#mens sexuality

[t4transsexual]

idk who needs to hear this but trans men are not only allowed but need to be encouraged to feel proud to be trans men. hell, they should be proud to be men too, not just in relation to their transness. being trans men and transmasculine can be really fulfilling to people. the random trans guy in your high school calculus class didnt invent misogyny the patriarchy, hes still affected by it. grow up

#straight trans ppl should also be encouraged to be proud in their sexuality too #but thats another hot take #trans #t4t #transmasc #trans man #transgender #trans men #transmasculinity

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

"oh please everyone has gay thoughts sometimes" so what i'm hearing is that heteronormativity is so ingrained that a significant percentage of the population regularly experiences bisexual attraction? but dismisses it as something that all straight people experience? this is so concerning are you guys okay

#'lol women/men are so hot it's a shame i'm straight' buddy i got news for you #gimme a B! and an I! and a PHO! and a BIA!!! #look hon you can be more frequently and strongly attracted to one gender and still experience meaningful attraction to other genders #you can have a strong preference without that erasing other facets of your sexuality #a bunch of people experience bisexual attraction while still having a preference for a certain gender #and guess what! those are still bisexual experiences! #congratulations human sexuality is rich and varied and frequently evolving isn't it wonderful isn't it grand

[k-wame]

JACOB ELORDI · Interviewed by Lynn Hirschberg for 🎭 W Magazine · 24 Feb. 2021

#orlando bloom ouchea quietly sexually awakening an entire generation of bisexuals --a king #jacob elordi #lotr #lord of the rings #legolas #aragorn #queer #lgbt #bisexual #bisexuality #saltburn #saltburn 2023 #orlando bloom #viggo mortensen #w magazine #interview gifs #beautiful men

[inkskinned]

you're grabbing lunch with a nice man and he gives you that strange grimace-smile that's popular right now; an almost sardonic "twist" of his mouth while he looks literally down on you. it looks like he practiced the move as he leans back, arms folded. he just finished reciting the details of NFTs to you and explaining Oppenheimer even though he only watched a youtube about it and hasn't actually seen it. you are at the bottom of your wine glass.

you ask the man across from you if he has siblings, desperately looking for a topic. literally anything else.

he says i don't like small talk. and then he smiles again, watching you.

a few years ago, you probably would have said you're above celebrity gossip, but honestly, you've been kind of enjoying the dumb shit of it these days. with the rest of the earth burning, there's something familiar and banal about dragging ariana grande through the mud. you think about jeanette mccurdy, who has often times gently warned the world she's not as nice as she appears. you liked i'm glad my mom died but it made you cry a lot.

he doesn't like small talk, figure out something to say.

you want to talk about responsibility, and how ariana grande is only like 6 days older than you are - which means she just turned 30 and still dresses and acts like a 13 year old, but like sexy. there's something in there about the whole thing - about insecurity, and never growing up, and being sexualized from a young age.

people have been saying that gay people are groomers. like, that's something that's come back into the public. you have even said yourself that it's just ... easier to date men sometimes. you would identify as whatever the opposite of "heteroflexible" is, but here you are again, across from a man. you like every woman, and 3 people on tv. and not this guy. but you're trying. your mother is worried about you. she thinks it's not okay you're single. and honestly this guy was better before you met, back when you were just texting.

wait, shit. are you doing the same thing as ariana grande? are you looking for male validation in order to appease some internalized promise of heteronormativity? do you conform to the idea that your happiness must result in heterosexuality? do you believe that you can resolve your internal loneliness by being accepted into the patriarchy? is there a reason dating men is easier? why are you so scared of fucking it up with women? why don't you reach out to more of them? you have a good sense of humor and a big ol' brain, you could have done a better job at online dating.

