Stardew Valley is a great game, 10/10 would recommend, and the new update is already great because I found carrot seeds and I like carrots :)

#the inane ramblings of a madman #stardew valley #stardew valley bachelors #stardew valley bachelorettes #i can judge all the characters pretty equally #because my fave partner is krobus #i love my creechur #he gives me hugs!!! #he waddles around my house!!! #i love this guy i want to give him all the hugs in the world #no joke he moved in and i hugged him like twenty times just because i could #krobus for bestest guy in the game #i love shane and penny was my first wifey and sebastian puts frogs in my home #but krobus man #🤌🤌🤌 #long post #ignore me i’ve been seeing things with mine eyes and it doth cause me great bother

[xitsensunmoon]

I'm really grateful for all of your support. Really.

The possibility of being misunderstood and harassed even more by my own followers was something that I've considered happening, as it has happened before. But I'm glad I was wrong. I feel much more confident and safe knowing that there's no judgement for me trying to protect myself.

Thank you all<3

#xit shh #tw harassment mention #the anxiety i felt before posting previous post was. terrible. to say the least #i hate bringing up something that bothers me but it was making me more and more upset #with every ask calling me names #the desire to answer and just scream on top of my lungs was just corroding #especially not knowing how you all will react to it. with no guarantee that my frustration will be supported not judged #now i know #<3

[sanguineships]

having a villain or monster f/o is amazing because they love every fucked up, wretched part of you. every flaw is endearing to them, and they’ll stand with you during healing. during the worst of it all.

for the self shippers with severe mental health struggles, personality disorders and whatnot…i see you. your f/o loves you even if you feel like a monster. they’re not scared of you and they’ll help you.

#🦇my prince #🍷enchantment #i have antisocial symptoms and he’d never judge #they wouldnt bother or scare him. hes a monster #a true terrible monster. he would adore the worst in me and keep me safe. #self shipping #self ship #f/o community #self ship community #shipping #f/o #fictional other #f/o imagines #villain f/o #self shipper #selfship #f/os

[dolldays]

G/T July - Day 20 [Intimidate] (...?)

#gtjuly2023 #gtjuly #I cannot be bothered to finish this and you are forbidden to judge me #we're pretending the horns don't glow for this >:) #gt #g/t

[neechees]

I know riffing off of Mt "rushmore" (The Six Grandfathers) is a popular trope but like, if Barbieland knows about colonialism & smallpox killing Natives Americans & that exists in their world, then what does that imply about the parody Mount Rushmore in Barbieland. Was it also carved by White supremacists who stole land from Native people? Barbieland didn't know what the Patriarchy or misogyny was beforehand but they know what racism towards Natives is even though Barbieland is also apparently very diverse? You were cool with bringing up Native genocide via smallpox to prop up white feminism at random & when it wasnt necessary but also Barbie Mount Rushmore is just there unexplained?

#im sorry this is just so weird #if u liked this movie thats fine i wont judge you but i just cant bc its made by greta gerwig & i cant be bothered with her #i know this is kind of a weird thing to ponder in Barbieland in its meta of the movie but thats also me pointing out #how out of pocket & unnecessary & stupid Gerwig writing that in was

[unfulfilled-jury]

listen. harry brewis isn't exempt to criticism. however I think it's very ironic and telling how much people have been missing the very point of his video on plagiarism and turned his name on a new topic to exploit as of late. when i was trying to look up clips of harry's older videos this came up, and the contents were about the creator clearly being disapointed her line of work (drama youtube) was disregarded as sloppy and something with no effort put into it.

while I do understand her hurt, the thumbnail and title is inherently clickbaiting potential viewers, and her point comes off as a nitpick of a segment harry made out of his own frustration with content mills and how much situations on or between content creators can be so throughly exploited for "commentary" when people don't end up saying anything at all. I think that this is a prime example of the things harry deemed important to criticise. someone who clearly had a point to make about harry's video felt the need to make sure they could milk the shit out of it.

