#listen to that shit

[dogmotif]

yeah they dropped a new love language. yeah a sixth one. its biting

#ill start listening to people about the love language shit if they do this #also i expect to see buffyverse hannibal and iwtv tags here btw. i hope you guys will do your duty.... #will speaks

[creme-meme]

Lil Nas X is someone who tragically had to have a wildly successful music career in order to support his true passion, being a top quality internet troll

#Lil Nas X #shit post #I haven’t even listened to the new song #I saw the opening of the MV and I was like #sooo many people gonna be mad about it #what a genius

[mokeonn]

"But if college was free, then people would abuse that and get useless degrees" hell yeah I would! If I could go to college without debt I would make it my job to get a degree in every little thing that interested me. I'd get a doctorate in film studies. I'd have a bachelor's degree for every science I like. I'd try to learn at least 5 languages with varying results. I would learn something "useful" like coding and then follow it up with a ""useless"" degree like art history. I'd be the world record speed run holder for getting every degree possible.

But I can't afford college without going into massive debt, so instead I spent the last 5 years trying to figure out what I am passionate enough about to consider going into debt over, because unfortunately being passionate about everything is extremely expensive to pursue.

#simon says #i love learning so much and I hate the USA's college debt system #once they make that shit free I will be unstoppable #this topic sprung up because I had the idea that im very academic and annoyingly analytical that I might as well get a degree in it #because without a degree you just seem like an autistic asshole #but with a degree? then you look like a CREDIBLE autistic asshole #don't worry I will still learn but I still want that funky piece of paper to tell everyone I learnt it #also there's some things that are VERY difficult to learn #like I would love to persue this topic further but unfortunately I would need help with that #also before you say 'try taking [blank] classes instead! it's less expensive than a degree!' im broke #my only learning resource is the library sorry about that #also this is not the post to give me unwarranted financial advice #finances are one of the topics I DO NOT care about and I WILL NOT listen to a word you say

[noonstate]

i need well meaning cis people to stop attemping to steelman trans healthcare conversations because it basically always ends with them just lying about easily checkable things "no minors are getting irreversible treatments" wrong not true "no minors are having surgery" also false, like instead just say the truth: currently some minors (few, but some) are able to access hrt that will have some irreversible changes on their body, some (even fewer) minors are able to access surgery.

the counter to transphobes screaming "these kids are being irreversibly changed" isn't "no children are accessing this care" it's "puberty is also an irreversible change" and "i think under 18s and even under 16s should be able to make medical decisions actually"

"no minors are accessing this care" means that transphobes can easily point to the examples of minors who are accessing that care, which just make us look like liars. sometimes teenagers and children need to make medical choices on their own. i think a 14 y/o should be able to get an abortion. i think trans kids and teens should be able to have the approriate care, which for some will just be like, picking a new name or haircut, and for some, sure, could be surgery.

#*m #so many journalists / youtubers / podcasters try to defend trans people but just like. say this shit that is basically a lie #i get why i get it's an easier convo to have but actually having the hard conversation is really fucking important. #not for the transphobes those people are fucked but like. for the well meaning libs who listen to x news piece or x podcast u know

[magentagalaxies]

i love you singers whose vocals sound desperate i love you musicians who sound like if you don’t get this song out you’re going to explode i love you songs that sound like they’re dragging the vocalist with them 80 miles per hour down the highway tied to the back of a truck i love you voice cracks in emotional songs i love you unique voices i love you music that disturbs the comfortable and comforts the disturbed

#currently listening to the normal album and holy shit i forgot how much i love suburbia overture lmao #i love you meme #music #will wood #the normal album #suburbia overture #love me normally #...well better than the alternative #i/me/myself #2econd 2ight 2eer #i'm also gonna tag other musicians who fit the vibe #mouth congress #(they're super underrated go listen to them) #jack stauber #fun #nate ruess #florence welch #florence and the machine #jack antonoff #the garages #katya veber #(fun fact katya is actually going to be working on a project with me soon and i'm so excited)

