#life after divorce

[irene2025]

Hopping into Easter season already. This year has presented some challenges. Not ones that were not expected. There’s been alot pivots in my life over last two years.

Some days I wonder will I grieve the rest of my life for what things never were, could never be, and are truly ends.

Then there’s the new beginnings. As someone who can fall in the trap of codependency very easily, I second guess a lot. I’m a little more cynical than I used to be. I’m a little more anxious about next steps. And, I easily fall into patterns that don’t serve me well.

Sound familiar? How do I handle it?

I give myself grace. I remind myself each moment passes. Make the best decisions you can. Look to the future with optimism. Take care of my own needs first.

#codepency #bd/sm community #motivation #quotes #self care #self improvement #health #swimmimg #healthy eating #lifestyle #positivity #life after divorce #rebuilding lives #optimism

[laikacore]

i miss you

all at once

and then slowly

i sort of don't?

it's not like you stopped

meaning something to me,

but maybe you did

and maybe you don't.

it's been a year

or it'll be a year in a while

and i didn't think this would end

for another five.

but maybe i'm lucky.

the long game by laika wallace

#grief #women poets #toxic relationship #life after abuse #life after divorce

[maybebecomingms]

you can't believe it's happening now

In 2022, my sister got us tickets to an Aly & AJ show in June. She'd seen them the previous summer at Lollapalooza and fell in love.

I kinda laughed at first - they're like Disney Channel stars, right? Alright, that totally sounds like a show we WOULD go to. And they're sisters, and we're sisters. It sounded perfect and dorky.

It was anything but dorky! Those girls grew up, just like we did, and their music is incredible! We caught another show less than a year later in April 2023. I told my sister that if they went on tour every year, I'd very happily make the trip to an annual concert. (We live about 2.5 hours from a large metro area that is a popular tour spot)

Of all the beautiful work they've done, I initially landed on one of their "we wrote this when we were children" songs, "Rush." Spotify told me it was my most-played song of 2022.

Don't let nobody tell you your life is over Be every color that you are Into the rush now, you don't have to know how Know it all before you try

I announced my intent to separate from my ex-husband in February 2022 and didn't move out until the end of May 2022. I had a sweet little house, a cute dog, financial stability, and from an outsider's perspective, a pretty decent and normal life. And I was going to blow it all up at 35 and see what happens.

"Don't let nobody tell you your life is over" on repeat got me through those months.

And it wasn't!

And it isn't!

And this life is so much more authentic and abundant with love.

Happy valentine's day 💖

#exvangelical #ex christian #life after divorce #love #valentines day #aly & aj #rush

[shakespearesociety63]

omg! He acctually did it! Im so happy for them <3

#shakespeare #anne hathaway #george russell #family #love #engagedgaycouple #engagement #proposal #wedding #life after divorce

[tattoorue]

#traumatized ass #unresolved trauma #i am so traumatized #end domestic violence #domestic violence survivor #toxic exes #toxic ex #fuck him #she’s a 10 but #life #good with the bad #getting over it #life after divorce #life after hell #piece of shit #therapy #needs therapy #still healing #didn’t deserve it #moving on

[kdr0h]

I fell in love with three things

your heart

your eyes

your fire

and you enraptured me

swallowed whole by your existence

it didn’t take long to be set free

by the one thing I’d never have:

your truth

#poetry #sadgirl #divorce #life after divorce #is this dating #prose #poems on tumblr #real life #therapy

[tinajoweiss]

Pretending this is my tiny house lol

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[lovelife5traumadivorcedeath]

When he was released from prison, 1 of our daughters started lying to me. It has become a huge problem in our relationship. The other has tried to remain somewhat neutral.

My ex has never apologized, or taken responsibility for anything he did. He just wanted to pretend like nothing happened. He lied and told me he was talking with all the kids they were working on their relationships with him. He talks to them all the time...etc.

He started using again, was arrested a few times and still lies constantly.

