#like sure ppl online can go overboard with this stuff

[godsopenwound]

going to a concert by yourself tips from a fellow anxious person (I usually go pretty overboard w planning but thought I'd share what I do)! if it's a big enough artist, look online to see when other ppl generally arrive/how long queues are. plan out any transportation rly well, esp. if it's public transit. make sure someone knows where you are/what route you're taking and maybe check in w them at some point. check venue bag rules. bring earplugs if noise is ever an issue. bring a snack/water if you can, fidget toys if you like them, your ID/cash/card. ticket printed out in case your phone's annoying. remember everyone there has something in common w you (liking the artist) so any emotions you feel/singing along/etc. are gonna be shared and won't seem strange at all! if there's waiting around time etc. you could ask someone what their favorite song is or something—again, you already have something in common! offer to take someone's picture and then ask for one of you! or just keep to yourself and vibe that's cool too! I've had so much fun going to concerts alone recently, and once I breathe and plan ahead, there's so much joy to be had in existing simultaneously alone and with so many ppl who share your passion/interest :) hope you get to experience that

that’s seriously So sweet omg u r SO kind 😭😭😭 thank u so muchh for all these tips, planning things out really help me not to being That anxious about doing stuff,, and u r so right about everyone that’d be there will have something in common with me.. that’s actually so nice to think about. and breaths of course lmao breathing correctly always does it for me! also the “there’s so much joy to be had in existing simultaneously alone and with so many people who share your passion/interest” i’m engraving it on my brain, words to live by bestie. truly hope i get to experience that as well

#you’d be like the Best person to hang out with #u r really so very nice 🥺 #asks #anon

[tyrannuspitch]

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#4nti 4ntis are genuinely so strange sometimes #do you rlly think diagnosing a stranger with Abusive Friendship #based on one sentence in an ask from a DIFFERENT stranger #about them being around some ppl with possibly overzealous stances on fiction #is the Mature and Sensible and Responsible response lmao #you do not know them!!!! #like sure ppl online can go overboard with this stuff #and can sometimes be quite *toxic* #but there is a world of difference between 'some of my tumblr mutuals have strong opinions of media and im anxious abt it' #and an abusive friendship. which requires a *power dynamic* and a complex system of manipulation and control #and tbh a lot of investment in the friendship in a first place #and not everyone actually does do that w their online friends! #it can be hard to tell from the outside bc ppl can be willing to share more and therefore trchnically be closer #w/o actually putting that much *time* in #etc etc it's just complicated and different from irl #even things like the threat of isolation... like okay definitely a threat to some ppl. but plenty of ppl have strong offline support sys #which their online friends cannot touch #and imo it is easier to find *new* online friends than offline bc the circles you can move in are less limited #if ppl do turn out to be shitty and drop you #etc etc #yhe point is you're making sweeping statements while knowing exactly Nothing abt this person's actual relationship to their online friends

[golbrocklovely]

OK honestly I think it’s really stupid that people are so invested in this guys life like he’s fucking 24 let the guy live and so what if he gets a girlfriend or someone you guys don’t like not. Do you expect him to never fall in love and be with somebody because you guys are jealous of whatever the hell and it really irritates me that people do this like maybe she is friend maybe it’s girlfriend maybe they’re fucking married you don’t know that but who cares like let him live why does it concern you guys so much you know like it’s so annoying that people do this but like not even him like all celebrities and like influencers the only reason Sam isn’t part of it is because he’s in a relationship and has been for the last like 5/6 years if he wasn’t with Kat I’m sure it would happen with him to.. and it’s so irritating to me that people do this and a video that was posted like two days ago is still all over my explorer page because people want to dive so deep into something that’s not there and if it is it does not matter like get a life like seriously this is so dumb like why do people do this and act like they own Colby.. I’m not calling you out or people following this thread I’m just talking about people in general that do this and it’s kind of irritating honestly you can block me if you think I’m being rude or something but this I’m voicing an opinion soo…

as for him not talking about social issues not every influencer has to some people want to stay away from the drama and don’t want to talk about depressing stuff like yeah I get your famous and to use your platform for important things but that’s not something everybody wants to think about and do you not even acknowledging something like that you’re a little bit is saying that yeah you understand what’s going on you know it’s bad but you don’t wanna to dwell into somethings so negative just because you’re famous like what the hell they gonna do cause more awareness yeah OK go read the fucking news and you’ll find out more than looking at celebrities page

