#me agreeing with this sort of thing

[crescentfool]

orpheus and thanatos 💚

#persona 3 #ryomina #ryoji mochizuki #minato arisato #makoto yuki #lizzy does art #HIII EVERYONE :3 happy halloween.... (has been working on this for four weeks off and on) #i've always yearned to see art of ryoji and minato based on thanatos and orpheus!!! #i know that ryoji can be likened to being the eurydice figure which i agree with but I HAVE BEEN THINKING SO HARD ABT THEM LIKE THIS OK. #it was nice to give drawing something more ambitious (for my standards) an earnest try again! i love working with lineless and lighting #and working on this has inspired me to HOPEFULLY start doing some studies of sorts! i want to learn so many things... #all so that i can make ryomina as epic as possible... #also LET ME TELL YOU that thanatos coffins are making me realize i seriously need to do drawabox or something. #trying to put them in perspective is hard... but im pretty happy with what i made!!! #also can i just say i love how shapely orpheus is?? i love orpheus joints etc etc its so nice. very fresh #sighs longingly. i love them very much they make me want to do better at things. i hope everyone has a wonderful week ahead! 💙 #very excited to see what people do for ryomina week (<- they haven't made anything 4 it yet bc Busy... but i'll submit smthn late maybe)

[fairy-princette]

s2 Steve sat in the hospital with a concussion courtesy of Billy sharing a room with Eddie who has a concussion from tripping off the (very low) stage at the Hideout during a show. As soon as he hears how Steve got his concussion he starts making up an elaborate story about how he was protecting one of his lost sheep - Steve’s not entirely sure he believes him but he’s invested in the story (also he doesn’t want to admit that he was kidnapped and brought to the hospital by a bunch of middle-schoolers)

Jeff’s hiding outside the door with his arm in a sling and trying to not drop his mountain of snacks (he tried to grab Eddie when he tripped and got dragged down with him and banged his shoulder). He could fully interrupt Eddie’s fantastical story but will never pass up the opportunity to watch him make an idiot of himself in front of a pretty boy, especially someone as ridiculously preppy as ex-King Steve

#steddie #stranger things #Eddie munson #Steve Harrington #Jeff #can't believe we've agreed on Gareth's last name but not Jeff's #how do you expect me to work in these conditions #is this how hospitals work? are you sorted by injury #the only times I’ve been in hospital it’s been for head injuries so I’m a bit hazy

[utilitycaster]

I just want to say, that I agree with almost all of your Critical Role takes and you have 1000% better and more nuanced takes than all of Twitter and I greatly appreciate it! The takes over there regarding Liliana and the gods are just wild and you bring some much needed sanity to the content I see

Thanks! I hope you don't mind because I've been thinking about this re: the Twitter takes but the thing about Twitter and Liliana specifically that I've seen is that there's this really bizarre fetishization of like, the fact that she is a (white) southerner (this also weirdly happened for Birdie though to a much lesser extent, and the person who spearheaded that wasn't even American so I have to assume this is a specific corner of Twitter Culture At Large). And like, here's the thing. It's true that fantasy tends to be very British in its accents, and it's also true that accents in a fantasy world are used to convey the same things we'd assume in our world - RP British for educated, southern American for rural, Cockney for rougher types, etc.

It's also true that laying the exact socioeconomic parallels from our world onto, say, Liliana and Orym (who reads to me as non-regional but I, like Liam, am from the Northeast originally) is a recipe for disaster. Or rather, it's not, but it is going to reaffirm your own biases, some of which are dangerous to reaffirm.

There was a popular post on Tumblr a while back, probably not long after Trump was elected, of someone talking about how they were convincing a relative with the confederate flag towards socialism by appealing to the idea of "isn't in unfair how uneven wealth distribution is and how a small group has so much control" and a number of people were rightfully like "uh, maybe you should focus on the racism" or "hey OP ask your relative who they think that small group in control is because I'm getting a really bad feeling they're going to say it's The Jews." And I feel that a lot of the empathy for Liliana from those spaces feels like that OP. Or in other words: I get that you see your relatives in Liliana. Unfortunately, I cannot help but see me and mine in Orym.

You see someone trapped by circumstance and desperation in a dangerous ideology. I see the fact that I haven't gone to a synagogue in easily 6-7 years without there being a security guard present and usually, the doors locked with someone looking through the window to let you in, and then in the sanctuary there's been an installation so that you can quickly bar all the doors in case an alarm goes off or you hear shots in the lobby.

