#my parents are great

[fenrir-wolf-of-gotham]

My parents just surprised me with the first issue of Batgirl 2000. God they’re amazing and I can’t thank them enough.

#my cryptid cass #my parents are great #ooc post

[necarion]

Context: when I call my parents’ cell phones, it’s usually even odds who picks up on either line (maybe slightly more often that my dad answers on my mom’s line, because she leaves her phone around more, and it rings on the iPad). So unless I specifically need to talk to one of them, I can sort of pick randomly.

Other context: my dad is a massive smartass whom I love dearly. I am also a massive smartass whom he loves dearly.

Funny story from just now: I called my mom’s phone

Dad: It’s okay, I didn’t want to talk to you anyway. It’s okay, I’ll go into the back room and be unloved.

Me: Wait, just

Dad: Nobody loves me anyway. I’m leaving now. I’ll give you to mom.

Me: Just put me on speaker phone before you leave.

*phone is on speaker*

Me: Mom, what’s the comcast password, the system logged me out when you changed it.

*silence. then laughter*

Dad: ... Here, let me give you to Mom. She knows the answer to this one.

#dialogue #my parents are great #my dad is a huge smartass #true story

[thedelusionreaderbitch]

when you should probably go check if you have depression but your family can still see what the appointment with the family doctor is for

#my parents are great #but they would probably just make the situation worse #not even on purpose #vent post #delusion vents #delusion speaks #ayyee

[doyouknowwhoyouare13]

When I form attachments to every person I know

#especially adults #which is funny cause like #my parents are great #but most teachers I have become like my best friend #is that weird?? #LMAO #★nyx talks too much

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[wolfythewitch]

Do you think Jesus ever felt homesick. Do you think he missed his mom

#wolfy religious tedtalks #thinking about tjat time i went to china for like two months #for a study program #and i had a banger time it was great #but when i went to bed at night id sort of just sit around #and it was already like 11 pm and my parents were asleep #i couldnt really call them #but id sit and read or watch some videos or eat noodles and check the clock and look at that its 2am #what i wouldnt give for a hug right about now #do you think that after all his miracles he would crawl into an unfamiliar bed and he would think of his own in nazareth

[hailsatanacab]

A Persuasive Argument - dpxdc

"Great!" Danny says, clapping his hands together to get everyone's attention. The dinner table falls silent as everyone looks towards him. It's a full house today and, honestly, Danny's a little nervous. "I'm sure you're all wondering why I gathered you here today."

"It's dinnertime. In our house." Duke mutters, while doing a very bad job of concealing his yawn. He holds his fork poised over the braised beef, but, just like everyone else, still looks towards Danny before tucking in. It's intriguing enough to wait.

"Yeah, no one misses Alfie's dinner." Dick says, with a brilliant smile that Danny can't help but return.

"Precisely! What better time to talk to you all than when you're all actually here!"

"Wait, I thought you came round to work on our English essays?" Tim asks, blinking owlishly.

"I'm afraid I've lured you here under false pretences, Tim."

"This is where I live."

"I would still really appreciate help on that essay though, I mean, what the hell is Hamlet even about? I just don't get that old time-y language, like 'Hark! A ghost hath killed me!' - absolute rubbish, what does that even mean?"

"The ghost never kills anyone in Hamlet, he's there to tell Hamlet that he was murdered. Have you actually read it?"

"No, but it sounds like you have. Tim, I want this guy to help me with my essay instead. I know for a fact that you haven't read Hamlet, either."

"So? We don't need Jason, I've read the Sparknotes."

"Hi Jason, I'm Danny, pleasure to meet you, summarise Hamlet in three sentences or less."

"Am I auditioning to help you write your essays? I can't believe you’ve gone through your whole school life without reading it, it’s good!"

"Hamlet, along with a number of other classics, was banned in our house because it portrayed ghosts as intelligent and sympathetic beings rather than evil, animalistic beasts. I didn’t even get to see The Muppet's Christmas Carol until last year with Tim! It was surprisingly good, and I hate Christmas because everyone always argued and it sucked. But we're getting off topic. I—"

"No, no, please go back to that, because what the fu—"

"Boys, please." Bruce interrupts, looking to the world as if he wants to hang his head in his hands. "Danny, you were about to say something?"

"Oh, yeah, Mr. Wayne! Thanks!"

"Please, call me Bruce."

"Well, that very succinctly brings me to my point, because I'd actually really like to call you dad."

Nobody says a word. Nobody even blinks, all as shocked as the other, watching open-mouthed as Danny pulls his laptop out from beside his chair. Bruce can definitely feel a headache coming on.

"Before you say anything, I've prepared a 69 slide PowerPoint presentation on why you, Bruce Wayne, should adopt me, Danny Last-Name-Pending. Please save your questions, comments, and verdict until the end, thank you."