Sorry again if you think I’m being rude I’m just trying to say what I think about it like I said block me or don’t respond to those I really don’t care..either ly bye

first, you're totally fine. i didn't read your message as mean/hateful. i'm cool with ppl ranting in my askbox lol

and yeah, i agree. ppl are super invested in his relationships to a point that it is sad. i pay attention to them, but i don't try to speculate too much on them bc it's none of my business at the end of the day. i do think to some degree that a lot of fans go overboard bc they feel connected to colby and thus feel like they have a say in either knowing about what he does in his off time or who is dating in the first place. but i can only imagine how difficult it must be to feel eyes on you at all times and everything you do being watched, especially when it comes to who you could be possibly dating. let's not even get into the fact some fans feel like colby is theirs to some degree and thus hate any girl he comes into contact with bc hE's DaTiNg Me nOt HeR. i do wonder if sam was single would he get the same treatment, and i kinda think he would.

and on the social issues... i'm on the fence with all of it. first off, i like to believe that anyone i am a fan of is a good person and has morals that align with my own. so when something super tragic happens, they care like i do. do i think colby is terrible for not talking about every social issue/news story? no. he's online to be an entertainer. i'm not gonna get my news from an influencer. however, i do also feel like bc he has a lot of eyes on him, he has the best platform to spread awareness, especially when it comes to causes that are important and need assistance. but i can also understand that a lot of these things are super traumatic and hard to both understand and talk about. i know that this is coming from a place of privilege bc the fact that i don't have to live thru anything this awful and i get to choose whether or not i talk about it is not something many ppl have a choice on. that being said, i've had depression and anxiety since i was a teen, and things can get extremely dark for me. seeing some of these news stories is triggering and puts me in a really rough spot. and i know i need to pay attention bc when ppl are dying, the world needs to notice. but if i'm not in the right frame of mind... it's not good for me either mentally. so i can only imagine how colby feels, or really any influencer. it's all such a tough subject to discuss in general (and i know i forgot to mention some things) but i just feel like overall, you should focus on the actual problem at hand and not put your energy into the influencer that isn't talking about the problem. and if you don't like the influencer not doing their part, unfollow them. it's that simple.

#ask #personal #colby brock

[flyingcatstiel]

1of2 Tired of metas blaming executives / defending writers. Writers can write horrible endings. Proof - GOT, HIMYM, Lost etc. Executives didn't force those bad endings. Reading all these conspiracy theories feels like I am listening to Trump. Executives are homophobic but ok with incestous ending? I asked my SO (who never watched SPN) to watch SPN final with me. I quote him "didn't you say they are brothers. It almost looks like they are going to kiss - Ewww - is this what you want me to watch?"

2of2 Even if we look at bottom line - Executives - apparently don't care the fact that Destiel was trending FIRST world wide - in middle of pandemic, middle of historic US elections - such free publicity to gain more viewers and money - but they care about incestous endings which grossed out lot of people. I wish these metas and conspiracy theorists stop baiting people and stop defending writers. Even before covid - Dabb had intended for this bad ending with proof that only 30% will like it.

Oh, nonnie. If you have sent this just 2 days ago, I’d be there with you, all salty about metas defending writers. Today tho, after going through some serious posts about the CW involvement with the show, about Russian market, about professional dubbing practices I have my thoughts in different order. 

So, from what I’ve seen so far (barely past midnight November 26 in the US as of writing this). Jensen went to re record audio stuff for 15x18, most likely Cas confession scene. Now we have info from Latin America (2 separate dubs)  that Dean actually reciprocated Cas’s love declaration and only after that The Empty took Cas. Nonnie, this changes everything. The first thing so many viewers noticed and commented on was the weird way the scene was cut and how little emotions Dean showed. The running gag on twitter was that Jensen is homophobic and Misha strong-armed him into that scene. Non shipper said that it was platonic love declaration from Cas, coming out of nowhere. But most importantly, we, shippers were robbed from proper celebration of our ship going canon. After 12 years of sticking with the ship, they still took it from us. This is totally on the CW shoulders.

But also, this means that destiel was at some point greenlit by the executives to be reciprocated in canon. Until someone at the CW backpaddled in late September. The writers are not responsible for this, they are victims of these changes as well. Dean’s answer changes the emotional beats of several scenes in 15x19 in addition to the scenes that were cut. 15x19 has that strange montage at the very end which most likely was added to cover cut scenes, say like Lucifer, Jack and Cas scene in the empty? Because if Misha was in 15x19, that would mean that the prank call was never meant to be his last contribution. I mean, the disrespect to the fans, the writers and Misha, all in one episode.

