#just unfollow if it bothers you that much

[thought--bubble]

Taking a little breaky break

This is just a heads up for my small little group of people on here. I have come to call my friends. I just wanted to let you all know that I'm going to be taking a much needed respite from tumblr and probably discord, too. I am feeling lost, sad,overwhelmed, and confused.

I know it sounds silly or whatnot, but all of this stuff is overwhelming and depressing, and I feel sick when I open this app at this point.

The best word to use, I guess, would be winded, maybe?

I joined Tumblr in Sept 23, and at first, it was really fun, a much needed escape from my daily never-ending list of crap to do.

I unfortunately learned how crazy this fandom can get early on and the hard way. I had hoped that that was just a one-off due to my newbie ignorance and took it as a lesson learned for myself.

But it's starting to feel like the drama never fucking stops. It just keeps going, and nice people, kind people, just get dragged and ridiculed for seemingly no reason. I will pathetically admit that I am a sensitive soul, and the things I've read and seen have seriously negatively affected me.

When people are catty regarding people they don't like or that don't like them, I can usually reconcile that to a particular degree. People are, in fact, people. Not everyone is going to vibe with everyone, and people will make jokes at others' expense, and it isn't exactly mature, but it happens.

That is what I expected when I heard this was coming. Some catty shit slinging between people who don't like each other.

But that isn't all this was, and I'm having a really hard time with that. I even thought, "Oh maybe some moderately rude jokes here and there where you know cultural differences and stuff could account for that" like I'm from the northeast and we can be harsh out here. So something that may be offensive to someone from another area may be looked at here just as a joke made in poor taste.

I know I myself have made jokes or whatnot, but you would think certain things would be off limits.

I thought I could combat the negative with positives. Silly jokes, little messages filled with love, but even that isn't working at this point.

My heart hurts, and my brain hurts.

And all this stuff has made me question myself. I had a block list a mile long for the longest time. Filled predominantly with people I had never spoken to because I was scared, nervous, I didn't want to accidentally interact with a post of someone who would be upset that I did, I unfollowed blogs I liked based on this same principle. I just desperately did not want to make someone mad or uncomfortable and find myself back in some weird mean anon tornado.

I tried to sus out who would be bothered by my presence and who wouldn't. I can't even know if my thoughts on who may or may not be upset by me were based on my paranoia or a perception i developed or was potentially affected by outside sources.

Now, i just don't know what the hell is going on.

Sorry for the word vomit. Just wanted to be honest. There are some of us out here who are just standing around with question marks over our heads.

Maybe it's because I wasn't here for a lot of that other weirdness. Maybe it's because of early events that shaped my experience on this app, but I for sure 100% need a break.

I'm an odd duck and love this app mostly because it's the only site I've seen where others actively fan-girl over my favorite Ewan character.

But right now, not even my love for Will can keep me on this app, and for those who know me, that's truly saying something.

This post is not meant to badmouth anyone at all. Honestly at this point I couldn't bad mouth anyone because I'm fucking lost on who anyone really is or how they really feel about things, dude I'm just plain lost.

Thank you to those who have been kind. My apologies to those I may have judged or assumed things about based on who the hell knows.

I hope that when I come back, I can open this app without yet another person that I like having a post of them being torn apart. Or a post of a story that I had heard being told in a completely different way and throwing me for a complete loop.

For now I am going to watch Will edits on TikTok and maybe read via Ao3.

Love and healing vibes to all.

#To my lovelies #I'll be back #I'm just not sure when #hotd fandom

[thesmokinpossum]

if cosmetic surgery has one million number of haters i am one of them. if cosmetic surgery has ten haters i am one of them. if cosmetic surgery has no hater i am no more on the earth. if world for cosmetic surgery , i am against the world. i hate cosmetic surgery till my last breath...die hard hater of cosmetic surgery . 

#a controversial opinion probably but i want this to be very clear #i hate cosmetic surgery i hate the fact that it's advertised on social media like that's not insane i hate how there's a push to consider it #'feminism' or 'self care" #i just hate it with all of my earth and nothing (absolutely nothing) will ever change my opinion on that #unfollow and block if it truly bothers you too much to interact with a cosmetic surgery hater #anti plastic surgery #anti cosmetic surgery

[cookinguptales]

so i sent all these asks and i'd just like to clarify i never said nandor was evil. i just don't like the reception that an arc about guillermo is getting from fandom which is to overfocus on nandor and to villainize guillermo. and again i didn't call him evil but the toxic label is thrown around very easily about unhealthy/co-dependent ship which nandermo is but it's also a ship that has one party (nandor) emotionally abusing the other. that doesn't mean it's gonna remain that way

well, anon, I don't want you to feel like I'm mischaracterizing you, so here's I guess a post of screenshots of all the asks you've sent me in the last 24 hours.

you don't. have to follow me. you understand that right?