I think there's a great case for seeing yourself in Imogen, who is in a painful struggle with the fact that her mother does love her very much but is in dangerously deep and has done a number of incredibly terrible and harmful things. That latter point is important, incidentally; I get that cult members sometimes rise through the ranks but all but the leader are being manipulated. But the fact remains that a brainwashed person can still commit atrocities, and in this story, they have, many times over. It's especially true because like...sure, plenty of people are like "I lost my relative to a cult and I just want them back and I couldn't harm them," but also, as we've seen, this cult can and will harm Imogen! Plenty of people are also like "yeah I gotta cut them off, it hurts but unfortunately my horribly bigoted and violent relative, while a victim of brainwashing, is a threat to me too." It's not even the full picture of the Temult side of things, let alone the picture that includes the Vanguard's victims.

I also think the Southern gatekeeping is unhinged because it's like. guys there's QAnon members and other cults across the country; the Confederate flag example above was actually notable in that OP wasn't even Southern so you couldn't even write the flag off as deeply misguided heritage but rather was explicitly being used as a hate symbol. It's awfully presumptive to assume all southerners have the same experience (especially since the Temults are portrayed, physically and in accents, as white southerners, not that the experiences of white southerners aren't also incredibly varied). It's awfully presumptive to assume that people find Liliana threatening because they have no personal experience with people like her; often, it's because they have all too real experience with people like her, and it says something even worse about you if you can say "but you guys, I see me and my family in Liliana" when people are telling you that they see them and their families in Orym. I would not, personally, publicly admit that one's empathy extends to the people who remind you of your family but runs out before it reaches their victims. Nor would I publicly admit that I assume everyone who disagrees with me clearly has never had personal experience with this topic.

I should also note that, as I've noted a number of times before, that these are fictional characters and not real people. Twitter seems to be really fucking bad at grasping that. Like, yes, this is the other thing; I do not think that OP should kill their Confederate flag-toting relative, whereas if Imogen did so to Liliana I'd be like "hell yeah." The former is a real person who I do hope gets deprogrammed, just, you know, maybe adjust those priorities; the latter is a fictional character in a story.

#answered #anonymous #if steel had a southern accent do you think people would feel differently about her? sound off in the comments i guess. #cr spoilers #it really is like. with the people who can't separate characters from real people...there's this assumption #that everyone who doesn't agree with them lacks the same experiences or is bigoted #don't like liliana? well it's because you're not southern. don't like laudna? it's because you're neurotypical and straight and hate women. #notice how none of these carry within them any argument within the text? notice how they just rely on the assumption #that you can only understand things through direct personal experience and not like...thought and empathy? #that if you fit certain demographics you obviously Will hold these exact opinions bc clearly all nd people or wlw are a monolith? #it's like. yeah man i see why you have more sympathy for the vanguard than their victims...you think like a cultist even if you're not one #you say There's Those Who Understand And Have The Mandate of Heaven Because We're (southern or nd or queer or whatever) #and then there's Them The Ones Who Don't Get It And Never Will Bc They're Not Like Us (even though plenty of times...they are) #anyway. as always i am sorry that twitter sucking hurts the careers of countless creatives #but i think it does foster this sort of no-nuance no-argument Me First thinking so. can't be too sorry. #long post

[jahiera]

speaking strictly from a plot & writing perspective here, not a commentary on characters or who or who is not my favorite blorbo (they all are). it's gale time and I wanted to get down everything I thought about this go around with his romance & the writing before it escapes me.

so I once again had a ton of fun of course, the game is still a blast, and several arcs were way more satisfying this time around simply because I ... did not skip the creche, unlike my very first run (I was an idiot) (I didnt think it would be that important) (it really really was). love it 10/10. I cannot WAIT to do my gith run & really focus in on that because the lore there is just, so cool, and that subplot was really rich & rewarding this time around since I had someone who was not orpheus become a mindflayer instead.

as for Gale, Thank Fuck I started before they bugged him up again too much. but let's deep dive into The Material.

shoutout to Tim first of all, he's a legend, dreamboat, superstar. there are so many lines delivered so effortlessly when they would sound ridiculous in anyone else's mouth. he gives gale so much soulful intensity and subtle, nuanced gravitas befitting someone like gale; with enough of Gale's own moments of silliness, cheekiness, wry wit & understated sarcasm, to outright flabbergasted at times, I was Giggling every conversation fr. I'm not usually prone to the "I LOVE YOU" Romances that come earlier rather than later, but ohhhhhhh tim gives each line with all the weight & agony that you can feel inside Gale when it comes (the looming death; not knowing what the end may bring; not wanting to leave any regrets behind) so like. MWAH to him. MWAH MWAH. all the kisses in the world.

okay mandatory compliments to the actor aside. I came out of the whole thing with breadth of new appreciation for Gale as a character in terms of the... concepts, threads, that make him up, and act 2 is where he REALLY shines overall.

