#mental illness support

[justseveralowls]

Message of the day:

Do something for your future self today.

Today take a moment to take a few deep breaths and extend empathy to your future self. Think about the week or days ahead of you and select a small task that would make the next few days easier. Whatever you choose does not have to be gargantuan in nature, but instead something small that could make you smile or give you a little comfort in the future. (Ideas: Clean sheets on your bed, fold the laundry so you don't have to worry about it later, pack tomorrow's lunch, or leave yourself a kind note. Compassion is a wonderful thing and you deserve it both from others and from yourself

#self love #self love sunday #self care #self compassion #independance #gentle reminders #recovery #mental health support #mental health #mental illness support #self acceptance #self help #little reminders #be kind to yourself #positivity #coping #mine #system speaks #message of the day #you are strong #dont give up

[downtovegan]

hey i can't get a vegan to answer me on this

what's your opinion on nonhuman headmates who can't eat anything but meat

hey anon

had to google what a headmate was not going to lie. If you are referring to "An alternate personality in someone with dissociative identity disorder" then that is certainly difficult!! But, being vegan is about doing the best that you possibly can! I don't know a lot about DID, just random facts so I am not much help but I think if you could talk to them or leave letters/notes for them about how important veganism is to you that's a start? Let them know how it bothers you/hurts you when they eat meat but you understand that they feel they have to. Just do your best and eat vegan when you possibly can! I would suggest getting a good therapist and talking to them about this too because if veganism is important to you, there must be some way to talk to your headmates about this. Sorry if I am not much help, this is a very interesting question though anon and I appreciate the ask.

If anyone has any non-judgemental and compassionate advice please comment on this for anon!

#ask #anon #DID #down to vegan #veganism #doing your best #do your best #just eat vegan when you can #mental health #mental illness #mental illness support

[bootlegraven]

learning to no longer bottle up your emotions is weird experience cuz it makes you realize that you are not the calm and collected person people said you were

#bootlegramble #mental illness #menhera #mental health #mental illness support

[everythingilearned]

What is depression?

It is loneliness.

It is forgetfulness.

It is homesickness.

It is realizing that you shouldn’t be homesick, because you are already home; and that makes you more homesick than ever.

It is the absence of joy, of vitality, of significance.

It is looking at a piece of art and seeing nothing but a vague jumble of colors and images.

It is lying in your bed at night, silent tears streaming down your face, begging whatever god you believe in to make it stop.

It is isolation.

It is knowing you are isolated, and knowing that it’s wrong, but feeling too weak to change it.

It is thinking you should stay isolated, because no one wants to be around you anyway.

It is emptiness.

It is loneliness.

It is wanting desperately to go someplace familiar, someplace you feel important, only to remember that no such place exists.

It is dying while you’re still alive.

It is feeling like a stranger in your own head.

It is living every moment in the darkness of night.

And it is hoping and aspiring and believing, despite all the odds,

That one day, the sun will rise again.

#depression #poetry #writing #mental health awareness #mental health support #mental illness #mental illness survivor #mental illness support #anxiety #ocd #bipolar #schizophrenia #life #sadness #hope #you are not alone #depression anon #everything i learned

[neuroticboyfriend]

it's never too late to start brushing your teeth again. i basically never brushed my teeth for a whole 10 years. a decade. A DECADE. i still struggle to brush my teeth once a week, but it all started with brushing my teeth once every few months. so i mean it when i say brushing your teeth once a week, a month, a year, or even a decade, is better than nothing.

and still, nothing is not shameful. it is not immoral to struggle with self care. and it is also not pointless to keep trying. anything you can do, even if its wiping plaque off with a towel, is enough. it is good to take care of yourself however you can, even if it's just trying to muster the will to. reading this post is good, too.

i believe in you and i am proud of you, even in the smallest of steps. it's okay. you can give yourself grace.

