#moving out

[vaor]

things i wish i had known when i escaped my family household and couldn't ask my parents for help

invest in a good mattress early on. there are many other ends you can save on - sleep is not one of them. this is key to how much energy you'll have throughout the day

you don't need a bedframe but you do need a slatted bed base (even if it's just pallets)

opening a bank account is easy

there's youtube tutorials for everything. how to install your washing machine, how to use tools, fixing stuff around the place. channels like dad, how do i? are a godsend

change energy provider as soon as your old deal runs out. you'll get better offers elsewhere and avoid price gouging

assemble a basic first aid kid at home: painkillers, probiotics, alcohol wipes, bandages, tweezers, antihistamine tablets - anything you might need in a pinch

and an emergency toolkit: flashlight, extra batteries, a utility knife, an adjustable wrench, multi-tool, duct tape

set your fridge to the lowest temperature it can go. the energy consumption is minimal in difference and it'll give you +4/7 days on most foods

off-brand products are almost always the same in quality and taste, if not better, for half the price

coupons will save you a lot of money in the long run

there's no reason to be shy around employees at the bank/laundromat/store; most people will be happy to help

vegetarian diets are generally cheap if you make food from scratch

breakfast is as important as they say

keep track of your budget in a notebook or excel file - e.g. rent, phone and internet bills, food, leisure so you'll have an overlook on your spending over the months

don't gamble

piracy is okay

stealing from big stores and chains is also ethically okay

keep medical bills and pharmacy receipts for tax returns

also, file your tax returns early

take up a hobby that isn't in front of a screen. pottery, music, going for a run every now and then, stuff that'll keep you busy and sane

and most importantly... you're allowed to get the stuff you want. treat yourself to the occasional mundane thing. a good scented candle. a bath bomb. that body lotion that makes you feel like royalty. the good coffee beans.

you're free and you deserve to be happy.

#going from being denied basic knowledge to becoming independent over night was wild lmao #but here i am #four years later #doing pretty good #maya screams into the void #moving out #abusive parents

[garchompenthusiast]

Hey!

The government has just ruled that as someone under 25 (22), I shouldn't recieve HRT or any kind of gender affirming medical care because I somehow count as a child!

I can go fight and die in a war, I can vote, get married, have a kid! But I'm somehow not mature enough to know what I want of myself, but I sure can move out and pay taxes!

The moving out part is important. Basically,

HELP A GIRL OUT HUH?

I'm planning to move to a part of the country where private care is much more readily accessible and there will be more of a support network for me! I am terrified of remaining in this area with the rhetoric of the government becoming more and more threatening.

I need Money for that though!

So, uh, donate here! Please-

Every little helps, I'm not shooting for a fixed amount, just a little help here and there.

EDIT: due to evolving stuff this moving out thing might also turn into saving for private care which is a big draw of moving out but still fairly expensive! I'm so so so thankful to everyone so far I love you all

Thank you <3

#trans #fundraiser #moving out #this feels bad but like #i gotta get out of here to be me

[rivers-for-me]

Pros of living alone

Do weird makeup whenever

Peace and actual privacy in the bathroom

You cook for yourself

Cons of living alone

If you have no background noise for a second the soul crushing loneliness sets in and never leaves

Clean the peaceful bathroom

You cook for yourself

#moving out #unfortunately i don't live alone #shitpost

[iwantabatlleaxe]

Tips for living alone for the first time

I moved out a year ago and thought it'd be cool to share what I've learned so you don't have to suffer as much :,)

Decide a day to sit down and pay all bills and everyone

Know and accept you won't get your initial budget right, it took me a year

Google is your friend, but people are better.

Especially when looking for cheap markets and places to eat, or safe streets to walk around, people know more than google.

4. Speaking of cheap markets... get those (free) memberships for discounts. But most importantly, dowload and check every supermarket app and search for the cheapest one.

5. When looking for a place to live, try to speak with people who live there and check google maps reviews and your countrys site for custumers complaints.

6. You likely don't need to clean as often as your family told you, but cleaning your place will make you feel better. And you gotta clean the fridge. And hair. So much hair.

7. If you don't have a fridge, just a small cooler, check if the building has a common fridge/kitchen and Don't. Be. Shy to use it please.

I recommend not moving into a place without a fridge if you don't plan on eating out or going to the market every two days.

8. Carry your documents with you, or write them down or make a copy. I recommend not carrying the original since if you lose it/get mugged it's a pain in the ass to get it fixed.