#hbomberguy #as a long term fan it actually bothers me how people will think of harry as “the guy who murders people's reputations” #or only judge his character by this one video #because harry doesn't usually do stuff like this or at least not only stuff like this #this format is very familiar to a lot of his videos #even the ones that seem trivial #harry also talks about dangerous right wing ideologies and videogames and series he cares about #and it feels so desingenious to just label him as this big takedown video essayist who's egotistical and full of himself #yes the guy has flaws and mistakes and some of his older work isn't the most polished. don't get me wrong you are free to criticise him #but not while you are making money off something that seems like a nitpick in retrospect or using a strawman argument

[karamell-sweetz]

this is suuuch a stretch but now that the wonderland sekai has a confirmed ocean and islands i ALMOST want them to accidentally sail into the empty sekai’s body of water and freak out.

if that’s even possible in the lore. idk i haven’t read a good portion of the vsinger events where they talk about the lore soooo

but like… think about it. after they finish the first round of world link events for all the units i have NO idea what they’re going to do with that event type. coincidentally the vsinger wl (estimated for august) is in line with the 4th anni, and it sort of makes sense that the sekais could potentially connect and lots of stuff happens before 5th anni (usually a good milestone if i’m going off bandori). the only good scenario i have in mind is yk… GROUP SHUFFLES! SEKAI COLLISIONS OR SOME SHIT!! MULTI GROUP COVERS which i know they said they weren’t going to do unless for special occasions but like??

and also im aware that pjsk as it is is actually doing pretty well without doing group shuffle covers and stuff like bandori (by this i mean like the general election special songs like catastrophe banquet) and each of the groups don’t actually NEED that connection with the other groups… but come on. it’d be neat.

*noclips through the floor*

#project sekai #karamell yells #very big yell but like. mainly focus on my first sentence okay its been bothering me #GHGGG sorry i’ve been in a huge bandori re-phase recently #and i freaking LOVE the concept of the girls band party and d4fes and love live and enstars’ ss contest #so its. weird? that sekai doesn’t have a huge group event to look forward to yet?? #like even starira has the arcana arcadia thing? #don’t you find it?? so strange?? #likee the only thing that could potentially suffice is if vivid bad squad manages to do their huge event with ALL OF THE GROUPS #AND WITHIN THE GAME TIMELINE preferably before 6th anni if we judge by bandori’s timing #and that’s not even considering how they’d incorporate/explain the multiple sekai thing??? #and!! niigo doesn’t perform live anyway… YET 👀👀👀👀 #but i think it’d start with the sekai connecting first since that’s the whole game’s gimmick #WHATEVER #wxs sails into the empty sekai by accident. that was my point.

[lord-squiggletits]

On the MegOP fandom trend of saying "Optimus should apologize to Megatron"

(Speaking specifically for IDW1, though it applies to a lot of MegOP especially ones that do continuity soup with heavy reference to IDW1)

I was talking to a friend in DMs and they mentioned a common headcanon/fanfic trope that I also concurred with, and both of us said it's something that bothers us: a common take in the MegOP fandom goes basically along the lines of "If Optimus had just apologized to Megatron, the war would've ended" (or other variants including "if he'd tried harder to understand Megatron/work in collaboration with him").

And firstly, this is incorrect for a number of reasons:

There were attempts at peace negotiations during the war, but they fell through. So Optimus WAS trying to work with Megatron to the point of participating in formal diplomatic meetings.

Optimus tried multiple times on page to convince Megatron to just stop fighting and work with him for peace (Autocracy, Chaos Theory) that Megatron rejected. Given that these on-page examples take place at the start of the war and at the end of the war respectively, it makes sense that Optimus asking Megatron for collaboration is something he was trying/willing to do the entire time. So again, Optimus was always willing AND ATTEMPTING to work with Megatron and find a joint solution

Even before the war when Optimus was still Orion, he was very explicitly inspired by Megatron's writing and names Megatron as one of the people who "opened his eyes" to the wrongs of Cybertronian society. So how is it that people claim "the war went on for too long because Optimus never tried to understand Megatron" when OP literally named Megatron as one of his biggest idols, thus implying that OP does understand Megatron's ideals

But the primary purpose of this post wasn't to defend Optimus, actually. Even though I personally think Optimus did plenty (dare I say, everything) to try to end the war, there are some who may still think otherwise, so instead of arguing about whether Optimus did "enough", or who should apologize to whom, or who "deserves the blame" for starting/continuing the war, I'd actually rather talk about this:

No matter who is most "to blame" for the war, it's my firm belief that neither Megatron nor Optimus would even expect/demand the other to apologize to them at all.