I've been cheerfully villainizing Guillermo, my favorite character in the world, for years now. I am a ground-floor Guillermo villainizer. I love how villainous he is. It's thrilling. Really feels like he's finally coming into his own, villain-wise. He finally has enough power to ruin vampiric lives in addition to the human ones he's been ruining since episode 1, and I love that for him.

You seem to be reading me saying they're all irredeemable assholes as nihilistic rather than gleeful, so maybe there's a fundamental miscommunication here? To be very clear, I think them all being assholes is very fun. I like watching them all emotionally destroy each other and then build each other back up again. I like how dysfunctional literally every relationship in the show is. I like to use my tumblr to study these guys like weird little lovingly cannibalistic bugs.

I love Guillermo and want him to be in the exact relationship he has earned, and -- this part is super fun for me personally -- he is! For better or for worse, this is the exact relationship he has chosen with his shitty and yet very loving actions. I'm really enjoying things just the way they are. Their complex power dynamics make me absolutely feral. It's only fun for me because Guillermo has the power to hold his own and hurt Nandor right back.

I have written probably like 300k+ words of fic and an unknown but probably ungodly amount of meta on that subject, and I intend to keep doing so, pretentious or not. That's how I have fun here.

So like. This is just not the fandom environment for you, maybe? And that's fine. You should be doing fandom in a way that's fun for you, too.

Not really sure what you want from me here. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

#the ship IS toxic and I love it that way #(don't know why that word bothers you so much; abuse and toxicity are not mutually exclusive) #sorry anon #I really feel like you should probably just unfollow me though it doesn't feel like you're having a good time #replies #wwdits tag

[corpsoir]

hey would it be a problem to ask for tagging the posts mentioning your OCs? As in not just the posts of their art but like when you offhandely mention them as well. Like in tags or in some asks. Just wanted to ask cause they make me paranoid but I don't really want to unfollow cause otherwise I love your content.

yes that would be a problem, im not gonna do that

#if my ocs bother you THAT much just unfollow buddy #plus i already tag all of my oc stuff. but im not gonna go out of my way to tag every single mention of them??? #this is just my funnie haha blog man im just trying to have fun here you dont owe me anything you can unfollow #ask

[conjectureand-gloom]

im unfollowing u because too many of your 'personal' posts keep flooding my dash

LMAO okay anon, thanks for letting me know, i won’t miss you :)

#asks #anon dearest #life hack: just block the personal tag :)))) #or just think of me as a human being who has feelings and is going through a shitty time #who also really does not need to hear this‚ thanks :))) #or just unfollow me if i bother you that much

[risingsunresistance]

this feels a bit cringey/embarrassing, but also feels like the only time to share these. here’s some rising sun sketches that never saw the light of day. i could never figure out what to do with them, i kept redoing them over and over and eventually gave up so they’re very messy, but the sunflowers and the hopeful message of the rising sun always meant a lot to me even though it’s just a silly server. maybe i’ll finish one as a bit of a parting message

the sun will rise again

#that quote holds a lot more meaning to me with this i think #it was already really touching to me. and i know that seems silly. it all feels silly #but i cant express how much hypixel has changed me. and how much he changed me. this event was the most fun i'd had in YEARS. #sorry i cant stop talking. i expected to shut down but now i just want to keep talking about how much he meant to me #you can unfollow if you need. i get it #i havent been tagging them because. what do i say. not much of a catch-all for this... sorry if it's bothering anyone

[rosicheeks]

✨If you don’t love all bodies I want you to get the fuck off my blog right now✨

#it’s just?????? #this blog is all about loving yourself and loving everyone #there is no room for hate on my blog #and if you feel the need to comment on my body or anyones body you need to unfollow me #and check yourself #why do you feel the need to send hate? #there is so much hate in this world already #don’t add to it #spread love #and if you truly can’t - go home and figure out why you are so full of hate #ok I’m gonna go smoke #i really don’t care what they said #it just bothers me that they took the time to go on my blog and type it out #like bro #don’t you have anything better to do? #that’s all #I’m gonna go smoke now #shut up rosie

[panuccispizza]

my tbh of the day... get the fuck out of online queer/discourse spaces and get the fuck into things that you enjoy and bring you enthusiasm and inspire you. meet queer people in those spaces. you will be happier btw.