I didn't necessarily come away from it with the same... weepy...... done-no-wrong? interpretation of Gale that I've seen floating about. he's lovely. he's intense. he's got soul-crushing devotion on his mind, no doubt. but for every fracture of tenderness, raw sincerity, & off the cuff soliloquy, he's got a lot of interesting flaws/characteristics I'd love to unpick with a fine-toothed comb on some replays or rewatches. Still trying to turn over in my brain exactly what that is, but it's there, and I love it. will say I'm really glad I played it mostly in a vacuum rather than getting too into others' thoughts on him, because What I Had Seen on the Webbed Site had near put me off entire (seeing someone say he's not prideful or pompous at all... when he self-describes as pompous?) -- maybe it's my tendency to focus in on what makes a character tick, when are they sharper, or harder, or meaner, and I enjoy watching that play out a lot, but? yeah. I didn't come away thinking him a super soft mushy mwahmwah -- ROMANTIC, yes, but overall as a character not nearly so lovesick and in desperate need of some protector. in fact when you tell him you don't want to be his crutch, he says as much too -- you've helped him, but you're not the sole focus of his person or the only thing keeping him alive.

there's enough of the humanity in his cheekier moments (stop licking the damn thing!!) and plenty of tear-jerking aside all of that. gale my canon-depressive-episode, mildly suicidal, chronic pained up, still-kind-of-full-of-yourself king. I adore you I love you I cradle you softly in my arms. he charmed me entire! I think that the themes hey were trying to tackle are really interesting and nuanced and I do have some thoughts on the success of the game in actually tackling those, what is there is really wonderful. some gorgeous writing in act 2, especially, and it was sold so well by the voice acting & sincerity in the writing I was just like. PERFECT. 10/10. NEED TO WRITE 98 FLUFF PIECES RN. which does not happen often, to me, as a person.

with. some exceptions, going back to critiquing act 3 as a whole.

act 1 & 2 are both strong, really nice. however this romance definitely needed at least one or two more scenes in act 2 to pad out the space between awkward flirting at the party to "I like it when you're sweaty and bloody-- sorry who said that" to "I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU." -- these scenes should've elaborated on Gale's personal feelings; of mystra, of what's been asked of him, of Tav. they should've set in threads of Gale's anger earlier, rather than the jarring shift from late act 2 "yeah I'll kill myself" to "actually... mystra fucking sucks! lol!" in act 3 at sorcerer sundries. yeah babygirl, mystra DOES fucking suck, wish I could've listened to you as you arrived to these conclusions rather than connecting empty character lines between act 2 and 3. and act 3 desperately needed more space to talk gale in or out of the crown. because by the time we get to the end, if he's really into the crown, he's into it beyond the focus of all else. but in the scenes where you talk him off that particular ledge, it doesn't even take very long to do so, and leaves kind of a weird... gap of intention.

I feel like they wrote themselves into a bit of a corner, honestly. because Gale's personal quest literally cannot be resolved until 5 minutes before the end, any climax wouldn't have much space afterward to pad the aftermath. so the solution to that would've been more character focus scenes, more flavor text depending on how you've influenced gale, something that actually makes the choices feel rewarding -- some hurdles to cross too, checks of some kind. but there really isn't any of that, and so the conflict is almost nonexistent. you squirt gale with a water bottle and he gives up the crown with no real additional dialogue. or you tell him "ma...maybe???" and he's suddenly a power obsessed little freak (complimentary) with no recourse, and in either case, we never got much dialogue to get some insight into his personal thoughts on it. this doesn't make Gale a bad character, but it does leave the narrative to be lacking in some regard.

like, for example. Astarion gets dialogue changes depending on the quest outside of character-specific moments (such as a spawn Astarion changing his dialogue after you help Aylin with Lorroakan), post-quest conversations, PRE-quest conversations with his siblings, moments where he reveals more of what he thinks (such as "You're... you. no one is like that.") etc., Gale gets None of that. the only other characters who really do are Lae'zel and Shadowheart; everyone else is either shafted or resolved in the last few minutes too. I came out of this most satisfied as a player overall with LAE'ZEL'S conclusion (also at the end of the game!!) because we had gotten a few more moments where her focus is obvious and her motivations are clear.

anyways, those are just general writing issues. Act 3 overall is the weakest, most agree, and that's still true here. Sadly it kind of takes some of Gale down with it in this case, because his personal quest is both so removed from the overall plot (despite him being a literal fixture as the only character who knows anything about the crown & was decreed by a literal god to take out the absolute).