also. jesus christ. why can't you just get a drink with somebody without your internal feminism meter pinging. although - in your favor (and judgement aside) in the case of your ariana grande deposition: you have been in enough therapy you probably wouldn't date anyone who had just broken up with their wife of many years (and who has a young child). you'd be like - maybe take some personal time before you begin this journey. like, grande has been on broadway, you'd think she would have heard of the plot of hamlet.

he leans forward and taps two fingers to the table. "i'm not, like an andrew tate guy," he's saying, "but i do think partnership is about two people knowing their place. i like order."

you knew it was going to be hard. being non-straight in any particular way is like, always hard. these days you kind of like answering the question what's your sexuality? with a shrug and a smile - it's fine - is your most common response. like they asked you how your life is going and not to reveal your identity. you like not being straight. you like kissing girls. some days you know you're into men, and sometimes you're sitting across from a man, and you're thinking about the power of compulsory heterosexuality. are you into men, or are you just into the safety that comes from being seen with them? after all, everyone knows you're failing in life unless you have a husband. it almost feels like a gradebook - people see "straight married" as being "all A's", and anything else even vaguely noncompliant as being ... like you dropped out of the school system. you cannot just ignore years of that kind of conditioning, of course you like attention from men.

"so let's talk boundaries." he orders more wine for you, gesturing with one hand like he's rousing an orchestra. sir, this is a fucking chain restaurant. "I am not gonna date someone who still has male friends. also, i don't care about your little friends, i care about me. whatever stupid girls night things - those are lower priority. if i want you there, you're there."

he wasn't like this over text, right? you wouldn't have been even in the building if he was like this. you squint at him. in another version of yourself, you'd be running. you'd just get up and go. that's what happens on the internet - people get annoyed, and they just leave. you are locked in place, almost frozen. you need to go to the bathroom and text someone to call you so you have an excuse, like it's rude to just-leave. like he already kind of owns you. rudeness implies a power paradigm, though. see, even your social anxiety allows the patriarchy to get to you.

you take a sip of the new glass of wine. maybe this will be a funny story. maybe you can write about it on your blog. maybe you can meet ariana grande and ask her if she just maybe needs to take some time to sit and think about her happiness and how she measures her own success.

is this settling down? is this all that's left in your dating pool? just accepting that someone will eventually love you, and you have to stop being picky about who "makes" you a wife?

you look down to your hand, clutching the knife.

#writeblr #this is a mashup of like 3 dates i accidentally went on lol #by that i mean that i was out with a woman on a date in 2 of these situations #and a man just. joined us. and we were too awkward to say anything while he tried to ''date'' me #& one was a longterm friend that i was like. you what???? #like he's nice he's a doctor and my mom was SO happy she was like raquel think about it #''it's a perfect love story you grew up together and reconnected as adults and like the same things and he's friends with ur brother #and his sister is one of ur close friends!!!'' #yes but alas. he is a boy . she only likes girls. can i make it any more obvious #anyway im tryna write about like the force of male attention being actually incredibly ingrained to women like we are SUPPOSED to like it #it's seen as the only important thing #even if ur gay #and it's a nuanced thing idk #and while rn i i.d. as lesbian #like .... it wouldn't be UNTRUE to say i am probably like ''cusp bisexual'' bc i CAN experience attraction to men bc like . #sexuality is fluid... #don't tell straight ppl tho bc they do not understand the concept that ppl don't necessarily need a solid everlasting label #they're like GET in the BOX #if ur gay & in boston i'm 30 and pretty please come kiss me. #(i usually only date older ppl sorry in advance tho)

[zanephillips]

BRANDON FLYNN "Sexuality" Who Am I? (2024) by Johanna Block

#brandon flynn #brandonflynnedit #who am I film #sexuality #filmedit #actor #men #menedit #guys #shirtless #mancandykings #mensource #dailymenedit #gifs #mine #*

[gay-----pisces2]

Trans "allies" when they see a trans femboy/not passing boy:

awww, so soft and cute! your a little uwu boy huhhh?

Trans "allies" when they see a trans man/passing boy:

ew.

