#kinda struggled to keep his likeness but WHATEVERRRR

[yes-these-obsessions-are-healthy]

Not to be heavy and real in a fandom space, but I was reading a fanfic centering around male yanderes (as I do) and for some reason it only just hit me now that the vast majority of fanfiction produced by women revolving around hetero relationships is just..trauma therapy to cope with how shitty and violent and scary men are to women IRL. No matter if it’s a fic about sexual assault, or a stalker, or a possessive BF, or whateverrrr, it is simulating real life fears women have of men and the dangers all men pose toward all women. And sometimes, these bastards learn and get better. Sometimes they get worse and get punished at the end. Sometimes the woman cannot escape and is left trapped in his clutches, or doing her best to appease the man to save herself, and accidentally ends up sympathizing with him. Sometimes that sympathy is what he wants to keep her, sometimes it helps him see the light. Either way, women are made to be a sacrifice.

I’m not saying it’s wrong. Do not stop writing and exploring these things. But it’s just..kinda sad that the only way these things can ever be fully resolved is in our collective imagination as writers and readers. Im a way even the most ridiculous story validates womens’ experiences, or anyone who a man, any man, might find sexually attractive, period.

Idk it’s..weird, reading yandere stories, reading the ways that the OCs/Readers struggle and fail to escape the yandere, and how the failure and martyrdom for a man’s obsessive love is part of the appeal. Maybe I’m just in a mood and not in the right headspace for dark psychological shit right now, but it’s like..at this point it’s not even “your worst fear come true” horror to me, it’s just realistic fiction.

#fandom #writing