#letgoofcontrol

[drwallaert]

Intimidated

Book: Extreme OwnershipAuthors: Jocko Willink and Leif BabinQuote: “A true leader is never intimidated when others step up and take charge.” This is the first blog of my new Book Highlights Series. In this series, I will be going back through many of the books I have read in the past few years and reflecting on the thoughts and ideas that I have highlighted. My first quote comes from Jocko…

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#dichotomyofleadership #extremeownership #guideontheside #insecurities #intimidated #intimidation #jockowillink #leifbabin #letgoofcontrol #newseries #Personalities #respnsibility #selflessleadership #servewell #stayhumble #stepup #takecharge #team #teamcentered

[tonyfahkry]

#surrendertoreality #acceptancebringspeace #innerwisdomawakens #releaseresistance #chooseinnerpeace #freedomthroughacceptance #embracewhatis #resilienceinacceptance #transformperception #letgoofcontrol #findingmeaninginacceptance #compassionforselfandothers #embracingdivineflow #transcendingsuffering #powerofacceptanceandwisdom #Instagram

[sayjesstofitness]

Today, I accept and let go of the things I can’t control and focus my energy on the things I can. #controlthecontrollable #goodenergy #letgo #letgoofcontrol #letgoofwhaticantcontrol (at Las Vegas, Nevada) https://www.instagram.com/p/CiMBhoULzSg/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#controlthecontrollable #goodenergy #letgo #letgoofcontrol #letgoofwhaticantcontrol

[wthravn]

When you find out somethings not for you. That’s fine. It sucks, but it’s okay. Be cool with that. Now focus on discovering who you actually are and what’s exactly for you.

#love #letgoofcontrol #freedom #start

[mubal4]

It Will Pass

 Found myself saying this a lot last weekend during the 100-mile race. My crew also mentioned it to me several times stating, “this too shall pass” as we worked to navigate the circumstances that surfaced that were not ideal. Those feelings we have, those uncomfortable situations that hurt, and in some situations, downright suck, seem to pass by with time. I find it interesting that it is easier for me to accept these experiences when it comes to these races, however with life, I fight much harder to control the environments. Even though, in most times, the fight is useless. In the race, I know that the hurt will subside but in life, for some reason, it is harder for me to believe that the “hurt” will be over soon.

 A few weeks back I shared some nuggets from a book that I read, The Untethered Soul: A Journey Beyond Yourself. Reflecting on the race, and life, these last few days, as our world continues to revolve with uncertainty, I wanted to share a few more items from that book I feel ma resonate now. This first quote spoke directly to me with respect to the race, but more with how I’ve tried to navigate life.

 “You’re either trying to figure out how to keep things from happening, or you’re trying to figure out what to do because they didn’t happen.” I would add one more on to that, or we are trying to figure out why! Trying to keep things from happening, I associate that with planning and being prepared for what could happen. However, I take a step too far and overanalyze a situation. It can be exhausting and letting go is so much more calming. Going into this race, I trusted my training and had faith that we would be able to tackle anything that may surface, even if it was something that never happened before, or we didn’t think of 😊. Life is all about that, each day, as we navigate these uncertain waters. But in life, unlike the races, my faith in myself, that “life training,” gets lost sometimes. Maybe it’s because its “life” and “not just a race?” But why does it have to have a different value? I think in that particular moment, the circumstance is our biggest moment, isn’t it? Isn’t what we are navigating in the present the most important task we have at hand? It seems that with races, I’ve accepted the fact that the process is going to be very difficult but with life, it is hard for me to believe that it should be “this hard.” It is funny to a degree, has hard as life can be, as much challenges and failures we experience and how things can sometimes suck, we’ve continued to navigate them and get to this point. What’s baffling, from my perspective about it is, I can still question my ability and faith to keep moving forward through these situations. What can be more exhausting is I find myself asking why some of these situations are surfacing and……and, what I may have been able to do to avoid them! Think about that, I am judging myself for not being able to avoid these hard situations. Yep – exhausting! However, in all these situations, at some point in time, I come to the realization that, it will pass and realize it is time to move on.

