#marriage and family therapy

[love-the-way-you-psy]

Research shows that marrying relatively young without living together first results in the most durable marriages

Poster Comment: I disagree with the key assertion by the article that, simply, cohabitation before marriage leads to future separation. Cohabitation has the ability to give those engaging in it the false sense of preparedness for long-term commitment such as marriage, and therefore allows them to rush into these commitments prematurely. If one possesses the maturity and forethought to consider this factor, then cohabitation can become a mutually beneficial experience. The author, when making their argument, fails to recognize the economic role that cohabitation has come to play in our society through the younger generations. It is next to impossible to live on your own, especially when you are a student or working an entry-level position. The cost of living is much higher and less attainable than that of their parents' or grandparents' generations. The traditional nuclear family, with only one adult required to work outside the home to make enough income to support them, is all but an artifact now. Young Adults need to consider options when looking to make their way into the world, and sometimes those options include cohabitation. And that may come with mistakes and regrets, but that's also life. By asserting that marriage needs to become more traditional again, with people marrying younger and having less partners, it's almost as if the author is asserting that the way to solve all your issues and live a happier life is to get married as soon as you can to the first person you can tolerate who tolerates you. And because you're both inexperienced, you won't know any better. So, I guess ignorance really is bliss in this case, right?

#mft #marriage and family therapy #relationship satisfaction #relationship psychology #psychology #couples therapy #sex therapy

[delulu4dean]

I’m just doing homework for one of my marriage and family therapy classes, and I had a moment where I thought about the multigenerational transmission process. Realized my anxieties that everyone is incompetent and will get hurt comes from my mom. So I look at her and tell her, “You’re the reason why I’m like this!” Thanks for the chronic anxiety mother <3

#marriage and family therapy #family therapy #therapist #therapy things #psychology student

[herawell]

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#negativity cw #mother mention cw #if there’s one good thing about last eeekend’s meltdown #now I know that even after almost a year of therapy which supposedly ‘saved’ her marriage to my dad #my mom still feels no compunctions about last year’s Dec 20 and 21 screamfests #where she told me she would be gifting my dad a divorce for Xmas and it would be my fault #for trying to [redacted] herself in front of me while I whisper screamed for her not to #for blaming me every year since age 13 for their marriage being in the rocks #after a year of therapy and imploring me to seek therapy myself #she still doesn’t regret any of it #I vowed to myself after last year’s Christmas meltdown that I would never get them any kind of anniversary gift again #not after a decade of being blamed as a child for their issues #and now I feel no remorse about that decision #no flowers no chocolates no cards no special surprises #I’m the eldest child and earning close to six figures and not a penny of it will go to celebrating their Union #and i don’t care how bad it makes me look #she can get a one-line ‘congrats’ in the family WhatsApp group chat and that’s it #you don’t get to scream at me every 18 months ever since I was 14 #that I am the one strain on your otherwise faultless marriage #that it’s my fault my siblings will grow up in a broken home #that it’s my fault we’ll have to sell the family home of 30 years to pay for the divorce #and never apologize at all even years down the line when I’m an adult and you’ve had your ‘character development’ #and expect me to celebrate your Union #it’s very very petty and idk if she’ll notice bc I’ve never really made anniversary gifts for them before #but that’s my revenge

[wisterianwoman]

Bridging Miscommunication

It's easy to get caught up in our own narratives when we feel misunderstood, but bridging the gap is more important than winning the fight.

LEARN HOW

#relationships #communication #social skills #advice #social interaction #empathy #boundaries #couples #friendship #vulnerability #therapy #couples therapy #healing #marriage counseling #family therapy

[wurm-food]

trying to figure out why I feel so tense and weird and off the rails and it’s because tomorrow is A Day and I actually need to do something about it

#vent #cw parent stuff I guess? #idk just don’t read if you don’t want to #my relationship with my family has always been turbulent and I thought I had basically removed myself from it #but now I’m pretty sure my parents are separating for real this time and I feel very weird!!! #also finding out my mom is like really depressed and lonely is hurting my heart so here I am making my way back… #it doesn’t absolve any of the things I’ve been through with them but also…. I feel guilty at this point not stepping in #ugh. any way I’d like to maybe talk them into therapy so I don’t have to play therapist while being a victim of their shit marriage 🫠 #wurm.txt

[sideshow-bob]

There’s something unexpectedly self-esteem boosting about having your partner’s mother hate you for absolutely batshit reasons.

Like okay, you hate me because I’m neurodivergent, disabled, I grew up poor, and I don’t drag myself out of bed to say “hello” when I’m too sick with a migraine to get out of bed, and these are apparently Terrible and Heinous Crimes?? Ma’am this is a you problem.