Then I get a call, my son is in icu and i got no other info. Of course everyone panics I get a flight and go to him asap. The ex does as well but decides its a good time to take his new girl friend on vacation at the same time. I don't know how anyone else would feel about that. I didn't care at the time I wanted to get to my son. I end up on the same flight as my ex and his girlfriend. Actually never saw him on the plane or at the airport when we arrived.

When the plane landed I was at the hospital in ten minutes. Our son was on life support. Our daughters hot a flight out and came to be there with us. He was removed from life support after 3 days they told us he had no brain activity.

This is the worst day of my entire life. Nothing can prepare you, nobody can help you. I watch my youngest child, my only son, take his last breath. There is no words that come close to describing the feeling.

#death of a child #overdose deaths #writing #divorce #grieving #life after death #life after divorce #addiction #life after loss #mentally exhausted #loss of a child #grieving mother

[isolde-serpentia]

I am Isolde

I once loved a man too deeply, and this is the end result.

I've become a shadow of what and who I used to be. 10 years of it, and I'm in too deep.

I can't give myself to another man, again. Nor do I want to.

I was, and still am, accused of being unfaithful, lying, manipulating, you name it. I did none of it. I gave and gave and gave until I didn't recognize myself.

He spit down my throat, degraded me every chance he had, even threatened to find other women if I didn't fuck him when he wanted it.

Accused me of always up to no good, when I was stupidly loyal to him. All the while, he has other women on rotation.

He is almost 50 years old, and looks for women with trauma because it's easier to manipulate them. Not to mention, he has gravitated to associating himself with folks he is old enough to be their father... A blue collar background still living a blue collar life but manipulated white collared folks due to their psychology backgrounds to make himself feel validated. It's only a matter of time before they see through his mask.

I've turned into a complete basket case over him. I don't even care, either. I travel in large groups of one, and I have more than one reason for it.

I wish he could have grown up instead of emotionally keeping himself stunted. As well as spiritually & mentally... I am no professional, but he is a classic narcissistic sociopath.

He destroyed me.

Now, I'm navigating the pieces to pick up and what to rebuild.

Sad truth is, if he walked up to me and said, "Honey, can we please try this again?"

I know I would cave.

I'm in too deep.

And this is the end result.

#heartbreak #healing journey #self discovery #self improvement #self reflection #self realization #life after divorce #life after trauma #life after abuse #spiritualgrowth #spirituality #spiritual healing #shadow work #accountability #no shame #therapy

[haikuswithdani]

no room.

all throughout this year, i could still only sleep on one side of the bed.

i spent so much time shrinking who i am to make space for you to fill.

and you filled my life. i orbited around you like you were my sun.

i watched what i said and withdrew from everyone to avoid your wrath.

perhaps "wrath" is harsh. all i know is the dull dread of your displeasure.

after all this time i'm still unpacking your lies and my illusions.

it's been a whole year and it's still second nature to withdraw and hide.

but tonight…i laid in the middle of the bed. there's no room for you.

#2017 #breakup #domestic violence #life after abuse #life after divorce #divorce

[legallotus]

The Power of Forgiveness in Divorce: Benefits and Challenges

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[irene2025]

“Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn.” Beyond Codependency

This has been another healing week for me. Much of my pain, grief and emotions are coming out layer by layer.

This week I specifically felt such shame in how much time I’ve spent obsessively focusing on the negative. It’s time I can’t get back and half the stuff I thought was true & half was a figment of my overthinking. In neither case did I have control of actions only responsibility was for mine.

As I rebuild my life I just take things day by day. I allow whatever comes of a day to stand on its own.

Yes, I have plans for the future, hopes, dreams and desires. I know now one by one those things will come to fruition in my life when the time is ripe. I am grateful for the opportunities ahead of me.

#motivation #quotes #self care #self improvement #health #swimmimg #healthy eating #lifestyle #positivity #divorce #life after divorce #rebuilding #melody beattie #codependent no more

[headspaceinanutshell]

Wholesome but holey

Since my last post, there has been a few significant changes in my life. My new relationship is still going well, we've even hit 6 months which I never believed would be possible after so much heartbreak in previous relationships.