#softspoonie #disabled #disability #schizophrenic #schizophrenia #schizoaffective #depression #depressed #severe depression #self care #hygiene #self love #self help #mentally ill #mental health #physical health #chronic illness #chronically ill #mental illness #mental health support #spoonie #spoonie positivity #disability positivity #neurodivergent #adhd #neurodivergent positivity #disabled positivity

[inkskinned]

hey btw if you're in the USA at  2:20 p.m. ET on Wednesday, Oct. 4, they're testing the emergency broadcast system. your phone is probably going to make a really loud noise, even if it's on silent. there's a backup date on the 11th if they need to postpone it.

if you're not in a safe situation and have an extra phone, you should turn that phone completely off beforehand.

additionally, if you're like me, and are easily startled; i recommend treating it like a party. have a countdown or something. be surrounded by your loved ones. take the actions you personally need to take to make yourself safe.

i have already seen mockery towards any person who feels nervous about this. for the record, it completely, completely valid to have "emergency broadcast sounds" be an anxiety trigger. do not let other people make fun of you for that. emergency sounds are legitimately engineered to make us take action; those of us with high levels of anxiety and/or neurodivergence are already pre-disposed to have a Bad Time. sometimes it is best to acknowledge that the situation will be triggering for some, and to prepare for that; rather than just saying "well that's stupid, it's just a test."

"loud scary sound time" isn't like, my favorite thing, but we can at least try to prevent some additional anxiety by preparing for it. maybe get yourself a cake? noise cancelling headphones? the new hozier album? whatever helps. love u, hope you're okay. we are gonna ride it out together.

#watching ppl go from being like ''support neurodivergent ppl~~!" #to being like ''if this is going to give u a panic attack ur fuckken stupid'' #like..... gets me #yeah man. i know im going to be triggered by it . in the old fashioned term. it is GOING to give me a panic attack. it's pretty much certai #and i shouldn't have to tell u about what i have survived for you to be okay with that. #you can just trust that i ALSO don't want me to react to it. i'm not gonna be having a FUN time. #dismissing that bc you think it's stupid.... like is the whole problem. #these sounds are workshopped by entire teams of people to get you to pay attention and move quickly. #they arent meant to be fun and exciting. #OBVIOUSLY it's gonna set ppl off. #but yeah there's something so fuckken demeaning about ppl being like. well that trigger isn't valid bc u haven't undergone X #dude i have ptsd bc i was abused as a child. like plain and simple. the fact im 30 and afraid of the dark tells you how bad it was. #i shouldn't have to ask u for permission to be mentally ill. #the reason it's a fucking disorder and not a fucking choice is that I DO NOT CONTROL IT. #like how is it any different from when ppl are like ''oh public speaking isn't that scary'' like FOR YOU #for YOU this isn't scary. now if i could fucking eat my own amygdala...

[kiindr]

friendly reminders:

you don't have to be productive every day

you are worthy even if all you did today was get out of bed

there are people out there who care about you

your existence makes a difference

if something bothers you, then it bothers you. no one has the right to tell you otherwise

you are allowed to take up space

there is no 'right way' to grieve

you cannot put a time limit on emotions

your likes and interests are valid and they matter

it's okay to take your time in doing things. not everyone can do everything at the same pace

#mental health #reminders #mental health awareness #mental health support #mental health issues #mental health reminders #mental health problems #therapy #coping #coping mechanisms #mental ill health #mental illness #wellbeing #wellness #motivation #productivity #optimism #positivity

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[unimatrix-420]

As the oldest child in my family, I've always been the one to step in and take control of situations and try to mediate the peace between everyone involved. And sometimes I feel like I don't have the luxury of making myself unavailable to others because I've seen how low THEY can go and it's like I have this constant fear that the one time I'm not there for someone who needs me will be the time something drastic happens and it will be too late.

#personal #mental health #depression #mental illness #bpd #support #mental illness support #wellness #healthcare

[honeypleasejustkillme]

suicidal people deserve a space to talk about their suicidal feelings without risking hospitalization/institutionalization or being accused of being manipulative or attention seeking

#world mental health day 2022 :) #remember you all are loved and appreciated :) #everyone with mental health issues are valid and deserve support so if you ever need it don’t hesitate to reach out <3 #actually bpd #bpd #actually mentally ill #bpd problems #actually borderline #bpd fp #bpd shitposting #bpd mood #bpd vent #bpd favorite person #tw sui mention #passive suicide #tw sui thoughts #tw sui vent

[bipolarblogss]

Such good friends.

