#learning while grieving

[kizzer55555]

DPxDC: Jarro Adopts an Alien

Ok, so Danny has a space obsession and a protection obsession (I headcanon that as a halfa, Danny has two obsessions like all Halfas do which makes them unique to other ghosts.) and so while he can get his fill protecting people in Amity, he struggles with his space obsession. Sure, he can look up everything he can about space and the stars on the internet. He can stay up until 2 am looking at the stars (who needs sleep? He’s a ghost, he can go days, or even weeks without sleep if he wants, same with a lack of air or food.) but it’s just not enough. He craves to learn more, see more. Just as Dani gets that itch to travel, Danny wonders. What would it be like to see the stars up close? Are they really as hot as a dragons fire breath? Hotter!? Or maybe they are so hot they are cold. What does it look like to see plasma dancing across the surface, or touch the gasses of Jupiter? Does Pluto have ice caves like the far frozen? How many planets are actually out there? What about Mars. There’s a whole species living there with a language and culture Danny can’t even fathom! Oh what he wouldn’t give to talk with martian manhunter or Superman. 

And what’s stopping him from exploring this? He can fly. He doesn’t need air. He can go intangible if it gets too hot and he’s practically immune to the cold. He wants to touch a space rock! See if they are smooth because there is no wind or earth to rub against them and erode the surface. He wants to see what planets they come from. What minerals they might have. He wants to know if there are currents in space. All of these things are right there just above the atmosphere. Surely it couldn’t hurt to take a quick peek. So he does. During a particularly bad day Danny flies as fast as he can until the earth’s gravity looses its effects. Until his hair is floating as of it’s in water even more than normal. Until he can feel when breathing no longer became a choice (still not necessary though). And it…was beautiful. To be surrounded by space. To see the earth like this. Pictures just didn’t do it Justice. He flew across the solar system and as he passed planets, he longed to fly through them. To search every crevice and learn their secrets. But he had a bigger prize in mind at the moment. The crown jewel of their universe. The closest star he could find. The sun. 

Danny was mesmerized. The plasma really did dance across the surface. Like a never ending performance of science and beauty. There were sparks that few in arcs. Danny flew down and played in them, making a game to see how many he could fly under. His ghost core purred in delight. His obsession had never been more satisfied. He spent hours out there. Just exploring what his solar system had to offer. So when he returned? He couldn’t just forget. Pictures and online science theories had nothing on the real thing. He wanted to explore some more. So he did. Every night he would go out and explore the cosmos. Flying from planet to planet. (Either the Martians were still around and Danny made friends with them, even learning their language, or he just looks at their ruins to learn as much as he can). And with both obsessions now being filled, Danny is more settled. More confident. And he can focus better. Everyone notices the change, even his teachers. They just think that he’s paying more attention to his education now. He’s even better during his ghost fights. 

But Danny can fly awfully fast. And he soaks up information even faster. Soon his trips take longer and longer as he flies further out. Sometimes he can barely make it back in time for school. And he can't go every night. Sometimes the ghosts won’t wait for daytime so he has to make sure the town will be safe in his absence. Although he’s been able to take more trips ever since Valerie joined the vigilante ranks. But still, he’s getting farther and farther from earth each night. Until one day he’s visited every planet, every star, every comet or debris in their solar system. Which would be fine. He could deal with that if that was all there was. But it wasn’t. Danny saw the stars just out of reach. He saw places the Milky Way was leaning towards. He saw just the barest hints of new solar systems with new planets and stars. And he knew of legends from lanterns that they had posted online. Heard tales from some scientists that have made better telescopes. And his core itches. It aches to know more. See more. Yet he can't go further. And this puts him in a sort of depression. Suddenly he’s back to his old self. Lagging behind. Distracted. Zoning out. Crashing into a few more buildings during ghost attacks. Yet he tries so hard to be satisfied with what he has. He can still fulfill his obsession…it’s just more like chewing on a granola bar rather than eating a decent meal. He’s almost becoming lethargic. 

