#love addict

[theaddictspoetry]

Something's in my brain,

It imprisons me,

Can't you see?

It drives me insane

Just keeps me waiting in vain,

Everything's changing,

When I'm still stuck in this dark, cold place.

@theaddictspoetry

#recovery #poetry #recovering #drug addiction #addiction #addict #drug addict #bpd #poem #poet #love addict #addictions #drug user #iv drug use #iv drugs #drugs #fuck drugs #fuck heroin #heroin #heroin addict #addict in recovery #addiction recovery #recovering alcoholic #recovering addict #recovery quotes #recovery poems #recovery is possible #sober #i am sober #sobriety

[tomb-mold]

now I see the trap I’m fallin in can’t believe how dumb I’ve been

#stuck in my head #love addict #sugar high #kris esfandiari #audio #reposting this

[affectiondeficitdisorder]

A New Anthem for Sex and Love Addicts

Okay, RAYE may not recognize herself as a sex and love addict, but some of us might recognize ourselves in her. I like the jazzy Saturday Night Live version of the song more than the original music video, but go ahead and check that one out, too. The Ghanaian-Swiss Londoner swept the Brit Awards, and she's likely to sweep the US charts after her network debut.

#love addiction #sex addiction #love addict #addiction #raye #escapism #Youtube

[decaydancemp3]

#family force 5 #love addict #business up front party in the back

[ribcageteeth]

#come vibe with me #family force 5 #love addict

[the-rainbow-flavored-university]

throwback Thursday to this song which pops into my head every few months

#I. #idk what to say #love addict #family force 5 #throwback thursday #tbt #LMFAO #lmao #classic #fav #love #rainbow talks #Youtube

[shoogahplumm]

#text #lovesick #love #addict #love addict #love me #chill vibes #no really #imessage

[slutdge]

i want addicts to be safe and fed and housed and loved unconditionally i am 100% serious

#if youre struggling with addiction i love you #🔗

[chezzabellesworld]

My story part five

So I left off of living with that lady who didn’t like when the alcohol ran out and would become very abusive and lonely. As I look back now I see it is lonely nice and sadness. At the time it’s been a younger girl of early 20s I saw it is funny, I saw it is hilarious but we meant twice like my age finding it funny too. Maybe they had more insight but in my head men never grow up they should’ve had the emotional capacity to realise what was really going on, but it was hard sometimes with someone who treated you like shit when you did nice things for them when you bought them blankets into their home when you bought made them nice meals and bought them all And then they still won’t happy with you, I get it. She was probably a manic depressive and they get like that and so does anyone there sometimes find it hard.

But it still doesn’t make it necessarily right she didn’t have to express it in a healthy way I truly believe that I truly don’t believe anyone’s evil apart from child murderer killers and rapist, those people have people in them, they have entities attract attached to them,

This is yeah everything is going down everything I’m in everything and everything it’s not like the day now where I’m like. Oh I sat on my face for three days straight. This is like I’m going to be in the street I’m gonna be in the street today up in business, but not being in business being part of that, but being part of the traffic background we’re not really there, but where Feeling special pedestal loving every side of it. Yeah of it too scared of it. Also even it was fine I know I’ve been treated so good the living on the edge. This wasn’t me I like my home company but I like listening to music and listen to it. I like the sort of being able to think I can get my bed tonight I went to the festival for years I never wanted to come. I didn’t want to be outside. I wanted to enjoy the show but so on, but my bed is still there and I didn’t like this kind of lifestyle it wasn’t for me. That was the one thing I would say it’s too much money or too much. Specially when you get pulled in for a . Burglary . I mean come on man. Me , who was addicted to shoplifting 👗🥿. yesterday only got a couple of times the rest of the times it was fine and I loved it and I was addicted to it. Immensely this is my first proper addiction. I believe and this is how it became diagnosed or borderline personality disorder, the dramatic type and danger. I was a menace to society, this is the part where I said fiction, but I guess I was to some degree.

#fypage #Leo south node #life story #addiction awareness #addict #love addict

[blogmahbuttitches]

Shit's Getting Good...Ain't no dogshit on my ass now...