however none of this is related to Gale as a guy. as a guy I'm Fucking Obsessed With Him. taking him with me everywhere was so rewarding especially in act 1 / 2. his commentary & insights, when they were there, ranged from funny as fuck to genuinely insightful & interesting for the overall plot. the ideas behind him, the glimpses we get of the life he led before, and the life he wants to lead after with Tav -- or what he alludes to wanting to lead with Tav, thinking that he'll still probably die at the end of this -- are lovely, interesting, TOUCHED MY SPIRIT. he's such a neat version of how to do a character that is as endearing as he can be foot-in-mouth, and as intelligent as he can be a little belligerent. I looooved every moment I could talk with him about magic in act 1, see his passions (beyond mystra), argue with him about how to do something (I'M the magical wonder here actually and I get to make the shadowlantern), all of that really MADE the romance for me in the lulls where his Silence or the gaps in his writing were more clear. 10/10 would kiss that fucking wizard again and cry a little bit thinking about exploding with him aboard a giant alien brain while one of those "ITS YOUUU I LIE WITH" songs plays in the bg

#tldr he's my special guy. some of the writing was disappointing as a pacing thing but he's MY SPECIAL GUY #I also cried a little bit as lae'zel got to take off on a red dragon with orpheus but that's secondary #also I said orpheus is hot & NO ONE agreed with me. fine. I'll carry this banner alone #men who are capable of executing a rebellion or instant apocalypse with their swaths of power. What. #who said that. #anyways. GALE MY DARLING. my belovedest. I want to write 1000 dialogue snippets in act 2 and 3 for you #and MAYBE I WILL. who knows. #still chewing on him and need to Ponder if I want to actually make any sort of character studies for him because. um. #some of you.. can be off the rails about this man. but I do think of him fondly and love what was there #he can be a bit of a bitch he can be the most wonderful man in the world he can hold your hand he can cast globe of invulnerability #he can also make the FUNNIEST fucking oneliners known to man. I crave him carnally & emotionally #I want to Add scenes to his romance. I wish act 3 was better. goddamn. #still one of my favorite games though. I am Back on the nautiloid as we speak. Durge and Minthara time #bg3 meta

[moondvncer]

🤐

#some of you post a little too much about ignoring safewords in my opinion 🤨 #“she's signalling to stop but he ignores her” sweetheart full offense but let me do that mass block thing #these things genuinely make me go like :/ because if there's some sort of signal to stop you both agreed on then you just respect that shit #the moment you're told to stop you do #I don't care if you're “so close��” respect your partner or you just don't deserve to get laid #especially since these things are 100% about trust

[writhe]

i want to be more open to anything and everything and i’m scared

#i’ve just felt at a sort of breaking point for a few weeks #and it’s really hard it’s about a lot of stuff that feels hard to fully articulate #& i don’t really feel like i can talk to anyone fully about it because it’s hard #to describe the extent of constant grief & also like. neurotocisms that have woven their way into my understanding of like #*neuroticisms #my own fate fundamentally yknow #there have been many moments of beauty and stuff i feel my hand is still in the weave sometimes #but i really need some things to feel different and be different #i have lost so much and so many people the last few years and literally ALL of my relationships have changed #and i feel like i’m really searching for sometning that i lost #and i have been missing my mom #i lack any sense of deep comfort in my life and i want to just feel held and understood even for a moment #and i don’t feel like i have anyone to point me in a direction that i agree with it’s hard to know what to want and how to want it

[funhouse-mirror-barbie]

Okay. So I talked briefly about it here but I just want to say this as well.

I think people are missing the point of a lot of discussion and criticisms surrounding the depiction of sexual assault in Hazbin.

And. Well. Based on multiple multi-day internet arguments between Hazbin’s creator and survivors of sexual assault, it seems like the creator may have missed the point as well…

Regardless of how the episode is widely received, the episode coming out isn’t going to magically “validate” or prove that the portrayal of sexual assault was well done.

It won’t prove that it was completely poorly done either.

It is something that is entirely subjective and whether or not it’s “done well” is also subjective.

I personally have a feeling on where I’ll stand when the episode comes out, but that is entirely my own opinion. It won’t take away from anyone else’s opinion. People may disagree with me or agree with me, but my opinion doesn’t somehow bolster or diminish their’s.

And based on the reaction of some of the Hazbin fans, and even the creator and team members, it’s really seeming like they believe they can prove the episode to be objectively “respectful” of survivors once it comes out.

That’s not something anyone gets to decide once and for all.