So one day he goes to Frostbite to see if there’s anything he can do to lessen the effects. But the yeti just takes one look at him and gives him the infimap. And suddenly Danny is in a whole new universe in seconds. The planets are purple. The stars are blue. He’s pretty sure there are furry blob-like creatures living on one of those planets. And suddenly he gets that itch, but holding the infimap, he knows he had time, so he lets himself go. 

And for a while it’s good. great even. Since he can’t keep asking the yetis for the infimap, he goes over to Wulf to see if he’s up for an adventure. Most of the time he is and they go exploring the galaxies together. And then Wulf had the genius idea of teaching Danny how to make portals. It took a long time but soon, he could concentrate the surrounding ectoplasm enough to weaken it and pull. It took a while since Danny didn’t have ecto claws and would have to use his pure will. But this would allow him to follow his obsession anytime, anywhere. So it was only a matter of time. And once he figured it out? It was like something was unlocked. Danny had never before understood how Ellie could travel so much. But now he did. That feeling when you discover something new. When you add to your reservoir of knowledge. When the patterns in the universe just click. There is nothing Danny could compare it to. And to explore that whenever he wanted? It was so freeing. While Wulf sometimes still joined Danny’s adventures, Danny did most of his explorations by himself. 

He meets various planets and aliens. So many different cultures. He learns thousands of languages. Tries all kinds of foods (and it’s a good thing his ghost self has an iron stomach and he’s basically poison resistant.) even found a whole comet where blood blossoms grew. (Which he most definitely avoided). And wasn’t that fascinating? To find out they were from space. 

And then during his travels one day he met a space alien starfish. 

It was actually a funny story. A meteor shower was about to attack a planet of talking blue monkey creatures with 4 arms. Danny immediately started diverting them and was soon joined by some lantern corps (which his inner fanboy wanted to talk to so bad.). And a tiny starfish in a…Robin uniform? Oh and the starfish could apparently do martial arts which was interesting to watch him karate chop a meteor. He could also talk directly into Danny’s head which the halfa found more interesting. So they got to talking and apparently his name was Jarro. He seemed to be helping the lantern corps as a ‘proxy from earth’ to make better use of his skills. 

Danny would run into Jarro a few more times. Sometimes he was with Lanterns and sometimes he would just be exploring the galaxies. They started forming a pretty strong friendship and Danny would start seeking out the starfish alien to travel with him. He knew all kinds of space facts. Apparently he had an eidetic memory. When they explored, sometimes Jarro would just stick to part of Danny. Wrapped around his arm, his waist, sometimes just sticking to his back like a strange backpack. But they always had fun.

So Danny was happy. He could fulfill both obsessions and got a space pal. Everything was great!

Until the GIW caught him. 

It would probably be the worst day of his life.  There was an explosion in the lab. Something set up by them after they realized Danny frequented that place often. So they set a trap and blew it up. Thankfully, Jazz was at college during this but both his parents were home. When the explosion went off, Danny had tried putting a Barrier around them all. It took everything he had to maintain it. That’s how they found out he was phantom. Danny had a few moments where his parents said they accepted him but he couldn’t hold the barrier for long. His parents said that they loved him and then everything went green. He woke up in a lab, tired and injured. His only saving grace being that he remained in phantom form. And he was determined to remain so. 

Danny’s time at the GIW was a haze but eventually, he managed to escape. Bleeding, and tired, and still recovering from the burns in the explosion, Danny made a portal straight to Amity. Only when he got there, it was a ghost town. Streets were empty, buildings were boarded up. Even the Nasty Burger was deserted. As for his house, there was nothing but a crater left and some scattered debris. Danny looked everywhere but there was no one. No Jazz. No Sam. No Tucker. No one. and he was tired. And everything hurt, and he needed a friend. Someone he could trust. So in a daze he made a portal and tried to just project safe. Safe safe safe. Somewhere he knew he would be protected. And so Jarro got a surprise when his space buddy suddenly popped out of a green portal, bleeding green and clearly passed out. He didn't know what to do. He didn’t know how to help him. But Jarro knew someone who would. 

