#kinkshaming

[hussyknee]

Just saw someone on Twitter call AO3 the "place where freaks post their freak shit". If AO3 ever needed a marketing slogan, they should use that LMAO.

That's right bitch, we're freaks and proud of it! That's what the rainbow is FOR.

#amazing how antis keep hitting the nail directly on the head and bouncing off it #imagine thinking queer people aren't proud of being freaks #sometimes I feel some sympathy for these people because yeah fandom is a lot #but then they're so flagrantly homophobic and horrible #do they realize they're spewing radfem and conservative rhetoric #anti bullshit #purity culture #ao3 #fandom wankery #tw homophobia #kinkshaming #censorship #knee of huss

[belliesandburps]

*Whispers*

Dazai.

God of Gas / Belch King / Burp Factory / Ye Olde Gasbag / No Thanks / Who?

Dabi is one of my biggest kink crushes in MHA. He also, canonically, has a very weak stomach, getting really queasy by turbulent driving and making comments about how things make him wanna puke. Dabi's body is also incredibly warm and turbulent all its own.

As such, I think it's fair to say that Dabi has an incredibly hyperactive stomach, wherein it's always kind of just churning. And the combination of his own abnormal body heat makes it so Dabi's stomach is constantly producing gas and creating just a bit of mild pressure.

Because of that, I think Dabi is naturally just really gassy. Most of the time, he'll just very casually muffle a series of pretty thick belches if he's too active or if he's feeling nauseous. Dabi gets queasy often, so to settle his gut, he burps a lot to ease as much pressure in his belly as he can to avoid throwing up. Sometimes, he gets so gassy he'll just let rip this incredibly thick, lengthy belch that leaves him gasping breathlessly or even drooling a little.

In one of the mobile games, Dabi talks about how stuffed he is if you feed him too much. So I imagine he can get pretty gluttonous. If he ate something really heavy and made himself nice and bloated, then Dabi's body heat causes him to digest his heavy meal faster, which produces insane gas, which Dabi will absolutely not hold back. He'll grip his gut, tilt his head back and burp incredibly hard and frequently. They aren't as loud as others in MHA, but they tend to be throatier, lengthier, and often more wet due to his natural nausea.

Dabi's also very canonically shameless, so if he burps, he won't make any comments. He'll just let it rip, sigh or grunt, and idly rub his belly, occasionally rubbing harder to coax out another one. For him, he's just looking for momentary relief. If anyone like Toga ever comments on it, Dabi will just tell to shut up since she burps too. If he hears Shigaraki let out a thick belch, Dabi will smirk and make it a point to burp even louder since, canonically, Dabi is very competitive with Shigaraki, even joking that he'd get a higher kill count than Shigaraki in the MLA fight.

If he finds out his S/O is into burps, he'll just scoff and talk about how stupid that is, but nonetheless burp in their face and keep calling them a weirdo. He's simultaneously kinkshaming and kinkteasing at the same time, which is fitting for him. :P

I also canon that Dabi's a big smoker, digging vaping more than traditional cigarettes like Twice. And I think he often inhales a lot of vape smoke and will burp it out from time to time. With an S/O who's into it, he'll grab them by the head and burp vape smoke all over their face, or give a really deep muffled belch and slowly blow his gas and smoke back all over their face and smack his lips, asking if they can pick up the flavor of his vape pen.

(I dunno how vaping works. I'm in my mid thirties, shut up. XD)

((Also, looking back, I misread that as Dabi.  Sorry about that.  Got no clue who Dazai is though, soooo...there you go...  ‘XD))

#burp kink #burping #lots of burping #dabi #belch rankings #nausea #emeto #indigestion #bellyache #belly rubs #kink teasing #kinkshaming #natural gasshole :P

[justpottytime]

another blogger I like recently posted some kind of weird kind of anti omi/pee kink stuff and it's for a small fandom so it's made me feel really sucky :( being anti omo is so weird to me, like if you're not into it that's fine obviously but like what's problematic about it. we're just trying have fun 😭 anyway sorry to be ranting in your inbox it just made me feel kinda down and scrolling your blog and reading all the posts and hcs made me feel a lot better ♡

Awwww, I'm sorry to hear that someone was being mean! I promise, there's absolutely nothing wrong with having any kink, and certainly not a pee kink! People can be especially weird about kinks for bodily functions and fluids, but they're no better or worse than anything else that might get someone going! I'm glad my blog could cheer you up though, I try to always keep it positive here! <3

Thanks for the ask, and I hope the rest of your day/night goes better!

