"Sana olan aşkımı eşcinsellik olarak adlandıramazsın. Eğer seninle olan ilişkim yalnızca bedenine duyduğum ilgiden kaynaklansaydı, bunun adı eşcinsellik olurdu çünkü işe cinsiyeti katardık. Ben senin cinsine değil, tinine aşığım. Aşkımı bedene indirgeyerek bana hakaret etme."
so I have a gf and we have been together for 5 months, my family is very supportive towards me and this relationship and when I say family, I mean all, cousins, aunts, etc., even my father met her and he has been like the best (when I thought he wouldn’t accept me or her), but with that I was radical, I told him I wouldn’t go home or family meetings if he didn’t accept my gf, so he was the bigger person and slowly he’s accepting who I am and the bond between us is stronger now.
Anyway, the advice I need is this: the family of my gf is not like mine, they don’t accept her and less, they don’t accept me as her gf. I have only met her brother and even though I told her is okay, is kind of like bugging me and I don’t understand why, she spends weekends with them (which I’m totally okay with that, I love my family and I spend every moment I can with them) but the difference I see is that my family gets to be with her, spend time with her and I don’t have that place in her family and it hurts, is painful tbh, to see her have a wonderful time and I’m not there, so I start thinking “am I important to her?” “Am I enough?” Also I’m afraid her family will do the best to break us or won’t let us build a life together...maybe I’m overreacting but tbh I have always thought the worse and tbh I’m in a point in my life where I don’t want secrets or to hide or to pretend I’m someone’s friend when in reality I’m the gf. And for the first time in my life I want to be put FIRST, because I’ve always been second and I’m fucking tired of that...so... is that selfish? what should I do? I love her a lot, but this is a constant thought, am I strong enough? Am I willing to live like this? Is this forever? Ughhh my mind is crazy with many thoughts....
listen i know love simon came out in 2018 and we’re all done talking abt it now and i have a lot of mixed feelings abt the film but i will never, NEVER get over the rage i felt at how much it warped cishet ppl’s opinions of queer people who’ve been outed without our permission. love simon framing simon’s friends as the victims and simon as some weird sort of traitor for not coming out to them was so disgusting, especially bc a) in the book his friends actually support him after he’s outed and b) the movie was originally supposed to follow this same narrative but?? they changed it?? for some reason??
as someone who was outed in 2019 in a fashion similar to how martin outs simon in the film (and this happened when i was in MIDDLE SCHOOL before i'd even really figured myself out yet) i DIRECTLY felt the effects of love simon, especially in how my friends (both cishet AND queer) reacted to me being outed. everyone i knew refused to talk with me for up to weeks after the outing and while some kids rose to my support in a performative manner, no one tried to stop the rumor of my queerness from spreading, no one reported the person who outed me to the school administration even though our policy directly explains that hazing someone based on their sexuality is banned, no one would even work with me on fucking group projects except the one other out queer kid who’d also been outed by the same person who outed me one year prior to these events. and while i live in the bible belt and homophobia is so fucking rampant here, my school claims to be one of the ‘liberal’ ones. i can’t blame everything on this one goddamn movie but it had a fucking impact. hell, it’s even what gave cishets the idea to out so many queer people in my grade level from 2018-2020 alone.
i understand why it was an important film, and i understand why it’s special to so many people. but i will never forgive how it framed the cishets in simon’s life as victims when simon was the person who was outed without permission. and i’ll never forget how much the effects of this writer’s choice fucked with my life.
A pinned post with a little about me! I'm Heddwyn, and despite my username I'm not so much of a witchling anymore! I use they/xe pronouns and my blog is a queer + lgbt + trans + non-binary safe zone!
I'm a 22 year old Hellenic Polytheist + Cornish witch. I worship + give offerings too all the Theoi but currently have a strong working 'relationship' with Dionysus, Hera and Hestia :-).
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Throwback to when I made a post about people who menstruate and accidentally typed “mtf trans people” instead of ftm and people got on my ass and tore me apart in the comments instead of doing the logical thing and asking if I meant ftm. Tumblr can we pls step up and act like adults with a brain y’all are driving me nuts
Married Soccer Stars Ali Krieger and Ashlyn Harris Criticize Jenner for Supporting Transphobic Sports Bans
Lesbian soccer stars support transgender kids and athletes.
Reality TV and sports celebrity Caitlyn Jenner is running for governor in California, and in order to attract Republican voters she has supported the party’s anti-transgender sports bans. Given that she is transgender herself, that is pretty crazy, to say the least.
“I was taken aback by that because I feel like every kid, including trans kids, should have the opportunity to play the sport they love to play,” World Cup soccer champion Ali Krieger told Variety.
“And because they want to learn the important life lessons that sport teaches you and gives you and be surrounded by other young kids and to feel like they belong — that is the ultimate goal for our youth, is to feel like they belong, to love what they do and have fun. To have that opportunity is key. No matter if you’re trans or part of the LGBTQ community or queer or anything, you should be allowed to play.”
“When you think about sports in general, it is literally to connect and unite us to create a safe space,” Krieger’s wife Ashlyn Harris said.
“That is what sport is about. We can’t be segregating or making these laws where trans youth can’t be a part of things. I’m disappointed. I’m disappointed in the state we live in, Florida, for continuing to come up with these laws to just separate this community. I’m just disappointed. We still have a lot of work to do.”