 “Fear can create a dislike for change. You’ll try to create a world that doesn’t stimulate your fears. You’ll try to utilize the mind in an attempt to manipulate life for the purpose of not feeling fear.” This one had me thinking a lot about a lot!! To begin, the fear thing, I don’t have a problem with change, or fear for that matter. I do have fears and you can break that down in many ways. Fear can describe many things – anxiety, doubt, lost faith or questioning your training for example. I am aware of those fears and in many cases, I accept them. However, and this is interesting, there are circumstances, as mentioned above, that I try to create that world to, maybe downplay those fears, or make them less intense? This occurs and I spend (waste) so much time trying to manipulate the process to make it more comfortable. It doesn’t make sense considering how often we are able to keep moving forward, no matter the challenges, or how uncomfortable circumstances may be. Sure, we want things to be easier but after 48+ years, I know damn well that this stuff is hard and it is supposed to be. So why, why do I work hard to control an outcome when it truly doesn’t matter?

 We’ll close it out on this last quote – likely to help put it into some perspective. Does for me each day I read it.

  “Events don’t determine whether or not your going to be happy. You can be happy just to be alive! Don’t let this thing bother you – let it pass.

#letitpass itwillpass letgoofcontrol trustyourtraining trustyourprocess havefaithinyou

[drmarr]

How to decrease your level of stress without changing the circumstances: “Control” is just chaos going your way for a little while...” How true it is... the ILLUSION of control! How many people’s SOURCE OF STRESS comes from your lack of control in a situation?? Meaning, your need for control the EXACT THING that is making the situation stressful...? But if you are doing your very best with the situation at hand, acting with INTEGRITY, and trust that what’s meant for you won’t miss you, it’s all you CAN do, right!? Learning to let go of control can take a huge weight off your shoulders. It can be so freeing...but it takes awareness and conscious practice. 📸: Embracing the chaos but looking for the light 😆 literally...! (Especially the last one 😬) Control is something I know I have learned I need to let go over the past few years. I’ve come a long way and it DOES make any given situation “lighter”... I still need reminders at times but am aware of when it’s the EXACT THING adding to my stress in a given situation. Simple awareness of your need for control, for the sake of control, can be LIBERATING. #HappySunday - Life lessons brought to you by a #Lego movie 😆 💁🏼‍♀️ #lifelessons #letgoofcontrol #control #controlisanillusion #lettinggo #trusttheprocess #integrity #livewithintegrity #diving #openwaterdiver #divebermuda #stressreliever #stress #stressmanagement #stressrelief #stressrelieftip #mindsetmatters #mindsetcoach #mindsetmakeover #mindsetreset #learntoletgo #controlling #whatsmeantforyouwontpassyouby #mindsetiseverything #everyonedeservesacoach #internationallkfecoach #lessstress #stressless (at South Shore, Bermuda) https://www.instagram.com/p/CV-aMJqrRta/?utm_medium=tumblr

#happysunday #lego #lifelessons #letgoofcontrol #control #controlisanillusion #lettinggo #trusttheprocess #integrity #livewithintegrity #diving #openwaterdiver #divebermuda #stressreliever #stress #stressmanagement #stressrelief #stressrelieftip #mindsetmatters #mindsetcoach #mindsetmakeover #mindsetreset #learntoletgo #controlling #whatsmeantforyouwontpassyouby #mindsetiseverything #everyonedeservesacoach #internationallkfecoach #lessstress #stressless

[autumnscoladamada]

Ya know, life’s too short to stop romanticizing things. I know it’s hard. Life is way too short to stop doing things for yourself. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. It’s your life. Not someone else’s. Do what makes you happy. Let go of the fear of judgement. When you step out of that judgement zone, you’ll find that there’s other people out there just like you seeking acceptance. And you can be the one to take them under your wing. And show them how to be themselves and express themselves too.

