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#my friends kinda just label me as lesbian and ig it’s been a joke bc i’ve never dated someone and i always talk abt girls
fuglyjeans · 1 month
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1-35 faggot
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1. are you beating the uhaul allegations?
I moved across the country to live with my gf after 2 years long distance. So, kinda? We only visited each other I think 6 times before the move. Idk if that's fast or not
2. Do you identify as butch, femme, masc, and/or gnc?
I've been considering the label femme. I find a lot of joy through playing with makeup and fashion, and my style is very girly.
3. How did you realize you were Sapphic?
When I was a teen I always in the back of my head kind of thought yeah I'd do a girl. But that's cause of my sin nature! Then during college I fell in love with my best friend(thats u 42069gay), lost my faith... then tried to date some men but every interaction made me want to rip my eyeballs out. I started to ID as a lesbian after a date with this guy that went really well, but I just felt so uncomfortable thinking about becoming his girlfriend. We hugged goodbye and I felt so scared of the idea of him kissing me. I cried all the way home on the train... and that's when I knew in my bones. i was lesbo
4. Who is/was your most intense Sapphic crush?
My gf! :3
5. Do you consider yourself a dyke?
Umm ig that depends how you mean it, I'm not sure if that's a label I'm allowed to use tbh. I'm a lesbian. I'm not masc, but I rise and put my right hand over my heart when anyone mentions dykes supporting fags.
6. Are you good at picking up when people are flirting with you, or do you tend to be more oblivious?
I can definitely tell, but my anxiety causes me to second-guess it.
7. Have you ever crushed on a straight girl?
There was this girl I went to church with during my college years, who started making out with me whenever we got drunk. (That shit kind of hurt 😕)
8. What's your relationship status? Are you happy about it?
I'm in a long-term relationship 💕 Our 4 year anniversary is next week, and I'm very happy.
9. Do you have a "type"? If so, what is it?
I've always been most attracted to women who are very feminine, but have some kind of odd or punk edge. women with bangs energy I guess. Brittany Murphy, Bjork, Lady Gaga, SZA, Kathleen Hanna. etc
10. Did you do anything gay as a kid that makes sense when you look back on your childhood?
There was this time in middle school when I was sleeping over at my friend's house. we were lying side-by-side in her bed, tracing circles on each other's backs and I got super turned on. She kind of prepositioned me in a joking way and I flipped out, but for years afterwards I wished I had reacted differently and fantasized about how that night could have gone. I have no idea how I didn't realize this was very gay
11. What are some good Sapphic songs/music artists?
Chappell Roan is my fave. Bikini Kill, Lady Gaga and Hayley Kiyoko r also very special to me. Also check out suspected lesbian Connie Converse she's so cool. Here's 3 random wlw songs I love too: -> Kissing Lessons by Lucy Dacus -> Don't Try Suicide by Team Dresch -> Pynk by Janelle Monae
12. Good Sapphic books/poems/authors?
I'm the worst for this bc I don't read enough :( but: -> The Color Purple by Alice Walker ->The Well of Loneliness by Radclyffe Hall ->My Lesbian Experience With Loneliness by Kabi Nagata
13. Good Sapphic movies/shows?
-> Revolutionary Girl Utena -> Portrait of a Lady On Fire -> But I'm a Cheerleader -> Heavenly Creatures -> Jennifer's Body -> Steven Universe sorryyy
14. List five things you look for in a partner or five things you love about your current partner.
1. Her honesty. Our biggest strength is communication 2. Her creativity and excellent taste in all kinds of art. She reminds me not to worry about the things I can't control!! Which I really need. Repeatedly 3. She doesn't believe in cringe; she's the most non-judgemental person I know. 4. When we get delusional and insane over the same character 🫶💕
15. Are you the gay cousin?
Yes lmao and the gay sister and the gay aunt.
16. Do you consider being Sapphic a big part of your identity?
Yes very much so!
17. How many people have you dated? Talk about them if you want!
Like 2. I have really bad social anxiety and was a totally weird late bloomer. I went on a few different dates but only *dated* one person before I met my s/o. It was super awkward, she was sweet but we were both very inexperienced and shy and I guess there just wasn't enough chemistry. we kind of hung out for 6 months, never kissed or made anything official, then I moved out of state and we ghosted each other... v awkward time but I do have some fun memories
18. Thoughts on e-dating or long distance? Have you ever done it? How did it go?
I totally support it. I think anonymity is what some of us need to allow ourselves to be vulnerable... I met my partner on tumblr, it was the only place I felt safe being my whole cringey self at the time. I always used to think it was weird to date someone you've never met, but once I found her I said what the hell, I have nothing to lose. Luckily it went well!! It's unconventional, but so is everything about my life.
19. describe your fashion sense. do you "dress gayly"?
I would say no, most people assume I'm straight. I have a somewhat basic wardrobe... My fashion sense is much campier and more colorful than my wallet allows.
20. do you consider yourself to be a good kisser?
I have no idea. I try my best
21. are you generally "out" to people?
Most of the time I try to be. I'm not out at work, because the vibe there is rather conservative (like, Bible tracts on the wall) so I don't feel safe just telling anyone.
22. how do you feel about valentine's day?
I like it a lot more, now that I'm no longer an adult virgin :)
23. do you like being referred to with masculine adjectives, feminine adjectives, both, or neither?
She/her I'm very cis
24. thoughts on marriage?
I like the idea of having a ceremony, but I don't know if I'd want to be legally married. I would need to read up on the ramifications of that a bit more.
25. have you ever gone to a pride parade?
yes! I marched in my hometown once, and I went to Boston Pride in 2019. I haven't been to any since but I mean to
26. do you read yuri manga?
nope
27. do you fit any sapphic stereotypes / other stereotypes related to your identity?
I have short fingernails and too many cats
28. what's a canon sapphic ship you enjoy?
Petra Solano x Jane Ramos, from Jane The Virgin. It wasn't the best written imo, BUT I'm just a huge Petra fan, and I was so happy to see her find gay love.
29. how about a non-canon sapphic ship?
Hinata Hyuga x Sakura Haruno from Naruto. I will die on this hill. They would be so soft and encouraging for each other. I used to be so fucking invested in this, it was all I would ever draw in my sketchbooks
30. who's your favorite sapphic character?
Anthy Himemiya. She's just. a kaleidoscope of trauma and love and bitterness. also, this isn't canon but I truly truly see Bev Keane from Midnight Mass as a lesbian. She just reminds me too much of myself when I was younger and I feel for her and I love her lots
31. LEAST favorite sapphic character?
Molly Bolt from Rubyfruit Jungle. I guess she's not that bad, but I just fucking hated this book
32. tell a funny story about something really gay you've done.
convinced myself I was in a queerplatonic relationship so that I wouldn't have to confront the fact I wasn't straight
33. do you get crushes/fall in love easily?
not really, I've only had a small handful of those experiences
34. who's a sapphic person you look up to? they can be someone in your life, a historical figure, a celebrity, etc!
Lady Gaga. She's so smart and so weird and so HERSELF. even when I disagree with something she does/says, I appreciate her sincerity and her gumption.
35. if you could tell your younger sapphic self anything, what would it be?
Girl you are allowed to trust your gut. Your feelings are holy, don't hold yourself hostage. If there is a God, and if he really is loving, he wouldn't want that for you.
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strawberri · 4 years
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thinking abt sexuality again and i don’t know who i am anymore 😁
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