[clefadrylcorner]

Obsessed with lovers and piners calling the object of their affections their best friend. Like yessss blur the lines between platonic and romantic love. show how important they are to you in a multifaceted way. Cover up your feelings with another kind of love that is just as true. One type of love does not negate the other and but tragedy can rip both out from under you single handedly, and it will hurt so much more that way. Losing a friend and a lover. Gaining both and not needing any labels for what they are. Using labels but having it be so much more than a title. Were they friends before they were lovers? Or were they lovers whose friendship grew inside of their love? Unclear! Who cares!

#any time one side of the pairing pulls out the best friend card I am immediately on the floor #they can be side by side! they can be distinct! it doesn't have to be explained! #they did this in the new nimona movie and i crumpled #call me arospec and biased but holy shit this is my bread and butter #nimona #goldenheart #good omens #ineffable husbands #she ra #catradora #ace attorney #narumitsu #they ARE best friends. they are also lovers. are you listening to me. #should i tag queerplatonic here? that's definitely part of this too #clefadrylcorner talks a lot

[glitchedcosmos]

Smol classic baby cat

#listen #i know we probably won’t see him in classic style BUT I just love him #he’s just a lil guy #classic shadow is totally kitten coded #sonic the hedgehog #shadow the hedgehog #sonic x shadow #sonic x shadow generations #sonadow generations #digital artist #my art shit #digital art #sonadow #sonic generations #sonic #sonic tag #sega

[inkskinned]

kids remind me, often, of the things i've taught myself out of.

i have a big dog. he looks like a deer. he is taller than most young children. while we were on a trail the other day, a boy coming our direction saw us and froze. he took a step back and said: "i'm feeling nervous. your - your dog is kind of big."

goblin and i both stopped walking immediately. "he is kind of a big dog," i admitted. "he's called a greyhound. they are gentle but they are pretty tall, which is kind of scary, you're right. their legs are so long because they are made for running fast. i am sorry we scared you. would you like us to stand still while you move past us, or would you feel more safe in your body if we move and you stay still?'

"oh. i didn't know that about - greyhounds. i think i ... i want to stay still," he said. at this point, his adult had caught up to us. "i'm nervous about the dog," he told her, "so i'm - i'm gonna stay still." she didn't argue. she didn't make fun of him. she just smiled at him and at me and held his hand while goblin and i, with as wide of a berth as we could make, crept our way through.

behind us, i heard him exhale a deep breath and kind of laugh - "he was really big, huh? she said it's because greyhounds have to go fast."

"he was big," she said. "i understand why that could have made you a little scared."

"yeah. next time i - next time do you think i could maybe ask to touch him? when - i mean, next time, maybe, if i'm not nervous."

later, going to a work event, in the big city, i stood outside, trembling. my social anxiety as a caught bird in my chest. i took a deep breath and turned to my coworker. she's not even really my friend yet. i told her: "i feel nervous about this. i am not used to meeting new people, ever since covid."

she laughed, but not in a mean way. she said she was nervous too. she reached her hand out and held mine, and we both took another deep breath and walked in like that, interlinked. a few people asked us - together? - and i told the truth: i feel nervous, and she's helping. over and over i watched people relax too, admitting i feel really kind of shy lately actually, thank you for saying that.

the next time i go to an event, and i feel a little scared, i ask right away: wanna hold hands? this feels a little dangerous. i hesitate less. i don't hide it as much. i watch for other people who are also nervous and say - it's kinda hard, huh?

i know, logically, i'm not good at asking for help. but i am also not good at noticing when i need help. i've trained myself out of asking completely, but i've also trained myself to never accept my own fears or excuses. i have trained myself to tamp down every anxiety and just-push-through. i don't know what i'm protecting myself from - just that i never think to admit it to anyone.

but every person on earth occasionally needs comfort. every person on earth occasionally needs connection. many of us were taught independence is the same thing as never needing anything.

each of us should have had an adult who heard - i feel nervous and held our hand and asked us how we could be helped to feel safe. no judgement, and no chiding. many of us did not. many of us were punished for the ways that we seemed "weak".

but here is something: i am an adult now. and i get nervous a lot, actually. and if you are an adult and you are feeling a little nervous - come talk to me. we can hold hands and figure out what will help us feel safe in our bodies. and maybe, next time, if we're brave, we can pet the dog that's passing.