So with a speed never before seen from a tiny starfish, he flew to earth. Bringing his friend straight to his father. Because surely batman could help!

And with his appearance, the green blood, the knowledge of space facts. The lack of wanting to talk about where he came from (and the nightmares crying out for his parents). This is how the bats became convinced that Jarro brought them an injured alien. 

#Dpxdc #dcxdp #Kizzer’s ideas #Danny has space and protection obsession. #Danny can make portals. #Good parents Fenton. But they die. (Sorry.) #Danny and Jarro are space brothers #The bats think Danny is an alien. Danny is unaware of this. Actually Danny is unconscious. He’s not aware of anything. #Danny is very confused why he wakes up in a mansion with a billionaire. #Amity Parkers have slowly been moving away because of ghost attacks. But at the time it was manageable. #When the Fentons house exploded and caused the first casualties everyone evacuated. Making Amity basically get shut down. #Amity becomes a literal ghost town. #Jazz Sam and Tucker think Danny died in the explosion. #Jazz was actually there. She got caught in the edge of the portal explosion which wasn’t as powerful as the core of the blast. #Instead of killing her it changed her into a halfa. So now she has to figure out new ghost powers while processing the death of her family. #(She is put into foster care where she meets a certain speedster that also has red hair.) #Ellie learns of Amity but keeps traveling. She hates staying in one place and focusing on her obsession helps her grieve. #(Her other obsession is family.) #Jazz has never met Ellie.

[gummybearstastelikesadness]

Danny going around cleaning up headstones and placks in cemeteries and graveyards. Graveyards and cemetery’s are considered the resting places for the dead, so when he’s there he just super relaxed and safe feeling.

That’s how he meets superheroes/vigilantes/antiheroes/villains/civilians/side characters from different cities.

He just gives them advice on mourning and basically lends them an ear or shoulder for a few days before he goes to the next cemetery.

Eventually Danny runs into one of the Bat fam in a Gotham cemetery and they ask him what he’s doing, he’s completely distracted in a really calm state from the dead resting place vibes and says something cryptic about even empty graves deserving care while cleaning up a grave.

Right in-front of Jason’s grave.

#danny phantom #dp #dp x dc #dc x dp #dp prompt #danny fenton #jason todd #batfam #batman #Back at it with the Danny vibein in cemeteries posts #Danny’s just pulling a Jazz and giving free therapy to random people #who better to talk about mourning to than the kid that’s mourning themself :D #Danny the walking poster boy for learning to grieve #Danny you just gave a random Bat a heart attack. Time to find the missing middle child! #… and look you fit the adoption requirements. Run while you can Danny

[self-indulgent-stem-bolts]

space healthcare

#star trek #star trek voyager #st voy #neelix #tuvok #b'elanna torres #st voy 1/15 #learning curve #please my son he is very sick #space catering #brill cheese #b'elanna and tuvok questioning their life choices while neelix grieves for his rogue food

[harocat]

One thing I do feel like people overthink is how different a Xiao Lanhua who is 'both' the Goddess of Xishan and Xiao Lanhua will be from normal Xiao Lanhua.

I think any differences in her personality would be because of her recent experiences, not anything to do with also being Xishan.

The goddess of Xishan was a literal small child when she was sealed away. She hadn't developed an adult personality yet, so imo there's not any kind of need to analyze whether XLH now has both 'personalities' in her and how those two meld together. Her personality remains Xiao Lanhua's. Any changes are because of HER and her experiences, not because of the Goddess's personality. While she has the memories of Xishan in her mind, those memories are melded with her own early memories, and they're not going to override them. I would be curious as to if she feels an emotional connection to those memories, or if they're sort of just a hazy faraway thing that she knows of but doesn't feel personally a part of. That would be interesting to explore.

I think there'd be another discussion to be had if Xishan was an adult when she was sealed, but she wasn't. When she made the decision to pretend that XLH was gone, it was her decision, not Xishan melding with her personality and altering it. This is what made it so upsetting. It's not as if she became any less the intensely emotional person she was before, she was just hiding it. I think it's really important that she not be treated as some kind of new person by fans and the narrative when they find out the truth.

