#let it empower you

[hella1975]

it's been pointed out on here before that a lot of terf arguments are actually rooted in sexist idealology that feminists fought and died to unnormalise decades ago and that's its own kettle of fish but one thing i also find very frustrating about this so called 'radical' feminism is that it's so... defeatist? like the moment you categorically label an entire section of society as Bad and Inherently Evil then there's also the implication that nothing can be done about it, and it completely takes all accountability away. saying all men are evil is just another way of saying boys will be boys. he raped her because he's a man. he hit her because he's a man. he didn't listen because he's a man - it's almost offensively oversimplified. there's no point trying to fix this issue in society because men are just Like That, okay! so now what? it's not like they're going anywhere, so you just accept that 50% of the population are evil and will forever treat you terribly and there's nothing to be done about it bc they're biologically predisposed to it? like is that fr the argument here? you're soooo radical for that

#this is coming from someone who used to very genuinely be a misandrist #ironically it was only when i started actually analysing my own feminism that i got MORE confrontational with men #and started respecting my boundaries a lot better BECAUSE i started holding them accountable again #like when men treat me like shit nowadays i dont just write it off as 'what did you expect? he's a man' i get MAD about it #because i EXPECT BETTER FROM THEM even if it's just tiny shit women have to deal with daily #i hold them to just as high a standard as im held to and i make them take accountability when they dont meet that #and whether you realise it or not even on a subconscious level the MOMENT you black-and-white blanket statement all men as bad #you stop holding them accountable. #like it is literally just boys will be boys. do terfs seriously not realise they're sending feminism BACKWARDS #like if a girl came to me with her trauma and people - other girls no less - tried to comfort her with 'yeah all men are evil' #id be fucking furious. like no he did that because he was a piece of shit that had it normalised to him that women arent to be respected #dont you dare let him off the hook with something as simple and uncritical as 'he's a man' #i promise you men like that will MUCH prefer a blanket statement such as 'all men are as bad as each other' #than actually being point blank told they're an abuser or a rapist. because being lumped together is comfortable and even empowering #wheras isolating their behaviour with words that are Bad and Ugly (LIKE 'rapist') is not comfortable at all and has heavy connotations #idk i dont think radical feminism is always bad on its own it can be v liberating. just terfs and misandrists that i have a problem with #dropping this post in a piranha tank and closing tumblr knowing im gonna have some thirty year old karen yelling at me within 5 mins #i probably wont respond to any terf comments bc they literally mentally exhaust me with their stupidity #but that also depends on my mood and ability to keep my mouth shut LMFAO we shall see

[royalarchivist]

Full video of Quackity and Wilbur singing “Perfume” from tonight’s LA Lovejoy concert!

(Videos shared by @sootsit, edited together by me)

#Lovejoy #Wilbur #Wilbur Soot #Quackity #Lovejoy LA #Perfume #FASTEST VIDEO EDITING OF MY LIFE #Stitched together the two twitter videos #Sootsit if you'd like me to take this down please feel free to let me know! #I'm just very excited since this is one of my fave Lovejoy songs #with two of my fave CCs #and I wanted a full video of it #tw: flashing lights #I kid you not I edited this in like 10 seconds but this is the smoothest transition I've ever done #the luck of the gods. empowered by the sheer power of the fandom #Quackity not knowing what to do with his hands while singing. Huge mood #the fact that they hugged during the line ''I don't really hate you'' can you hear me SOBBING #no I'm never gonna be over the fact that their characters never got to reconcile #agh #December 11 2022 #Edited

[korrasamibottles]

Yeah Venom of the Red Lotus showed us how crazy powerful Korra is but The Last Stand had Korra transform the destructive power of a massive bomb blast into something regenerative in the culmination of one of the best character arcs I've ever seen. In my OPINION!!

#SORRY ok i'll stop. #lies. i have more to say. she is so brave and so selfless!!! #and mako sacrificing himself to destroy the weapon's energy source was really powerful too #AND of course. the korrasami of it all. #ok one more thing. it seems like the most common interpretation of korra's conversation w/tenzin in the last stand #is 'suffering makes you a better person' and people rightfully get pissed off about that #but i just....fundamentally disagree with that reading. i saw it as korra choosing to find meaning in her pain #and choosing to find wisdom in it. and i think that's really fucking powerful and why korra's arc resonates so deeply with so many people. #like. the suffering happened. she can't go back in time and undo it. and she didn't deserve it!! #but the only way to move forward was to accept that it happened and let it empower her rather than drown her. #i mean there are things i've been through that i wish hadn't happened #but the idea that those things don't necessarily have to mean i've changed for the worse #that i can choose to find A Point to it all and grow from it and use the pain rather than the pain using me #is actually really empowering. #tlok

[muffingnf]

something that’s really frustrating about this topic in particular is that it is very complex and requires both nuance and critical thinking however because it’s currently taking place in the content creation world, the only people talking about it are content creators who love the sound of their own voice rather than being an impactful part of the conversation

