#kindating issue

[fictionkinfessions]

Me: I am an adult kinnie in my 20s, I am beyond kindating

Also me: okay but what if—

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#fictionkinfessions #fictionkin #kwrd #kindating issue #mod party cat

[unhingedkinfessions]

adhd fucking w my personality bc my everchanging hyperfixes possess almost my entire thinking and how i relate to things bc it's the only thing my brain will tolerate media-hobby-wise while im in the trenches of a hyperfix VS my kinlist which im trying not to let bloat bc i feel bad about it bc then im afraid ppl will think im a tiktok kff kinnie who kindates and is kind of rude instead of a guy who psychologically kins but has The Issues. (supersmashbros announcer vc) fight!

the magic solution to this problem is to remember you dont have to tell anyone jack shit

#kinfessions #anonymous #fictionkin #mod pikmin #like if youre scared people will mock you for information then you can simply choose not to share it #not their damn business

[caliginouscreature]

being fictionkin + having an extremely obscure source + also being new to accepting being alterhuman in general has been p “Weird”, it’s like... okay... I’ve realized this part of myself... now what...

It’s good that ppl no longer tout stuff like kindating and canon calls as the goals and paths you Have To Follow when you’re fictionkin, and how dumb the prevalence of “no doubles” could be, but also maaaan kin communities on tumblr now just feel so much smaller... feels like there’s fewer options for ppl around my own (physical) age to talk to and learn from, and that pool is only SMALLER with how niche-within-a-niche my source is...

lot of my feelings and issues are like... they boil down to “yay, I’m figuring myself out better! but what do I do?”  A lot of folks go to lengths to “feel closer” to their kintypes and sources, but that’s a real challenge when there’s almost nothing out there about your ’type and source, including other fictionkin... feeling thoughtful and a tad isolated I suppose

#sincere deceit kin #sindec kin #off fangame kin #off spinoff kin #fictionkin #fictionkind #fictionhearted #alterhuman #otherkin community #otherkind #feeling pretty Zaph-y lately which is Neat but there are SO few active OFF spinoff kin left in public #at least I know SOME folks but only really on discord (except one <3 )

[gachapulls]

HERE

and because im crazy explanations below

POPIPA

kasumi: i think shes big on young justice in general so tim is her choice

tae: she a big bunny person as we know and i think she likes damian for his animal love

rimi: big fan of classic comics batgirl babs! but still wishes dc would move on from giving her batgirl in current comics

saaya: do you guys remember s1 of the anime . yeah . i think shed relate to dick just a wee bit

arisa: she does not care at all no kasumi shes not going to kindate timsteph with you

AGLOW

ran: she doesnt care/really know about batfam specifically . she likes the lanterns!

moca: she sees the loser in jason . and she loves the loser in jason <3

himari: she loves stephs 1st spoiler and batgirl eras! doesnt collect comics but has every issue from her batgirl run i know this

tomoe: ako made her watch btas with her so they could cosplay together LOL but then developed an actual liking to dicks character! she doesnt say it out loud but she loves discowing so much

tsugumi: shes not interested herself but she loves listening to her friends ramble about the characters :) <3

HAROHAPI

kokoro: grew up on the 60s show thats the only version of batman she know . also this is the michelle situation again she does NOT know bruce wayne is batman

kaoru: will go into long shakespearien analysis about his character and how troubled he is . idk man Someone had to like bruce as their favorite ok .

hagumi: one of those younger siblings that watched her older brother play videogames . but i think what really made her like dick was ttg . im sorry but cmon its hagumi

kanon: super surface level doesnt reeeeally care but she reads the webtoon for its lightheartedness and enjoys damian in it :) dont ask her about actual comics shell cry she only found out there was more than one robin like 3 days ago

misaki: her younger siblings made her watch batwheels LMAO but also i do think shes read some of her batgirl run and was like "woah comics arent as dumb as i thought"

PASUPARE

aya: sometimes girls just like other cool looking girls who are also cute is that so wrong? would maybe lowkey kin her too

hina: well canon to her character shes always looking for boppin things and i think duke is very boppin to her! his unique abilities and him being still relatively new makes for so much potential and shes really into that! she also really loved we are robin

chisato: oracle babs stan she is SO secret about it tho she finds it unprofessional in her position to like these things

maya: also oracle stan :) she likes all the techy aspects of her character and well green character like cmon . i think maya and chisato talk about her when theyre taking breaks during practice

eve: these damn kids with swords . yeah i think she loves the difficulty he has being from the two families hes from and how he deals with the weight . cried when his robin run was canceled (me too eve)

