#love from a distance

[asoftepiloguemylove]

Richard Siken "Planet of Love" Crush // Sue Zhao // Patti Smith Woolgathering // Catherine Goldstein The Letting // art @/callidaeusa (insta) quote Ada Limón Roadside Attractions with the Dogs of America // Jamie Varon Does The Universe Fight For Souls To Be Together? (via @weltenwellen) // Richard Siken Love From a Distance // @teenbeachmovie3 // Cynthia Cruz "Diagnosis" The Glimmering Room // Ruta Sepetys "Emilia" Salt to the Sea // Ethel Cain Sun Bleached Files // "Who We Are" Supernatural dir. John Showalter

#this doesn't really make sense it's just a vent lol #on self #on heartbreak #web weave #poetry compilation #poetry parallels #web weaving #richard siken #crush #sue zhao #patti smith #woolgathering #cathrine goldstein #the letting #ada limon #roadside attractions with the dogs of america #jamie varon #does the universe fight for souls to be together? #love from a distance #ethel cain #cynthia cruz #the glimmering room #ruta sepetys #salt to the sea #sun bleached files #supernatural #spn #poem #spilled poetry #spilled thoughts

[alena-sempai-art]

Commission

Jacob and Ember

#commission open #commission sempai #commission #digital art #love from a distance #fanart #romance club game #romance club

[poetry-by-mlw-long]

That Inscrutable Face by M.L.W. Long

#poetry #relationships #poem of the day #love poem #tender #lovers #poets on tumblr #romantic poem #love from a distance #longing #heartbreak #short poems

[itwontbethesameasitwasanymore]

“Don't think about the past and don't relate to anything about it, because if it was good it would still be with you now.”

-ej

#unrequited love #heart break #my thoughts #excerpt from a book i'll never write #writers on tumblr #my poerty #poetry #-ej #scream poetry #web weaving #sad quotes #literature #moving on #falling apart #spilled heart #spilled ink #love from a distance #sad prose #dead poetry

[theycallmemomo]

“If I can’t love you as a lover, I will love you as a friend.”

#sad #love #life #quote #andria #la dispute #song lyrics #lyrics #love from a distance #unrequited #goodbye #i’d do it again #lover #somewhere at the bottom of the river between vega and altair #Spotify

[ebatothemoon]

I was out of words. I felt miserable. The more I felt miserable, the more I urged to overflow from myself through words I fail to put in order and the tears I cried out. The distance in the void was getting further, the smoke was getting heavier. I was, and still am, out of vision.

Then, I heard this song. I listened to it. I wanted to hold on to its words, her voice. She sounds like a flower petal appeared on a sealed road. At that time, she sounded like what I could become at most: wounded yet hopeful. Humming to this in the void, hoping you to hear this. This is all I can do now. To send my love from a distance and to believe that we [all] share a love from a distance. This feels comforting right now.

#a song for ravn #michelle gurevich #love from a distance #we share a love from distance #Spotify #music discovery #Ravn #kim youngjo

[whileweryoung]

Slowing but surely, I am getting over you. Thinking back, I don’t think I deserved you as much as you didn’t deserve me. Even if I badly wanted us to end up together. I can’t give you what I don’t have. Now, I think that was ok. You weren’t ready for me and deep inside I wasn’t for you either.

#growth #i have a crush #i love him #i will always love you #love from a distance #it was you #words i never said #words words words #goodbye #i think #not now

[6lackestl0v3]

here we r again.. we didnt even fight its just i kept being blind of how u rlly are, who u became, what u wanted. yes i told myself i was the monster, it was really u..? but y- ofc u never would answer but to wish those evil thoughts u repressed in ur mind onto me? it finally let me see YOU but not who i wanted or thought u were to me. its like i missed what i thought was better for me when i got lonely and now i know what real. i cant say im sorry because i already have for what i knew was wrong, im only sorry for allowing myself be weakened & vulnerable to u when all u wanted was a downfall for me. i was never pretty to you, my body was- i was never sweet to you, i tasted sweet- i was never your #1 girl in the world, every girl that was your type was- now that story is only written on paper to be crumbled up & burnt to crisp for the ashes to blow into the city.

#let the universe do it👁 #awakethesoul #love from a distance #1:11 #stolen joy #Spotify

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[summer-lightning07]

Call me selfish, but I wanted everything of yours to be mine

#unconditional love #love from a distance #one day

[tiffanyachings]

Aes Sedai + Warders in battle

#wotedit #wheel of time #the wheel of time #wot spoilers #wotcentral #fantasyedit #* #there's nothing sexier to me than a well choreographed fight scene. ESPECIALLY if it involves magical soulmates #i love how different their fighting styles are as well #from lan quite literally warding off enemies while moiraine channels to verin keeping her distance and supporting tomas #to ryma's and basan's dance-like fight

[princess-ligma]

🗝🧸🧺

something beautiful is happening...

what is it?

he’s breathing.

🗝🧸🧺

#poetry #spilled thoughts #words of mine #love poem #love from a distance #breathless #art not mine #credit?

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

oh buddy you gotta see this bat

this is the Pallid Bat, they are intensely photogenic, i hope you enjoy their dainty little smiles!

FRIEND

#bats #i. i love this bat #i love all bats but this bat. this is a special bat #i am giving delicate little butterfly kisses to its goofy oversized ears #but from a distance because That's A Wild Animal Ma'am

[itwontbethesameasitwasanymore]

and i promise you, you'll get over it. maybe not today, tomorrow, maybe not even months from now. healing takes time and patience but its all worth it in the end.

#kind words #positive #-ej #have a nice day #healing #heart break #sad #moving on #love from a distance #late night thoughts #i deserve better

[canisalbus]

I’d invite machete and vasco to my animal crossing village

They're a package deal, you have to take them both.

#own art #own characters #CanisAlbus #Vasco #Machete #answered #wowwforever #this is as good a time as any to admit that I've never played any of the Animal Crossing games #consoles are just so expensive and I have a bizarre personal vendetta against buying electronics unless I'm 110% sure I *need* them #so these days unless a game gets a pc release I'm unlikely to ever get my hands on it #but the art style is very appealing and the character designs are vibrant and clever so I've been admiring them from a distance for a while #I love it when I have a chance to draw Vasco with these specific bean eyes #they make him look benevolently mischievous #also just now noticing that I made Machete's tail machete shaped

[ferretteeth]

I'VE GOT THE VOICES OF MANY IN MY THROAT

THE TEETH OF A FROG AND THE TAIL OF A GOAT

#nope #jordan peele #nope 2022 #nope movie #oj haywood #jean jacket #exuma the obeah man #daniel kaluuya #from a great distance #i loved this scene i had to draw it ok #revart #the song Slaps too #nope fanart