#sorry i’m on break at work and did my catch up #i think everyone who was not there and was not involved needs to shut up about this particular situation #bevause empowering women against abusive and coersive men is great and important and then u go and apply #it to this situation which isn’t That and its not helping anyone #if you overexaggerate the severity of this situation there will be more defense for G and then it just goes round and round #let the man sincerely apologise to C and take accountability for his own actions NOT the actions everyone else is projecting onto him #and let C get closure #the rest is irrelevant talk from irrelevant people #hashtag my opinion #discourse

[uncanny-tranny]

The reality of being a survivor is that the person or people who hurt you might just get to live full, rich lives and leave you behind. It's a perverse feeling, and it's true that that is fucked up. It feels like they still control you even when they're out of your life, and you feel trapped. However, you still deserve to be happy, to be fulfilled. Your life hasn't ended because they stole parts of it. They will never truly be able to take the essence of who you are.

Remembering this has taken the edge off of this thought. I won't ever give my abusers that power over me ever again. They never fucking deserved that.

#recovery #abuse #abuse tw #abuse mention tw #you can ABSOLUTELY grieve and be furious. you are entitled to those emotions and i think you're right to feel that way #but don't for a second buy into the idea that you don't deserve a good life. you DO. they fucked up and that's no reflection on you #you deserve so many good things #like... i do wish i could sit down with my abusers and fucking lay into them. but that's not possible #they're living their lives without a single thought as to their actions. they probably don't care that they ruined my life #so i won't empower them further by letting their influence transcend their presence #and that's HARD to do. it take effort and it's a daunting task #i don't blame people if they find that hard to do or think about #but i want to remind you that one day it might be easier. you'll get to a good spot #i believe in your ability to heal however that looks for you

[anglerflsh]

#[.art] #self #not exactly a pride post this is more a ''I don't want to be doing this'' post? #I don't know I think being around people in my class just shows me how much the internet is a bubble about these things. #people still are very much homophobic and me being out as queer in my school is only fine because I don't talk to people/ #/or at least because I'm first to make light of it. #The climate here requires an amount of making yourself socially acceptable- to be a good example let's say -because there are consequences #and it makes me- you know that comic going around? about the rabbits and wolves? Yeah. #And I can be told that I should not care about being pallatable for society a million times it will not change that I do want to be that #I know many people are empowered by being combative and loud and by not taking steps down about their identity and it's great for them! #I'd just rather not. I'm not living down the God I Want To Be Integrated In Society allegations I guess :/ #I'm never getting that but you know. I can dream /j

[rearranging-deck-chairs]

i love the combative way yaz asks questions after s12. i dont think she does it so much in s12 but from halloween apocalypse on (im thinking of "so you know them, these sea devils?" or "yeah, what does quantum extraction mean?" rn but im sure there are more) her questions always feel half challenge half like shes already gearing up for a fight

#combined with graham's 'shes still not explaining anything then?' in potd or like half of halloween apocalypse itself #('questions? no? see you later' & 'i feel like some of this might be my fault' & 'yeah we got away!' & #'i dont always tell you anything' & 'since ryan and graham left' etc etc) #you get a really clear picture of their duo trips #big finishhhhhhhhhhh let me write their duo adventureeessssssssssss #and ive said this before but i'll say it again bc ive been writing them so im thinking abt them but ithink 14 would be super sensitive to i #like takes a lot of care to not brush yaz off even in distraction or smth else fairly innocent #bc i think 13 in the end was purposefully avoiding answering questions #like if she answers this innocuous question then maybe yaz will ask another and another and then shes gonna feel empowered to #ask the Difficult Ones #so i think she just tried to avoid questions in general #and so 14 trying to make up for it (and for how unable yaz is left to tolerate any of the doctors unanswered questions anymore too) #just answers Everything. Promptly #yaz would of course figure out that she can use this for evil bc she can interrupt any conversation the doctor is having with anyone by jus #going 'what are we having for dinner' or smth #and she 100% Would use it for evil if the doctor is having conversations she doesnt like

[sexygaywizard]

It always gets me when people try to frame plastic surgery as being empowering or body positive. "Oh you know, I just think a different nose would suit my face better," like.. ok. Why is it always the same things that everybody thinks would look "better" though? Why doesn't anybody get rhinoplasty to make their nose bigger? Are there not people who would be more "suited" to having a larger or wider nose? Like, get real

#idk!!! like. if you get plastic surgery bc you don't want to feel self conscious or insecure anymore bc society makes u feel bad i GET it #but i hate this framing of plastic surgery as if it is empowering or feminist #girlie your entire perception of what you 'should' look like or what is 'more suitable' is based around white supremacist beauty standards #and feeling that you have to modify your body to fit that is fucked up! its fucked up #whenever people talk about stuff like this i think people get very sensitive bc they have/want to get p.s. to make themselves feel better #and like i am literally not faulting anyone for that lets just all admit that its society that is making you feel shitty #about your perfectly fine and acceptable body #you and your choices don't exist in a vacuum #i talk

[theridgebeyond]

Spoilers for Barbie ahead, I guess. But who in the writer’s room looked at that plot line and thought, “Yes. Feminism.” ??