And then there’s 15x20 which looks so weird that a lot of fans immediately said that it is a butchered episode. Thing is, we have no idea what kind of script was written pre covid, how much it was changed and when, and how much was cut out from filmed episode. I’ve seen posts sayin that the script for 15x20 was still in rewrites when they finished filming for 15x18. Which is very, very late for a shooting script. I personally think that Dean’s death was the thing Jensen disliked so much, but even then - we don’t know how it was framed in earlier scripts and how they arrived at that horrific scene in 15x20. 

I’m not saying that SPN writers are the most amazing TV writers out there, and I look forward times when we will be able to discuss all problematic stuff SPN is filled to the brim with, but. We just don’t know what exactly happened in the SPN writing room and how much executives meddled with it. COVID happened. Nothing of this is normal. This is why the most important thing right now is to pressure the CW for some answers. Look at them throwing Misha under the bus today. That tells you bunches how well they know fandom and how to manipulate us. 

Now about that incestuous scene, aka Dean’s death, and why homophobic executives would be OK with it but not canon destiel. Under the cut we go, mostly for space reasons. 

Ok, this is so funny but I actually just finished writing my second answer about wincest in 15x20 and had problems posting it and that’s how I learned that we broke tumblr and destiel went canon in spanish. Here’s my post, check it out bc I’m not repeating it  here. 

I think wincest, aka incest between two able bodied, adult male brothers is something casual viewer outside the fandom is not even thinking about. If it was sister/brother deal with intimate embrace, people would notice faster. But two masculine, 6 ft tall macho dudes during the death scene? Nope. Here comes plausible deniability which viewers also use to ignore anything “funny” between Dean and Cas. I’m glad that you and your partner noticed incest vibes, but, I’ve see plenty people even in destiel fandom being fine with such scenes between Sam and Dean. I’ve seen some destiel fans saying that they really loved 15x20, so, there are viewers out there for whom it worked. 

Now let’s look at the bottom line. TBH, I’ve no idea where to look? Where is the projected revenues for a show that is ending? You say that Destiel trending during pandemic is a proof that our fandom is huge, but. No one knew that we had such power! And trending on twitter is not something that translates into money easily. And it happened 2 weeks before finale. There’s no time to change finale anymore. I personally think that destiel fandom has been shrinking for past couple of years, since so many folks left due to bad writing and queerbaiting. But they came back for tweeting. At this point destiel is bigger than it’s fandom. I personally think that the CW would have benefited from canon destiel, but they made different call.

I agree with you that in general, fandom should not defend the writers so much and ought to be more critical about the stuff they write, but today, November 26, 2020, the game is happening on completely different plane. I’m pretty sure that we got a butchered finale, and I’m very much inclined to believe that it is somehow connected to their efforts to promote The Walker show. Maybe Dabb’s original finale was really bad, but show me the script then. If destiel was supposed to be reciprocated, then they might have gone overboard with bro love in Dean’s death scene. Only now, when destiel was one-sided, that scene becomes very wincesty seemingly on purpose. A good creative writing, in it’s finished form, is a very tightly woven fabric. You pull out some threads, you unravel whole fabric. And that’s what 15x20 is. 

2 days ago I’d be roasting metas who defend spn writers, today I want to storm the CW. (pitchforks anyone?) Destiel shippers were robbed, queer love story was censored, this should be the focus of or anger today, not the writers or actors. We can do both - demand truth about the Cas confession scene and roast original Dabb’s ending if we ever get it. 

ETA - after writing this up, I checked out some posts by blogs who debunk all conspiracies, including Spanish dub. They sound very convincing! But in that case we have to talk about long term queerbaiting that was taking place on this old CW show till the very last minute. Cas was used in promos for 15x17 he was not in. They (ppl who make promos) deliberately used Cas barn scene from 4x01 in those promos, then actual barn in 15x20 promo but somehow it is shippers who are delusional? Don’t start me on Song of the day. Angel with a shotgun for 15x19? What was that about? After 15x18 there was no official goodbye to Cas which made ppl to watch finale. Like? Even if the Spanish dub gets officially debunked by the CW and not some random blogs, we are left with the fact that destiel fandom was gaslighted during the last stretch of s15. And not only by writers.

And if this was the finale they so lovingly crafted and deemed to be good, where are the celebration of the SPN ending? Why we had to watch documentary before the episode? Why 15x20 was so short? Why Canada watched the episode first (and leaked spoilers online) They filmed after quarantine, the script had to be the usual length. And so on, fandom has been through all the things that didn’t match several times already. PITCHFORKS -> the CW

#anons #flyingcatstiel has thoughts #spn finale is a gift that keeps on giving #15x18 #15x20 #andrew dabb #te amo #wincest for ts #/// #i'm putting this in the queue #and I'll try to reblog more stuff re this issue #scroll down and read my tags #destielgate #PITCHFORKS