There will ALWAYS be heated discussions and disagreements on how sensitive topics should be depicted and handled in media and art. That is part of being an artist and making art about difficult subjects.

And it’s genuinely VERY frustrating to see people paint this as completely black and white. When you do so, you’ll end up speaking over survivors no matter what your intention is.

People are weird and messy and grey and contain multitudes upon multitudes. There are going to be survivors who deal with their trauma in all sorts of ways, and NO MATTER WHAT their opinion is on this particular portrayal, whether they think it’s handled well or not, they don’t need randos weighing in and telling them their feelings are wrong or invalid.

And, to be honest, I think it’s really gross to try and use someone’s personal trauma to try and justify your own opinions on whether a show is “good” or “bad”.

#media criticism #funhouse convo #media critique #hazbin hotel critical #hazbin hotel critique #helluva boss critical #this is the only thing I’ll be saying about the whole debacle that took place over the weekend #people who like and dislike Hazbin have been saying all sorts of heinous things to each other. #and it’s buckWILD to me that VP is arguing with survivors on threads #I just. I don’t get it man. you can explain your opinion to someone but they don’t have to agree with you #you can’t FORCE someone to agree with you and I think that’s a fantasy a lot of people have #Douglas adams was fucking right when he made the most POWERFUL weapon in the universe and gun that makes you see someone else’s pov

[thedreadvampy]

My housemate is moving out in January

She told us this a week or two ago, when she sat down and, after sitting with us watching TV for over an hour, said "hey so I bought a house and I'm moving out. We agreed on 2 months notice so I won't move until the end of January."

The last time she talked in the immediate terms about buying a house was in 2021, when the sale she was working on fell though and she was unemployed so it was a "when I'm back in a position to look I'll start looking again." Since then I've occasionally asked her how she's doing on the house buying front and she's been like "oh I'm getting there financially" but hasn't mentioned anything concrete.

She didn't tell us she was looking at places. She didn't tell us she had put in an offer. She told us when the offer was finalised. A week AFTER she emailed the letting agent about getting out of her part of the lease. And, it increasingly feels like, only because the letting agent's response was that we had to agree to change the lease.

The letting agent's response (which our housemate obviously didn't copy us into; we had to follow up separately and they copied us into the email chain) also includes that when we change the lease, they're empowered to change the rent, quote, "no cap". Rent was already going up in January - there's no possibility of Sam and I paying her share of the rent.

The really fucking upsetting thing is we're not strangers. This isn't a casual "housemate we found on flatshare" thing. She and Sam have lived together literally their entire adult lives. Me and her have known each other well over a decade. I lived in her and Sam's flat when I was homeless. We were the first people she came out to as trans. We're not super close but I thought we were fucking friends. And she's literally gone out of her way to not talk to us about this for what must have been months while the sale completed - which means she's lied to my face at least once cause I've asked her about her finances in that time (cause she's in a job she hates that she only took to get the house money, so it's like. when we've been commiserating about work stuff I'm often asking 'are you almost free?'). she literally went out of her way to talk to the letting agents before talking to us about putting us in a situation where we could lose our fucking home.

And she keeps. trying. to pretend nothing's happened. Every time I've seen her since then she's not mentioned anything or apologised or anything, she just keeps chatting away and offering hugs and fistbumps like nothing's happened. Like we're still fucking friends.

All it would take for us to still be friends and to be happy for her would have been one fucking sentence in the groupchat like "hey, just put an offer in on a house" or "I'm looking at properties, just so you know, that might happen in the next few months". Like nobody begrudges her for buying a house! It's very cool for her! She's 31 she's worked really hard to get the money I would love to be happy for her! Unfortunately she decided avoiding conflict is more important than giving the people she fucking LIVES WITH (who btw fronted her a month on the rent here while she was unemployed and agreed to take on a larger proportion of the move-in cost back in 2021, if we're still holding ourselves to shit we said 2.5 years ago), so no, you are not entitled to our friendship or to going back to normal.

like if she'd been honest with us it would have been something to process but we'd have had time to figure out our next steps. instead she's left us in a position where we have to find a new roommate before she gives her one month notice, which means finding someone by the end of December, which oh look that's the middle of the fucking Christmas holidays. and she didn't tell us anything until the START of December, or copy us into her conversation with the letting agent, meaning we still don't know what the rent on that space will be so we aren't yet in a position to advertise it. Has she offered to help find a roommate? Has she fuck. Has she offered to help out by moving her move-out date? Nah, she's moving as soon as she gets the keys because, quote, "that means her finances won't have to change". SOUNDS LOVELY. NOT HAVING YOUR FINANCES SUDDENLY CHANGE. I THINK THAT SOUNDS LIKE A REALLY REASONABLE FUCKING GOAL.