You can’t understand the fact that my partner and I actually communicate well and have a healthy circle of close friends, since you yourself are unable to successfully communicate with anyone and have almost no friends at all? Skill issue.

This woman did nothing but fret about me from day one, panicking about stupid things like “what if [I] gets pregnant on purpose to steal my son’s inheritance???” and “they’re moving in together! they need to sign a prenup so that the inheritance is safe!!” and talks openly in front of me about how little she respects anyone who’s poor, anyone who’s not thin. She called to pry into my sex life when I started antidepressants and yell at me for taking them. She’d fret if I didn’t come to a family function (because I was sick or busy), thinking I didn’t like her, but also secretly hoped I didn’t show up because I “make things weird.”

We’ve been together for 6.5 years. We’ve lived together for over 5 years. Ma’am, get the fuck over it.

It really puts it all in perspective. Things are actually pretty great, actually, and I’m awesome. Spite is an excellent motivator, and I’m gonna love myself out of goddamn spite.

#personal #also their family isn’t even that rich #calm down you’re not the Rockefellers #she’s laying $235/hr for family therapy now because she can’t get over how much she hates me but also can’t fathom talking to me about it #if she worried as much about her own marriage as she does about ours maybe it wouldn’t have failed

[unproduciblesmackdown]

it's not about that you "have" to get to exercise your autonomy. b/c like, yes you do, but not in the way that "if i don't get to do that Now i will explode & evaporate (& die)" which is what people keep leveraging to be like "so you don't have any valid argument for getting to act out your own choices"

therein is another issue of "why do you need a 'valid argument' to get Exceptions as ruled by this person to exist autonomously, unpunished" like why's this person an authority who gets to punish you. nonrhetorically, why do you have to appeal to their maybe possibly deciding to Let you be a person. should you "have" to.

and if you don't get that Permission that you supposedly "have" to get, you also will not immediately explode and die if you do that unpermitted thing, but shocking how "you don't Haaaave to" is only invoked re: things you want to do for yourself, and not what they want you to do for them....because it's Not Really About "Literally literally Haaaaving to"

the alignment between people getting on one for years about asexuality, and while doing so maxing out the saturation on their bullshit on any & everything, b/c you're just getting into anti autonomy, so ofc you're also just stoking & expressing "arguments" against autonomy that are deployed in plenty of other contexts, including against other queer identities....and that particular resonance with biphobia & transphobia, and how either groups are theoretically thwarting the Truest Gays because how will we have a valid argument against the truest cishets agenda if we can't convince them we haaaaaave to be like this instead of that no, we won't explode & die if we have to be repressed or at least closeted another day, and another, and you won't explode after another, either, etc. rather than thee point of "asexuality autonomy = queer autonomy = Your queer autonomy = Anyone's Autonomy" and "why do we 'have' to Convince anyone to go 'oh alriiiight' abt one's choices about how they express their identity, what decisions they make about having sex"....it's about anyone having the power to preclude & restrict others' autonomy & constrain their existence between one kind of more imminent, immediate harm/death & a more drawn out one where you exist as a resource for others' use but at least you aren't Literally dead today. so what if someone's saying "well i don't think your gender/sexuality stuff is Real" so long as they can't get in the way of other people living that out anyways. so what if someone's supposedly like "well, but everyone could be bi" (which they don't. just like ppl were never 'pretending' to be asexual to nefariously stand around in the queer space that never rigorously vetted everyone anyways? Making Up A Guy To Get Mad At) to supposedly argue that if all of you are bi you can just restrict yourself to the Cishet Appearing manifestations (which they don't) where what's that even matter if this [guy to get mad at] can't make that anyone else's problem? if he can, why can he. should he be able to. that's the problem, not "have we all tried the constant biphobia wherein they're always thwarting & sabotaging the rest of us?? like how trans people are keeping us from being legitimate?? with the opportunity for some trans people to also try declaring other noncis people Not Legitimately Trans?? well the cishet agenda loves asexuals, actually, they want everyone to never have sex ever (they don't want that, and that's not what being asexual is)"

