#me or my sister

[gummywurm-gaming]

#me and my sister #based on a text between me and my sister #the blank brothers #the blank sisters #the brothers #the sisters #meme

[kosmogrl]

just saw this and it made me sob.

#on siblings #it hits different because my sister really is and will always be everything to me

[capn-o-my-soul]

#memes my sister sent me from twitter #196 #x #twitter #elon musk #10k #20k #30k

[really-fucked-up-stimboards]

falling down a flight of stairs stimboard ?

#the same shit happened to my sister and she broke her nose #not me tho #I’m too cool to fall #stimboard #anti stim #cursed stimboard #fast gif #fast gif warning #shitpost #stim #stimboard requests #cursed stim #shitty stimboard #stim gifs #stimblr

[yardsards]

surrounding myself with a bubble of diversity and self love and body positivity online and then being exposed to normies who actually care about conventional beauty standards feels so fucking bizarre. like you people just live like this??? are you not tired???

#eliot posts #had to spend the week around my sister #and heard her talking about how much she wished she could remove/change certain aspects of her face #aspects which i also have #and generally like about myself and consider to be part of my charm #like girl what the fuck is a buccal fat #yinz are just making shit up to fuck with me i swear

[lazylittledragon]

you know what fuck it we’re doing dadstarion

#bg3 #baldur’s gate 3 #astarion #tavstarion #idk if this is canon to the dorianverse yet but he looks like a little hobbit!!! #this is a Long long long time post brain i think. since they’ve sorted out the daywalker thing #i don’t think he’d be affectionate but i think he’d be VERY protective #they’re not bad parents in the way that they neglect or mistreat him or even just don’t love him #i think they love him to death but you just shouldn’t give your small child a KNIFE #this one is my favourite sister bc she reminds me of robin

[frankpunisher]

#please reblog this so i can win the fight against my little sisters #this is so fucking important to me #also if you say something else rb and add what it is

[xiewho]

complaining about high elves and sharing inside job gossip. the sisters ever actually

#fantasy high #dimension 20 #fantasy high junior year #adaine abernant #aelwyn abernant #fhjy #d20 #looking @ my art is like art style roulette #will i render next time? will i abuse the lasso tool? stay tuned ! #i love the abernant sisters they are everything 2 me #dimension 20 fanart #also im madly in love with aelywn. just so u guys r aware #my art

[chloesimaginationthings]

This is basically Michael in FNAF Sister location,,

#myart #chloesimagination #comic #michael afton #ennard #minireena #bidybab #fnaf clara #the immortal and the restless #fnaf #sister location #fnaf fanart #five nights at freddy's #Michael is so funny to me #my man will go through the worst horrors imaginable #Than just go home to watch soap operas #like nothing happened #I also like how in canon he relates to Clara #in the survival logbook he even writes about her #Michael Afton kins Clara canon 🔥 #tbh he deserves to relax so good for him #Michael Afton self care king ✨✨

[awildshinjiappears]

#my sister sent me this #shinji ikari #nge #neon genesis evangelion #meme

[seagiri]

can i be sad here for a moment

#my art #dungeon meshi #dunmeshi #laios touden #falin touden #um. sibling dynamics make me really sad. these two specially #i start thinking of that extra where baby laios is telling all the animals that he has a little sister and i bawl my eyes out #i dont usually post sketches here but im about to shatter #dungeon meshi spoilers #??? i guess but very loosely

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[feketeribizli]

spider society meeting more like gay brunch

#across the spiderverse #spiderverse #pavitr prabhakar #hobie brown #gwen stacy #chaipunk #bestfriends who kiss each other 🥰 #their relationship means the world to me. also pav my angel my beloved #saw the movie twice this week already but i cant wait to go again with my sisters #my art

[talisidekick]

If a transgender person asks you to deadname and misgender them in front of certain people. Misgender them and deadname them in front of those people. It doesn't matter how icky or gross it may feel, it doesn't matter you'd rather be honest. It doesn't matter if there's more of you there. Certain people aren't safe, and honesty IS NOT the best policy when honesty could put them at serious risk. It doesn't matter if there's a crowd, because when there isn't shit goes down.

Be an ally, do what they ask. Understand that the trans person knows more about their situation than you do, and this includes who's safe and who's not. Some one can be "trans friendly" to other people, but not to people they know or specific people. Do as the trans person asks, yes it's uncomfortable, but it's 10 times worse if the person we don't trust finds out. 100 times worse if they have access to us when you're not around.

Respect trans peoples safety. Misgender and deadname when asked.

#trans #transgender #lgbt+ #lgbtq+ #2slgbtqia+ #lgbt #transfem #transmasc #transneutral #there is a post about this on my blog but it reminded me of my own situation #my whole family knows I'm out and I didn't want them to #my entire extremely christian catholic and mormon extended family knows because I let my sister tell my parents because we weren't talking #now I live in constant damn fear I'm going to get a message forwarded from family to the point I blocked my own parents #these are dangerous people who will stop at nothing to ruin my life if they find me so I'm going to ask I get deadnamed and misgendered #in front of them #i'm going to lie that it's a joke so I can live my life in relative peace.

[halogalopaghost]

TIL that you can assign an AO3 next of kin to control your account in case of your death???

#ao3 #this is actually really neat #I had a will at one point that included passwords and usernames specifically for my sister so she could manage certain social media #including my fanfic accounts #if anything happened to me #I need to update it it's been like...idk a decade #who makes a will when they're sixteen you might ask #ppl who want to be dead I will answer very seriously while shaking my bottle of SSRI like a baby rattle

[bisexualbvck]

#I need to know! because my sister saying there is a generational gap between us when I am only 2 years older #because I called it a pound sign and she proceeded to tell me it is a hashtag #and I wondered if I should physically fight her lol #polls #my polls