On Megatron's side, he would never seek to judge Optimus negatively for the decisions to the point of saying "you wronged me, apologize." Whether it's evil Megatron who doesn't care about atrocities and revels in an opportunity to expose Optimus as a hypocrite, or post-war/Autobot Megatron who knows that his own evil actions are irredeemable, the idea of Megatron judging Optimus and demanding an apology for the war specifically strikes me as out-of-character. Why would Megatron demand or even want an apology from Optimus when Megatron knows fully well that he has his own sins to bear, he prolonged the war for his own selfish/material gain, and that he is responsible for an untold amount of suffering? Demanding an apology would imply that Megatron sees himself as the wronged party and Optimus as the wrongdoer, but by the end of the war, Megatron is too aware of his own part in the war to ever demand such a thing of Optimus. Even if he DID think that Optimus was "equally to blame" for the war (which he doesn't/wouldn't, btw), Megatron's own feelings of guilt would prevent him from trying to seek the petty satisfaction of the moral high ground or making Optimus beg for his forgiveness.

Additionally, Megatron knows Optimus very well as a person: he knows that the position of leadership is full of "loneliness [and] agonizing self-doubt" for Optimus (Chaos Theory) and that "when Optimus hurts others, he hurts himself" (MTMTE). Another reason that Megatron wouldn't demand nor want an apology from Optimus is because Megatron knows Optimus so well that he already knows that being a war leader fills Optimus with immense guilt and suffering. Given that Megatron knows about Optimus' self-doubt and guilt, why would he even need an apology when he already knows how much Optimus regrets the war and desperately wishes/wished for it to end?

Then, as established in the previous paragraphs, Optimus is too full of guilt for his part in the war (both before it started and in being unable to stop it sooner) to demand an apology from Megatron. Again, demanding an apology would put Optimus in an implied position of moral superiority and/or victimhood, but Optimus doesn't see himself as morally superior or as a victim (or rather, he sees himself as being responsible for these bad things happening and internalizes this as a duty to do better/fix wrongdoings). In other words, Megatron and Optimus both share this view of themselves and each other: Their hands are so dirty, and they both feel such guilt over this, and they know each other well enough to know that the other feels this way as well. Because both of them feel blame for the war and are acutely aware of their own flaws/part in suffering, both of them feel far too responsible for the war happening for them to ever blame their archnemesis for "not trying harder" or "being responsible for the war."

Hell, if you even look at the socio-political climate of Cybertron before the war started, neither Megatron nor Optimus were the ones who put this conflict into motion. The corrupt legacy of the Primes, Functionism, class issues-- all of these things existed before Megatron and Optimus did. Even once they started doing things like writing about social issues (M) or fighting against the Senate (OP), both of them were "underlings" in sense that they weren't leaders:

Megatron's writings may have inspired the Decepticon movement, but that movement existed as an independent entity with its own leaders and speakers long before Megatron became the "official" ruler of the Decepticons. He wasn't even the leader of the 'Cons until he took control of the gladiator arena and the nonviolent sections of the Decepticons were (presumably) subsumed into the underground, exploitative battle culture that Megatron created.

Optimus-as-Orion was a police officer to start, but even once he started going against the Senate, he mainly worked in collaboration with others like Senator Shockwave and Zeta (later Zeta Prime), who he either saw as his idols or who were literally superior to him in rank due to government/military structures.

So with this in mind, even from a social level, while Megatron and Optimus may have been "catalysts" of a sort that caused the war to escalate to an outright planetary/galactic level, the scenario is too complex to solely lay the blame for the war at either of their feet. I'm not confident in saying that Megatron/Optimus would explicitly think of this when talking to each other, but what I'm trying to say is that M/OP were just catalysts in a long chain of brewing tension that exploded into a war. Even if one could claim that one of them "started" or "escalated" the war, the social issues that caused the war and the positions of power that allowed them to become leaders in the first place were falling into place before either of them actually BECAME leaders.