using the "you can't Know through Direct Perception or extrasensory phenomena what someone else's Thoughts And Feelings are" both ways; wherein their assertion of their intentions, true or not, gets to be treated as an assertion of Reality, meanwhile b/c Your intentions/thoughts/feelings can't be directly observed, you're just lying or exaggerating or misremembering or failing to Express yourself correctly b/c they would've surely interpreted it correctly otherwise, or [anything else] re: your inner experiences that you can't "prove" are one way or another, so this other person gets to always decide for themself what they must be (why?) and if they just so happen to decide they Must be in alignment with what they want (good) or unacceptably, evilly, incorrectly Against Them, they also get to flex their control over the entire situation via their Authority / control over resources / the person's lack of other options b/c of isolation & that, say, breaking away from a family, job, marriage or just deemed correctly romantic relationship, is punished by the larger system of How Things Are, through a lack of resources that makes you more vulnerable in general as well as vulnerable to further punishment in how you might try to respond to that situation, through the general stance that maintaining cohesion of a Unit like the nuclear family, the "romantic" "man"/"woman" couple, is good, so breaking from it is deviant........anyways it's like. if you're like "well i'm having sex b/c i want to" and someone is like "well i say YOURE LYING" like, what? "isn't there someone you forgot to ask" shit. why should that get to affect things. whether you're like "oh no. what if they could say 'you're lying...b/c how do i knowwww you're not BI. where you could want to have sex with someone BESIDES this one person rn?? or ACE??? if you Don't have sex rn and you Don't explode and die 5 min later we will Know you Could Be Asexual" like, this isn't how it works anyways obviously but theoretically if it did: we would not be like "oh sorry guess that's what matters" unless what mattered was some people's being lower on a hierarchy and at the quite literal disposal of those with more power than them. what would the crisis be of someone going "well i think. every gay person? is bi" or someone going "you've just told me your name is gloria but i think your name is actually tetris...." or "i'm so embarrassed i wish everyone but me was dead" if none of these things can hinder the existence of people having sex w/autonomy for all involved or people getting to tell you their name or all other people being alive

the banger quote on my imdb page was saying "no, i don't 'Have' to, but i'm going to" to an authoritarian in my life, concluding several minutes' "negotiation" of [i 'have' to hang up on this call now b/c the movie i'm standing in this movie theater to see is about to start. no i won't explode and die if i don't. i also won't explode and die if i don't keep "talking" to you (being Talked At / lectured & upbraided from afar)] funny how that works. i also Know this was a checkmate b/c that person gave up on responding (or, technically, switched to The Silent Treatment, which worked even worse via phone than in person) and i did hang up rather than miss the movie i showed up for and then they had to resort to Other Methods: telling someone willing to take on the enabling cop mode that i had Essentially said Go Fuck Yourself. like well that's right, and the fact that it's a "go fuck yourself" to get to say "i am going to end the call b/c i choose to do something else" and then actually do so is a real testament to this relationship. and if one had said "i can't keep talking, i have to go" and someone's like "sldfj you mean thou MAY not keep talking" teehee i don't know, CAN you have the peas????? it's like this obviously doesn't matter. i can choose to do shit and choose to not do shit without exploding and dying right this very second, except for taking 5 sec to eat a deadly bomb with a timer set for 5 sec. This Is Not The Point. why is autonomy off-limits to Anyone.

#authoritarian parent whose silent treatments fail: anti crossdressing household law will get everyone to stop inconveniently Being People #spoilers: i continue to be a real life person; nonbinary; autistic; i continue to not engage in a relationship w/that parent b/c #Their choice was to have that relationship be the authority & the property. so the response to that: not being in that situation. #creating that kind of relationship & then being like ''why don't i get the Benefits of a different kind of relationship that is defined by #everyone being recognized as people and having actual positive experiences and legitimately Wanting to interact :('' #the autonomy to Not do something b/c you don't want to = the autonomy to Totally do something b/c you do want to #hence the idea of the True / Ideal Homosexual being ''but i Must Only have gay sex or i'll explode & die'' vs ''i feel like having gay sex' #yeah we ''could'' all be forced into binary genders & nuclear family units & be miserable & isolated but not literally explode. #but why should we. why would we. why can't we Not do that #hence as well that queer autonomy=everyone's autonomy. ppl who id as cishet? don't need to be Forced into that or into Awful Marriage Asap #but they do if we wanna isolate everyone / eliminate broader social support networks / restrict the autonomy to do anything else #asexuality handshake bisexuality. parallel to aromanticism handshake polyamory #and the backup to ''well but you won't literally die'' is to preclude Choice entirely by diverting the focus from [questioning ur choices] #to [questioning whether you have the capacity to make choices] as an extension. lens on ableism / disability justice is in Everything #not in like a ''huh. who'd've thought that overlapped'' Fun Fact way but in [you don't Understand that issue fully if you don't see ableism #someone's always getting to justify their authority by their Superior Ability vs others' Inferior/Absent Ability #saw that zany ''radical queer theory based on vibes is now that asexuals aren't queer'' streak definitely manifest ableism #a good ol fashioned ''asexuals won't consider What's Wrong With Them / try harder to seek some conversion therapy'' great stuff gang #or even more useless declarations of ''haha but most people Aren't ace. it's not Normal to not want to have sex. checkmate?'' #and what is your conclusion to that logic? ended up in ''ace ppl. are cringe!! & maybe not real!!!'' aaand what do we do with that? #what praytell do you suggest change based on that. how has that exclusionist analysis served queer lives. how is it continuing to do so. #versus like and who cares if everyone Could possibly all be labeled bi if what is In Practice anyways is ppl getting to have sex or Not how #they want to anyways. recognizing that Any trans person's existence is a testament to Everyone's autonomy #any ''threat'' to children is always guaranteed abt the Threat to [parents' control to decide Who & What a child gets to be] #that is; ''protecting'' children is abt the child being the property of parents. gotta protect That by withholding all info about trans ppl #even existing from kids b/c Property can't decide their identities for themselves so Children can't be allowed to either #their even knowing that some people Do get to exist autonomously is; indeed; that ''threat'' to the [child is property] order #and Language as Possibility. it's the 2010s & you can only go ''that's me i'm nonbinary'' when you learn abt the word ''nonbinary'' #even though you can then know you always knew but you didn't have the word so you had to keep on using other; more inaccurate words.... #discovering the tree trunk of [word: Autistic] that roots all these branches of ppl talking abt Experiences & now Realizing Things....

