#look after yourselves

[satans-knitwear]

Biiiiiig stretch.

Treat me ~ Tip me ~ More of me

#Desperately hoping i will be better by tomorrow so i can do some scandalous things on camera. #It has been a horrible week and i dont remember most of it!!! Clawing myself out of that lil pit of despair rn ✨ #I hope your day treats you gently my loves. #Look after yourselves #Satans knitwear #Alt pinup #Pinup girl #Strappy lingerie bodysuit #Harness lingerie #black and white #bi girl #cheeky #wlw

[theladyspanishes]

Apologies but you were at the top of my Tumblr feed and I have been instructed to randomly tell someone online a painful truth.

Here goes.

Closing your posts to comments is an inherently hostile act.

Again; sorry. Nothing personal. We all serve the random number gods in our own fashion.

Mndrew, I recognise your profile pic, I've seen you around, I know you're a chill community member and active participant and stuff, so I want to be clear that this isn't like a dig on you or anything, it's just a response to the thesis statement: "Closing your posts to comments is an inherently hostile act". I don't know how many of you know this, but a while back, while I was still at university, I spent around a year? Maybe 2? dealing with an obsessive online stalker.

They made it very difficult to spend time anywhere online, but they especially weaponised Tumblr (I think they realised it was a less public account of mine where I could seek respite). I would wake up in the morning to find they had sent me hundreds, on one occasion close to a thousand, messages. The messages would range from threats of self harm or against me to seemingly nonsense phrases designed to just remind me that they were still there. The tumblr notification sound still spikes my anxiety.

You can't block someone like that. First of all, they would and do simply make more accounts (I just checked - I still have 30+ accounts of his blocked over here). Secondly, this kind of behaviour leaves you in a trap; If you interact with them, they know they have access. If you block them, they know that you saw their message... so they know they have access.

During this period, I had the good fortune of being able to ask Grace Helbig, of all people, whether she had any advice. She got so furious on my behalf I still tear up a little when I think about it, but *she* told me a painful truth that day: As much as you might like to, as much as most people know how to behave appropriately, you cannot leave yourself open to every line of communication your audience might want.

If you look around at my socials you'll probably start to notice a trend. You can't comment on my instagram posts unless you're a follower. You can't DM me unless I follow you on Twitter. Places where I can't control those settings, I simply do not ever open my inbox. In fact, it was really only a short time ago that I turned tumblr messages back on, after a loooong hard think. In many cases this is something that actively hurts my engagement, but it's a choice I've made to draw a line on where and when and how people can access me.

All of that said, you don't need to be an internet personality with digital stalker trauma to draw your lines. Closing your posts to comments is not inherently hostile, it can be an act of self-care, self-preservation. No one is entitled to be able to access you in every way they want to.

#still don't have a personal tag #also sidebar painful truths are so overrated whoever invented this “pass it along" game that I've no doubt started this #you're right up there with chain emails that tell people bad things will happen if they don't pass it on #not you mndrew I don't hold you responsible #also fun fact: i didn't even remember I'd turned off comments on my posts #and after finding out I had guess what? making the decision to keep it that way #Look after yourselves #I learned the hard way that there's no glory in toughing it out

[carlyleandco]

I hope everyone knows it is okay to be feeling like you are grieving when we lose something we love, even a story. Also, burnout with this sort of thing is very common, so I hope people are looking after themselves and not exerting energy past their limitations.

No one should feel pressured, either, to engage in saving the show. We all have our different responses.

#look after yourselves #lockwood and co #l&co. netflix #Save Lockwood and Co

[eso-studies]

12 May 2023 || balance (Eng) [noun]: a state of equilibrium or equipoise; a situation in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions

hey. hey you. the person who just read that paragraph 3 times and still didn’t process it. the person listening to a lecture but actually just staring out the window as the voice drones past them.

take a break.

you’re wasting time and energy and you’re just gonna feel more stressed.

I don’t care how long or short your break is, or what you do. personally, I’m going for a nap, but sometimes it’s as simple as making a couple of tea. changing position. doing a couple of stretches.

your brain and body are telling you it’s time to take a break. listen to them.