ROSELIA

yukina: you know her and cats . but i do think she really liked catwoman in batman 2022

sayo: had no interest until hina showed her some birds of prey comics . she just thinks helena is really cool and that jason fans are annoying LOL

lisa: big fan of the classic teen titans! i think dick is her second fav overall after donna

ako: ah we know this by now . biggest btas tim kinnie of all time no doubles doubles blocked on sight

rinko: okay this was so hard between cass and duke they are her two favs!!! but i can see her relating to cass a little more and for those reasons shed be rinkos fav :)

MORFONICA

mashiro: just isnt her type of thing but she watches intently when a batman movie comes on during their movie nights

touko: why ofc! she thinks batwoman is the coolest ever!

nanami: idk . you ask her why she likes jason and she just hits you with a :3 like its anyones guess at this point

tsukushi: again just doesnt care and she cant keep track of anything they tell her . "wait huh batmans parents are dead when did that happen" type question halfway into one of toukos rambles 😭

rui: i just know these things okay look at her... i dont think shes big on comics/cartoons so the pennyworth tv show is probably her reason for him being her fav

RAISE A SUILEN

rei: shed watch the dcau movies with tae and really enjoyed dicks character :)

rokka: waaay more into superfam but she enjoys damian after reading supersons :)

masuki: ITS NOT WHAT YOURE THINK . okay she likes jason as robin the most she thought he was cutesies and fun :) she also liked druglord villain type jason but thinks hes a total loser in recent years

pareo: hard to explain but i do think she sees parts of herself in dukes character and she really enjoys him for that :)

chu2: maybe im just tired from writing but if you kkow the two then you KNOW . shed read comics where damian is completely in the wrong like "why are they booing him hes right" 14 year olds will be kinnies ok

#txt #EEEEP yep uhm . yeah:)

[235uranium]

existing on this site is so painful bc I have so much built up knowledge of niche tumblr drama that got way out of control and people entirely unconnected who I follow will say stuff like "idk I don't get why this is even an issue how does this even matter irl" and I have to resist the urge to dm them to explain how someone did actually make kinnie bullshit into an irl problem because it doesn't matter. they're blissfully unaware rozwell. don't ruin it by telling them that no, there actually was a serious issue with c gee l ers allowing minors in kink on this site or about despairkomaeda like. existing. or kindating sites

#☢️.txt #i think some ppl on here rly escaped the worst depths of tumblr discourse #like twitter is awful dont get me wrong #but call me when the kincourse gets mainstream

[problematickinconfessions1]

every time i meet someone who i think could be a canonmate i end up wanting to kindate them. every. fucking. time. and every fucking time it happens it always goes wrong. usually because i jumped the gun and it isn't them, and/or i end up scaring them off because let's be real here, there's a lot of issues with kindating. it's not that i'm deliberately out to kindate or like that's my only reason to look for people, because that's obviously shitty and sets everyone up for failure, but i just miss this particular canonmate who i remember having a very, very strong and intense relationship with and i would give anything to find them again and know that they're looking for me for the same reason as well. i'm just scared that i'll never find them again, or if i do... that they've already moved on, or that their relationship status and love life are different now. if i knew how to let it go and just be happy with whoever else shows up in my life, any old john smith or jane doe non-kin or double or whatever, i would, but... it's not the same. everything in my core has, and always will, ache to find this one canonmate again. i miss him so much and trying to suppress this kintype or these feelings is just going to tear me apart.

Have you looked into soulbonding?

That said its better to search thoroughly here first. Because sometimes you really do find each other. A lot of us here have found ours and are heavily involved, live our lives out together.

Give it a good hard search. Make yourself a rule not to date them until at least 8-12 months in.

