#look at me being the bigger person

[rowenabean]

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#just saw a post that was like 'if you have religious or moral objections that stop you from providing certain types of medical care maybe #you shouldn't work in healthcare' (paraphrased) and... #what a way to look at the world tbh #like. they're talking about me i think - i am a conscientious objector when it comes to euthanasia #(which granted has come up exactly twice and both cases in a theoretical capacity only this is not a frequent request to me) #and... i am also a good doctor #last week i told someone that her weight doesn't matter to her health with receipts to prove it and she cried #no one had ever told her that before #and that was something that came from me specifically. that was something i would not trust all of the GPs in my practice - a practice of #excellent and compassionate GPs! - to say #i am verifiably doing good in my job that is coming from specifically who i am as a person #i cannot put that down when it comes to issues i care deeply about #fundamentally the fact that i cannot put it down is what makes me a good doctor #i think that's what i'm trying to get at #the reason that i do well by my patients is that i practice out of my values and my ethics #if i did not stand on that core i would not stand at all #so you can't have it both ways. you can't have engaged and active and compassionate healthcare providers without sometimes those engaged an #active providers having things they do not feel comfortable doing #and it is to everyone's service if they are up front about it and do not try to hide (i am suspicious of people who try to hide this) #i am literally figuring this all out as i type hence the v long tag ramble and also being nowhere near the post that started this train #(honestly in med school we talked so much about ethics as like. abortion! euthanasia! trans rights! and the ethics in practice is the littl #things. do you apologise when you mess up. how do you manage a consult with your patient with paranoid dementia and her child in the same #room at one time - or one by one bc that's fraught too. (that one's on top i had one of those today.) how do you act with grace when #you're a bit stressed and your patient is a bit stressed and the nurse wants to add five more things to your book. the day to day ethics is #SUCH a bigger thing when you come to actual practice.) #this is obviously entirely about me and leans on the fact that i largely do think i am doing a good job i am really feeling my own way #to a Thought. but i think to a certain extent it is generalisable

[dogwittaablog]

I feel like Nolan is deceptively big, like I’ve seen his stats, I know that man is a big boy. But yet in his pics he doesn’t look that big!! But yeah 7 mins in heaven with him towering over you, taking up all the space, where do I sign up

No literally he’s about 200lb+ and 6’2-6’3 and in pics I always thought the same, that he just looks like some average sized dude until… you start putting him beside people or witnessing him up close and personal and that’s when you’re like O H 😶.

*I wouldn’t mind being suffocated by him in a closet*

#I have heard by folks he’s indeed bigger in person #i think there’s like a handful of content where you can really capture his size #he’s big but doesn’t look big but he’s big you know #but other then that he’s fooling us through the lense of being a big boy #nolpats if u see this plz let me climb you #lift me up and hold me I beg #nolpat #nolan patrick #feb 24 subs

[humblemediagenius]

do you SAY you care about fat people and stuff but do you ACTUALLY care? do you give them a look when they say they cant find a shirt in their size? do you kind of roll your eyes when they mention trying to eat healthier or eat less? do you look uncomfortable when a fat person talks about being fat?!

yeah, sure, you say you wanna get with fat people but do you care. Do you really actually fucking care.

#seaspeak #im sorry this is just. a rant #ive been feeling self concious lately #its not really anyones fault im just lowk kinda sick of being looked down upon bc im bigger #and i see posts on tumblr like Ohh yeah i wanna fuck a fat person theyre so hot #but do you really think this way? do you treat fat people decently? do you actually care? #i feel eyes judging me all the time and its like #:/

[newvegascowboy]

Why is my nephew so huge. He was like a potato a few months ago

#not fallout #kal talks #sorry i just walked past his bassinet and was like holy shit that's a human person #this isnt just me being shocked by ontogeny like he's genuinely a big baby #he looks like a toddler #youre telling me hes going to get BIGGER

[martyrbat]

im still not over that video of the fat men in swimsuits dancing and partying and a cishet woman making an addition to the post saying how they looked friend shaped and like theyre safe and give good hugs like. girl can you take your fatphobia and infantilization someplace else some of us are horny !!!!

