Me: awwww I don’t know about this new show Hazbin Hotel webseries. It’s got a great art style that I really like, but it’s for adults, it’s got explicit language and crude jokes I just... I just don’t know about this. Plus it’s set in hell so I’ve got to deal with bad theology and I already get enough of a headache from SPN...
where did I see that video link again
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*deep sigh* you cannot say Ursa is the reason Ozai abused Zuko. Ozai abused Zuko because Ozai is an abusive piece of shit. None of Ursa’s actions are responsible for Ozai’s behavior. Ursa is an abuse survivor whose abuser was not only higher class than her and had her living in a location so far away from her family as to effectively isolate her completely from her entire support structure, but also the ruler of the entire nation. She had no power in that relationship and no recourse for any of the harm he would visit upon her and her children. Yes the comics writing are shit and also dead to me, but it was not unreasonable for Ursa to feel that she couldn’t do anything to protect her children by staying, both because of her objective social power and status and because of how her perceptions and emotional and mental state would have warped under the effects of a decade of abuse and isolation, convincing her that she is powerless and worthless and that the best and only way to improve the situation is to leave.
It’s also worth noting that Ozai escalates the abuse *after* Ursa leaves. Ursa doesn’t think shes’ leaving her children with a man who is willing to permanently scar them because Ozai's abusive behavior up to this point has been more about invasiveness, undermining, emotional and verbal abuse.
Also, Ursa doesn’t “uses her son against Ozai” she tells a lie that Zuko is not Ozai’s son in order to draw out information about whether Ozai is surveilling her and completely cutting off her communication with her family. It is completely logical for Ursa to expect this tactic to make Ozai angry at *her.* Ozai purposefully reinterprets her intentions with this tactic because he is an abuser, and he wants to hurt her as much as possible, and he knows that hurting Zuko is the way to do that. Ozai has plenty of fucked up reasons to want to hurt Zuko *and* to use Ursa’s children against her, regardless of how perfect Ursa acts.
Which is besides the point because our expectation of Ursa’s behaviour Should Not Be that she acts perfectly. Abuse fucks you up. Ursa is in a traumatic situation, it is expected that this makes it harder to access good judgement because That’s How Trauma Works. Just as Azula and Zuko hurt each other accidentally (or even on purpose!) sometimes because of the effects of abuse, Ursa also hurts her children, especially Azula. But that harm can coexist with the fact that Ursa is also grievously suffering and Ursa deserves to heal and to be considered for forgiveness from her family and have the harshness of the circumstances of the situation be considered when her children make the decision of whether or not they can give her that forgiveness
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