#just to specify: this isnt something that trans women specifically push

[danielnelsen]

i allude to this a lot but i also want to say outright.. i am so sick of the idea that trans women share every negative experience that trans men have and the only difference between the oppression we face is transmisogyny. stop pretending that trans men experience like...........Transphobia Lite™ and actually let us talk about our own experiences. it’s not transmisogyny to say that we face specific forms of discrimination that trans women dont. obviously it’s not “transmisandry”, that’s stupid, we’re not oppressed for being men. it mostly comes down to being afab and id generally call it misogyny (i understand why that’s controversial but it’s also accurate), but saying that doesnt mean that trans women magically have it better than us in any way (they dont). im sick of having to specify in any kind of post i make about the issues trans men face that i dont think trans women have it better. it goes without saying that they dont!!!!!! i dont wanna be sent hate for just talking about my life ughh

#personal #just to specify: this isnt something that trans women specifically push #yeah ive had trans women tell me off but also plenty of tme folks #im not trying to demonise trans women because that's really not the issue #the main issue is that i end up making posts like this because im too scared to actually talk about the transphobia that trans men experienc #and i just dont do it because i know im either gonna have to write a massive disclaimer or be called a terf #(this is not hypothetical it has happened) #and there are always gonna be people like 'well obviously that means you said the wrong thing' #my experiences didnt just not happen because they dont fit with your narrative #(like that time i lost a mutual because i said that someone who was homophobic towards me was ace) #(and they decided that was aphobia) #(like..that's not how this works. homophobia that's informed by someone's asexuality is still homophobia) #but that's another issue anyway