#i think some people take fatphobia as JUST being denied medical care constantly being ridiculed and mocked and targeted in crime etc etc #but also like. youre treating fatness as a blanket moral judgement for a whole group of people lol #a fat person isnt more pure or innocent or safe than a skinny person just because theyre fat #like yea i feel comfortable around other fat people more because of my trauma of treatment from skinny people #and im more attracted to fatness but wdym they look trustworthy just because theyre fat??? #like its just always so weird how people cant talk about fatness normally even when trying to be ‘supportive’ #you 9/10 wouldn't say a skinny bitch looked friend shaped/like they give good hugs bc theyre skinny why is that the only compliment we get? #im just being bitchy rn im in a bit of a mood and forgot i screenshotted that before deciding to be the bigger person #me at 11am: its annoying and strikes a nerve but alas their intentions were made in good spirit and it isnt worth complaining about #me at 6pm: i can kill you with my bare hands i WILL kill you with my bare hands. 🐻👋 <- watch out. bitch.

[fencecollapsed]

I think it's interesting and speaks to varied experiences that a lot of aromantic people talk about never having had crushes, or picking someone to have a crush on. I definitely got crushes and still do, my experience wasn't never crushing on people, it was that my friends all took crushes Way More Seriously than I did

#i never understood the idea that crush = definitely wanna date this person #yknow #to me it just means. that person is notably cute/appealing. i like looking at that person. extra points if theyre nice also #platonic crushes have always been a bigger deal to me fjskfn that person is COOL?? i want to be their FRIEND??? damn now its serious #usually i knew it was just platonic but there were definitely times i confused romantic and platonic attraction #yknow in jaiden animations' vid about being aroace she says she thought romantic attraction was wanting to be their number one best friend #thats the vibe thats when i got mixed up #add not being ace and i just thought romance was wanting to be their number one bestie AND being down to smashngkkdmzngkd #cj says stuff #aromantic

[fideidefenswhore]

things that make you go hmmm.

#this scene should have been with matthew parker but i mean. im glad it was included somehow #but the personality change from s2 to s3 is...something. it means that when she returns for the finale that what she says #does not even sound like her or line up with what was (re)established of her character in s3 #umm but yeah i would not tell my husband's mistress to take care of him if anything happened to me like. lol. what #i would be like if i die? kill yourself <3 #they really just made her Selfless and Nice . no other qualities or flaws except i guess being self-abasing...? #and like no i don't watch television to find characters i can 'relate' to that's just an observation #but really it narratively makes no sense is my bigger issue with it #what has henry done for her to have earned that sort of selfless devotion . literally nothing #given her a puppy? looked at her and smiled while she was washing her hair? #whereas with her predecessors at least you get their sense of bond #in s1 henry is favouring the alliance catherine wants they have the bond over their daughter and there's the sense of their shared past #and joys at least... #for anne they have fought for so long to be married and the bond of their child again and religion #hirst was a menace. i hate this show fr sometimes #i mean i guess. henry promoted her family as he did her predecessor's #but it still doesn't feel earned bcus despite that there's so little regard for them? #she finds out her father died and that she can't even go to the funeral. so . like . again...... #the tudors

[von-karmas-a-bitch]

hi last time i scoured court records dot net for all the official gay lawyer content i could find i somehow missed the maya page of the fanbook but i found it today and. height difference franmaya where they're both short queens but maya is an even shorter queen CANON

(for the americans and fellow brits who use both metric and imperial depending on the situation, 154cm is about 5ft and 162cm is about 5'3.5" which i have been losing my mind about for months bc that is my exact height i AM franziska von karma)