#this is targeted at people vaguely 18+ and more specifically queer people who have been out of the closet for longer than like a year #like if youre not a babyqueer anymore you have no use in spaces that are catered specifically to educating and discoursing babyqueer topics+ #and literal shit from cishet people. #the internet is now full of lgbtphobic fascists that want to make the lives of trans people just miserable online and offline #and getting out of public online trans spaces and unfollowing big name trans accounts or groups will help you out #if this is something that is bothering you psychologically #and i promise it gets better the further you put down the Toxic Tome of Transphobia (twitter/your phone on r/ftm #etc) #i deleted twitter and my old reddit to make a fresh new one where i only follow my interests + hobbies and nothing about who i am #and oh wow am i happier. bored! but your supposed to be bored sometimes. its important for your mental health to experience underwhelmingnes #transphobia effects your mental health in rancid awful ways and you cant ignore it forever and scrolling and muting only does so much #sometimes you have to just leave. for yourself #its ok to leave. #its ok to take care of yourself. you are your only self and your only life and you need to protect it with your FULLL fucking heart

[asmoonlightthroughthepines]

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#i have been barely functioning what with the horrors of the world lately (and the horrors just keep piling on) #and am being v careful to not reblog anything so as to keep this place as gentle as poss because i’m probably not the only one who needs tha #(i’ve tried to avoid any kind of horrific details and even so the very little i read will haunt me for the rest of my life) #but i just CANNOT. for the life of me. wrap my head around how people can hear of such abject violence #being inflicted upon another living being -human or animal- and feel anything but absolute horror #like how much do you have to hate jews to be able to switch off any ounce of humanity and compassion for a living being? #the sheer number of folks - including close friends - i’ve unfollowed in the last week is staggering. #literally because i do not believe that anyone should ever get raped. like i thought we all agreed on this. #APPARENTLY NOT. i’ve never seen so many feminists brush off rape. #worst is these are all folks who love to post about punching nazis and who laugh at jewish jokes #when they’re from carrie fisher or mrs maisel or crazy ex gf or schmitt from new girl #but when it’s an actual pogrom - no more punching nazis all of a sudden #something broke in me this week to see that so-called activists who i thought were kind and decent - #don’t apparently believe that all human lives are created equal #it’s like we’ve all been working hard on being anti-racist but some of us didn’t feel that not being antisemitic was worth the bother

[francy-sketches]

Hope you’re ok btw ❤️

yea im ok dw <3 just kinda bummed out by the whole thing but whateverrr we move on twitter doesn't matter anyway ^_^

also idk if you sent me another ask or if that was a different anon but. I'm not gonna answer it bc I don't wanna create more drama (and also I'm trying to resolve it in dms rn so. don't wanna ruin that by being petty) but thanks for the support same goes for the other anons 🫶

#Anonymous #asks #well I was spending too much time on twitter anyway and this made me want to not do that so. silver lining ig #idk im usually not bothered by online drama but this is. idk. maybe it's bc I got attacked for something I didn't do #or maybe it's bc I'm now hated by some of the most annoying people on twitter who seem to behave like a hivemind. so that's fun #goddamn this other person I was arguing with really got on my nerves. genuinely so fucking obnoxious. and worst of all stupid -_- #'erm clearly I know what you meant better than you do' ok well go fuck yourself. hope you piss your pants. everyday #I share a mutual with that person and tbh I might just unfollow them bc I don't want to see their annoying ass. sorry oomfie 😔 #just to be clear I don't mean the artist I mean the other person who came at me. before I get accused of vagueing artists again #maybe I'm also being dramatic bc I've been feeling like a dying victorian child for the past few days. I'll live tho #sorry just needed 2 rant. still kinda mad lol but its ok 🙂

[starbuck]

you know, the consequence of having a very small pool of mutuals who are nice and normal people is that i regularly see very aggressive counterarguments against things i have literally never heard people say… and it’s not that i doubt it *is* said by someone somewhere, but like… OFMD is a good example of this…

some rando: UHM. you know there’s ANOTHER gay pirate show that came first, right?????

my friends and i, who have been Black Sails fans for years, which is literally how we knew that OFMD existed: yes???????????

and now it’s happening again re: the Knives Out stuff…

rando: UHM. you know that watching a movie isn’t *PRAXIS*, right?? it’s just a fun detective film.

me, who have watched my friends enjoy them as fun detective films and who just finally watched the original Knives Out three years late and thought it was a fun detective film: yes??????????????????

And it’s just like. Look, I know that I’m the problem here because I’ve curated my online experience too well… i’m not doubting that people are saying these things… but, because i haven’t seen it and have only seen my friends and i being normal, i can only imagine the OP’s in these cases watching people chill and have a harmless good time while red in the face and fully shaking with rage.