#spilled ink #warm up #so i have worked in childcare as a teacher for like 15 years #hence the language behind ''what helps you be safe in your body?'' #like you can tell by what i say here i have EXPERIENCE with kids. #but tbh the REAL teacher moment is watching a 6/7 year old say #''this makes me nervous #can you please not come closer?'' #as a teacher i was IMMEDIATELY like ... ahh whomever is raising you is doing an EXCELLENT job holy shit #verbalizing your fears? trusting an adult to listen? #ability to recognize a way you might feel safer? #like .... this kid's caregivers.... that one moment... i was like .... who are u i wanna french kiss you big on the mouth

[punkitt-is-here]

obsessed with this fucking homebrew rap

#my posts #shitposts #i was playing among us when i was listening to this and just like #i didnt do jack shit while listening #and that was my alibi #and they were like yeah that's a mason answer #that's genuine

[shittysawtraps]

everything is like a saw trap. except saw traps. those are like sex.

#shitty saw traps #saw franchise #mod amanda #listen I’m not even sure what this one means #I’m just saying shit

[valleyyofsorrow]

the most normal girls in the world …<3

#tlt #tlt fanart #the locked tomb #the locked tomb fanart #coronabeth tridentarius #ianthe tridentarius #tridentarii #ianthe tridentarius fanart #coronabeth tridentarius fanart #woaw that should be enough tags anyway #i know theyre in their third house clothes and ianthe has her skeleton arm but listen the arm is sexy so who give a shit #about continuity

[uran8ate]

in Disco Elysium I was expecting there to be some kind of “addiction mechanic” that would add a long-term downside to taking drugs, and was surprised not only by the absence of any such mechanic but also that the benefits of drugs greatly outweighed the cost. anyways fast forward to the late game and I was downing three bottles of pyrholidon and smoking an entire pack of cigarettes before attempting any check, and it was only then I realized there was in fact an addiction mechanic

#disco elysium #pyrholidon #listen if smoking increased your iq at the cost of moving you an inch closer to having a heart attack you would be smoking that shit all day #especially if the health effects could be instantly reversed with some nasal spray #tw drugs #tw substance abuse

[annoyingboing]

what in the rom com did i just watch

#loki every two words 'um' 'uh' #MANS WAS STUTTERING AND SHIT #HE WAS SO NERVOUS #tom hiddleston you mad genius #THE WAY MOBIUS / DON WAS JUST LISTENING TO HIM JUST RAMBLE HIS WAY THROUGH HE'S SO SWEET #loki #loki season 2 #loki season two episode five #loki season two #mobius #lokius #tom hiddleston

[arunneronthird]

maybe i didnt want a second chance

#listening to sad shit wondering why i draw depressing stuff #today it was the bends and weezers blue album #jason todd #robin #red hood #batman #dc comics #my art #ladies. gentlemen. you have eaten well.

[skeletood]

wonder what he's listening to!

#it's like. queen and other dad rock shit #and im correct #homestuck #john egbert #a skele fanart #my art #i have a whole playlist of music he listens to

[transsexula]

Please please please reblog this and put in the tags your music recommendations. I’m not talking about big artists and bands either— what’s a niche group, band, or artist that you can’t get enough of? What song or album do you enjoy the most? Why?

#metalcore #heavy metal #heavy music #music recommendation #new music #music #alternative #I DONT KNOW WHAT TO TAG THIS BUT IDC #y’all just give me some new shit to listen to it doesn’t have to be metal it doesn’t have to be English #they just need to Not Suck politically please