#self care #lgbtq #self accepectance #loveyourself #safe place #letgoofcontrol #lgbtqplus #lgbtq safe space

[drdeeknight]

Nothing about this sounds appealing or fun. But it is freeing and does help me live from a place that’s as fully me as possible. This Carl Jung quote struck me the other day, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” You don’t get there by trying to control every aspect of your story. You only get there by relinquishing control so your story can be as wild and free as you deserve to be. ✨ #wild #authentic #free #authenticallyme #authenticallyyou #authenticity #authenticself #giveupcontrol #intentionally #intentionallife #intentionalliving #intentional #friendships #letgoofcontrol #yourstory #freeyourself #befree #besetfree #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveAL #healing #whole #healingandwhole #healingjourney #iamhealing #youarehealing #authenticliving #authenticlife #authenticlifestyle #lettinggo https://www.instagram.com/p/CNSRg8QFHMg/?igshid=15wrfwfkzb9e4

#wild #authentic #free #authenticallyme #authenticallyyou #authenticity #authenticself #giveupcontrol #intentionally #intentionallife #intentionalliving #intentional #friendships #letgoofcontrol #yourstory #freeyourself #befree #besetfree #thehealingcollective #thehealingcollectiveal #healing #whole #healingandwhole #healingjourney #iamhealing #youarehealing #authenticliving #authenticlife #authenticlifestyle #lettinggo

[arioagio]

Rabu, 24 Februari 2021

Have you ever felt like you're missing something in your life, and you had no idea what that is?

I feel that every single day. I feel that everytime i open my eyes.

I don't know what that is. Really, have no clue about that. At all.

One minute i'm so happy, and the next minute i'm so sad. One minute i'm so powerful, and then all of a sudden i feel powerless.

Such a mixed-up feelings.

I think i need a break.

I think i need to vent.

I need to recharge.

I need to find it. Find out what's been missing.

Then again, the only person who can find out what that is, is me.

I'm the only one.

I do really hope. I can find it soon enough, so i won't be lost anymore.

#story time #story prompt #letgoofcontrol #journey #journal #lifeisbeautiful #daily life #lifelessons #real life #life

[settingmyselffreehere]

It's easier to let go than to holding on.

#letgoofcontrol #move on

[jamiesonwolf]

This morning, I asked the cards "How will today be fabulous?" I drew the Devil, the 6 of Pentacles and Temperance from The Carnival at the End of the World Tarot. 🌠 The Devil is a fearsome beast. He rages and the fire begins to spread below him. He holds a spear in his grasp as well as two human dolls. This card is asking me to give into the dance, to let go of the rigid control that I have over myself. Sometimes I just need to let go. Not everything can be controlled. Some things just are. The bells that the Devil wears around his neck sing out in song. 💫 In the 6 of Pentacles, a man who wears the mask of a dog leaps over a fire, the loaves of bread he has baked near the fire. He bakes them not for himself but for other people. He plays a song to sweeten the bread. I need to remember to be kind to others, that we heal through acts of kindness. However, kindness starts at home. I can't forget to be kind to myself. ✨ Temperance balances two water jugs. They are dressed as a flamingo. One of the jugs they balance pours into another. The flamingo symbolizes balance, grace and beauty. Today I will find balance by creating something new, giving into the pull and finding balance within so that I can sparkle on! ⭐ #tarotreadersofinstagram #tarottribe #carnivalattheendoftheworld #giveintothedance #letgoofcontrol #kindnesswins #generosity #balance #creativity #grace #sparkleon #shinebright #likeadiamond #cardoftheday https://www.instagram.com/p/CLMPm0ZHCWF/?igshid=10lonccpj5alq

#tarotreadersofinstagram #tarottribe #carnivalattheendoftheworld #giveintothedance #letgoofcontrol #kindnesswins #generosity #balance #creativity #grace #sparkleon #shinebright #likeadiamond #cardoftheday

[eugwynsue]

Lesson I’m learning: trust and let go

#learning #self growth #self love #universehasmyback #trust #letgoofcontrol

[asoulsfriend]

if you can’t change it, let it go...