My general view is that once the world is saved and she has no reason to pretend to be someone she's not, she'd be happy to take on the duties of Xishan, but she'd want to be viewed and treated as Xiao Lanhua by those she knows and at all cares about. And I don't think there's any need to act as if her personality changed, outside the general maturity and wisdom that has come with the experiences she had and knowledge she's gained.

Remember that when XLH found out she was the goddess of Xishan before she 'died', she was very adamant that SHE IS HERSELF, and no one else, and that she will never be someone else. The only reason this changed when she was reborn is because she found out the actual fate of the world was on her shoulders.

#love between fairy and devil #cang lan jue #i think she might also be more... subdued in the five hundred years? #because she IS grieving and i think there might be a desire to try to keep that inside #something she learned from trying to pretend to be someone else early on :( #but she's still XLH #and i absolutely think she'd loosen up and brighten up both when dfqc is back and she's fully taken it in #and when she's been around friends and family for a while

[meteorherd]

anyways. just remembered that george michael’s birthday is during pride month and it reminded me how the media absolutely ADORED him when he was putting on a persona for the public in the 80s and they threw around headlines calling him gorgeous george and heralding him as a sex symbol and praising him for promoting safe consensual sex but once he was forcibly outed as gay the media took an almost instantaneous 180 and called him a fallen disgrace/some sort of sexual deviant and made fun of how he was an addict because he dared to be openly gay after once again being FORCIBLY outed. literally fills me with rage each time i think about it

#வார்த்தைகள் #im really glad hes being inducted into the rock and roll hall of fame this year but like. its just bittersweet #because they literally never would have done that while he was alive. #also this isnt even mentioning how while he was a sex symbol he was secretly grieving his lover dying from aids like. #every single piece of context you learn just makes the greater narrative so much more vile.

[nebulouscoffee]

Me, attending the latest in a ridiculous number of funerals this year in the place of a childhood friend who couldn't be there, watching the lifeless body of an old lady who used to make me snacks in the kitchen when I was a kid be carted away forever while my friend's mother cries and tells me she's grateful I could be there because it felt like having the support of her own daughter, hugging her and talking reassuringly and not processing a single one of these emotions: ... I am going to write soooo much fanfiction about this

#''this'' being collective grief. because tbvh it's the main reason I haven't written very much this year (but will slowly start to) #I write to remind myself I am lucky. I keep telling myself this but even now when I feel awful I am so lucky #I am lucky that none of these funerals have involved very close family members or friends of mine #and I am lucky to be living in conditions with the space to write and space to grieve #and space to come together to mourn with dignity while people not that far away from me are not receiving the same privilege rn #I am lucky my dad was with me today and I spent the evening chatting with him on the terrace I am lucky he is alive I am lucky I am lucky #(apologies if this sounds like a robot malfunctioning lmao writing is just how I process things) #(and apparently I just don't seem to feel like I have the right to feel bad about any of this anywhere except my st@r trek blog hehe) #anyway. To stay on theme I shall say something about Trills :D #I imagine loss and grief must register very differently to them. very Non Linearly in the literal sense but also a highly abstract one #even I feel this massive sense of time warp between all these funerals; and this chest-crushing distance between me and my friends #how do Trills even exist #how do they wake up every day remembering all those friends and children and parents who loved them and they loved and are gone now #and still function #how does Ezri feel walking around with memories of parents that aren't hers (but were soooo much better than hers) taking care of her #does she feel comforted by them? does it feel like the people in those memories were always comforting HER specifically? #does it even matter who it belonged to originally if a memory is HERS now? #does Ezri mourn for any parents of past hosts more than she knows she will mourn for her own mother one day? #does having all this lived experience bring her reassuring amounts of perspective for a 20-something or just overwhelm her all the more? #idk; but I hope she learns to take comfort in her past hosts' memories of family eventually... #(...again. I am going to write sooooo much fan fiction about this lmao) #cw death