9. Cook as much as you can in one go, but don't overwhelm yourself. Get those washed vegetables and cut onions, do what you need so you don't end up exhausted and crying on the floor... not that I've ever done that myself...

10. It's gonna feel hard at times and that's ok! The freedom is worth it, and after a year I'm really happy with all the progress I've made

11. Avoid pets, especially in a scenario that you're moving around or in a small studio or with financial difficulties (this can change from ppl to ppl etc)

12. Join or make a chat group with everyone in the building, without the sindicate so y'all can be honest about complains and create a single, solid complaint before showing it to the sindicate. (apartment manager? syndic? assignee? idk, whoever fixes things)

That's all I can remember for now, feel free to ad or correct me if you like :)

#moving out #living alone #tips and advice #life tips #moving tips #.

[nomorekillingbutterflies]

this is it? is this what growing up is all about? we pass joy around in a bottle of cheap wine for one last time. I know, everyone is constantly changing and the earth is spinning and eventually everything happens just like it’s supposed to. but if my car were to crash on my way back to the city I call my new home, I wouldn’t be angry. my mom buys herself flowers now and I think that’s a good thing. she also keeps my scissors in a different shelf. and the tree in our backyard is gone. you never know when it’s the last time. is growing up nothing more than feeling younger than you are and leaving all the things you love so dearly behind?

-e.f

#excerpts of a book i will never write #original poem #poems and quotes #poetry #prose poetry #spilled poetry #poetic #poems on tumblr #sad poetry #poetry about growing up #growing up #spilled ink #writer #596 #poetry blog #childhood poetry #adulthood #moving out #short poetry #writerscreed #creative writing #prose #poetry book #author

[bodhrancomedy]

Music: Older by Alec Benjamin

(Guess my childhood is over,

I’m taking down my posters and I’m putting all my things into a box,

I took a toaster, that’s my closest thing to closure,

I can’t stop this rollercoaster,

I’m not ready to get older, I’m not ready to get older,

Guess my childhood is over, I’m taking down my posters,

And I’m telling all my friends we’ll be together next October,

That’s my closest thing to closure, I’m not ready to get older, I’m not ready to get older)

#deaf #tiktok #queer #video #actor #moving out

[creatingnikki]

Will I be able to romanticize it all? Sitting on the floor surrounded by bags of grocery that I am too tired to sort. Not being able to sleep because I can't yet feel safe in an empty house. Silence. All this silence. People who want but have nothing to give and don't quite care to. Power cuts and stale food. Will I be able to manage through these growing pains? Moving out, moving away, doing the whole 20-something thing where I try being 100% independent. I've wanted this for so long. I have craved for it for so long. Being my own person and doing my own thing. I get to do it now. I get to shape my life with decisions that are solely mine. Will I find that liberating? Will I find that frustrating? I do not know. But I make them. All those decisions. And I will romanticize all the small moments and the little miseries of this adulting life. And I will make it. I will become this person who can rely on herself beautifully.

#note to self #writerscreed #poeticstories #poetryportal #writtenconsiderations #inkstay #writers on tumblr #poets on tumblr #spilled ink #spilled thoughts #adulting #moving out #creatingnikki

[lazykebabvagina]

Reminder of the day:

It's ok not to have it all figured out.

#positivity #happy #hopecore #moving out #autism #life #advice #hope #self love #adhd #mental illness

[mherbidity]

Comprehensive First Apartment Check List/ Shopping List

My boyfriend and I are looking for move into our first place together soon, and I wanted to share things we are buying from amazon for our first place, and organize them into a list by category. I am using tumblr as my medium to create said list. I’ll continue to update it!

Bedroom

Double laundry basket

Bed side table w/ outlet

Bathroom

Towels

Plunger/towel brush

Bath mat

Shower Curtain

Soap dish/ soap holder

First aid kit

Kitchen Essentials

Plates

Cereal bowls

Silverware

Baking Pans

Pots & pans

Water Glasses

Wine glasses

Food containers (cereal, noodles, etc.)

Tupperware

Cooking Utensil Holder (for spatulas, etc., for the counter)

Cooking Utensil Set

Paper towel holder

Coffee pot

Water filter

Tea Kettle

Crock pot

Trash can

"Don't make me poison you" dish rag

Cleaning Essentials

Broom + dust pan

Dish Brush

Swiffer Sweeper

Vacuum

Other

Candles

Air fresheners

Tape to use to hang heavy things up

#let me know if you have any other ideas #first apartment #moving out #moving out for the first time #self development #first home #moving houses #I will be editing this

[one-time-i-dreamt]

I had gone to college in a different state than I am at now, and my family moved out with me. One night I couldn't sleep (in the dream) and went to explore our new house's basement. In the first room, everything was huge to simulate being kid-sized again, and in the second room, there was a bookcase with every toy I had ever owned in life, and then some.