(or)

*blatantly sexualizes either of them for no reason, without their consent*

(some trans boys like being an "uwu"/"soft"/"cute" boy but not all of us- esspecially ones that arent passing yet- it can even hurt. feels like your infantilizing us in a way yk.)

#your not an ally if you sexualize me without consent #or dont like me because im masculine/passing #sorry not sorry #lgbtq #queer #lgbtq community #lgbtqplus #lgbt pride #lgbtqiia+ #queer community #transgender #trans #trans rights #trans men are men #even if their fem

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Decenter Men In Your Life

Consider the values, goals, and desired lifestyle that feel most authentic to you if social scripts/stigmas didn't apply to you

Take time to become radically honest with your desires as an individual – outside of the perception of men, your family, boss, teachers, peers, etc.

Cultivate a sense of personhood and identity established in your interests, hobbies, skillsets, learning capabilities, creativity, and desire for growth in all aspects of life

Act in your own best interests. Speak up for your needs, and advocate for yourself. Be more "selfish." Don't apologize for what you want and go after it. Act in your own best interests

Become confident in negotiating, assertive communication, and standing on your own two feet. Establish relationships in all aspects that are based on mutual benefit and equitable exchange

Unlearn your self-sacrificing & people-pleasing. Stop shrinking yourself or suppressing your needs to make others feel better or more comfortable

Validate yourself: your needs, desires, goals, dreams, preferences, and opinions. You need to choose yourself every day. Your appeal to others means nothing if you don't like the person you are or are becoming to satisfy the needs or desires of others

Consider the ways you're consciously and subconsciously confining your self-expression and belief system to fit the mold/appease the patriarchy. Actively work to deconstruct this mentality and way of being

Be honest with yourself about how men enrich your life. Not the other way around. Do they fulfill you romantically, sexually, both, or neither? There's no right or wrong answer, except the one that requires you to put on a performance rather than live in alignment with your true self

More resources including book recommendations/creators to follow HERE.

#decentering men #intersectional feminism #feminism #feminist #women empowerment #womens rights #intersectionality #social justice #patriarchy #purity culture #female gaze #female excellence #female power #female writers #it girl #femme fatale #female sexuality #the feminine urge #queen energy #high value woman #internalized shame #girl advice #personal growth #femmefatalevibe #women's rights #gender norms #female rage #feminist theory #book rec list #womanism

[amelia-jack00]

Pretty sissy

#transgirl #transfem #lgbt pride #fembody #lgbtq community #transgender #loveislove #queer #asexual #gay men #gay pride #gayboy #pansexual #bisexual #trans rights #transsexual #transisbeautiful #trans sexuality #gender fluid #feminine sissy #trans is not a crime #mtf trans #ftm nsft #non binary #big bootie #sexy titts #sissi femboi #sissylover #gayhot #gorgeous

[mctwinkdom]

Made it into a gif for reasons

#lando norris #ln4 #f1 #sorry #jen's gifs #???? i won't use that tag a lot #lando being inappropriate on camera idk or me sexualizing men as self-care you choose #pinky ring

[couriernewvegas]

idk what ur all reacting to but more people need to be comfortable saying they are bisexual . lesbianism isnt like . a cool kids club its just a sexuality . if u like men u can call urself bisexual its not like better than or less than lesbianism please be normal

#like . both the biphobia of being allergic to calling urself bi bc its like 'less than' lesbianism and the lesbophobia of insisting lesbians #also can like men when there is no other sexuality that excludes them .. just call yourself something else be serious

[neeshachar]

On my 100th reread of tgcf (I'm halfway through the first book) I am only now realising how much of a romantic Xie Lian is.

I thought the only line that indicated his nature was during the seaside "what matters is you, not the state of you" conversation where Xie Lian said "there were very difficult times in my life where I imagined if someone could see me like that and still love me. I still don't know if there would be anyone like that". But this is way later in the 3rd book and before that I hadn't imagined Xie Lian wanting someone to love him.

