hey the "it's ok this person is doing [weird but harmless behavior] bc they're autistic" attitude isn't actually helpful. The behavior itself needs to be destigmatized regardless of who's doing it.
I'm autistic, and:
I sure as hell don't feel like having to constantly whip out my Autism Membership Club Card™ to justify my atypical quirks to strangers. That's private medical information, actually? No one should have to choose between being seen as autistic or as a jerk/weirdo.
I don't enjoy being made self-conscious and having to wonder "if this weird thing I'm doing is wrong when allistic people do it, does that mean there is something inherently wrong with being autistic? is my 'bad' behavior excused bc I am already assumed to be a bad person, who can't help being bad?" That's ridiculous and I don't need that energy.
And what about the many people who are undiagnosed? The many allistic people who have other mental health issues? Are they just weirdos until a medical doctor says otherwise?
What about neurotypical people whose behavior is non-standard for a thousand other reasons, medical and nonmedical? HoH people with unusual speech patterns? People from different cultural backgrounds? People who just have some random weird habits, because it's actually normal to deviate from the norm in some way? At what point is someone no longer required to seek your permission to behave weirdly? Who qualifies and who doesn't?
These are absurd situations.
There's an easy solution: destigmatize weird but harmless behavior, period. People who speak, act, walk, or otherwise behave in a way you find unusual are still people (whose diagnoses are none of your business btw), and we deserve to exist in the world without you judging or punishing us. Choose your battles wisely, because I see a lot of you attacking people who are already walking wounded.
TLDR stop being a judgemental asshole and the world will be a slightly nicer place. mind your own business and let people be weird.
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