I haven't felt the same since that dream.

#dream #college #family #moving out #school

[mysticalpineforest]

it might not be much, but it's mine

living room floor by sammy rae & the friends; sun in an empty room, 1963 by edward hopper; lover by taylor swift, sun in an empty room blue by philip koch; apple pie by lizzy mcalpine; white room by harry steen

#sammy rae & the friends #taylor swift #lizzy mcalpine #edward hopper #philip koch #harry steen #web weaving #webweaving #compilation #words #art #home #moving out #moving IN #young adult independence #i might not have a table on which to eat this takeout but i sure do have a living room floor #mine

[unicorn-onion]

I believe in the kindness of strangers and the cruelty of family.

unicorn_onion

#found family #moving out #quote by me #spilled thoughts #spilled ink #spilledink #toxic family #emotional abuse #neglect #abandonment #trauma #kindness of strangers #teen poet #community #family #abuse survivor #gaslighting #manipulation #verbal abuse #independence #quotes #daddy issues #i know that you got daddy issues and i do too

[cynicalcharisma]

leaving ur country does feel surreal at times. like i have looked forward to this day where i’d leave the violence and trauma behind (at least physically if not emotionally). now that it's coming near i have so much cold feet. maybe i don't want to leave. maybe i’ll miss the food, the weather, the language, and so much more.

#migrants #mental health #chaotic academia #mentally drained #desi tag #burnout #desi tumblr #desi stuff #desiblr #desi girl #desi people #being desi #desi culture #desi dark academia #desi chaotic academia #international student #moving out #moving away #homesick

[juvia-is-beast]

Hey Y'all I rarely post stuff of my own but I'm in need of help. I've always had a hard time asking for help but I've become desperate. I just moved out of my toxic Indian household at 27 with no savings because my mom would take all of my SSI checks and huge chunks of my paycheck that I worked for. I'm having a lot of health issues and chronic pain flare ups. I work at a college but I've been put in an administrative role until I can get my health in order. I don't have as many hours but now I can actually see doctors. My family was preventing me from getting help, from seeing doctors or getting my meds on time. I have PTSD and I can't drive because of it. I need financial help. I've been approved for SNAP but I'm waiting on my EBT card. I'll be going to a food bank tomorrow to get some food but that still leaves me with no funds to buy medical marijuana. I've been experiencing nerve pain the last 2 months and hormonal migraines for a straight month. I live in FL and it's super heavily taxed and I'm having trouble getting my muscle relaxers re-prescribed because I need a specialist to prescribe them for my insurance to keep paying for them. I have no other proper pain management rn. Please help me. I know the global climate is at its worst right now and I feel guilty making this post with everything going on in Palestine but that doesn't change the fact that I NEED HELP.

If you can help in any way please, even suggestions on what to do better with e-begging would be greatly appreciated.

My Cash@pp: $ButtPirate27

I can also tutor you online in Algebra if you need a math tutor I can help with Pre-Calc and Trig too but I'm far too rusty on Calculus to tutor but I would gladly tutor for any financial help.

If you want more info on my situation I don't mind sharing. I've been on Tumblr for 11 years and barely ever posted about my own life. I know that there are definitely people here willing to help but there have also been a fair share of scammers so I understand the hesitation. Here's my cat Ares, something cute to look at. I want to get him a cat tree too and a bin to make a housed litter box for him.

#mutual aid #help need #my post #moving out #toxic family #financial abuse #financial aid #e-begging #pain management #new start #low funds #will tutor in algebra for money

[valiantsuitcaseskellington]

#Moving out #vlad plasmius #story #dp x dc #danny phantom #dc x dp #poll

[pratchettquotes]

"There's no help for it, I'll have to move out," sighed Cheery. "I feel all...wrong."

Angua looked down at the little figure trundling along beside her. She recognized the symptoms. Everyone needed their own space, just like Angua did, and sometimes that space was inside their heads.

Terry Pratchett, Feet of Clay

#cheery littlebottom #angua von uberwald #feet of clay #discworld #terry pratchett #dwarfs #werewolf #friendship #female friendship #psychology #dysphoria #empathy #sympathy #moving out #space #mental space #she recognized the symptoms #sometimes the space is inside your head