#asoulsfriend #soulmates #aesthetic #twin souls #life quotes #love #poetry #celebs #challenge #life advice #let it go #letgoofwhatyoucantchange #letgoofcontrol #let go of fear #letgo #letgoofego #sad quotes #daily life #iloveyou #pink #poem #sad poetry #sayings #happiness #thinkpositive #quoteoftheday #quotes #dreamer

[pearlabelle]

#love #letgoofcontrol #leaving #forgiveness #my soul #girl #boy

[revloveutionxoxo]

Alone

you wanna give me your creative flow?

live life like a jaded hoe.

finding critics everywhere I go

tell myself to hold on

cuz in reality

i am

not

alone

#flow #writing #poetry #stray kids #letgoofwhatyoucantchange #save your tears #no control #please #support blm #pride ally #letgoofcontrol #pastpresentfuture

[mubal4]

The Journal Journey Part 81                                

 Today’s entry on the long journey is another one of those messages the University delivers at the right time. I had come across a Brene’ Brown nugget that I have saved from years ago, that I revisit occasionally. It helps me reset perspective and today, as I opened my journal from May 17, 2017 – who are many of the quotes outlined from that day, one Brene’ Brown. Without any further delay, here are some pieces of wisdom from her, and others.

 “What steps would you take if fear and shame were not present?” – This is a great question. I think both, fear, and shame, can be intertwined a bit! Is it fear that presents us from moving forward, or shame? Both? Is being embarrassed of failure or what others might think of our behavior shame? Or can it be fear? Whatever the case, we don’t have to let either of them stop us from taking the step forward. I’ve come to accept that fear (not sure I categorize it as shame when going through it at the time), is going to present itself in many situations. It is not about being scared; it is feeling fear. That could be described as doubt, stress, anxiety – definitely uncertainty. Loss of control comes to mind and not able to look into the future, that crystal, and see how it all turns out. Accepting this, sitting in those feelings of uncertainty and doubt, fear….AND doing it anyway, taking that step – well that is courageous. I guess the easiest way for me to boil it down; being a parent with a high school junior and a college freshman that is 1700 miles away – the thought of control is gone. My wife an I accept we have to let go and believe that lessons we’ve taught them will come to the surface when called upon. We must let them leave the home and go off to be great adults. That is what we’ve trained them for so sitting in that fear, uncertainty, and doubt, isn’t going to do them or us any good. I don’t think the steps we took to this point would have changed – those characteristics were and will be present. We just have to accept it and move forward.  

 “Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat. It is understanding the necessity of both, engaging, and being all in.” – This reminds me of a great quote by Denzel Washington, it may not be exact, but it gets to the point. “You will lose. You will fail. You will embarrass yourself and you will suck at something. Accept it because it is inevitable.” The point, I think, is being able to embrace those failures. Own them and be vulnerable in those moments. More so in defeat than victory in think! Those victories are fun but how memorable are they compared to the defeats. I know my loses sting and it is hard for me to forget them. Not negatively though – they are the foundation for my growth and improvements. Don’t get me wrong, I remember the good wins too but the amount of knowledge and growth that come from winning fails in comparison to that when we fail. It is inevitable. Having the ability to be vulnerable in those embarrassing moments, when we don’t have our shit together, that is when the biggest gains are made.

 Great segue into, “When failure is not an option we can forget about learning, creativity, and innovation.” – The stress and anxiety that is typically caused by that drive to be “perfect” robs us of our creativity. We get nervous and tend to focus on the results rather than sitting in and engaging in the process. We get lost in the future and not in what is happening directly in front of us. Tiptoeing through our lives trying to not make a mistake. Reality is that we will make mistakes and fail, just like Mr. Denzel Washington eluded too above. I know, I do it – get caught up in trying to make the first pass at something turn out just as I envisioned. When it doesn’t happen or the circumstances don’t go as expected, I get pissed, disappointed, sad, or angry. Not a great way to go through life! As my wife tells me, “That must be exhausting.” It is except when I let go of expectations and work to focus on the experienced. When you let go of the results, the stress seems to go as well and the worry about how it will turn out doesn’t matter. We are focused on the present and the gratitude of the moment.

 I will end it with these two quotes, the first is anonymous but gets your mind back to the whole concept of the steps we take when we operate out of fear. If fear is keeping us from moving forward, what potential are we missing out on? What experiences are we not living, and what moments are we not creating. Will the version of ourselves that we become be the best rendition of ourselves?

 “The Definition of Hell – On your last day on earth, the person you become will meet the person you could have become.”

 And finally, from Brene’ Brown – simply leave with this: “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”

#acceptuncertainty letgoofcontrol bevulnerable letgoofexpectations youarenough