Thirteen fucking years she's lived with Sam. Four fucking weeks over Christmas she's left us to figure out a way to not turbofuck our living situation. And she's got the fucking nerve to try and pretend we should be interacting like nothing's changed. Jesus Christ. What a fucking unhinged way to treat...anybody, honestly. never mind the friends-your-entire-adult-life part. literally cannot imagine a scenario in which I would buy a house without telling the people I lived with.

(haha actually this is what my parents divorced over so apparently it's not unusual. although at least my dad had the decency to tell the woman he shared finances with at the point he put in an offer not the point the fucking sale went through.)

Like we'll be fine. It's a huge city centre flat with decent rent and queer housemates, hopefully even when the rent goes up it'll be an easy sell in a city with a huge housing shortage and big queer community. We've got a couple of people interested already, sight unseen - worst case scenario we have to live with someone we don't get on with. And it's given Sam and me a push to look at our own finances and as of today, we've got a mortgage decision in principle and can start looking at flats in the area - mind, we'll be transparent upfront and tell any prospective housemates that yeah, we're looking to buy and move out in the next 6-12 months, and we'll tell them if we put an offer in, because we're decent fucking people who aren't going to spring that on someone out of the blue.

But it's been I think 2 weeks and I'm so fucking angry I could spit. It's such a fucking betrayal. And frankly you know selfishly like. I just had a breakup a couple of months ago, I'm in the middle of moving jobs, both me and Sam have a history of housing instability and this has been the first decent, stable, safe, not-mouldy not-freezing home I think any of us have had, and this is so fucking triggering and upscuttling I could just start biting. like I was talking to my friend about it last week and it's just like. Can I have One Fucking Thing of the three main tentpoles of survival - home, work, relationships - that are fucking stable right now? because shit has been In Flux lately. and at least the work and relationship stuff has changed because of my decisions. going through all that work to make myself short-term unstable to gain long-term stability has been really hard and draining and then just as I was reaching the crisis point with work stuff BOOM, IT'S HOUSING INSTABILITY WITH A STEEL CHAIR. fuck. seriously fuck this and fuck her. we're going to make something good come of it but what a deeply, unbelievably shitty thing to do.

#red said #the other thing that bugs me about it is. ok and again this is old shit dredged back to 2021 when we moved in together #but i had my housemate. and Sam had her. and each of us were really close pairs who'd lived together a long time #and we tried looking for flats as a four but a) a flat with 4 good sized bedrooms in Edinburgh is hens teeth #and b) my housemate was pretty happy to live with me and Sam but increasingly felt like a 4 man flat was going to be a lot for him #and so in the end we talked about it. and through a combination of that and same housemate being in a pretty #unfavorable position housing wise. cause she was unemployed and had shit credit at that moment. #we agreed she'd move with us and Joe went and found a one bed #and in the end that's been really great for him tbh he's a lot happier and more confident and we were pretty sick of each other by then #and so we get on much better now #but at the time it was a real heartache i felt like I'd let Joe down i felt like our friendship was over #and honestly I have never been a huge fan of living with our current housemate. even before we lived here #like when i was staying with her and Sam too. she's incredibly messy and takes up a lot of space in conversations #I've always liked her as a person but she's exhausting and often unpleasant to share space with #and there's a bit of me that's like. we bent over backwards to accommodate you when you were precarious. #like it would have been WAY easier for us to look for a 2-bed during 2021. and if it was a 3-bed I'd have rather stayed with Joe. #but we moved with her for her sake. and she left Sam to clean up their old place (and there were Literal Rats) #and she got really pissy about driving the moving van even though a) that was her idea and b) she's the only person with a license #and c) i walked all MY shit over by hand anyway and the only reason she hired the van was to move her tv #me and Sam found all the core furniture. me and Sam sorted out all the viewings. me and Sam did all the planning. Sam set up all the bills. #we spotted her for rent!we took a bigger share of the costs! because we fucking cared about her and wanted her to have a fucking home! #and she can't even do us the courtesy you'd offer a fucking lodger you found on fucking gumtree

[uncanny-tranny]

It's always tempting to debate bigots about their bigotry, but honestly the best thing you can do is often to directly help those affected by said bigotry.

Bigotry doesn't exist to be debated. People who are bigots do not care about debate - they care about humiliating their opponents. You cannot outsmart somebody who doesn't give a flying fuck about their position being incorrect. You will be playing a completely different game by trying to debate somebody out of their bigotry.