[lacangri21]

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[apopcornkernel]

poppy. POPPY. know that i am telapthically shaking you rn WHAT is this spy x family about i'm seeing it everywhere and i am so ????? huh??????? theres somebody proposing with grenades???? theres somebody hitting people over the head with lead pipes???? wha??????

SKDJDJDJ SIE I LOVE GETTING UR CONFUSED ASKS IN MY INBOX WHENEVER I GET INTO A NEW FANDOM <33

spy x family is basically. okay so there's two countries and a spy agency who is trying to keep the peace between them. the mc is this spy codenamed twilight and in order to gain access to his latest target, who only leaves his house to attend parent-teacher meetings, twilight adopts a kid and asks a random lady he met in a tailor's shop to fake marry him

the kid is a mindreader and the lady is an assassin.

THEY DON'T KNOW ABOUT EACH OTHER.

only the kid knows bc she's a mindreader AND THE KID IS JUST LIKE. haha this is going to be so funny!! hello new papa hello new mama :D!!!

and. Well. yeah that's it. found/fake family except one of them's a spy and the other is an assassin and the other is a mindreader

also in later episodes they get a dog who can see the future

#poppy speaks #ask #friends #spy x family #and the grenade thing... LMAO see the important part of this is that around each other twilight and yor (the assassin) are STUPID #i say that lovingly but like #twilight saw yor stop a moving car with her bare hands & he was just like. Woah. and then he never really thought about that #yor saw twilight knock someone out & the convo went like this: #yor: 'what was that?' loid: 'im a psychiatrist remember? we're testing out this new thing called concussive therapy' yor: nods 'oh ok' #so they were running away from some thugs and she was like. hey i might as well accept his offer of fake marriage #so she said 'marry me' & he said 'now??' & then he shrugged picked up a grenade #pulled out the pin threw the grenade behind him & slipped the pin ring onto her finger as it exploded in the background #goals

[therapy-bites]

STORMY PSYCHOTHERAPY

Hey, TBALr's, Sarah here! Adventure-seeker, book-worm, & associate to Doc Heath, your friendly Neighborhood NeuroMechanic!

Therapy sessions aren’t MEANT to be nice & neatly packaged SOCIAL SOIREE events. Given they deal with very messy life situations, one can expect sessions may get messy & UNCOMFORTABLE.

It’s important to expect that MESSY & UNCOMFORTABLE are just NORMAL ingredients in the HEALING PSYCHOTHERAPEUTIC STEW!

No need to worry about:

-Can my clinician HANDLE it?

-Will my clinician THINK I’m crazy?

-Will my clinician FIRE me?

-Is my clinician SIZING me up for a STRAITJACKET?

Competent clinicians can handle the most STORMY of sessions with CONFIDENCE, GRACE, & ASSURANCE!

Often the BIGGEST BREAKTHROUGHS occur after the GREATEST storms.

Keep embracing the HARD-WORK of therapy. It’ll pay off in LIFELONG dividends!

We know you can do it! Keep up the good work!