#and for anyone in doubt - no kinkshaming in this house! #we accept; and if it squicks; we look after ourselves by blocking whatever we need to! #kinkshaming

[cazort]

I notice that a lot of people who claim to be sex positive seem to have a problem with rejecting people or asserting boundaries in a truly sex positive way, especially in situations where they feel disgust.

These situations are the ones where it is most important for us to embrace sex positivity, because they're the situations where we are most likely to send (perhaps unintentionally) a sex-negative message.

Examples of Sex-Negative Rejection:

Kinkshaming - "Eww, gross, you are into that? That's disgusting / wrong."

Person shaming - "You are attracted to me? That's gross / you are wrong for being attracted to me."

Identity shaming - "Eww, a (person of this gender / race / ethnicity / (slur for neurodivergent person) / trans person / (insert other identity here) is into me, that's disgusting / wrong."

Equating feelings with morality - "I feel uncomfortable with what this person said or did, therefore what the person did was wrong."

Feelings of discomfort are often a tip-off that someone has done something boundary-crossing, but they can also originate from cultural sex negativity and bigotry, which often gets directed at LGBTQ people, kink, neurodivergent people, and other marginalized groups.

If you want to reject people or assert boundaries in sex positive ways, you need to examine your feelings and find a way to express yourself without the sex negativity.

Sex-Positive Rejection or Boundaries: (with added optional explanation)

"I'm not into that. (If you're into it that's fine, but I'm not willing to do it with you or with anyone.)" - A simple, fine way to say no.

"I am repulsed by the thought of that / feel uncomfortable talking about it or hearing you share such thoughts. (If you're into it, I'd like you to keep those thoughts to yourself. It's fine that you brought it up this time, but don't bring it up again.)" - A way to express your feelings of discomfort without shaming the person.

"I'm sorry I'm gay / straight / asexual / I'm just not into you in that way. (but thanks for the interest or offer / best of luck finding someone you can connect with)" - You don't ever need to share anything about your sexuality when rejecting someone, but sometimes it can make it less likely the person will interpret your rejection as shaming them. Thanking the person for their interest and/or wishing them luck in seeking future connections is another way of achieving a similar effect, especially when you don't share about your sexuality (or if you are bi or pan and thus don't have this "out".)

If people are rude to you? You don't need to be nice to them. But still, you cannot be sex positive if you shame them for their kink or identity or merely their expression of interest, rather than specific examples of rudeness or boundary-crossing behavior.

Sex-Positive Ways to Call Out Rude or Inappropriate Advances:

"It's totally inappropriate for you to express your interest in me because you're my supervisor / teacher / I'm under the legal age of consent and you know it / I've already told you I'm not interested and not to ask me again / you know I'm in a monogamous relationship / you're in a monogamous relationship."

"I barely know you and it is totally inappropriate for you to make a sexually explicit comment or ask such an explicit comment of a stranger."

"I've already told you (repeatedly) that I'm not comfortable with you saying / doing / asking that, and it is completely inappropriate and rude for you to continue."

Note carefully that none of these examples shames the person for having a specific kink or for being interested in you, nor do they reference the person's identity. They are specific in identifying concrete reasons for your negative reaction so they remove all possible doubt or speculation that you might be kinkshaming or identity shaming, and they make crystal clear exactly what the person did wrong.

Note also that they do not make an appeal to emotion or imply that the person is wrong merely because you feel uncomfortable.