#mod tyki #confessions

[1000-sunny]

ive only been romantically in love with 3 people my entire life and 2 was more consistent than the 3rd.

one was a stoner boy who made good coffee and wore a leather jacket and honestly quite a nice person but a lot of problems and issues. (mentally). the second was this guy who was a lesbian at the time i knew him who was a lot more charismatic and witty than you would expect and i liked him a lot at the time but last i saw of him he was in a weird kindating relationship (that was very possessive for some reason?) so the drop of opinion was much more drastic. third was tumblr user trans azuril i still talk to him regularly i cant put him on blast hes my friend. no drop of opinion i still love him but not romantically and i still mourn the death of our relationship but i think we just dont fit together in that sense. were in a better place now and its alright.

anyways what does the future have in store? hopefully a girlfriend im bisexual but have only fallen in love w men. i really want to have an experience with a woman im not ready for a relationship now but for some beautiful woman i will hopefully become a racoon of a trophy husband/wife

#txt

[catboy-joyfriend]

okay i can never admit to being a homestuck guy on main. but for this elijadam au. one way or another, one of them has to kin vriska. this is par for the course for an au in which both are “problematic”. and i mean. if you want to follow the obvious connection here. they could kindate vrisrezi. the issue is that this sounds fucking insane coming out of my mouth

oh god bless

[aberrate]

i get why people post like "once u find the right one you'll find that there was nothing wrong with u". it makes you feel cozy and warm and less like shit. and sometimes it's true. but sometimes there IS something wrong with you that You gotta work on. this may come as a surprise but relationships have two people in them who are both equally responsible for their own growth 😳

#changelog.md #maybe relationships aren't about finding the Right One with whom you will never so much as vaguely disagree with #like maybe you kindating people for all your kintypes is not necessarily a Just Them issue

[y0d00p]

dametameta dametameta dametameta

GOD okay fair warning, obviously a lot of what I'll be talking about is related to personal interpretation headcanon stuff, like MK has SOME backstory/characterization, DMK has practically nothing, there's a lot of blanks to fill in lol When I started shipping them: 2018ish I think? When I got back into Kirby and started fixating hard on DMK. It sort of started with my partner teasing me with saucy gay rivalry ideas, then we started rping and developing them.

My thoughts: They are so special to me... Personal shit aside, man what a cool pair! The gay rivalry/dark version of myself aesthetic is just so good, love that enemies to lovers shit, love to see how their differences play off each other, the self reflection they can experience through each other, etc. Obviously there isn't a lot of like, extensive content of them, but even when people just make them friends at least I love seeing the different ways they go from hating each other to liking/loving each other. It's just a really cool, fun dynamic! I'm sure people into metagala understand :P

Personal shit back up front: I've mentioned before how I put myself into my DMK and my partner has themself in their MK, so I also just have a very personal attachment to them. We're not kinnies but I joke about us "kindating" LOL. It's really cozy getting to sort of live vicariously through the pair with my long distance partner through RPs and art, and on more than one occasion, I've sort of "vented" through DMK about issues I have that I project onto him, lol...

What makes me happy about them: I just love that they are both so fucked up in their own ways and still love each other so much. Just that concept of feeling so broken and wrong and having this amazing person that you're sure is so much better than you, love and support you and lift you up. I think my happiest thing about them is just thinking of how they take care of each other and heal together.

What makes me sad about them: In the past couple weeks I've been feeling a lot better about it, with a LOT of thanks to some very very kind people on tumblr and the servers I'm in, but like, yeah, it does suck that a not insignificant portion of the fandom thinks the ship is problematic, or at least "weird" enough to want it as far away from them as possible, I mean it's bad enough there's so little content of them lmao!!

Things done in fanfic that annoys me: There's maybe like 6 dametameta fanfics that exist and 5 of them are written by the same person, so I can't really express annoyance with any particular trends without it just coming off like I'm shitting on that author LOL (I miss you Poe I hope you're doing well!!)

I guess I could say the usual portrayal of MK and DMK always hating each other (in fics, art, whatever) is unfortunate, but like, I also totally understand and it's a normal interpretation for them. But it'd be nice to see them being friendly more often!