#it’s both obnoxious and hilarious to me #like. WHO IS SAYING THIS????????? #and - if there are people saying this - perhaps just unfollow or block them????????? if it’s really bothering you that much????????????? #i mean. it would bother me… i would unfollow for someone saying either of those things - so extremely valid #but just like. lol. #again - i’m Part Of The Problem by posting this… a counterargument to the counterargument just starting the process all over again… #but i had to say smth bc this happens all the time… with other things too - these are just the examples i can think of rn #like. i get that the posts in question aren’t @ me and i should just look the other way but hhhhhhhhh idk…

[spacemilkbag]

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#anonie i just saod i dont care you wont convince #if it bothers you so much feel free to unfollow like go touch some grass talk to some irl people it's really not that serious

[silkylious]

I'm genuinely not trying to be rude so I hope you don't take it that way but I followed you for your writing and you don't even write that much anymore

I'm just saying make a side blog for all the edits and gifs and art because people didn't follow you for that they followed you for writing (which you don't do much of anymore)

you know you can always unfollow this blog, right

#i don't really check my notifications for my main all that much anymore and this is the reason #i get that part of it is because people appreciate my writing and want more of it #but have you considered #i have a life? crazy ik #between senior year and university applications and and traveling to and from egypt i think you should get why i don't have as much time #to finish wips and post them #it bothers me even more than it bothers you trust me lol #not a day goes by when i don't think about how i have so many unfinished wips that i just don't have the time or energy to complete rn #but also like. my future's at stake here lol this is a very crucial period of my life sorry writing fanfiction isn't my priority rn #also ???? what's wrong with keeping other types of fan content on my main LMAO #legitimately don't?? understand?? the problem with that??? they're all fandoms that i write for what's the issue here 😭 #if it's flooding your dash (even though it's presumably from fandoms you followed me for skull emoji) unfollow this blog no hard feelings #don't tell me how to run my blog ty #anyway if you think this in any way shape or form makes me wanna write again i'm sorry to disappoint 💀 #silky smooth chats #anon

[mbspolls]

I think that might've been me and I'm sorry. I don't remember ever saying anything about that, but I can be unconsciously rude when it comes to adaptations. I never meant to be that way.

I understand entirely if you still feel that way towards me, and I will be unfollowing I promise.

I'm sorry for whatever I may had said.

if this completely unprompted response to "what did you think of my quiz" is you (which i believe it must be, as i haven't really gotten any other rude uquiz comments in a while):

then i don't understand how this can be "unconsciously rude" or some sort of accident. do you just always throw this kind of thing around without thinking?

i also don't understand how, if this is, in fact, you, you can apologize for something you apparently don't remember. "sorry if i was mean, i forgot, and it was probably because i'm always mean about adaptations"??

i happen to love adaptations, and this one in particular. and both my blog and the uquiz were labelled as being primarily TV/show verse. if you don't enjoy that, that's fine! but that's no reason to come into my house and piss on the furniture??

so, basically. listen, dude, i'm open to apologies, and i'm quick to forgive. but this? this is kinda a non-apology, my guy. "i'm sorry for whatever i may have said" is literally textbook non-apology.

#anyway listen im not saying FUCK OFF FOREVER AND DIE #im saying this was rude and hurtful #and a noncommittal 'sorry i might have been mean idk not sure tho' isnt really much of an apology? just. #listen you dont have to unfollow or whatever okay. just. dont do this kind of thing? #work on not being 'unconsciously rude'. if you see someone enjoying something you dont like you just. dont have to tell them it sucks??? #hell if it bothers you you can block THEM or even me #god knows i tend to block people who post negativity for the show--not because they dont have the right to an opinion #but because i dont really want to see that (negativity that is not any criticism at all) #but i dont come up to them like actually the books can suck my dick and the show is sent down from heaven by god herself personally #ya know? #listen. have a good day alright? i don't want you to be agonizing over this forever. #you did a mean thing it doesn't necessarily make you a Bad Person #just?? dont do this again please??? PLEASE??? #i spend a lot of time on these and this kind of thing is so discouraging i just want to delete all of them #like i WON'T but i want to

[boylikeanangel]

would u be willing to tag use of she/her for ed? it just personally triggers me but i understand if u dont want to

I dont mean to sound rude or whatever but if it really bothers u that much please just unfollow me lmao

#i always refer to ed as she nowadays pretty much without exception im not going to tag the use of pronouns #ive said before if any tf ed stuff bothers u that much just block or unfollow me #sorry someone being referred to as she upsets you so much but thats not my responsibility :/ #ask #negative //

[absintheanflare]

i am slowly losing followers due to gougarposting and being mentally ill (aka sexy as hell) and i think this is a very funny concept

#selfpost #VERY funny to me that i'll show Symptoms of potential personality disorder bc i Have Symptoms and people get tired of it #like this is said in complete respect too btw. shoutout to the boys out there who unfollow people . i love unfollowing people #like im not madanyone is unfollowing/making fun of them its just. simply Genuinely funny to me in a respectful way <3 #go girl you unfollow the symptom havers when their posts bother you to much!!!! #for the other part. cant help but goug. love gougar. cant stop saying gougar out loud.