#Friends #mental illness support #Relationship #Ableism #Loneliness #isolation #mental problems #mental illness

[justseveralowls]

Curating your internet experience

You are allowed to create the experiences you surround yourself with. You are allowed to remove media, stimuli, and even people that do not make you happy.

You are not obligated to watch a show that upsets you, to constantly bombard yourself with news articles that make you anxious, or keep in touch with people who bring negativity into your life (whether actively or passively). There was a period of time when sitting down with my phone to relax actually made me anxious, and that prompted me to reflect and go through the sort of posts, people, and media that I was consuming or being shown. Surround yourself with things that you enjoy, news and topics you find interesting, hobbies, and media you find fulfilling or make you smile.

For me that meant I eliminated a few key things:

SAD COMICS ON MY FEED (these mess with me a ton and I don't want to be scrolling on my break and then start crying)

Constant streams of bad news! I still keep up to date but I selected a few trusted sources and listen/watch them at specific times so I'm not constantly overwhelmed.

Triggering media ( enough said tbh)

Toxic dynamics in certain internet circles ( I'm a dancer, less so now bc of EDS but I love to dance but I found myself exposed to a lot of toxicity, especially regarding body image and eating habits in some circles)

Changing this stuff really helped me and I noticed a lot less doom scrolling.

Curate your internet experience, as weird as it may sound it's a form of self-care and can have a fairly potent effect on mental health!

If you made it through this post please enjoy this cat photo

#self care #curate your experience #mental health #mental health support #recovery #self love #mine #coping #internet wellness #positivity #gentle reminder #mental illness support #self healing #ed recovery #mini ramble #You are valid #avoiding burnout #system speaks

[queerism1969]

#corrupt cops #police state #police officer #arrest #police brutality #prison #queer #lgbtqia #lgbtq #mental wellbeing #mentality #therapy #problems #mental heath support #the mentalist #actually mentally ill #mentalheathawareness #mental health #struggle #stress

[gwen-thinks]

something that people don’t tell you about depression, anxiety, trauma etc is that recovery is not this beautiful healing journey where you figure out the secret to happiness and a clear head and you just come out a different person. it’s hard. it’s really fucking hard and you have to work, probably harder than you even were working before while your mental illnesses stayed dormant.

and that’s what makes me so angry about people who misunderstand disorders and their subsequent treatment. getting help is not easy. you may think that all someone needs to do is wave a magic wand and stop being the way that they are but “getting help” often means signing yourself up for regular therapy, trying out medications, trying out different forms of therapy, processing complex trauma and emotions, reconfiguring your life, challenging yourself every single day to do things you couldn’t before. it’s fucking hard!!

and to everyone out there, like me, who is going through this process - i see you and hear you and i know that we’re going to get through it. and i hate the “you’re so strong” thing but holy shit, we are strong. i know how much effort and work it takes. it’s more than just “drink water” and “go on a walk.” it’s often about rewiring your entire brain.

#mental health care #mental health #mental illness #actually autistic #actually mentally ill #actually adhd #mental health support #positive mental health #emotional validation #phobia #it will be okay #it will get better #i love you #from one mentally ill bitch to another

[recoverr]

i hope it hurts a little less. day by day. week by week. i hope the ache in your chest eases. maybe it won't entirely, maybe it will. may the thought of feeling joy again alone be enough to keep you going, even if for a while.

#mental health #recovery #self care #self love #reminders #positivity #healing #complex ptsd #cptsd #mental heath support #mental illness #wholesome suggestion #recovery suggestion #trauma recovery #trauma survivor #mine.

[neuroticboyfriend]

get in bitches, we're surviving rock bottom no matter how much further we dig. one day we'll put down the shovel and climb out of this for good. we have to. as long as we're still alive there is hope.

#softspoonie #mental health #mentally ill #hopepunk #recovery #addiction recovery #abuse recovery #recovering alcoholic #trauma recovery #cptsd recovery #mental health recovery #ptsd recovery #recovering addict #addiction #trauma #survivor #trauma survivor #mental health support #hope #madpunk #positivity #serious mental illness #severe mental illness #ptsd #cptsd #depression #actually traumatized #severe depression #self care #self love