Things I look for in fanfic: Again, I'd love to just see more of them being friendly in general, it doesn't even have to be shippy! Hell they don't even have to interact much just have DMK being more than a bit villain or just Daroach's boyfriend... please I'm so desperate I'm so hungry

My wishlist: Anything...anything... a crumb... please... holding hands... looking at each other fondly... standing in the same room... I'm dying

Who I’d be comfortable them ending up with, if not each other: Galacta for DMK and Morpho for MK lol

My happily ever after for them: Unlike Morpho and Galacta I think MK and DMK have kind of had enough... exciting new experiences... I mean if morphogala are a couple in their 20s, dametameta are a couple pushing 50. I just love to think of them having kids and being relaxed and domestic and cute... let the old men rest... grow old together... pls

#kirby #dark meta knight #meta knight #dmkmk

[kristahliaweek]

mod 2, it seems you're jumping to conclusions. noah would never betray your kindating like that, and he has insisted he is not kristoph kin. perhaps the real issue here is your judge of character :> I suggest you try to calm down and don't place blame wildly -dahliairl 🌸

FUCK OFF. I KNOW YOU TWO HAVE SOMETHING GOING ON. YOURE THE REASON IM LOSING A FRIEND 

#Anonymous

[chaotictrashcrown]

Pitong Dahilan Kung Bakit Mahal Kita

Kapag kinakantahan mo ako. Naaalala ko noong unang beses kong nadinig ang boses mo. Nasa bussing area ka nagpupunas ng mga plato. Kinakanta mo ung Beautiful Goodbye ng Maroon 5. Humanga ako sa ganda ng boses mo at hanggang ngayon kinikilig ako kapag kinakanta mo ung mga pinapakanta ko sayo. Your voice is my favorite babe.

Ung mga ngiti mo na bumibihag lagi sa marupok kong puso. Haha. Simula noon naging close tayo sa store tuwang tuwa ako sa mga ngiti mo, mga ngiting may kasama pang kindat. Hihi. Nagpapacute ka talaga sakin nun. Wahaha.

Alam mo kung pano ako pakakalmahin pag galit ako at alam mo kung paano mo ako pangitiin pag malungkot ako. Alam mo ang mga bagay na dapat sabihin sakin para pakiligin ako. Marunong kang magpakumbaba kapag alam mong kasalanan mo. Napapalaki man natin minsan ang away, sa huli nagkaka ayos din tayo.

Andyan ka sa tuwing kailangan kita. Never kang pumalya kapag kailangan kita sa tabi ko. Naalala ko dinamayan mo ako nung iniyakan ko ung letseng coffee pitcher sa store kasi nabasag. Nung mga panahong sobrang apektado ako sa kumalat na issue sa store at ako napagbintangan. Hindi mo talaga ako hinayaan na mag-isa lang nung hinarap ko ung mga kupal na tao sa store kase may proxy ka nun. Haha. Kapag nagkakasugat ako, ikaw lagi ang tagalinis ko. Maging malaki man yan o maliit. May kasama pang kiss un para gumaling agad. Hihi. Salamat mahal.

Kapag nagkukwento ka tungkol sa sarili mo. Ung mga bagay na unti-unti mong sinasabe sa akin. Naalala ko nung nagkwento ka tungkol sa sarili mo, tungkol sa pamilya mo at mga bagay na sa tingin ko sakin mo lang nasasabi. Natutuwa ako sa tuwing sinasabi mo sa akin lahat ng naiisip at nararamdaman mo at kapag pinapapasok mo ako sa weirdo mong mundo.

Sa pagintindi mo sa pagtatakaw ko. Alam kong concern ka lang sa katawan ko kaya ayaw mo na masyadong kumain ako ng kanin at ng matatamis. Kahit na minsan ikaw din naman ang dahilan kung bakit ako kumakain ng mga un kasi pinasasalubungan mo ako ng mga paborito ko at dinadamayan sa katakawan ko. Natutuwa ako na give and take lang tayo pagdating sa pagkain.

At higit sa lahat, sa walang sawang pagmamagal at pagtyatyaga sa ugali ko. Ung pursigi mo magpunta lagi sa bahay at minsan sa trabaho ko. Ung pursigi mo din para maging legal tayo at unti-unti akong ipakilala sa mga taong malapit sa puso mo. Ang effort mo sakin lalo ngayon. Kaya minsan naiintindhan ko kung bakit nagtatampo ka kung hindi kita napupuntahan sa school samantalang ikaw kahit pagod na nagagawa mo pa din ako daanan sa bahay para makasama.