In other words, this shared fate of being the final reaction that exploded a societal conflict into outright war... Megatron and Optimus both have that in common. And because of this, I really don't think either of them would even think to ask the other to apologize because they're both in such similar positions, with such similar feelings of guilt and responsibility, that they understand each other's feelings without words. To demand an apology would be akin to taking that shared vulnerability/guilt and stepping on it, attempting to claim that one is right/superior and the other is wrong/inferior, and that the inferior one needs to grovel and take responsibility for the bad things that happened.

#squiggposting #idw megop #idk if this'll get me hate or not but it's something i think about a lot #and verbalizing it to that friend in DMs helped me put into words why that common fanon take bothers me #also. hot take but if any 'apologies' are necessary then it's M who should be apologizing to OP #the war may be both of their faults but M is the one who explicitly did/said things just to hurt OP and break his spirit #i'm tired of ppl who don't understand (or at least don't discuss) how hurt OP is and how he deserves recogniztion of his feelings too #megop #then again this fanon take may just be a consequence of continuity soup culture #where ppl don't have to acknowledge specific things that M or OP did bc they can just selectively include or not include details from canon #so like. i guess in their continuity soup continuties their fanon is technically correct #but in terms of the source material which is the one shared experience we all have and the common language we derive fanon from #this fanon is very incorrect. or at least i hope i've managed to argue that it's incorrect #anyways the thesis of megop is that they're equals and opposites who are inextricably tied to each other #fanon that tries to place the blame on one or castigate one of them is missing the point of megop #the point is that they're equal. equally strong and charismatic and amazing. and equally culpable #even if they're not literally equally responsible for idw megop at least they at least both FEEL responsible #and i don't think idw megops are the type to mince words about who's 'more responsible' #they're both depressed old men who hate themselves and regret basically their whole lives. why would they judge each other like that

[elminster-big-naturals]

"what kind of law did astarion pass to piss off the gur so much 😂"

aside from the fact magisters don't pass laws, the implication that cazador was just kind of casually waiting around for his moment bc knew astarion was Such a dickhead that someone was going to beat his ass to death eventually is extremely funny

#baldur's gate 3 #i mean i'm ASSUMING they're going off a more olde/british-centric definition of magistrate ie basically a legal administrator of an area id #since i don't think cazador would turn someone actually powerful/well known into a spawn for Obvious Reasons #magistrates aren't lawyers or judges + don't go to law school + don't attend to serious criminal matters. but maybe i'm wrong who knows #anyway it seems fairly established that cazador has been manipulating/targeting/toying with the gur in the area for a long time #he was very particular abt his spawn and getting what he wanted so i seriously dont believe he would leave anything to chance At All #but him just lurking in alleyways waiting for someone to finally just get sick of astarion's shit tickles me. #like hmm i COULD concoct a nefarious plan to snare him but the guy's just so damn murderable why bother

[madamescarlette]

(it's one of my traditions to listen to TS album releases all the way through once then make individual posts for distinct thoughts; however, since I know most/many of you following me have no desire to engage with this I'm wondering if there's a better way to approach this.)

#my ego and self-esteem are so in shambles right now also so please don't judge me for making this lol #it's been a big source of joy for me in the past! but i don't want that to be at the cost of folks' peace of mind #i worry about being a bother das all #weigh in if you like! thank you all hope you're doing well! <3

[thebrittanybrigade]

Actin like a fool at the dog show 😎

#she actually was terrible yesterday and we did not get anything #fought me for the exam to the point the judge said not to bother. so we didn’t get excused but she acted like a fool. damn fear periods #Eevee #dogblr #brittany #dog #brittany dog

[colourofthekites]

sometimes I hate in porn that they make a big show out of sucking dick. Like I know they have to flash the dick for porn cause dicks look hot etc etc but if the dick in mouth vs out mouth ratio is off then I don't know if it counts fully as a blowjob, it's more of a face rub at that rate

#tbh i can't judge cause i go feral over a greggs sausage roll #ANYWAY #if someone turns this into discourse i will be impressed #this was spurned on by me coming across some str8 p*rn on my dash ages ago and the lady was barely on the dick #more around it ya feel #also I'm not critiquing anyone's bj style #just bothers me in p*rn sometimes

[candyheartedchy]

I keep trying to get back into drawing my self ships but I still feel empty and conflicted about shipping with certain characters now.