P.S. These are also the situations where it is totally warranted to seek external help such as friends or authority figures, to make sure you stay safe, ensure someone leaves you alone, and/or to post publicly about what happened in order to warn people about someone overstepping boundaries, harassing people, and/or seeking inappropriate connections.

It is not appropriate to post negative things about a person or speak negatively about them behind their back, merely because they were interested in you and you rejected them, and/or they expressed interest in a certain kink that you found repulsive. Again, that is sex negativity.

I hope this can help others both to learn how to assert boundaries in a sex positive way, and protect people who get subjected to sex-negative shaming, so that if people do this to you, you don't let it get to you.

#sex positive #sex negative #boundaries #communication #rejection #kinkshaming #lgbtq #feminism

[nexysworld]

Kinkshaming is cyberbullying in Ireland btw so think before you speak I dont like fart but if that person does so what

You’re so right anon. Please go to the Irish police and tell them I said I’ll kinkshame all the farters. Get me a life sentence please. 💜

#nexys #anon #kinkshaming #cyber bullying #Ireland come get me

[lesbianloveisreal]

Are you lgbtqia+, or do you just fetishize lesbians and/or trans people?

During this tedtalk, I'll discuss how everything you just said to me was super bigoted and made me think you see me as an object and not a fully realized person.....

#kinkshaming #lesbian #butch #lgbtq #sapphic #lgbtqia+ #queer #femme

[pinewoodpipit]

Kinkshaming various exhibits at the London Natural History museum

FYI these are just jokes. I don’t actually kinkshame, y’all can do whatever you want provided it didn’t harm anyone and you keep it to appropriate spaces. Much love, practice safe sex.

A lot of these are bad puns. Combining some into categories since multiple fit the same thing, and some are individuals.

Insecure about their height (/ wingspan)

- Give crazy head

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Really have to pee

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Smell really bad

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Definitely into feet

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Catfish people online

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No privacy (will gossip about you to all their friends)

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Scared of commitment (will flake on you)

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Clingy

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Two-faced

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Backstabber

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Swears they’re a top but are actually a pillow princess bottom

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Promised they were flexible but then pulled a muscle mid sex and made you feel really bad about it

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Cries every time they cum

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and finally:

No notes. Perfect gentlemen.

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There you go, I hope you enjoyed my comprehensive list.

(Support natural history museums, they’re vital to keeping history alive)

#pipit talks #off topic #meme #memes #history #natural history #museum #museum photography #suggestive #kinkshaming #except not really #paleontology #paleo #paleo meme #own post #pipit memes

[gay-jewish-bucky]

hello i'm going to commit a violent offense against whoever was behind colbert asking seb if bucky talks to his dick

#i want to die why the fuck 😭😭😭😭😭 #like idk if it's a kink but #kinkshaming #nsft #personcole

[playwithmydarkestdemons]

Kinkshaming is only for closed-minded and retrograde people.

Not my kind of people.

#my post #me #Quotes #Kinkshaming #closed minded #close mind #retrograde #ppl #people #pinned #shaming #judging #stop judging #open minded #open mind #free #live and let live

[lmazo]

“if you slander one specific fetish you’re going to come for all sexual deviants including lgbt people” didn’t pedophiles try that one already lol

#kinkshaming #some kinks... should be shamed

[coulsonlives]

Antis/censorship advocates losing their minds over these ebooks because they embody everything that those people hate: rape kink, size kink, kidnapping a woman as a prisoner who decides she enjoys it, damsel in distress trope, weird 'freak' monster shit in general, etc.

#i'm tempted to put this in certain dni tags to see their reactions but um i'm not that brave lmaoo #censorship #anti censorship #nsft #ao3 #rape ment cw #critical thinking #kink shaming #kinkshaming #rape kink cw

[bowman-01-blog]

The twenty-first century need to kink-shame Homer for talking so much about Demeter and Persephone’s ankles in this hymn

#ankles #demeter #persephone #greek gods #homer #homeric hymns #homeric #hymns #greek hymns #kinkshaming #ancient greek mythology