I’m thinking about one of the hardest parts to accept about sexism. That is how it causes us as women to view other women, viewing how they behave and live their lives in a negative way. Sexist ideas are dormant in every young girls mind, it influences how we see our friends and our teachers and idols, it even permeates into our family and relationship with female family members.
How often do we speak of our grandmothers as if she is preachy, nagging, annoying, in a way that we don’t speak about grandfathers? How often do we look at our aunts and roll our eyes at their trivial conversations and prefer talking to our cooler uncles about sports or games or whatever you both find interesting? How often do we take our brothers pain far more seriously than our sisters because “girls cry over nothing all the time, if boys cry it’s about something serious.”
I see it permeate in mother-daughter relationships. Where the mother will push past all of her daughters boundaries for the sake of a man absent in that room, but somehow still present. Where she brushes out her hair, touches and pokes at her face, dresses her up like a doll in whatever clothes are considered either appealing (to attract men’s eyes) or modest (to dissuade men’s eyes). Shaves her legs, arms, face with razors or waxes at them with adhesives, slathers her tanned skin with whitening creams to appear “cleaner” in a way that only teaches her she is somehow dirty, or paints her pale skin with a bronzer that stains all of her clothes, for that “healthy glow”, that only tells her she is somehow ill, all the while these mothers are looking at the others’ daughter with envy and admiration that their own could only dream of receiving from them. How stubborn and offended she becomes at her daughters refusal to conform and obey to the demand to marry a man and have his children. But I wonder if the apparently cruel mother is thinking “no one respected my wishes to rebel and refuse these demands and standards that were forced on me by my mother, so why do I have to respect hers?”
But I see it too in how daughters treat their own mothers with so much disrespect and resentment. How they down look at her “nagging” and “hysterical” behaviour, her unfounded “obsession” with the home and its appearance. Daughters look at their mother with dismay and resentment, they see the fatigue in her eyes and respond with anger to mask the fear that they will have that same fatigue reflected in their own eyes at their mothers current age. So daughters look at their mother with resentment and dismay, and to flee their fears they identify themselves with her male counterpart, the father or the brother. The daughter refuses to take part in the domestic chores demanded of her because of her sex, she feels some type of triumph in that refusal, as if she is finally taking a stance for all women, all while leaving the work on her mothers shoulders, never that demanding the elusive father assist his exhausted “loved one”, since he’s too busy filing his end of the “inevitable, optimal”, nuclear bargain. Daughters, I, will look into their mothers, my mothers eyes, and say “I will never make the mistake of choosing to live the life you are living, I will never be like you”. Then she, we, will foolishly find solidarity in the shared “freedom” we have with our fathers. Both enjoying the freedoms our mother no longer has because she surrendered it, of her own volition or otherwise, for our sake. A freedom we convince ourselves that we will still have long after we have left our mothers in that home, with the man/men she must look after until her death.
Then these mothers and daughters will look into each other’s eyes with resentment, completely pointed at the other and the pain “she has caused”, ignoring the man absent, yet still present, in the room, laughing at them, us, both.
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When their toddlers ask them where babies come from f.t Yuji,Megumi,Gojou,Geto,Nanami and Toge
cw: mild suggestiveness and nothing else. This is mostly just humorous and wholesome
summary : Your little curious toddler decides to ask their dad where babies come from, how do they respond?
A/N : All characters are aged up and your kids are 4-5 years old. Contrary to popular belief ,it is important to give your children sex education. But you can only talk to them about some certain concepts when they get to a certain age. This is just some random nonsense I thought of when I was doing the dishes on a random day. I may have used mommy and mummy interchangeably cause I'm used to the latter
Also thank you @trashbunnywrites and @sodium-noodlez for helping me out with this,love you guys!
-He's watching a movie when his little toddler comes running up to him with a question in their mind
- "Daddy, where do babies come from" The little one asks with a glint of curiosity in their eyes
-He scratches his head nervously and thinks about what to tell the child
-He decides to tell them that crack story that some of our parents have probably told us. That one about storks
-He can see his kid's face glowing with fasciation as they listen to their father's farfetched story
-"wow, really daddy?, so can I ask Mr. storkey to give me a widdle baby brother/sister" They ask in their adorable baby voice
-"Ah sorry kiddo, gonna have to talk to your mom about that first" He pats their head and sighs in relief
MEGUMI FUSHIGIRO :
-He's just about to take a quick nap on the couch when he sees his little troublemaker come up to him. gets it from his mommy
.- " Daddy, daddy, daddy!" They practically scream
- ''Yes (child's name)" his face automatically morphing from a look of tiredness to one of fondness on hearing his child's voice
-"Daddy where do you get a baby?"