[scionshtola]

i wrote a whole essay in the tags of that post about main jobs and i got part of my own oc’s lore wrong smh

#shtola /was/ >:/ about cori’s hack healing job but was like. come to me for healing now or else 🔪 #and then cori couldn’t go to her for healing and then they and alphi couldn’t heal haurche #and then cori needed to learn how to heal so that wouldn’t happen again #and shtola needed to /do/ something about cori’s grief and cori just sorta needed shtola to exist in the same area as her while she grieved #and thus. healing lessons began. #i need a text post tag #not for very long bc of all of sb but uhh cori learns fast idk

[salsa-di-pomodoro]

Does crying over fictional characters count as grieving? Even if they're not real, we've gotten attached to them, ofter enough to want to refer to them like we would a friend. If a character we love in such a way dies or goes through something horrible, and we cry over them and when we are asked if anything is wrong and we respond that no, you're just too emotional over a fictional character, is that a lie? Many have said that the fate of a favourite character is often decisive in overall mood, even outside of fandom spaces. Have we simply been grieving for someone who never existed this whole time?

#when does grief stop being grief? #and i mean even if irrational #what i'm trying to say is are we grieving like it's the loss of a loved one or are we just making a big noise out of something trivial #when someone is fawning over their blorbo and they say 'he is real to me' is that their subconscious speaking? #is the subconscious part of our brain unable to distinguish real people on the internet vs fictional characters? #(yes this is about submas. but also i just saw a post about doctor who where people cried over a character. #one of them implied it had been a long while since they'd seen the show and they were still bitter over that character's ending. #and it got me thinking.) #fandom #idk man im just thinking deep thoughts over fictional ppl #idk what im asking is. even if they're not real and their fate wont affect the real world. does that matter? #if it affects real people's psyches and thoughts and actions and moods. if it changes us over time like a friend we might have had really. #doesn't that mean that the grief is real? don't we learn from them? start mirroring them in small habits like we do real people? #does it matter that the blorbos from my shows aren't real? #personal #? #if anyone sees this i'd like to hear your thoughts on this #blorbo from my shows

[lunasilvis]

My head, heart, being feel too much of a mess for now to say a reasonable thing. But I haven't privately journalled in my notebook so much in so so long. This trip has been so important to undertake. Place things into perspective, see it as it is. Running into old feelings and crying like a toddler about those, not expecting them to swoop along. Idk. Idk what I must do now next. But I clearly can detect some of my own roadblocks now and I feel driven to break the strain and unlearn certain patterns or have a good reality-check.

#i'm still in moments of sudden tears outburts: happy grieving sad serotonin tears #it'll take a while to straighten out my head and communicate to you about it - i feel it is not fair otherwise #anyway i feel the intense urge to finish my college - get a job + good income - create my desired life - and take us wherever we want to be #i feel i have been in a slumber a bit and i need to manifest all the things i dream about #get that toyota land cruiser : take you to joshua tree + westcoast : learn the guitar : save for a house / appartment : get a stable income #realitycheck what or serves me and what or whom doesn't - come to terms with any unresolved sentiments and learn to counteract them/move on #- or evolve them if they have the space to be here #anyways... something has struck a nerve with me after this week. and it's a good thing - underneath the instant emotional niagara falls lol

[heartburstings]

what r ur guys's headcanons/theories for post-bare? mine is that matt has a sexuality crisis and has a crush on peter and is like, "how soon is too soon" but inflicts catholic guilt upon himself whenever he thinks like that so he just never makes his move, esp bc like. who the hell is he going to go for advice. bc the last advice guy he had made him homophobic so.

and u think this wouldn't be an issue bc like, after they graduate, how much would they see each other actually? but surprise! there's like way too much drama surrounding ivy's pregnancy and what she should do abt it. even tho it's like. nobody's business but yk how ~society~ can be. so the group sticks together and supports her in her decisions, so like, while it's tense bc. matt's there. he's also allowed to be there bc matt's valedictorian (allegedly) straight altar boy status helps them out in reasoning/arguing with whatever rando pta adult takes issue with ivy's decision-making, even when she hasn't made a goddamn decision yet.