I wanted to add a couple quick updates for anybody who has been playing along, so to speak: After I finished publishing and everything Afraido – the dude fucking created a burner on Instagram to call me a fat fucken pig and that I smelled like feces. He misspelled my motherfucking name, which is the most egregious offense of all and he called me a mentally ill (pot, kettle, addict?), fucken (sp)…

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[d00mburger]

No because I must really love giving loser dudes the manic pixie dreamgirl experience.

#im embarrassed #love addict

[theaddictspoetry]

I feel so deeply,

It's like words are shards of glass

Against my skin,

Ripping me apart within.

I feel so empty,

As if I'm just a shell

Of a girl I used to know.

@theaddictspoetry

#recovery #poetry #recovering #drug addiction #addiction #addict #drug addict #poet #poem #bpd #poems daily #quotes daily #daily poem #writers #poetry community #writers of tumblr #sad poems #sad quotes #love addict #addictions #addiction recovery #recover #we do recover #recovering addict

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

going through my old journals as part of therapy homework and i'm reading a section written in the emotional wreckage of a full-on breakdown when i get hit with this line:

There is never a satisfying answer to ‘Why didn’t they love me?’

like wow babe. good fucking point

#like you were on the ground biting the carpet and dry sobbing while you wrote that and still. good fucking point #not a shitpost #cptsd #and it's true. there's never a satisfying answer #the truth is i know why i wasn't loved #i analyzed my parent's traumas and abuse to death. i understand why i alienated and was alienated from my siblings #i know why my mom was too overwhelmed to be capable of nurturing #i know why my dad vanished into addiction and avoidance #the details of our cycles of trauma and cptsd and family history i have a phd in all of it #i understood perfectly. i spent years studying and now i knew the answer #and guess what? IT WAS NOT SATISFYING!!! #because they still didn't love me! and i still couldn't change that! #it was still a completely unsatisfying state of affairs! #so like. when the people who are supposed to love you...don't. #when the people who are supposed to take care of you...fail to #you can look for answers and reasons and explanations #but that's not actually going to FIX your situation. #and it's probably not within your ability TO fix the situation. (and definitely not your job) #because you don't need answers--you need a new situation #*inserts Just Walk Out. You Can Leave!!! (Running Skeleton) Meme* #and yes. walking out isn't always possible. #but for you i hope it will be one day soon. and i hope you build the courage to take that leap. #stepping away from the people who failed to love you...it feels like being untethered but also like being lighter than air #new and scary. immensely relieving. the future opens up. empty but empty like a canvas. blindingly bright until your eyes adjust #like climbing out of a pit you called home and for the first time realizing how bright the light of day can truly be #when you aren't just getting glimpses from the bottom of a hole

[affectiondeficitdisorder]

I Read Medical Journals So You Don't Have To

I feel like I owe you a column. Sadly, my own love life refuses to be an entertaining bad example, so I turned to the scientific literature for a topic. When I wrote Love Addict: Sex, Romance and Other Dangerous Drugs in 2011, love addiction was considered by most professionals as something a few weirdos in the 12-step community made up in order to, I don’t know, give away bad coffee in church basements? Sell poker chips with a triangle logo on them at cost? In 2023, though, love addiction is a perfectly serious area of psychiatric study. There are tons of research papers I can share with you, and will.

Problem is, most of them kinda suck.

Here, for example, is a piece in PsyPost, a journal covering the latest in psychology and neuroscience. It’s titled New Psychology Research Indicates Love Addiction and Sex Addiction Are Related but Distinct Phenomena - and goes on to prove nothing of the sort. Turns out, the basis of the work is a study of 329 subjects, 310 of them women, all Italian. Oh, and all of them were in relationships of six months or more. 

If you’re reading this blog, I’m guessing did a spit-take on that “in relationships of six months or more.” I’m not saying sex and love addicts are never in medium-to-long-term relationships. I’m just saying that this study was peering at the skinniest end of the addiction bell curve. These folks are outliers. The kind of love addiction I am familiar with puts you on the floor in fetal position when a “relationship” of six daysgoes kaput. Fantasy love affairs — where only one person is aware that said love affair exists — can go on for years, of course, but that’s a whole ‘nother issue.