The best thing you can do is to show up for the marginalized. Check in on them, talk to them, and engage with them as people. Ask them if they would like help and then respect their answer to the best of your capabilities. Oftentimes, that will be sufficient enough and will go a long way.

#ally advice #the bigot will not rely on trusted peer-reviewed sources. they will rely on charisma and charm and humiliating and degrading the other team #because a bigot doesn't believe in 'you go low and we go high'. like... they're bigots because they choose to go low #so they will use dirty tactics in order to absolutely obliterate your point because you aren't going to be playing the same game #this is why i don't debate transphobes. i will engage in conversation but i do not debate bigots anymore #like do y'all remember in 2016 when the online alt-r*ght started to grow exponentially? that's the same sort of thing #many people argue that debating bigots has the chance of bringing them over to your side but... #...personally i don't really value that as a *sole* strategy or something we should focus our energy on #i absolutely will never debate a bigot because i know the stakes and i know that they'd play dirty (especially if it is in front of others) #inspired by a conversation with my dad where he surprised me with his outlook and views #(i'd assume that we would disagree heavily but no... he actually pretty much completely agreed) #(which isn't a huge achievement BUT we are pretty different people with very different views at times) #(i'm a carbon copy of him but if he came back Wrong)

[wright-phoenix]

. . . i'm too aro for this

#i saw someone talk about “obvious” romantic tension between phoenix/maya and athena/simon #and that the average cishet normie consumer would assume they were implied romantic #and i sat there for a full minute trying to process that #because literally all i got from these pairings was big sibling energy #and i realize everyone reads that differently but. #the level of being annoying and being annoyed between maya and phoenix.... #and the whole “i gotta be a big sister” and the whole. maya is mia's little sister so by extention kind of also #taken under phoenix's wing after mia's death #the way they constantly joke about maya being childish bc she likes steel samurai (she isn't. edgeworth also likes it #he's just too stuck up to admit it. also liking “childish” things doesnt make u childish but i digress) #but anyway the joke abt maya being childish vs phoenix being grown up #furthering the perception of the difference between them and maya as a sort of younger sibling figure #and then athena and simon.... #simon literally having been her babysitter somewhat. having played with her when she was younger #and when the Mom Murder Incident happened he cared for her and got her out of there #and took on the blame “for her” ..... #all of that screams older brother to me the way he carried her away from the scene. she was just a child #IDK IS IT REALLY SUPPOSED TO BE OBVIOUSLY ROMANTICALLY IMPLIED????????? #WHAT...... #i KNOW there are people who ship phoenix and maya or athena and simon and that's fine #but to me they were OBVIOUSLY sibling coded instead of OBVIOUSLY romance coded #😭😭😭 #help meeeee #cas.txt #i cant tell if the post i saw was an outlier and tinted by Fandom Perception #or if that's like. a big general consensus and i just don't see it bc i curate my online experience #bc it could go either way. i can see it being an outlier that found its way onto my dash #but i could also see it as a bigger agreed upon thing that just never crossed my dash bc i only interact with sibling content 😭 #either way it baffled me

[scepterno]

Love your writing, first off!!!

what are those little “raised dot” scars on Alejandro meant to be/be from?? i can’t figure it out😭😭😭

sooo the implication is that every time he loses a bet with jose, they smoke a cigar (or cigarette) together and jose gets to burn another circle into his skin (basically tallying all of alejandro's failures directly onto his body, yippee!). he has so many because he's never won a competition againt jose. think of it as a very fucked up form of brotherly bonding, which may or may not be inspired by their father. it started after carlos left the family so he didnt know about it until alejandro began living with him.

#its fucked up but sometimes siblings do fucked up things to cope in an abusive household where theyre constantly competing to be a favorite #ya feel me #i was going to touch on it a bit more in the final chapter but whatevs here is an answer for yA #i know this is edgy but its also sort of funny because alejandro could just like #NOT agree to the bets #hes a litle fucked up in the head....... inferiority out the wazoo

[oifaaa]

I love the way you draw Rose!

You'll be happy to hear I should be drawing more of her (hopefully) in the nearish future

#ask #anon #hopefully #want her to be apart of my jason lives au #but need to figure out how the time line all matches up #rose and jasons friendship is one of the only things me and dc agree on #as long as it stays friendship #bc thats a whole ass lesbian there #i also want to include eddie but need to figure out his timeline too #ive got note book that im sorting all this out in

[rezhood]

I would make a post about how Sandra OConnor is rolling in her grave, but she is literally still alive. The first woman who ever served on the US Supreme Court is still alive. The Judge who cast the deciding vote in multiple abortion based cases (all which upheld Roe v Wade) is literally still alive. She could still be on the court right now, dementia be damned, because she is still alive but chose to retire. The MOTHER who legalized abortion is still alive. The white Christian Republican woman who voted in favor of upholding Roe against the wishes of her party, her religious leaders, and Ronald Reagan who nominated her thinking she was anti abortion… is still alive right now.