speaking of. matt also has "how soon is too soon"-itus with ivy. he's like, well clearly she can't stand to be in the same room w me, but :( i wuv her :( [is repressing his gay realizations]. meanwhile ivy n nadia are eating chips and casually cussing out jason's dad for trying to pressure ivy into keeping the baby as if being the father's father even matters. he's like having 3 different crises in his little chair and everyone else is just chilling and bitching. he's like "how soon is too soon... no. i don't deserve him. not after what i did. and especially not ivy. they all deserve better than me... why am i here..." just brooding in the cvs aisle while peter asks him if he's got cash on him to help pay for ivy's shit bc he's a few bucks short. lucas takes a passing glance at him one day and is like jesus christ dude you need weed so bad and matt's like haha no ty :] i'm a good catholic boy. and lucas is like ok dude but lmk if u change ur mind i'll see u later. and now matt has 1 more thing to brood about even tho he has 0 qualms abt stealing church wine

#wynn speaks #bare: a pop opera #sorry this got long can u tell he's my blorbo. can u tell he's like a pathetic wet-limp hairball to me. #matt steals church wine and is like i hope i get to share it w peter again. as if somehow they will end up dancing even tho everything's #changed and peter is literally grieving his dead bf (whose death matt feels infinite guilt and responsibility for). #he's like well more likely peter will let me know how much he fucking hates me but i remember when we danced. #but i don't deserve him... n i can never tell him...... bc of jason....... #i don't think they hate matt tho. i think they think he's an asshole but they still look out for him. #they're not gonna throw him to the wolves. they're not gonna make him go it alone after everything. #mixed feelings definitely tho. #like nadia knows that matt is forming a crush on peter while also having a crush on ivy and just lets him. #she's like lmao suffer. bitch. #but when someone inevitably accuses matt of being gay himself bc why else would he continue to be friends w and support peter #nadia squares up w them #but she'll never let him know what bisexuality is. matt's gotta learn it from someone else but it'll never be her #u kno what i'm getting at? #the post-bare fic in my mind... it is so bittersweet and everyone is trying to live. live with themselves and with each other.

[aria0fgold]

I'm going to write to Sirius' Heart again but an OC piece this time, set in an AU that I've created waaaay back cuz it fits the song. And ofc, that OC is Alec. It's always him.

#aria rants #hey aria are you gonna always link the song whenever you type out its title? yes i am. i need everyone to know bout it #that au in question btw was a ''alec who lost everything'' got sent to ''his family who lost alec'' and its like-- #an au where a horribly broken alec heals and finds his own place in a world identical yet so different to his while his family #who had grieved and moved on from their alec's death learns to love someone who is identical yet different to alec #in a way that isnt replacing the one that they lost but making space for the one that lost everything #its supposed to be a sweet with a lot of angst kind of au i was playing around with in the past and never got to develop #much cuz each time i thought bout it back then i just end up tearing up like gooooddd...... that hurts but its pretty sweet #but it hurts-- and now im revisiting the au to write for it cuz the song is just soooo beautiful i have to write several stories with it

[canwehavehextonite]

i hate living like this i jst wanna be free

#all i need is an all terrain power wheelchair and then ill be fucking set. can we get one that climbs shit too??? #idk man its like. i have such deep longing for the simplest of shit that makes me feel good and refreshed and alive #like going for a fucking walk. #and i cant #and that hurts so badly #like emotionally #if my needs were met and i had accessibility it would be a little easier on my spirit but i dont currently have that and im grieving that #i wanna walk to the gas station. get a snack or a drink or a cigarette. i want to take a long walk down to a body of water. #i wanna find somewhere to climb and perch and smoke and soak in nature. i wanna connect w the people around me. #i wanna bury the dead rats i see on the sidewalk. i want to pick up the trash i jump over on the way home. #i want to run to people when theyre in need and be there for every second without making myself so sick i cant move. #i want to carry people. drive people. cook for people. make things for people #anyways #no ones desire matches their capacity but its still hurts to have this determination and motiviation but 0 capacity for it. #the feeling physically hurts deep in my chest #ill get there and i know theres so much i can do within my capacity but i still save space for the mourning. #learning to connect and help in a more meaningful way while still honoring my capacity is difficult but im getting there #talkin #disability tag #🦨