#studyblr #study aesthetic #aesthetic #studyspo #eso studies #student aesthetic #academia aesthetic #take breaks #look after yourselves #burnout fucking sucks and i don’t want that for any of you #uni life #uni student #student vibes #study vibes

[bldreamer]

fucking hell I just watched the uncut version (didn’t realise I wasn’t until now) and I might actually throw up

#I thought it was horrific #but this is beyond measure #please be careful lovelies if you are at all potentially triggered #do NOT watch the uncut version #please #look after yourselves #love in the air #love in the air the series #prapai x sky #sky x prapai #prapaisky

[pu1itzer-a]

hellooo you amazing people !!! i know I’ve not been around a lot and the truth is because of work … i started a new job three months ago and it’s taken over my life !!! happy to say i’m leaving in a month and the new job I’m going to is better money and less stress so i will be around a lot more !!! hope you’re all staying happy and healthy !!! seriously love you guys and feel free to tag me in starters if you want to interact !!! i’m working through starters i owe and hopefully get them out this weekend, thank you for your patience everyone and sticking with me 🌈💖🌈💕🌈💖

#⸻🪐 out of character : behind the byline . #miss u all and love u all #remember to stay hydrated !!! #look after yourselves #and be kind to yourself !!!

[a1ex-is-dumb]

im not scared of dying alone. im scared of dying surrounded by everything ive done wrong.

#i wouldnt want to die alone #ave been. dying alone doesnt mean nobody cares about you. it means they couldnt be there or they were asleep next to your hospital bed or y #uve distanced yourself from your family and friends because you dont want them to see you like that. you still did good throughout your lif #and people cared about you and loved you and you were there for them and they were there for you. if you die surrounded by your mistakes #th all the things youve done wrong #f the people i love. #alex posts stuff #long post #text post #tw death #dying alone #you are enough #i love you #look after yourselves

[satans-knitwear]

Damn gworl I feel you I spent a night on the side of the road wanting to throw up cause I missed a dose recently, gotta be on top of it with alarms and such.

Yah, this is a PSA: CHECK HOW MUCH MEDICATION YOU HAVE LEFT. ORDER MORE IF YOU NEED TO. GET IT COLLECTED AND TAKE IT ON TIME.

Your mind and body will thank you greatly and you deserve to feel better.

#Sending my love to all my fellow fools who need it 💕💕💕💕 #Big fukin mood there my love. #Look after yourselves #Asks

[positivelyqueer]

If your mental illness doesn’t have an easily identifiable or logical “cause” it still doesn’t mean it’s your fault.

#Mental health #mental illness. #recovery #look after yourselves

[stranger-nightmare]

just wanna let you guys know I won’t be answering any more asks tonight! it’s been a very long day for me and I just wanna chill and rewatch Hemlock Grove haha! I’ll try and get round to answering them tomorrow when I can

also just a lil please remember to stay hydrated, drink your water, eat a lil something if you can, take your meds, read some smutty fanfiction bc you deserve it! just generally take care of yourselves, especially if you’re in the midst of a heatwave like I am!

I hope everyone has had a lovely weekend! <33

#the voice of a nightmare #gentle reminders #look after yourselves #<33

[bluebellhairpin]

Sadness is hitting quite terribly so remember to drink water lol

#bye guys it was fun #look after yourselves

[feral-and-chaotic]

Some very messy, very scared and frustrated vent art.

Context:

I gave myself chronic tendonopathy in both feet and have found myself unable to walk, when walking and hiking were my forms of stress management and majorly things I enjoyed.

In theory it should get better give or take another year.... but fucking hell is it terrifying being unable to do the things that I love.

Especially when I keep being set dates and goals for getting better and keep seeing those goals come and go.

I keep telling myself that if it doesn't heal, I'll get a cool wheelchair and go where I wanna go like that. Get back to being active and travel as best I can. But some days are just a bit worse than others

And man when the pain comes back after doing too much, it's hard to not be sad.

#disability #chronic pain #vent #recovery #Top tip kids hiking without taking rest days isn't good for you. #especially when you are hyper mobile. #look after yourselves #vent art #bad art

[aimseytv]

trying to exist while my body is just constantly fighting my internal organs is exhausting i wish i could just teleport into a body that works

#bit of a sad post but i wish my body just worked the way it should #i shouldn’t have to do a million and one things just to exist without so much pain you know #gonna just try my best to look after myself as much as i can #i advise you all to look after yourselves also

[positivelyadhd]

Friendly reminder that you do not have to buy loads of new planners/journals or try new productivity systems in the new year.

You do not have to try and reinvent yourself overnight.

Change and growth happens slowly, and you are allowed to take your time with it.

#something about all the specifically adhd focused productivity apps/subscription services/journals ect around atm rly irks me #it feels like a new flavour of the productivity money making thing specifically for those of us that struggle with it #and i cant help but feel like its exploiting our adhd tendency to try new things like that #look after yourselves this new year <3 #actuallyadhd #recovery #productivity