It wasn’t long ago at all. I don’t know whether to say it’s sad how fast the world forgets, or how terrible it is Christianity still makes laws in the US, or how terrifying it is to watch these powerful and ignorant people take away peoples freedoms like it’s nothing. I don’t know what will happen if RvW is actually overturned, I just think it’s awful how quickly progress can be undone by a couple of bitch ass judges. Sandra Day OConnor voted against her personal beliefs because she had empathy for those who had to chose and understood what it meant to sit on the Supreme Court. I wish the current Christian justices were half as good, morally and at their jobs.

#Also so help me god if anyone tries to claim I’m some sort of Sandra oconnor stan over this I will find you and stick my middle finger #up your nose and into your brain #so this is my official certified press statement that I do not agree with every decision Sandra oconnor made #she is definitely an interesting woman tho #and she is the only reason abortion was legalized because Regan wanted a anti abortion judge for a nomination and he chose wrong lmao #sandra day o'connor #scotus #roe v wade #abortion #supreme court #usa politics #USA #edit: I changed the thing for clarification my b #this was intended as a vent post I didn’t put a lot of time into proof reading cause didn’t think anyone would see it #also I assumed that most Americans have a good idea who SDO is and apparently that is very wrong (yikes) #also misspelt Reagan which might be embarrassing if I had any respect for him

[warlordfelwinter]

you've been here before

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you know, i really didn't expect to get attached to aster when i made her. she was kind of a goof character. i don't really like pf2e as a system but i joined the game cause i like playing things with my friends and i thought i'd give it another chance and just not play a spellcaster. i just picked whatever class seemed easy and fun, kept it boring and simple with the ancestry, and chose the amnesiac background so i wouldn't have to look up anything about the world or put any further thought into her

she was literally just a cute dumb punch joke and then i made one weird improv decision and then she got one of her memories back and now i am so incredibly invested in her. why does this always happen to the joke characters

#drew this while we were playing #i love my little punch cat #i didn't want to get that invested in her bc this gm doesn't usually do a lot of character based work #and it's a module so i imagined backstories wouldn't really be factored in #but he found a way to work it in and make it sort of a fun game for me #i can't wait to see what heinous thing aster was doing before she lost her memory #we have agreed she wasn't a good person #at least i didn't give her a joke name fjsklgn #doodles #fel's ttrpgs #pf2e: abomination vaults #also no i won't argue about pf2e being a good system or not #i don't care #i don't like it personally #oc: aster

[if-loki-was-a-fox]

Is there like. a CW tag people use for posts that are like "if you do xyz I'm committing acts of extreme violence on you / you should explode"? Cus I often feel kinda icky about interacting with those posts and I'd like to at least be able to tag it for other people who might be more significant effected by it to filter if I ever want to reblog one of them

#like they often have good points that I want to agree with and reblog #but I'm also not convinced that a lot of my morality anxiety isn't a build up of seeing those sort of thing #like. obviously this is just a me issue about being over-sensitive (and probably needing therapy or smthn) #but I think it subconsciously makes me think that if I ever fail at being a perfect being with flawless morals and no internalized biases #then I clearly *deserve* to be murdered in my sleep because why else would everyone be saying it? #which freaking sucks but idk how to get rid of it so #just gotta work around it for now until I get get my brain held together with something stronger than paperclips and scotch tape #is this moral scrupulosity? or some kind of ocd thing? #just me rambling

[miraclemaya]

new jacob geller video is good but the problem is that The City is not the same as the other art in the video. it is through its nature as a physical piece just a continuation of settler colonialism. he does touch on it but only a little and it really does change the context of the piece. and no art can exist without context, unfortunately. you can say that it being art about colonialism by doing it makes it more interesting but it does make it damaging in a way other art isn't.

#second thing is that i just do not agree with jacob geller on art for no one #it certainly is a violation to view that sort of art #but that violence #because it is a sort of violence #adds to the art the context of violence shapes the piece and becomes the art #again it's not like i don't think it's bad i guess im just a bad person because i don't care that much #especially when the artist is dead #i think one day when i have free time id like to create a piece of art that can only be accessed by doing violence against me in some way #perhaps something that can only be seen if you send me a death threat #and of course this would be spread by the first person to see it #but it is a continuation of that violence #it's just a very compelling idea