I also don’t believe that a women currently in a relationship is a great barometer of active sex addiction. If she were a practicing sex addict, odds are she would have been kicked out of the house within six weeks. This was just not a good sample on which to base any conclusions about the relationship of sex addiction to love addiction.

One thing I did like about the PsyPost article, though, is the way it compared sex and love addiction to substance and other behavioral addictions. It talks about the Components Model of Addiction, which holds that love addiction is characterized by six discrete dimensions: 

Salience: The person’s love interest is the most important thing in their life, and they think about it all the time.

Tolerance: They need to spend more and more time with or thinking about the person they love to get the same satisfaction.

Mood modification: Being with or thinking about the person they love makes them feel better when they’re upset or stressed.

Relapse: They find it hard to stop spending time with or thinking about the person they love, even if they try to.

Withdrawal: When they’re not with the person they love, they feel physical or emotional symptoms like frustration, anxiety, and nausea.

Conflict: Their love interest interferes with other parts of their life, like work, school, or friendships.

Here is a scholarly deep dive on the Component Model from the National Institutes for Health. Think of it as a “unified theory of addiction.” These six factors — salience, tolerance, mood modification, relapse, withdrawal and conflict — can be applied to addictions ranging from smoking to screentime; you just have to tweak the descriptions. “Salience: When you’re eating breakfast, you’re thinking about what you’re going to have for lunch.” “Tolerance: You find yourself spending more and more time doomscrolling, even though you don’t mean to.” “Withdrawal: Without a cigarette, you feel like someone peeled your skin off.” “Conflict: You gambled away your kid’s college fund and now she won’t speak to you.”

The other cool thing about the NIH piece is that it endorses what’s called the Transdiagnostic Treatment approach. Here’s a long piece on that from the National Library of Medicine . 

“Behavioral addictions such as gambling, video games, sex, and shopping share many clinical features with substance use addictions including etiology, course, and neurobiology. Yet, the treatment of behavioral and substance use addictions tends to be separated,” the abstract says, and argues that it would be more effective — and cheaper, and less of a strain on already limited psychology resources — to treat them all similarly. The article actually says, and this is something I did not expect to read in an NIH research paper, that the medical community would learn a lot by going to the meetings with the bad coffee and the poker chips:

“There exists a multitude of 12-step programs for distinct addictive behaviors such as alcohol (Alcoholics Anonymous), cocaine (Cocaine Anonymous), gambling (Gamblers Anonymous), sex (Sexaholics Anonymous), and eating (Overeaters Anonymous). 12-step programs largely operate independently and are disorder-specific, emphasizing each groups' need to embrace “singularity of purpose.” …However, regardless of which 12-step program an individual attends, the principles of the program and the 12-steps remain very similar. Implicitly then, the treatment of addictions may closely resemble a transdiagnostic approach in practice.”

Do I think most of these studies are restating the obvious in their diagnoses, and reinventing the wheel in their treatment models? Yes, yes I do. But we need the studies to validate the existence of something you and I both know damn well exists, so that they’ll teach the diagnosis in medical school and cover the treatment with insurance. So bring on the Italian girls, if that’s what it takes. And send them to a meeting.

#love addiction #sex addiction #recovery #romance #love addict

[tomb-mold]

#youtube link bc bandcamp won’t cooperate-_- #sugar high #love addict #kris esfandiari #audio #Youtube

[pokeberry5]

i feel like i never draw tim smiling but bb robin tim smiles a lot! (in between angst and tragedy)

brought to you by my continued attempts at figuring out tim’s early robin hair

#dc #sart #tim drake #he’s got smug cat energy and i love him #most of these are referencing moments from tim’s earlier appearances which i /tried/ to track down but they’re like scattered across #like 4 different series and bleh #’tec 365-367 does have Batman and robin fight a villain thru the power of Tim’s mad gaming skills while Jim Gordon gets addicted to video #games in the background #ringing in the new year w my boy 😤 #I started this a while ago but got stuck in anatomy hell #are u really an artist if u’ve never stripped downt to ur underwear so u can stand in front of a big mirror #and stare furiously at ur own joints