Napakarami pang dahilan kung bakit mahal kita, kasama na dun ung pag haplos mo mga buhok ko, kapag pinang gigigilan mo ako, kapag pinakikinggan mo ako sa mga kwento ko, nung hindi mo na talaga kinakausap ung mga taong pagseselosan ko kasi ayaw mong mag away tayo. Pero yang pitong yan ang nagpabihag talaga ng sobra sa puso ko. Yiee. Hahaha.

Mahal ko, maraming salamat dahil nakilala kita. Ngayon lang ako sumaya ng ganito sa isang relasyon. Siguro kaya hindi nagwork ung mga nauna kong relasyon, para maappreciate ko ung relasyon na meron tayo ngayon. Hindi man perpekto, ginagawa pa din natin ung mga bagay na makakapagpasaya sa atin. Hangad ko na tumagal tayong dalawa. Marami pa akong plano na kasama ka, mahal. Mga lugar na gustong puntahan,mga pagkain na gustong kainin, mga librong gustong basahin kasama ka. Wag ka sana magsawa sa akin at mapagod na mahalin ako.

Mahal kita at ikaw lang sapat na. 😉😘

#mylove #reasonswhyiloveyou

[nonballoon]

i kindated someone in january we were jjba kin we dated after knowing each other for a week and they told everyone they knew irl about me including their parents and sent me photos of their bruises daily and never spoke to me alone and then we broke up because i had feelings for [redacted] (prash) and realised they were sort of weird and we stayed as friends but then one day they became eddsworld kin and we didnt talk as much and i rbed a post calling eddsworld kin factkin so they blocked me and a few months after i made a post on vent listing stuff my ex did that creeped me out so my “best friend” sent their boyfriend who’s my ex’s best friend pictures of my private vents behind their backs to “fix our friendship” so me and my ex could be friends again without even asking me about it and the only reason i found out was because my best friend was friends with my ex and i vagued and they found out and then confessed about the vents and my ex wrote an apology basically blaming all our problems on me not telling them they were being creepy but also i had trust issues and wasnt comfortable confiding in them but apparently that was my fault

[foulserpent]

i think part of the issue with couples tagging things as “me and you” in a kin way is NOT ONLY is it very uncomfortable for the artist but it also indicates that they are the type of people who would kindate, which in itself is a colossal red flag and a signal that they should be avoided at all costs

#like theres some couples who were actually dating before kin shit but they are. very very rare

[nothin---g]

August 8 2017

Uulitin ko lang yung mga tinype ko kanina sa mas maayos at malinis na paraan, feeling ko kasi yung pagkakatype ko kanina gulo-gulo nanaman yung thoughts ko. (nakakasawa na ha)

Kung dati siguro may chance na kiligin pa ako sa nangyari ngayon. Yung una nung hindi ko sinasadya na magkatapat yung side natin at mga dalawang beses kitang binalikan ng tingin. Sinilip ko kung namamalik mata lang ba ako nung nakita kitang nakatingin pero wow stay strong yung tingin mo sa’kin medyo ang strange na sa pakiramdam kasi nga hindi na katulad ng dati. Sa totoo lang gusto kitang lapitan ngayon as a friend kasi feeling ko kailangan mo din. Hindi na ikaw katulad nung dati na sobrang carefree at walwal sa buhay well okay lang naman maging mature pero ewan ko sadness na yung nakikita ko sa pagmumukha mo and I swear pwede mo ako maging crying shoulder ng wala ng meaning.

Gustung-gusto ko ng sabihin don sa kaibigan kong lalake na kung pwede sana habang maaga pa tigilan niya na yung pagbati sa’kin na may kasamang kiss at kindat kasi (no feelings attached) baka masanay ako. Ayoko na pagdating ng araw biglang iba na lang yung approach mo pagtapos iisipin ko kung may nagawa ba akong mali or what.

Ang dami ko nanamang nalaman ngayong araw na ‘to (sex, drugs and suicide)and yung fact na hindi namin namalayan na sobrang busog na kami at ang bilis lumipas ng oras. Ang dami kong gustong ichat at icomfort (kahit na hindi ako magaling sa gantong bagay I fucking swear). Hanggang sa napansin ko na tumutulong nanaman ako sa iba, uubusin ko nanaman yung naipon kong energy para sa iba pagtapos ako nanaman yung mauubos ako nanaman yung magpapakatatag kasi nakasanayan ko na. Habang tinatype ko ‘to medyo cringy kasi gusto ko talaga sa blog ko happy lang ayaw ko ng sadness pero eto lang outlet ko kasi ayoko ng magexplain sa mga taong nasa paligid ko kasi may problema na din sila. Ayaw ko ng maging pabigat at ayaw ko na din madisappoint yung sarili ko sa fact na minsan pag kailangan ko sila, hindi nila napapansin or wala sila sa tabi ko.