#i have known for so long that franziska is my height and have been dying to know maya's height #all i had before was her referring to herself as vertically challenged in professor layton vs phoenix wright #(which btw makes her the only other character to be referred to as vertically challenged. besides franziska in turnabout remniscence) #(so first of all. made for each other. but second of all i compared 13yo franziska's investigations overworld sprite to bratworth's) #(and then compared adult franziska's to edgeworth's. and taking the heels into account franziska has probably grown...) #(...about an inch or so. since she was 13. which is yet another thing she has in common with yours truly. holy shit) #i have been dying to know. what their height difference is. hoping that maya was shorter but only by a little bit. #and i was right. they are exactly as i envisioned #franziska looks tall next to maya but is actually a short queen #5'3'' energy is real and me and franzi both have it #technically she is closer to 5'4'' like she's just under it she's actually 5'3.7'' roughly but. i rounded it down to a multiple of 5 #totally biased here nope #but. let me have this ok #i deserve a little projection as a treat #they also remind me. of my first relationship #im still besties with that first gf #and like franziska and maya we were and still are basically the same person in different fonts #with me the franziska being the more jaded and cynical one with bigger daddy issues #and they the maya being more ''but i stay silly :3'' and having bigger mummy issues #and the height difference is. you guessed it. about the same. although i think the exie is slightly shorter than maya instructions unclear #and despite me appearing more prickly on the inside and them seemingly being small and nonthreatening #while secretly being a powder keg ready to explode at a moment's notice #bc all that rage is kept internal 99% of the time #and them being the one that could like. keep me in line when i was being a bitch #like that moment in trials and tribulations where one glare from maya had franziska actually praising larry's artwork #like i cannot stress enough how much franmaya happened in real life and it was my first relationship #they mean the world to me they are the ship of all time im obsessed #franmaya #maya fey #franziska von karma

[hella1975]

Hhella i have a question. Many people i follow like bungo stray dogs and despite me trying to watch it 2 times now ive just not gotten into it so idk what happens in the later seasons

but.

Literally no one i follow posts anything about the main guy. Tiger ass. Atsushi. I see so much bsd fanart everyday tbh i cannot remember a SINGLE one being artwork of him. Its only dazai and like. 2 other people who i dont know. One of thems got a hat. Anyways like. is tiger ass still the main character in the later seasons??? Do people just not like him as much???? Ive been thinking about this for days hella

this has no business being so fucking funny but i read the entire ask like this

#fighting for my LIFE trying not to laugh at him ATSUSHI IT'S OKAY GET BEHIND ME U DONT DESERVE THIS SKDHGKSHDG #'tiger ass' 'one of thems got a hat' i cant be here #the only explanation i can give u bc you DO have a point atsushi isnt the most popular of all the characters despite being the protag #is that bsd's cast gets much bigger (already pretty big just with the ada) and it's v easy for him to not seem as interesting in comparison #NOT MY OPINION BTW HE'S MY POOR LITTLE MEOW MEOW #also bc bsd leans HEAVILY into moral greyness and fleshing out their villains and we all know how tumblrinas looovee their irredeemable men #me personally i didn't look away the moment i saw chuuya like i knew what i wanted #and ive stuck with that for four seasons several light novels and a movie #like im here for the long haul #but fyodor and nickolai and yosano are also HUGELY popular. and dazai AND AKUTAGAWA!!!!!!!!!!! MY BABY BOY!!!!!!! #tbh i do really think it's just a preference thing like every character in bsd has a mini army willing to kill and die for them online #i cant believe this atsuhi slander im gonna find a load of atsushi content now out of spite #we as a fandom have let him down #ask #bsd #atsushi nakajima

[jonny-b-meowborn]

Guess who fucked her wrists up during work because he refused to go on a single break because he felt like that's the only way to prove she's not useless since her autism stops her from doing anything a person his age "should" do

#its me. if you couldn't guess #i did that #i didnt do any actual damage to my wrists but they are in pain and i can already feel that its gonna get worse #and ill probably have an awful time trying to sleep because of it #and look. #i know that im not useless #i know that prople who have similar or bigger struggles aremt useless either #i dont believe that anyone's worth depends on having a job or being productive or whatever #i do know that #but sometimes even when you know something you dont feel it #yknow what i mean #and this blueberry plantation is the only job i can have right now #im not built for a dayjob but im able to work for a few hours with saplings every now and then #though that is. very physically tiring #which is also extra frustrating to me as a young person #because the other older ladies at the job always make me feel like im not allowed to be tired or in pain because im young #so i never say that im tired until im alone w my mom #and i want to prove that im not a useless parasite. i can do some work. so i might as well give my all #and dont take any breaks #im not trying to excuse hurting myself #but you know. its hard to think straight and respect myself sometimes #sometimes its easier to hurt myself in ways that make other people think good of me #im treating myself to some snacks now tho #gonna go buy myself some chips and smoke s cigarette and watch silly videos and play games and go to bed #and yes i know that being kind to myself after i was cruel to myself doesnt fix that #i shouldn't have the mindset of #yeah im being unnecessarily cruel to myself but at least im gonna reward myself later :) #but y'know what can you do #(go to therapy i should go to therapy) #bee buzz