The citizens of Barbie Land spend the entire movie fighting for privilege, not any sort of freedom (I borrowed that quote from the interview with Alok on the Man Enough Podcast 10/10 recommend). Over half the movie is about how awful it is to be a woman in the real world, and then they literally treat the Kens the way women are treated in the real world. That’s canon. The narrator says it Herself.

We never learn where the Kens live. For all we know, when the precious status quo was restored at the end, they just made half the population of Barbie Land homeless.

Yay, girl power.

#when I heard people complaining about how this movie was anti-man I snatched my ticket and said yeah I sure hope it does like everyone else #but I did not feel empowered in the slightest by that movie #where was supportive stay at home dad vibe Ryan Gosling Ken?? #I was fully convinced by the trailers and the hype #like #I was fully convinced he was going to have Barbie’s back 110% and let her live her dreams while knowing that he was enough as he was #but I didn’t taste a drop of respect women juice #not at the beginning and not at the end #and they kept. bringing. up. how. Barbie. doesn’t. return. Ken’s. feelings. #I’m aro - I’ve been in that situation - I appreciate media normalizing how men aren’t entitled to women’s affection #but if you really wanted to make some kind of statement #just let them communicate resolve and move on #that’s it #the cellulite bit was my first indicator that maybe it was a good thing I didn’t spend $40+ on a bright pink outfit #let 👏 barbie 👏 have 👏 cellulite 👏 and 👏 be 👏 okay 👏 with 👏 it #like cellulite is damn cute I don’t make the rules #I could say more but I’m feeling mid as it is already #gonna watch Barbie Princess & the Pauper for some real gender class commentary #barbie movie #barbie #thoughts

[moonilit]

why didnt we get dehya to be our guide??? How would Collei would have helped us in the desert?? That would have been the best moment for a kaeya and dehya introduction we didn’t even get anything special from kaeya and collei meeting

#*Quickly dialing dehya number from a ring phone!* #“COME OVER QUICK!!” #let the brown two alcoholic with shitty parents meet!! #Where is the brown ppl unite?? Empower them?? #Do you think kaeya feel like that last brown human sometimes because everyone is do white in mond? #Remmber when it was 1.0 and kaeya alone was carrying all the melanin rep on his shoulders? #What a tangent i just had but dehya #genshin impact #kaeya #Dehya #Collei act like she didn’t almost murder kaeya in the manga because they retconned the manga #I had like 0.3% faith they will still have unique something but well

[jorvikzelda]

do it scared. do it alone. and do it tired

#posts that are really mostly for me #this exhaustion will not be going away #but by GOD i will not fucking let that stop me #it is actually quite the empowering realisation #if I keep waiting for a good day—if I don’t do it tired—then I’ll end up never doing it #‘go to the doctor’ one step ahead of you buddy. I know. but I don’t think this is fixable. :) #z talks #not horse game

[succubusapphic]

i mean it really theres something so masc and sexy about a transmasc or butch or whatever you identify as that owns their softness their hardness their smoothness their roughness everything people think mascs "shouldnt" be and when they take that and theyre outspoken and confident about it especially (not required bc i will take just as much joy in building you up to feel that way yourself) but especially ESPECIALLY when they do what they do and they encourage others to do what they do too and not fit some toxic masculine energy. something so empowering to others about being yourself unapologetically it just makes me want to leap into your arms and call you the handsomest hunk i ever met

#being yourself and building others up to be their most authentic happy self too is the sexiest shit ever #but also if youre not there yet let me tell you how good youre doing and how masc you are and let my femmeness by comparison #fuel and empower your masculine energy #trans mascs and butches of all kinds i love you #not just trans mascs but butches getting comfortable with the masculinity they felt villainized for #any and all kinds of mascs and butches #sighs dreamily and kicks my feets #mine #femme4masc #femme4butch

[antirepurp]

emporio alnino who inherits a little bit of both jolyne's and weather's inherent darkness from the time he spent with them and the events he went through and how that affects him as he grows up under irene's wing

#soda offers you a can #jjba #stone ocean spoilers #i GUESs #look. not as a feature that corrupts him #but one that empowers him #the same way jolyne's anger pushed her forward and gave her hope #there is a storm of emotion behind his eyes and he won't forgive unless you prove your worth to him #he was born into a hell and witnessed his family succumb to it and refuses to let it corrupt him as tempting as it would be #a spider has made its home in his room and he treats it with unbelievable kindness #he fought his way into a paradise and he's going to hold on to it with anything it takes

[midnight-specialist]

If I had to pick one thing that I wish women could unlearn, it would be this stupid notion that a man is coming to save us.

#this ain’t Disney and there’s no Prince Charming #even if you do meet a decent guy it’s still up to you to save yourself #don’t let that drag you down let it empower you and you’ll see how capable you actually are #I just wish more women understood this #feminism #sisterhood #mine #thoughts