[hyperfixation-or-death]

kind of similar to my last post about how no one told victor the details of bilal's timeline, but. y'know. no one ever told sam that his parents actually went through with sending victor to boarding school after he and bilal disappeared.

i mean, arnaud told him they had been planning on it until victor went missing in sam's timeline. but it's very likely sam assumed that they wouldn't have followed through on sending away their grieving thirteen year old immediately after losing their other son.

and sam's gotta find out about that at some point. and i'm not even gonna try to make this one lighthearted and funny, because the potential deslandes family drama there is limitless.

like. sam can't be mad over something they haven't done in this timeline. he can't be mad over something he was never even there to witness. but how can he not resent his parents for that? and he's almost afraid to be angry at them, because he's seen how that ends, he's seen victor's anger at their parents spiral into a destructive breakdown.

but sam saw the fallout of their parents' actions, he saw how much his brother was hurting after those four years. and then there's the whole "victor would have accidentally killed him" thing, but sam really doesn't want to think about that yet.

and they're his parents. but victor's his brother. and he can't explain this one away, can't justify it.

but is it fair, to act differently based on something this version of them would never do? they'll never remember. and maybe that's part of the problem.

and also. who tells him. is it victor who brings it up? is it romane or bilal who mentions it first? (does the topic just come up naturally? is it snapped in an argument? is it a deliberate conversation? is it just casually mentioned because with everything that's happened, they all kind of forgot who knows what?)

yeahhh idk. i have thoughts.

#parallels #paralleles #disney parallels #disney paralleles #like. sam was upset enough about the boarding school thing to intervene and defend victor in the finale. #and that was when victor was mostly doing okay. #so i wonder how much more upsetting it would be to learn that they did the same thing when victor was dealing with the disappearances. #idk i just think if sending victor away in the first place is shown as a Bad Move then doing that while hes grieving is So Much Worse. #and i think sam's reaction to that would be interesting.

[somuch-4-stardust]

🐜‼️

#ant emoji is my favourite he is so silly forevvrrvabdndnever #and i like the stars too #but it is NOT star moodtime #today i am thinking about grief #and fate but that is bc i am reading the alchemist rn #Whoch is NOT an OCD approved book #i think its really sad that im too messed up in the brain to do most things #cant take me anywhere!!! toooooooo silly (disturbed)! #anaywyays just wanted u to know that im still not over it!! #I think the worst thing abt grief is that eveeyone basically says that u never get over it #And theyre all like ih u learn to live with it! Zwit gets better it just doesnt go away!! #WHEN guys WHEN!!! #bcuz i am already living with it and it is NOT fun muu and i cannot just pause life while i work through it because life goes on forever #which SUCKS and i want a NAP #also also #i think abt how few people like. Know yknow?? #like. i wake up and i grieve and every single person i talk to has NO IDEA #thats so crazy like. what

[wanderingandfound]

So I didn't go running Wednesday due to exhaustion and pain and so then I was really tempted to not go running today but then I did!!!

#My dad is very paranoid and so joined me for my 11 PM run and was suspicious of everyone. #While he ran in JEANS at the track. Who is really the suspicious person here??? #personal #learning to function #Sam Yao would be very proud of me if he knew but instead he is grieving the old runner 5 hard. #Didn't even wanna call me Runner 5 today but by the end he did.

[spicyhamsamson]

I am. So fucking tired of Batman being portrayed as a bad parent and a toxic person. And it’s so goddamn widespread. Fuck, it might be as bad as the whole “Superman being a kindhearted Boy Scout is boring” take.

I get it, the man’s not exactly stable, he watched his parents get murdered in front of him and spent years of his life training to fight crime dressed like a giant scary bat, of course he’s not perfect.

