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#men arent one single entity to assume what theyre capable or not capable of
ruins-in-vanity · 3 years
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soemtimes i need to remind myself men arent as 2 dimensional as some people treat them, that they arent simple or ill intended, and all men are capable of love. of real love and affection, and that the romance i see on the screen and in books isnt just a fantasy but very real wants and needs from so many different personalities and styles.
i have to remind myself that these wonderful and deep characters were written by men too, and someday ill be able to share a life with one who will look at me the way that i look at the stars, and ill wonder how i ever doubted he was capable of feeling the way he does.
#male positivity#mlm#nblm#so often theres so much hatred and negativity towards men and male aligned people and attraction towards them#that i just flat out forget that all these wonderful romances i love to read about or watch aren't just fantasies of those atteacted to men#but of men themselves too#pride and prejudice was written by a bi woman but my favourite veesion and one of the only that pay due to the true emotion of the story wa#done by a man#he understood exactly why darcy loved lizzie so deeply and how he felt in his attraction and thus expressed it#its one thing to make your actors do what the script says and entirly another to give it emotion#and then theres men who write poetry and music and the passion they have is what spurns them on! and its so breathtakingly beautiful#they can want to be held and loved and they can want to cook for someone and go for long drives#they can want to share the skills they have to help another or to make them smile#so often on tumblr and in general especially from cis women men are treated like burdens and dangers#and of course some may be but ao are they#and so often i hear 'you like men? im so sorry' as though fiction is all they are#but theyre individuals and theres no way of knowing what one may want or need#men arent one single entity to assume what theyre capable or not capable of#a man wrote the crow#eric was so fucking in love with shelly and not a lot of people know how deeply as it barely came across on screen as it did the book#he says god you bastard how could you do that how could you create soemthing so beautiful and take it away like that#and he cries#he sits and cries as i imagine james obarr did when he lost his sweetheart#men are capable of so much love and beauty and i wish i didnt have this doubt simply because i favour traditionally masculine men#traditionally masculine or flaming gay we're really not so different and it doesn't matter how stoic or strong they might be#we all need gentle hands and adoring eyes that dont look away when we turn from them#just because i adore husky men with sharp eyes shouldnt meani ought to doubt they're depth#they might be physical and smile like nothing could phase them but everyone feels fear and love and desire right?#the biggest sigh just left me and im in far too much pain to truely word what i mean but simply put this doubt is undeserved#original post
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