#just call me and give me advice and then

[avarkriss]

listen. listen to me so carefully right now. (if you're in the eclipse path/planning on viewing). please don't stare directly at the sun tomorrow. i am begging you - do not stare at it. if you got eclipse glasses off of amazon/other, please put them on in your house and make sure you can't see anything; if you can still see like regular sun glasses, they are not safe for eclipse viewing, you will burn your retinas, and we cannot fix that. eclipse glasses should be iso/ce certified, and aas (american astronomical society) approved. please make smart choices and protect your eyes. please.

#psa from your friendly neighborhood eye care provider #the office is already fielding so many calls about this make good life choices #very important #eclipse #solar eclipse #eye health #not medical advice #just me screaming to please protect your eyes #ive seen exactly one case of solar retinopathy in my career so far please don't give me another one

[mishkakagehishka]

Sometimes i scroll thru a bunch of hate comments on an insta post trying to find at least one person saying that all the hate is insane but instead i just feel like i'm the one who's gone mad

#so i saw a vid of a 4'10 (!!!!) girl talking ab jeans that drag on the floor and she keeps stepping on them! #and it was like supposed to be a short relatable vid to push for engagement/reach bc her entire account is outfit inspo and style advice for #short/petite girls and like #tell me why all the comments were making fun of her and calling her a pickme and a y/n and the whole ''ooo you're so special'' #like ????? hello. am i insane. am i the one who's insane here. #why all that hate for a girl who's just trying to find other girls who would relate to that and who would then #follow her and give her posts engagement.... like ? hello ???? #are you guys aware short girls actually exist and they do in fact find it difficult to shop for clothes bc a lot #of brands will make clothing in proportion and so if you need a smaller size for your height #everything else will be smaller too and sometimes we need to sacrifice those jeans hems so we can pull them over our hips💀💀 #also someone straight up said they're hating bc she ''makes being petite her whole personality and that's all she posts ab'' #!?!??!?!?!?!?! THE POINT OF HER ACC IS HOW TO STYLE FOR A PETITE FIGURE ?!?!?!!?!?!??!!??!?!

[welcometohermitcraft]

Just finished listening to wtnv episode 235 and as a person who loves both Night Vale and Les Miserables this might just have become my new favorite episode

#wtnv #wtnv spoilers #like im sorry but iles mis being called an “american folktale” with “a chicago writer” broke me #and cecil talking about the musical?!? #the man literally described a mash up of Hamilton Phantom of the Opera Wicked and (i believe) Sweeny Todd #like SIR #also Tamilka being a foster mom is so so important to me #and cecil giving out parenting advice was so cute #just AUGH #anyways its a very very good episode #cecil palmer #tamika flynn

[autistic-sidon]

Always raise an eyebrow when people say they hate the totk Zora story like it's one of three reasons:

1. They genuinely think the characters were underdeveloped and needed more time to get the messages of the storyline across for it to work (this is my reason except I don't hate the story I just wish there was more.)

2. They were one of the people who wanted Sidon to have more depth as a character and then got mad when he had more depth as a character by showing his weaknesses and how he is in fact not perfect (this destroys the Tumblr sexy man version of Sidon they made up in their head.)

3. They hate women. Elaborating, they're pissy because Yona came out of nowhere and ruined their ship even though there's a billion other characters that came out of nowhere yet they're only mad about Yona (she gets in the way of the Temu yaoi which is a massive crime.)

It's usually the 2nd and 3rd.

#sidon #lady yona #loz totk #I hate the 3rd one the most obviously but there's a special annoyance I have for the 2nd #'We need more mentally ill characters!' and then got mad about Sidon for being mentally ill because it 'mischaracterized' him #Even though he's been mentally ill since botw it just wasn't in your face #Totk forces both Sidon AND the player to acknowledge it #And then there's the people who try to say he's not actually mentally ill meanwhile in botw he apologizes for yelling from the river?? 😭 #Also calls himself pushy and unreasonable #Likeeeeee I know you guys like to write Sidon as a therapist for Link because you think he's not got problems of his own #But I cannot stress enough how unqualified Sidon is to give Link any advice beyond 'believe in yourself 💞' #If Link wants better advice than that he should go to Yona or an ACTUAL THERAPIST #Also please don't kill me for shading the yaoi ship...I had to #I might elaborate on what I like about Sidon of the Zora vs. where I think it fell short. Could be fun.

[corfisers]

the thing about the dudebro discussion, the aita post, the willingness to just take at face value any accusations directed at a person you don't know, is that it's all so painfully transparent, it's so obvious that those conversations are happening at this scale specifically because it's about trans women. maybe it's just me, but you generally shouldn't be using certain terms for people unless you know that they are comfortable with them, and if you fucked up then apologize and move on (if we pretend for a second that the majority of dudebros weren't feign ignorance or just actively malicious to begin with). you should be aware that some things don't affect you the same way they affect other people, and you definitely shouldn't be giving those people potentially dangerous advice on topics that you personally aren't familiar with, this is the baseline, at least don't fucking put other people who were misled into trusting you in danger. and if an anon barges into your inbox with some wild accusations then you should stop and think "hey, why are you coming to me anonymously with no evidence to back any of this up, and in such a way that i have to reply to you publicly so more people get to see this" regardless of who it's directed at. like, those are all pretty simple things, or they should be at least, but because the targets are trans women and transmisogyny is so fucking rampant everyone has to bend over backwards to come up with excuses as to why treating trans women this way is perfectly normal and justified.