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[mythigal1966]

7 Tips from THE ADDAMS FAMILY to Keep Your Marriage Alive

#Cinema Therapy #The Addams Family #Gomez and Morticia #healthy marriage

[firebonbon]

I feel like my family’s falling apart

#I can’t even put an lmao at the end of this I’m completely serious #my sister’s relationship with my mom is so strained #and my mom has some really bad habits that are straining her marriage #I know he’s not going to leave her but he’s so tired #my step dad is questioning what me my brother and sister are going to do??? #any sort of confrontation with anyone feels like it doesn’t go anywhere #I’m scared my mom is wasting her life away #like we legit need family therapy I think #took a break in the bathroom at work because I couldn’t focus with this on my mind #thanks for listening y’all

[notesfromatherapist]

We recreate a variety of different family relationships in the marriage in order to try to solve some of the problem areas of our past. And we don’t stop with marriage; our children too are soon involved in our incessant attempt to recreate our family of origin. But because the mother-child relationship is the primary model for intimacy in our lives, it forms the basis for the deepest levels of intimacy in the marriage. It is this early relationship that appears to set the tone in our lives for the profound issues like the degree to which we trust and care about the Other and trust and care about Self and the degree to which we distinguish between Self and Other as separate, yet related entities.

Augustus Y. Napier Ph. D. with Carl Whitaker, M.D., The Family Crucible: The Intense Experience of Family Therapy

#the family crucible #Family therapy #marriage counseling #marriage #family of origin #roles #family roles #mother-child relationship #parent-child relationship #self #other #intimacy #trust #care

[roseband]

me on a reddit thread: hey it might not be a good idea to make estrogen combo pills OTC (even though progesterone would probably be fine) cause clotting disorder based strokes aren't in the numbers of side effects stats cuz america is dumb about things that are "preexisting"....and also my mom's stroke at 27 definitely isn't counted in the numbers (nor would hailey beibers btw....cuz she had the perfect storm of combo pill hormonal bc, covid, plane ride, and an undiagnosed heart issue so they can't pin it on the estrogen in a suit to a pharma company)

some twat: wellllllll if you donated blood twice monthly you'd neeeeeever have a clot

Like source please....cuz the lieden v thrombophillia foundation (which is my family's mutation I was lucky enough not to get (even though my rheum thinks that's the side my likely CTD comes from....great.....)) has NOTHING about it. I am SURE my aunt and mom would have preferred extra blood draws done to 3x daily self injectable heparin shots when having my cousins and i......when pregnant you can't take the pills, it's gotta be the shots (and this is with them both as single gene carriers lololol)

don't talk out of your ass about health conditions wtf....But only 1/300 women a year will develop a blood clot on OTC estrogen menopause meds.... ONLY 1/300.....ONLY.

#personal #to the tune of happy and you know it: *external factors dont change your genes* 👏👏*external factors dont change your genes* 👏 👏 #*unless its in cancer and you raised the chancer* *external factors dont change your genes* 👏 👏 #HIGH SCHOOL LEVEL BIOLOGY JESUS FUCKING CHRIST KILL ME #i cant live on a planet in a country with people this WILLINGLY stupid #your entire body genetic makeup isnt changed by a little NEEDLE pulling a few pints of blood out.............. #(nor did a medication change your whole body's genetics...nor did a mRNA vax......nor did covid.......) #even fucking cancer is localized gene mutations in specific areas which is how they can tell where metastisized cancer starts #my moms on anastrozole as preventive care and like thats the one also used for metastisized BREAST cancer but its not for brain cancer or #blood cancer or bone marrow cancer or gallbladder cancer or.... or..... or........... #cause even CANCER isnt changing all your genes........which is why my aunt works on *gasp* gene therapy #where they isolate the genetic makeup of the tumor and use mRNA injections to have your immune system target the mutant parts of you #so it has YOU kill the tumor....so cool!!! isnt that cool!!! (her family is brca+ so she went into boobie cancer research) #((looks at my moms family like.....my aunt by marriage has two genetic disorders floating around in there... #and my moms blood relatives most likely also have two genetic disorders floating around in there oooooooof OOF))

[simuran]

Actual footage of me yesterday, finding out gay marriage isn’t legal in Italy

After all the “Gayrope” propaganda on Russian TV! Smh

#Still beats Russia though :D #My local queer organization #(the one that had to flee the country) #made a post about conversion therapy in Russia and it's very :/ :/ :/ #Sure glad I didn't figure out I'm queer at school lol #I would NOT be able to keep it from my family for more than a week hahaha #Posts by me #real life #lgbtq+ stuff #Home 2.0 #But also it does show that propaganda if overwhelmingly omnipresent even when you're actively trying to fight it :( #I wonder how many other assumptions I've based on this biased perspective #And ALSO also I've failed to find a good article explaining the difference between marriage and civil union #So if you can explain it please do!