#just imagining them dressed like that i csnt

[sugawara-sweetheart]

!!!! i'm glad you had a really good lab!!! <3 it's really exciting when your results turn out well!!! i know that science can be frustrating and getting a high yield is totally exciting and should be nice to write about in your report!!! i unfortunately don't know very much about islam and the celebrations that go along with it but i hear you got to wear a really pretty indian dress!!! and that you looked like a fairy??? gosh, that must've been so nice <3

yeah :(( i had initially confronted this person about the fact that i feel like she fetishized both of us as asians too much and that i felt uncomfortable with her referring to me by my japanese name in addition to the fact that she isn't? really? improving herself for as long as i've known her? she's been broke for the three years i've known her and poverty is not a negative trait. i've paid and driven us around every single time, because i like experiences with people but she's never been explicit about her gratitude other than a short thank you after it's done. and her behavior is negatively affecting her boyfriend, someone who became a close friend, in the same ways as well.

but in doing that, i thought she would reflect on herself or try, but instead she came back with a 3 page essay making me responsible for her insecurities in an aggressive manner.

being free is nice!! and i'm so sorry about the long message. i just... weh?

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i’m so sorry for the late reply. please don’t ever apologise for sending me a long ask, i love and whole-heartedly appreciate them!

thank you so much! yess yield is quite important in science (though of course they vary by reactions) but for a synthesis one it’s great to get a good yield! ofc it was hard to tell how pure my product was and one guy told me his was super impure and we think someone contaminated his whole jar of starting material😳ah eid was so fun! and generally every family does eid a lil different mixing together islamic traditions with their cultural take! :)) and yess my dress was so pretty i felt beautiful🥺

i imagine how disturbing and uncomfortable that must’ve felt to have someone fetishise you! i defo think it’s super problematic just how much poc (and particularly i feel like asian girls) are fetishised but to have it come from a friend? idk but i feel like it’s super iffy that she wouldn’t use the name you preferred to be called by and insisted on using your japanese, something about that doesn’t sit well with cause it feels disrespectful to your preferences, yk? and yeah i defo get that! being broke isn’t a bad thing, often it’s out of people’s control but i’d understand why you’d feel hurt or annoyed that she doesn’t show gratitude for everything you’ve done for her :(( i’m really sorry you’ve had to deal with all this, it sounds so tiring and awful!!! but blaming you instead of accepting things and trying to work on herself is really not the right move :(( like personally i feel like people don’t deserve 2nd chances when they csnt even see what they’re doing wrong you know?

i imagine it must hurt to have ended a friendship but i’m glad you feel free! i hope this message has helped you get things off your chest!! i think you’ve done a super brave and good thing for yourself to cut it off and i hope you find peace from all this!❤️

#sweetheart asks <3 #sweetheart: anon