Burnout is honestly such a mild word for what people use it to mean. I'm not experiencing "burnout", which sounds so casual and routine that some face masks and a little rest is going to fix it.
My body and mind and even nervous system are stretched to the point that it's going to take a lot more than just a "break" or a few self care tips to recover, and even then, my recovery is just so that I can reenter the spaces that contributed to me being this way in the first place. I'm a little bit more than just burnt out by this.
Workplaces and educational institutions aggressively overwork us, expose us to all kinds of discrimination, which they overlook and gaslight us out of acknowledging, and then constantly ask us to ignore our mental, emotional, and physical needs so that we don't inconvenience them.
We're not burnt out. We're borderline traumatized. Burnout is always talked about like something transient and mild that a little rest and relaxation will fix.
But we're exhausted. We need deep rest and healing. We need new systems. We need new ways of being. The language around burnout just seems like a way of upholding these current violent systems and downplaying their impacts.
Hey, if you're having a hard time tonight, please know that I see you and I love you. I know that you are trying so hard, and yet no one thinks you are. I know that it can be hard to ask for help. I know that sometimes you feel alone - but I can promise you that you aren't.
For everyone with social anxiety, this is a reminder that you don't have to be perfect in your interactions with others; you just have to be kind and that's literally it. That's all that's necessary of you. You don't need to say the perfect thing or anticipate what they would want you to say or even exude confidence if you can't.
Social anxiety tells us that we have to be perfect in in our social interactions, but no one is. Social anxiety sets us up for a level of expectation in our social interactions that we have no choice but to fail at, and then fall into a cycle of self-hate for failing and striving even harder for perfection.
if you're having a bad day today, remember tomorrow is a new day! tomorrow can be bright and beautiful and happy even if today wasn't. get through today, okay? and then tomorrow we'll wake up and try again!
Mental health is so important. It includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. Being part of a fandom can help us connect with others and find support when we need it. Unfortunately, there are times when some in our fandom try to bring others down.
Cyberbullying in fandoms has been around for decades and only worsened with the rise of social media and anonymous messaging/accounts.
October is also National Bullying Prevention Month.
Join us in raising awareness on Fandom Bullying throughout this month.
On Wednesday, October 13 (National Stop Bullying Day), we are encouraging you to show your support for your fandom and take a stand against bullying. You can screenshot the last image, DM us (@lovealexhunt, @thefictionaldreamer @/the_mandywalker Insta), or check out this post.
Make an edit and add the graphic(s). Add the banner to your avatar. Share your story with your fandom. Take a stand!
Remember you are not alone, we are all here for you!