But to say that Bruce Wayne isn’t caring, isn’t empathetic, to call him abusive…it just misses the point of who the character is to me.

Why do you think he fights crime? Yes, part of it is because he’s bitter and sad because his parents were cruelly ripped from him as a child, and he’s lashing out against the corruption of his city. It’s arguably the focus of his earlier years. But he learns to become more than that. He learns to bring hope, a chance to be better.

Harleen Quinzel is the Joker’s right hand lady, but she’s also a victim of an abusive relationship and a woman with a surprisingly strong moral compass and a love for animals, and wants to get better. That’s why we see time and time again that he has a noticeable soft spot for her, because he knows that she’s a good person at her core.

Harvey Dent is a man who will decide someone’s fate on a coin toss(and a pretty inaccurate depiction of DID), but he’s also Bruce’s close friend who clearly needs help learning to live with his condition, rather than try to get rid of it, and someone who he still goes out of his way to visit, even after everything, because he recognizes he’s not just a criminal with a weird gimmick, he’s a man who is struggling with a condition that he’s mishandled his whole life.

Victor Fries is a cold, emotionless man who will callously discard allies and blame them for being careless, but he’s also a man who’s either lashing out because he had the love of his life taken from him, or just desperate to make sure she isn’t taken from him, and is willing to do anything just to guarantee her survival. Of course Batman would understand, his whole life was defined by having people he loved taken away from him.

Even the Joker, arguably one of the most morally bankrupt characters in all of fiction, is someone that Batman has offered a chance to. After the guy shoots the daughter of his friend, a girl he cared for like she was his own kid, and paralyzes her from the waist down, he tells the Joker that he doesn’t want to hurt him. He wants to get him help. He looks at this monster who has taken countless lives and says “You don’t have to be alone.”

For fuck’s sake, he sat with Joe Chill in his last moments so that he wouldn’t be alone. Joe Chill, the man who murdered his parents, who took so much from him, the person responsible for all of the misery and suffering he’s gone through. And he sits with the man to comfort him while dies. Do you know how much emotional intelligence and maturity that must take? To comfort someone who arguably ruined your life?

And you’re gonna tell me the man who did that would abuse his kids?

That he’d hold up the young man whose death was his greatest failure, the boy he grieved, and say this?

That he’d look his goddamn son in the eyes and say this to him?

Why the FUCK do you think he took in Dick Grayson in the first place? It wasn’t because he saw the kid and thought “Ah. A potential soldier.”, it was because he saw a boy experiencing the same heartbreaking loss he had so many years ago, and wanted to make sure he didn’t end up as bitter and miserable as he was.

Why do you think he smiled when Tim Drake presented him a broken watch for Father’s Day? Because he was just happy to see the boy alive and safe.

DAMIAN LITERALLY POINTED AT A COW AND SAID “I’m keeping her. She’s Bat-Cow.” AND BRUCE JUST WENT WITH IT. DIDN’T EVEN NEED TO ARGUE WHY BRUCE SHOULD LET HIM KEEP HER. HE SAID “this cow is my pet now” AND BRUCE SAID “aight, bet”.

The thing about Batman is that he wants to make sure nobody else ends up feeling the way he does. That’s not just about stopping a mugger so a boy’s parents aren’t gunned down. It’s about giving his loved ones the support and care that he couldn’t have, because it was taken from him. It’s about comforting someone who just went through a traumatic experience and letting them know that they’re going to be okay. It’s about going to someone locked away in a cell who thinks that they’re a lost cause and a burden to society and telling them that he wants to help them get better. It’s about EMPATHY and COMPASSION.

That’s what makes him a HERO. He’s meant to inspire us, to show us that we can have that same empathy for others around us, that we can turn our suffering into hope for a better future.

I just wish more people at DC would start recognizing that. But I might as well follow that example myself. Maybe through this struggle of having to see this hero mistreat the people around him and act like a grade-A jackass, people will start to recognize that missing compassion, and slowly but surely, it might come back. After all, what is this post, if not trying to bring attention to the matter in the hopes of fixing it?

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