[cinna-bunnie]

thank you chkdsk, she's like a sister to me

#lmao a computer at work got stuck on an update bc it ran out of storage space so i had to clone to a bigger hard drive #and all i had to do to get it to pick up where it left off was run chkdsk once 🙏🏾 #girl i was looking for stuff to delete on here before getting to that point‚ WHY do these installers take up 50GB?? #why did the old IT manager only use 120GB hard drives?? why did they only use 4GB RAM on the laptops?? #stop being so frugal do u know how wasteful modern operating systems are.. #૮ – ﻌ–ა my job has been a lot of cleaning up and actually trying to fix things that ppl have avoided for at least 8 years. #buck stops w me kinda thing (as a personal choice). some of these ppl r like im trying 2 work but things keep crashing n lagging #and i take a look at task manager and their RAM's all used up (⁠〒⁠﹏⁠〒⁠) i am so sorry. PLEASE take this newer laptop #if we don't have any then at least let me upgrade the memory for u.. this is unacceptable..

[peribirb]

whoops! i thought about My Gender too hard and it sent me into a dissasociative depression spiral! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

#what if i'm faking it! what if i do this and it doesn't actually help me at all! #what if i'm broken in some bigger way and no matter what i do to transition i'll never be comfortable and happy with myself! #what if i can never stand to look in the mirror or take a selfie or be around people no matter what i do! #what if i'm chasing a standard i can never live up to and so no matter what i'll never like where i go! #what if i'm just not a real person and i've been making all this shit around me up! #i feel like i have impostor's syndrome but just for the basic act of Being Alive

[icewindandboringhorror]

Misc. photos from the past year or so ~

#image commentary in tags once again since they don't allow captions anymore and I feel weird using the alt text for that -- #1. napping bapy boye sneeping on his own foot as if it were a pillow #2. The little primrose that I have seems to bloom sporadically all year around as long as I bring it inside and don't let it freeze #in the winter. This was a flower that came up randomly like mid november lol #3. Rainbow where you can see a little bit of a second rainbow near the bottom of it :0 #4. CHILDREN.... love to see them..... #5. Halloween Candy ranking tierlist. not important enough to post on it's own. so throwing it in with one of these I guess lol #I am also not really a candy person at all and prefer bready stuff like cakes rather than chocolate bars (if I even have to have sweets #at ALL which usually I prefer savory food). I suspect the apple is controversial but.. I do love apples .... huzzah #actually am having applle and peanut butter snack right now as I'm writing this lol #6. Various bowls/cups/etc. that I got from a store at COMPLETELY different times like.. years apart from each other #yet at some point realized that they all mostly match in paint color and seem to be part of the same pattern #But I totally didnt make that connection until a few years ago when I was putting up dishes. I just bought them all invidually because it's #like 'oh cool! a cat' *1 year later* 'oh cool! a cat!' etc. lol.. I guess it must be a popular design if it's been around being sold that #long. #7. carne asada burrito and matcha bubble tea... oughhgh.... again one of my very rare meals where I actually go and get something.. #probably my favorite meal currently. Something about the Chronic Anemia makes me crave beef burritos madly despite only having one #maybe twice a year or so ghjbhj.. plus the beans.... onions.... many of my Diet Forbidden foods... Also of course the little aishas #are there.... somehow they shall split the meal together even though it's like 10x bigger than their bodies.. they are also hungry #and vastly anemic... huzzah to them... #8. I've had this shirt for a long time but it fits very weird so I can never find a way to use it in outfits?? But I recently had #an appointment where a doctor needed to be able to look at my back and it's one of the only actual Shirts that I have (mostly i just own #long robes or tunics or jumper dress type of things that would be hard to lift up or etc. like... I dont even own a single normal 't-shirt' #or anyting aside from one giant tshirt that I sleep in in the summer lol.) So I wore this there.. I forget how much I love the pictures on #it.. how pleasant... little hummingbird... AND I think one of the flowers is supposed to be columbine ... ! #photo diary