Naffrustrate na din pala yung mga kaibigan ko sa kababaan ng self confidence ko at kung anu-ano pa. Sorry guys. Mahal ko naman yung sarili ko believe me pero hindi porket hindi maganda ang tingin ko sa sarili ko ay binababa ko na yung sarili ko. Ang akin lang nakasanayan ko na kasi na icompare sa iba, maagawan ng mga mag magaganda sa’ kin at iwanan para sa mas better. Hindi niyo din ako masisisi kasi nakasanayan ko na lang talaga bigla. As in namanhid or wala na akong pakiramdam sa gantong issue and mind set ko na na ganto ako okay? Wag kayong mag-alala sa’kin kinakaya ko pa. Kakayanin ko pa.

#hindimalilimutan

[sapatosnasira]

Tanginaaa memories nung single ako, napaalala nanaman sakin! Ng bebe ko kung gaano ako kagago! " haaay LT 😂

Paaano ba naman kasi di ko nananaman alam bat need basahin ng bebe ko old convos namin ni jane... Lalo na nung single pako... Hahaha lt throwback putanginaaaa!!

Ito yung times na nag titinder kami!! Hahahaha LT 😂 kapag malungkot ako papalibre ako kay jane tapos siya pa mismo maghahanap sakin ng girl sa tinder, kasi si kupal, puro ka fb lang!! Gusto sa tinder,

Naalala ko tuloy yung BJ na ginawa namin nila ralph 5yrs ago... At yung nanonoood ako ng live sex na ako mismo nag video!!

Tanginang usapan toh!! Sobrang memories!! Ito yung time na tigang kami pareho at puro tinder lang ginagawa namin, at bigla ko naaalala, si jane lang yung open na tropa ko na pwede ko lokohin about sa kantutan, eutan... Hahaha muntik na may mangyari samin after nung sex scandal vid with gel and her buti di talaga!!!! never na tutuloy, hahaaha baka may sakit na ako ngayon!!! 😌

Hahahahaa,, pero nalala ko nag bj kami kay jane at pota sa aming 3 ako may pinakamaliit na etits, di pa natigas so parang LT 😁 ako pinakamatanda pero pinakamaliit parang di nga bj yun hahaha!! Parang liiit ng sausage yung brown na imported hahaha!

Bakit pa kasi pinaalala toh ng bebe ko.. Old skul nemories tinder memories..., salaahat ng kagaguhan ko, its always jane na sasakay sa mga jokes ko.. Hahahahaha

Pero siyempre ngayun di na ako single, at mas importante na lagi so jonabelle pipiliin ko over her!!

Nung procession, 😂 andun c jane hanggang kindat na lang at nilalayuan ko na, baka kasi ano nanaman maisip ng bebe ko mahirap na... . ❤️ Mahal ko eh, 😍

Hahahahaa putang ina tawang tawa talaga aako sa memories na yan!! Pag nag sasabi ako eut!! Alam na,!!! Hahahanap si gago nang ka eut sa tinder at papakita pa sakin kung, papasa sa standards para eutin yung guy😛 tanginaaaa!!!,

Kaya nakakatawa talagaaaa kasi takot ako dahil buti nalang wala nangyari samin hahaa bj lang ahahaha kundi!!

Baka ako may sakit na 😂😂😂

Anyway ano naman kaya iniiisip ng bebe ko😢???? Haaaay mamaya sabihin ang baboy ko, tapos sasabihin niya gusto niya makipag usap about it? 😢 Tapos ano baka sabihin ayaw na nya!!

=( ang sad sobra 😢

Tapos ano i judge niya ako dahl ganon ako makipag usap kay jane knowing na alam niya past namen at nasabi ko naaaaa!

Haaaaaayyy 😢 kakatapos lang nung issue tungkol kagabi na about sa GETS ngayun bago nanaman 😥😥😥😞😞😞