But I am now realising its outright clear from the beginning. In the first quest, Xie Lian enters the tea shop and looks out the window, noticing how beautiful the scenery was and his first thought was "this would be such a nice place for lovers' chance encounters" and immediately after that he has in own meet-cute with the butterfly.

Later, as he is led out of the bridal sedan by Hua Cheng, he is constantly thinking how great a husband Hua Cheng would be, "considerate, patient, loving" etc etc. Xie Lian enjoyed playing the bride then. He was thinking "oh it would be so nice if this were real, and this man was my husband". You cannot tell me that Hua Cheng was the only one swooning at the hand holding.

I see so many posts and edits of Hua Cheng being whipped from the start, but honestly Xie Lian was falling in love right from Mount Yujun. He knows nothing of the man but from one romantic encounter he remembers the boot bells so fondly and decides "he was soft with me. I like him". I know it's mxtx's doing and all but there is still something to be said when the story is narrated entirely in Xie Lian's head that every interaction XL has with San Lang that onwards is painted so romantically. Xie Lian is a romantic, it didn't take him long to fall hard and love Hua Cheng on purpose.

#I suppose this inspires bigger discussions on his abstinence and how in all those years he didn't love anyone else #or about his sexuality if he knew that in youth he didn't like women #Inspired by an edit I saw of them on “Can't Help Falling in Love” #“wise men say only fools rush in” when it is truly the og wise old man XL rushing in first #XL fell first? Can i say that? Actually idc I *will* say that #tgcf #tgcf xie lian #tgcf hua cheng #tgcf hualian #heaven official's blessing

[blicketdabest33]

i love the comparison between what QSMP did to Philza and what Double Life & ESMP 2 has done to Joel

like

Philza: I am a STRAIGHT MAN in a PLATONIC relationship with Missa. PLATONIC husbands. *hides aggressively gay rp away* I kissed him.. BECAUSE of the CHALLENGE. TOTALLY didn't mean anything. Nope, my character is NOT simping.

Kristin: This is my husband Philza, and that's Philza's husband Missa, and that's Phil's boyfriend Fit, and that's his other boyfriend Etoiles

vs

Joel: Hey BABE *blows kiss at Jimmy* Oh hi Sausage, i'm here to drop off OUR CHILD *pats Hermes on the head* EEFOOOOOOOO WHY ARE YOU SOOOO OBSESSED WITH MEEE??? *neck kisses intensify*

Lizzie: ... babe, calm down please

#trafficblr #blicket talks to the hatchlings #mcyt #qsmp #hermitcraft #joel smallishbeans #etholabs #boat boys #mythical sausage #jimmy solidarity #ldshadowlady #kristin #philza minecraft #fitmc #etoiles #missasinfonia #gay #These men have the most confidence ever in their sexuality and it's awesome #they're all straight (except for Lizzie) but still #de memes #jimmy x joel #sausage x joel #hermes

[homo-sex-shoe-whale]

another lesbian going to men. not shocked at all.

Girl what men are you talking about? I haven’t kissed a guy since I was 14. I’m now 21. Literally what men

#also I don’t need you to validate my sexuality ok #I know what I like even if you don’t believe me #but this is just factually inaccurate #I haven’t kissed a guy since I was 14 and I’ve never fucked a guy. there’s literally no men to speak of #my body count with men is literally zero

[dreadfuldevotee]

DOCTOR WHO | Survivors of The Flux

Mandip Gill as Yasmin Khan

#Doctor Who #yasmin khan #yaz khan #mandip gill #dwedit #dwgifs #dwgif #tvedit #tvgifs #timelordgifs #char.gif #this is self indulgent i just love yaz and the edwardian era #absoutely rewatched this episode just to look at her #yaz being the doctor with her own plucky companions (white men twice her age) in period clothing is my entire sexuality if you didnt know