[hearvex]

your latest reblog about the whole situation is honestly how i’m feeling about it all- but i know voicing that would immediately be shut down by people. I just want more context :/

no yeah literally same (tw // sa in tags)

#i always support victims but i've seen many cases where the accusation is just a lie #Or just exaggerated to fit their narrative of the other person being the Bad Guy #but like as i've mentioned in my priv #i've been in a very similar situation with a guy and our age difference was Way bigger than what it is in this case #both drunk both over 18 yet i felt fucking uncomfortable after what happened so i cut him off #if i told the story the way she did i could also make it look like he assaulted me yet i didn't because i believe that simply didnt happen #sure he was way older than me yes he shouldve known better but i was at fault too #consent was implied and i never said no which is why this case is just ehhhhh #hits home and i don't necessarily see how he's being thrown to the dungeon this fast #but maybe it's just me projecting and it was Worse idk #if it was just tickling vs groping you know whole different story #too many thoughts #if it was worse and consent wasnt implied and groped her or worse then a big fuck you to him #but if that's not the case then ehhhh idk #ask h

[neixins]

the sword and shield part of the prophecy is soooo vague that i’ll rotate every possible theory inside my silly little head and then go “or it could be smth else”. absolute net zero conclusions reached but i had fun.

#like. i think hak being the sword is one of if not the most popular theories and i can see it bc well. look at the guy #but it’s the specifics of the wording that give me pause #‘WHEN the four dragons are gathered the sword and shield which will protect the king SHALL AWAKEN’ #when hak’s been there from the beginning + there’s also ik-su’s warning that hak will die if yona doesn’t find the dragons #which. there’s definitely ways to interpret him still being the sword (or shield!! that’d also be a neat twist) even with that in mind #but ngl i’m also a sucker for the idea that he’s just. there bc he loves yona. no connection to the prophecy whatsoever. #like both options make sense to me and i can see either one happening #anyway my personal favorite theory rn is that riri is the either the sword or the shield #not saying it’s the most probable option. just the most fun to meeee <3 #and ngl it only occurred to me during the latest chapter bc she’s clearly gonna play some kind of role #so it’s not like i have like a mountain of compelling evidence but i do have more than just. a feeling #like she has the sociopolitical standing and the ability (or at least pluckiness) to fill either role right? #and she was introduced and grew as a character only after all four dragons were gathered #which fits with some of the only things we know about the sword and the shield #do u see what i’m getting at?? am i making any sense at all?? #it could also ofc be a literal sword and shield which. tbh i think is the most likely but also less fun to speculate about #anyway i also think tae-jun will have a bigger role to play. either as a part of the prophecy or not #but also how might zeno’s recent actions impact the prophecy……. much to think about as always #but that’s enough theorizing for one day! time to grab my iced coffee from the fridge and work on my silly little fic <3 #akayona

[anoptimisticadventurer]

i'll be your valentine's if you'll... 💘

#happy valentine's day #i tried my best #but i have had a very struggling disappointed and self-depricated 3 weeks or so now #that being said #i kept my word and it is what is #you're looking at someone who just recently started getting active again and is slowly motivating themselves to be productive #please don't be mean and body shame #it wouldn't let me add the gifs naturally because apparently the mb was bigger than 10mb so oof #this was the best i could do #i was like 70% hard. i couldn't get myself super hard my apologies. i really really made an effort to do so but alas #anyways #i feel like shit but whatever life goes on and this feeling won't last forever. getting back on track 👍🏽 #i am going to be a-fucking-okay 👊🏽 #😊😊😊 #a rose colored tease #personal #🥀🖤 #stay sexy y'all