#transmisogyny #i'm not going too much into the aita thing because i've seen trans women express different opinions and i don't feel like it's my place #to talk over any of them. ik how i feel but i'm focusing on the part that i feel more confident about. which is don't give people advice #when you have no idea what you're talking about. like. those people trust you and turn to you for help and the least you could do is to say #“hey i'm sorry but i'm not the right person to ask” #i've been in a situation where a friend assumed i was tma and i didn't realize (i never said i was but we met in a game so like #minimum info outside of pronouns which were they/them at the time + some assumptions based on little things she knew about me like height) #and when she asked me about something that is not my lived experience i cleared things up. so the idea of just rolling with it instead #is so baffling to me. it's so irresponsible and disrespectful. it's hard enough already for transfems to trust people and you pull this? #the dudebro thing too. i hate being called a bitch (has nothing to do with gender) and ik that if i said so people would be like “yea ok” #could throw some completely genderless term in here as an example as well. people are usually fairly reasonable. but nooo not with dude #can't have the right to casually misgender a trans woman taken away from you. gotta make it look like that's not what you're doing either #infuriating and exhausting #benvey tag

[bugflies00]

#Having a dilemna #THE THING IS. hes one of those types . where im genuinely worried he’ll off himself if i say im not interested in him #NEVER THOUGHT ID HAVE THIS PROBLEM why is the first and only time someone asks me out a guy im just. not into at all😭😭 #IT WAS SO DRAMATIC TOO HE WROTE A LETTER AND CALLED ME HIS LOVE ?????? #what about my behaviour made you think i was interested mate im so sorry😭 my gay arospec ass?? really? #THIS GUY HAS BEEN GUILT TRIPPING ME INTO GIVING HIM DATING ADVICE FOR 3 YEARS AND NOW THIS ? #alex.rambles.txt #alex.polls.txt

[dimsilver]

💞

#it has been a very fun and sisterful day here #even though they are all states away #sent one sister a marco polo about being interested in someone #she immediately sends one back with another sister who has also heard the tea #they try to social media stalk him and are complaining to me because he doesn’t have any social media #then that sister talks to me about a guy that she’s been texting #I give advice etc #then this evening he called and asked her out! #so we just called and she told me all the details and I did more advising and lots of laughing at her while she freaked out #(she said yes but she’s still pretty young and has to get our parents’ permission so that will be fun 😂) #anyway it’s such a joy to be in each other’s lives like that even when apart

[robotpussy]

when you express your feelings to one of your parents and they take it as a personal attack..................

#like no because i was telling my mum for years that i cant just have a film degree and then walk into the industry #i kept telling her i have to make my own stuff to build up my portfolio cause the reality is they don't give af abt degrees #they just want to know if u can do what u say u can and she would constantly discourage me from making my own stuff #and now she wants to call me to say that shes encouraging me to pursue my dreams like... this always fucking happens #i will say i need to do something and she will disregard it or or shut it down and then years down the line she will tell me #to do what i was suggesting years before that... and when i tell her i said this years before she gets upset and starts yelling #when i told her shes been constantly discouraged me from making my own stuff for 3 years she started telling me its not true #because she helped me apply to a bunch of film residentials etc when that's not what im saying???? im saying when i #told her i wanted to work on personal projects. just because im excited she would shut it down immediately im not talking abt #you helping me find out about the bfi film academy??? but now she wants to push me to do it.... telling me about it like I've never #spoken to her about this before. she still has the mentality of no matter what age you are everything you say shouldn't be taken into #account because im older than you and i automatically know whats best. this happens all the time #all i can say is she actually apologised because in the past she used to never say sorry. i would just tell her im sorry and we'll leave #ot at that but atleast she said sorry. even tho she kept saying 'im sorry if u felt i discouraged you' like she still doesn't believe #what im saying. unsolicited advice but the advice is just shit i said to her years before..... its so infuriating #its why i rarely ever talk to her

[ramayantika]

Darling king of Dwarka tell me if I am getting this college or not because I am not getting a single thing done out of this

#samridhi speaks #I just had dance class and now I am sweating and crying #I just feel so left out #maa says you are getting ample time to dance use it so when I dance I think of if I am getting this college or not #and then nothing works out and I am sad #I have anothet enyrance to sit now parents are saying you can get into this college according to tje rank but on the safe side #sit and study for tjis tol #I feel like I don't remember anything to give the othet exam #like tell me if I am in or not #so I csn damce in peace or stidy too #meko bhi kuch naya karna hai ky brother calls me for study advice for btech #I feel like a goddamn impostor kyunki mera toh saala college nahi hai

[sunofmoon]