Since me and my partner have been together, we have been on a holiday abroad, met each others families and even made the decision to move in together. I think the world of him and love him dearly. These are big leaps of faith for us both but so far it's working. Don't get me wrong, its not all been plain sailing. Whilst getting to know each other better, we've had a few and quite firey arguments. One of which resulted in me walking back to my parent’s house in tears. We both said things we didn't mean but it still hurt. To this day, I often replay what he said to me in my head. We both apologised and moved on from it knowing how much was on the line after how far we both have come. I hate the thought of us loosing each other over something so stupid.

The arguments do seem to be alcohol fuelled but I suppose, speaking for myself, that's when my guard comes down and my feelings come out. In most instances where something is said or I'm overthinking a situation, I won't speak up to save the drama. So, when I drink, I open up my heart and the tears start falling.

When something is bothering me, I've been encouraged to talk about it by my therapist, so I have been trying to work on it for some time now. I am not one to sit on an argument and fall asleep. I always want it to be resolved before we wake up the next day and the only way to do that is to talk it out. My boyfriend, however, is a closed book. With any conflict between us, he shuts down. Closes me out and will easily fall asleep and request to forget it all the next day.

Whilst forgetting it is good and a sign of moving on from it to me I feel that we are not moving past it. Those issues will resurface and relive again and again.

I have been asked to move into his flat with him at the end of January. I'm excited knowing that we can build our own space together and for my doggy to join me. My only worry is that it's such a small apartment that if an argument does arise, there is no other rooms to retreat to if we need space. And for him, I know this is what he wants when he's overwhelmed.

I'm sure it will all work out. I need to tame my over-active mind which is much easier typed than done.

On the plus side, 2 days ago, I had the news of which I've been waiting for since what feels like forever! I am now officially and legally divorced. When that email came through and I took it in. I immediately felt like a huge, heavy weight had been lifted from my shoulders.

Even though, I have no contact with my NOW ex-husband, I always felt like he still had control of me somehow just by that stupid piece of paper. Just another manipulation technique added to the huge list. Honestly, it feels like such a relief knowing that part of my life is NEARLY closed.

I say nearly because until my surname has been changed by Deed poll back to my maiden name, it will be a constant reminder of him. Now I'm back on social media, I ensured that my maiden name was public because I just don't want to be associated with that part of my life anymore.

So, hears to the future. We are nearly at the end of another whirlwind year. Let’s hope that 2024 brings me new challenges (Good ones) and lots of happiness. I just want to make as many memories as I can before my time runs out.

#new relationship #life after divorce #overthinking #worry #love

[maybebecomingms]

I think we’re coming to a clearing and a brighter day

April 9th, 2023

I spent a lot of Sundays in church hearing about how Easter is the most important Christian holiday.

I mean, yes Christmas. But... EASTER!!!

These religious holidays are really challenging when you’re recovering from spiritual abuse and trauma. I have to admit I didn’t see it coming.

I think for a lot of us, whether you believe the story of Easter or not, we’re reflecting on death & resurrection as it takes shape in all kinds of ways. 

This is my second Easter since I walked away from Christianity, so I think I expected it to be less impactful than the first one.

Last year on Easter, I was focused on death. The death of my old life. I could argue that my ex-spouse is the one who put our life together to an end by crushing my spirit in more ways than I’ll probably ever even get around to writing about here. And he did. But I’m the one who called it off and walked away. I was consumed by the death I was very much still experiencing.

This Easter is, for me, about resurrection and renewal. I can’t exactly say “I got my life back,” because the life I have now is so much better than what I had before. It’s so much better than what I could have even imagined before. I still find myself routinely wondering HOW IS THIS REAL?

I don’t exactly know what I believe about god these days or if I got here by any sort of divine guidance. Whether they deserve any credit or not, I’m just so grateful I made it to this side, to feel alive again, and to experience all that I’d been missing.

So if you’re waitin’ for love Well it’s a promise I’ll keep If you don’t mind believing that it changes everything Then time will never matter

#easter #exvangelical #exchristian #life after divorce #spiritual abuse #spiritual trauma #jars of clay #sunny days

[msweetwood]

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[tattoorue]

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