-Unlike Yuji, Megumi is a pretty straightforward person when it comes to this, he sees no reason to make up a story but he doesn't think they're ready to learn about this yet.
-" Don't worry (child's name),you'll understand this when you're older" He gives them a knowing look
- " But daddy, I'm a big boy/girl" They pout
-You hear their little convo from the kitchen and you decide to back your husband up.
-"Sweetie, your daddy is right, we'll tell you when you're just a little older, ok?'' you tell them
-"ok mommy'' they look down in defeat
-You lighten up the mood by bringing up something they can't resist
-"Why don't we go play with your barbies and dinosaurs while we let daddy sleep" toys have no gender, fight me on this
-"yaay" They scream in excitement looks like they need to be taught about decibel levels
GOJO SATORU :
-He's watching some random videos on his phone when his kid comes bursting in the room
- "Daddy, where do babies come from?"
-As we all know, this man has no filter so he doesn't hesitate to attempt to explain in lay man terms
-"You see honey, when a mommy and daddy love each other very much, they go into a room and fu-'' He get's cut off when a size 15 shoe comes flying across the room with a speed of 10m/s, knocking the white haired sorcerer unconscious
-"Not in my house you don't" You mutter
-seeing what happened caused your toddler to burst out in fits of laughter
-"ha ha, daddy got hit with a shoe"
-You turned to your little one with a smile and asked them if the want to get some ice cream, of course they joyously agreed thank goodness for the short attention span of toddlers
-You left the house with your child while your husband still lay dazed on the floor .poor Gojo
GETO SUGURU :
- I actually think Geto would handle this perfectly. Don't get me wrong, I haven't read the manga but he's clearly the bad guy. I just think he's an overall soft and gentle person when it comes to his wife and kid
- so when his little toddler comes running to him with their tiny feet asking him a question most parents are reluctant to answer ,he answers appropriately
-Unlike Yuji, he doesn't make up stories but tells them instead : "You see little one, when two people love each so much, they pray to God and he gives them a beautiful baby" still not the whole truth but whatever
-The child's eyes are filled with wonder and glee at what their father told them.
-He pats their head affectionately and nods to affirm his statement
-''woww, so you and mama got me like that?" They asked in their little baby voice
-"yes,my little prince/princess"
-You catch this spectacle when you descend from the stairs of your home
-Your heart instantly melts when you see Geto bonding with your child
-It's certainly heart-warming
- Just like our guy Megumi, he would see no point in lying to his child but he wouldn't tell them something like "You were made from love", like how Geto would
-He'd look directly into his child's bright big eyes and tells them firmly but gently
-''You see child's name ,there's this whole complicated process that adults do when they want a baby but unfortunately I cannot tell you about it till you're older"
-His child is a little disappointed and asks why he can't.
-"But daddy why?"
-''Because (child's name),it's grown up stuff, okay?" he says with a soft smile on his face while patting their back . Ugh, daddy material much
-am I gonna be a grown up one day?"
-Of course, little one, one day ,you will" He chuckles and continues rubbing their little back affectionately, trying not to think about how his little angel wouldn't be so little anymore
-"Yaaaaaaaayy, can't wait!"
- This might be a bit tasking seeing as he has to restrict his speech but then again, I have a feeling that if he works on his technique he may find a way communicate without causing damage
-Nevertheless, assuming he could speak, I think he'd be the type to just say : " Go ask your mummy"
-Yeah, he's pushing it to you cause he doesn't want to say something he shouldn't least you kill him for corrupting your toddler
-And at the same time, I don't think he'd want to outright lie to his child about the origin of babies. He seems like a very honest and logical person so I don't see him doing that
- So when he tells his kid to ask their mum, the child comes running straight to you.
-"Mummy, where do babies come from?, daddy said I should ask mummy"
- Of course, you take it upon yourself to attend to your child's question (You can choose how you'll handle this 😉 )
- you glance at him but he just shrugs his shoulders, earning him a playful eyeroll from you
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