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#here's a little rant that no one asked for #me and my dad never had a very solid relationship #the fact that he lives far away and only calls me on sunday night says a lot about it #and well there's also the fact that his wife hates me #she already committed all kinds of psychological violence with me and i was just a child #there was that episode where she tried to blind me and people in my family pretend it didn't happen #despite all this he never defended me #when i needed him the most he was never there for me #in fact he was never present at any significant moment in my life #but when he decided to separate the only person he dumped his problems on was me #i was always there to give him support and advice even though i knew he didn't deserve it #now he decided to try to save his marriage and return to the woman who hates me #and just forgot me again and discarded me #bc he never called me again to see if I was okay #besides ignoring my message #idk why i even care #i should have realized a long time ago that i'm not a priority in my father's life

[whimsycore]

Identifying the white people you know are going to a problem before they can start shit is pivotal when you’re a black woman

[quicktimeeventfull]

this is live footage of me trying to explain to my doctor’s office that i understand their hands are tied but i am still going to die if they randomly cut me off without any referral or ability to transfer medical documentation in the middle of an ongoing medical event(tm)

#i am like. very certain they can give me my medical documentation and possibly even a referral #like i don’t want to be Difficult to them but this cannot possibly be situation #it’s like a funding related thing apparently and they’re laughing about it & im like haha yeah! but! i’ll die? #i’m not TOO panicked about it bc truly i do not. believe. the scenario is that i just die #i think the scenario is i will have to call them back & be annoying until they give me medical advice and/or documentation

[caffeinatedopossum]

people keep making me think I'm smart and it's fucking with my fundamental understanding that I am simply a Person and I know what I know which is equal to what everyone else knows even when those people specialize in different knowledge than me. Like I had this general trust and respect that everyone knows something I don't and didn't consider that I, in turn, also know things that they do not 🤨 crazy how that works

#also im just really scared of giving unsolicited advice/knowledge because many people have gotten mad at me about it before #i would get called a know it all and a killjoy and all this stuff just because i wanted to say something #i think i have a small mansplaining problem... i just really love to state things on #mm stating facts my favorite #ok but there is a subtle difference between mansplaining and autistic explaining (and right now im doing both 🥲) #lmao im sorry guys i am trying my best not to be dismissive or disruptive or interrupt anyone #i genuinely just like talking about things i know about #and if you bring one of those things up and youre wrong about something i will either correct you #or say nothing for the entire rest of the day. because im thinking about how i didnt tell you #just thinking about the 'they dont know...' meme but its just 'they dont know how serotonin actually works' or something #i can show self restraint but with emphasis on the show. it will show #im sorry i really dont know if theres anything i can do about that #i love to explain. maybe i could be a teacher or something someday

[soulsxng]

Sometimes, a person allows me to geek out about dog training/behavior/nutrition stuff a little bit (because they asked me for advice/help), and my brain just latches onto it for the rest of the day. And then I’m just going on long winded dog related info dumps completely out of nowhere to literally anybody in the room.

#[what is she getting us into now? -ooc-] #(aka my sister was asking for advice about some stuff with her dogs #and the entire rest of the day #I’ve been randomly going ‘…So I know I’ve said this like a million times before #and I’m sorry if I’ve already told you…BUT DID YOU KNOW THAT ONE OF THE MOST COMMON THINGS IN DOG TRAINING—‘ #‘Did you know that one of the most common food allergies in dogs are—‘ #luckily my family/a lot of my friends are very big dog/animal people #so a lot of times when it happens everyone else gets really into it too #or #they’re totally chill just listening to me word vomit about it at them) #I also had to give my sister the ‘do not give people vet advice when you aren’t a vet’ convo today #and that if she was going to like…relay something she’d heard or experienced #in response to a health/etc issue someone is having with their dog #that she needs to flat out say ‘in my experience/I heard once that…’ #and then say ‘but I’m not a vet and I don’t want you to rely on just my opinion. so if you’re really concerned about it #you should at least call your vet to discuss it with them if not just bring your dog in’ #it wasn’t over anything major but still #better she learns that sooner rather than later when she DOES try to give major advice and it’s wrong orz

[sbasbbsbs]

smth for skool

#i'd put in the crisis hotlines too but i only used the ones for my country and i dont know if there are international ones WAAA #do call someone if ur not in a safe space #and my dms are always open if you need someone to listen!! #just don't expect me to give advice #im bad at that #mental health awareness #mental health #social anxiety #mini comic #myart #sbasbbsbs

[robinsnest2111]

the dysphoria never really goes away if you have no other options than to ignore and repress it and hope for the best

#all the times i have tried to access care in the past but was scoffed at or brushed off #the disgusting things a so-called trans expert therapist said to me... #it's been 8 years but i still think about it sometimes #in my darkest moments i question if i'm really trans or if i should just give up and be a girl #follow the fuckdd up advice i received from the trans therapist of: lose weight and get a boyfriend to fuck the sad out of you <3 #idk man... i'm just so tired of having to live like this and fighting and struggling to some degree every single day #life could be a bit lighter without that burden but it is but a dream