#like the one with the possible canon x canon ship still bothers me #but also I just feel like all my ships don’t bring as much joy like they use to #where some f/o(s) I still have strong feelings for but at the same time I feel embarrassed??? #like I’m being judged #and I’m trying to take breaks here and there #but then I get nervous because I’m not drawing #which sucks because drawing is my outlet #and then I get frustrated because when I do sit down to draw it feels forced #like I’m losing my passion in art #I want to say it’s probably still burnout I’m dealing with but idk #also sorry for the negativity lately I’m trying to get better #💬 chy chatter 💬 #vent

[bettertwin9000]

Sorry it took a little while, but here’s your mashed potatoes! With approximately 0% chunks as promised. Tell me if I need to change anything else

Enjoy! <3

thank you.. though one more question- is it soft or gooey?? I only like soft..

#i quite enjoy bland mashed potatoes #dont judge me #sometimes tastes just bother me #rottmnt #rottmnt donnie #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rise donnie #unpause rise of the tmnt #rise of the tmnt #rottmnt leo #rise leo #disaster twins #save rise of the tmnt

[autisticasgore]

dear abled people - it is absolutely none of your business with what other disabled people's health circumstances are. interrogating us to try and find out whether or not you think we're "valid" enough to call ourselves disabled or whether or not we "deserve" accommodations is inappropriate and disrespectful. we don't need to divulge our personal health to you, a complete stranger, just so you can police other disabled people for brownie points.

hiding behind disabled people as a shield to project your ableist and narrow-minded views of what you think "real disabled people should look like" is gross. the same goes for other disabled people as well. if someone does not reveal every single detail about their personal health to you, it is absolutely none of your business, and it doesn't mean they're "faking it" or that they aren't "actually disabled". for some of us, our health is very personal and private, and you shouldn't need to know all the personal details about our lives just so you can give us basic respect. just because we don't have all of our health conditions listed on a little carrd or on our twitter bio, it doesn't mean we are faking it.

#pixie.txt #disability #neurodivergence #neurodivergency #actually disabled #disabilities #invisible disability #disability advocacy #this has been bothering me #ever since that one person implied i was just pretending to be disabled and that i wasn't “actually” disabled #who by the way knew absolutely NOTHING about my personal life #even though they think they do #it's baffling how some people think they're entitled to all of the details of our lives #like i'm not looking for an apology or anything. just do better man #fyi i am physically abled and this goes for literally the whole spectrum of disability in general #you also don't need to tell someone that you have mental health conditions for brownie points! #if you don't feel comfortable then that's okay! #in fact privacy as a disabled person SHOULD be encouraged. #i'm not going to invite people to judge how i live as a neurologically disabled person #if you have a condition that affects your everyday entire life that you don't feel comfortable disclosing publicly #you are still disabled and no one can take that from you. #you know your body best. #just because YOU can't see it doesn't mean we aren't affected by it every day. #okay i think that's all the tags

[willowser]

honestly if i had a bigger brain, i would write an entire android shouto fic

#I JUST HAVE SO MANY SCENES IN MY HEAD #you fix his faceplate but cant get him a better eye so he just as this neon blue light #he's always saying things like 'my mother used to read to me when i was young' #and you're always like 'you don't have a mother. you were never young.' #bc you've spent your whole life afraid of machines and how overlord-esque corporations have used them to implement their beliefs #they've taken away so many jobs they are unfeeling they are ruthless they are judge jury and executioner #they're given more power for the sake of being morally grey but they're really just EMOTIONLESS BEINGS THAT SHOULDN’T MAKE CERTAIN DECISION #and then you find him 🥺 #and at first you want to sell him and make a quick buck but his face is all fucked up and then he starts TALKING #telling you he can feel pain and sadness and love #and you're like !!!!! no you cant !!!!!!!!! #and then someone tries to bother you in some bar and shouto smashes his face in — literally smashes HIS FACE IN — #and then someone tries to stab you and he moves in the way and takes it and HE BLEEDS AND HE CRIES AJFHSIAKALAL #AND YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TO THINK !!!!!!! #WAAAAHHHHH #but it would be so in depth i couldn’t do it justice honestly akfbsjakqk #GOD i wrote too much in these tags #✿ willow writes #✿ shut up willow #✿ thoughts: shouto #✿ theme: android shouto