#dpxdc #batpham #i forget - can we tag the parent fandoms? w/e #immediately alfred's like: while i do appreciate your initiative may i suggest it wait until after dinner? #and danny - who has barely eaten proper homecooked food ever - takes one bite and then absolutely wolfs down the whole lot #after he's finished he's like 'bear with - I've got to add that to the 'Reasons I Would Like to Live Here' section' #danny's powerpoint has tailored sections for each batfam member with lists of reasons why they'd get along #my au thoughts on this is that the fentons disowned danny when he told them he was phantom #and that this is after the ultimate enemy - wherein which he allied himself with the JL to fight against dan #(which didnt really work at all - BUT he knows some of their identities now INCLUDING batman's) #so one of the main reasons why he'd be a great fit is that he knows their vigilante status anyway so they don’t need to worry about secrets #dick just turns to tim like 'he’s your friend. he learnt this from you.' #tim: 'i didn't tell him our identities!! i would never!!' #dick: 'no i know that. it's the stalker tendancies. it's baby tim all over again' #tim: scandalised gasp #they all eat dinner in silence just super subdued and in shock and sending glances to bruce and danny #duke like: 'so i know I'm the last one in the family but like... this isn't how it normally happens right? did any of you make powerpoints? #tim gets all shifty because he absolutely did make a powerpoint he just never actually showed it to anyone #everyone stares at tim because they all know. it was in one of bab's blackmail files she has on him #damian's slide has danny offering to throw down at any time. 'tim says you like to prove yourself with your skills? #how about a real challenge? if i beat you then you have to vote yes to adopting me!' #damian is in two minds about accepting because... 1) look at him damian could take danny in his sleep! but #2) on the off chance that he does win... damian does not want any more brothers #(he takes the bet and its a suprisingly fun fight - and while he'll never say this... he would vote yes even without the wager) #on one of danny's slides there's a picture of ellie: you'll also get my clone sister! two children for the price of one!! #uhhh.... thats it now - I've been having fun with this haha #spent all day with the 'ive lured you here under false pretences' 'danny i live here' line in my head haha #anyway enjoy!!!!!! this was fun #i wanna make these slides so bad

[thedevilundercover]

There’s such an easy way to wrangle all of the Batchildren. Bruce, take some notes: stickers

Especially the golden star stickers. If you pull one of those out? All of them are going fucking feral

Maybe he learnt it from some other single mom of too many kids™️ at some PTA meeting or whatever

*clears throat* here’s a demonstration of what I think would happen.

Batman: I have acquired some new knowledge and have decided to implement them into our training

Batchildren: yeah; ok; whatever; no one cares

Batman, pulls out some stickers from his bat pouches™️:

All of the fucking Batchildren: *going feral, ballistic over the stickers, actually listen for once*

#I’m in hs and my class eats that shit up bro #I would love to get some stickers :) #Man I’d be a great parent #tim drake #red hood #bruce wayne #batman #red robin #jason todd #dick grayson #damian wayne #batfam #dcu #duke thomas #cassandra cain #steph brown #stephanie brown #nightwing #dc robin

[leisi-lilacdreams]

there are two parental bonds inside you:

one soft and loving towards each other

the other fierce and protective of each other

may i please have @somerandomdudelmao blessing on one of these versions? 🙏

i don't know which one to put my focus on and the vibes for each would change the way i'd ink and color them

#tmnt #rottmnt #teenage mutant ninja turtles #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #cass apocalyptic series #cass fanart tag #my art #rise of the turtles #rise of the tmnt #future leo #rottmnt casey jr #casey jr #if someone else could ink and color these for me that's be great #i like sketching and then my energy fizzles out and i want to move on to another sketch OTL #the vibes are either a children's book parental bonding or a survival horror parental bonding no in-between #oh hey it's my first time drawing cj :D

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 84

Amity Park absolutely adores her little ghostling, her little Gatekeeper who was of her own ectoplasm, reborn from her own blood in the center of her new heart. She absolutely adores her baby, practically a newborn, being only a year dead! 

So of course she had to gush and boast about her little phantom to the other city spirits! They all got together to gossip sometimes after all. And both Smallville and Fawcett started to gush about their own little ones back! 

Gosh they should set up a playdate at some point, her little phantom could use some friends in the mortal realm. Well some more friends, three is obviously not enough. Oh, Gotham and Bludhaven have come over as well! It’s a playdate then! 

Now if only each of their world’s timelines were synced up, but at least everyone is around the same age! 

#dcxdp #dpxdc #City Children Au #Prompts #Each city is from a different timeline lol #Bruce is an angy 16 year old vigilante and was Not prepared to be the oldest #Dick hasn't told them his birthday #and isn't revealing he's older than this Bruce by a few months #Clark is just happy to make friends and he brought pie! his ma and him made it! #Dick is wheezing at these itty bitty versions of Bruce and Clark- this is great and hilarious and oh god he has to protect them #Billy is chanting to do it whenever someone has a Bad Idea- He's just become the Champion of Magic & the gods encourage it #Danny is delighted to have more friends and he's not the oldest Or the youngest so yay! #they're having fun #lots of fun in all their timelines and in the realms too #if they get in trouble they call their city-parents #“Alfred says I'm a polite young man. He also says that if someone tries to grab me to use my teeth” #“Sounds about right” “Mood” “Biting is always good” “But what about diseases??” #“Hey Danny you like alien stuff right- do you think you can help me and the others translate this it came from the ship i was on” #“Omg Billy you should teach us mortal magic and we can teach you are stuff” #Dick: I don't wanna be the responsible one so I'm going to encourage them all to be Worse :) #At some point the squad is going to end up in some other timeline and confuse the fuck out of the JL lol #dick grayson #danny fenton #billy batson #clark kent #bruce wayne

[keepin-it-on-the-d-l]

What a silly family, I sure hope nothing bad happens to them!

#rare footage of good parenting on this podcast #i kinda stand by the fact that sparrow would’ve been a great dad had it not been for the apocalypse #why don’t we just pretend this was Hero’s training for a little bit #it would make me less sad #my art #dndads #dungeons and daddies #dndaddies #dndads s2 #dndads season 2 #dndads quest #sparrow oak #sparrow oak swallows garcia #hero oak #hero oak swallows garcia #normal oak #normal oak swallows garcia #lark oak #lark oak garcia

[chinelacanta]

i love putting dragon in Situations <3

BIG FAN of the ‘dragon is xebec’s son’ but i can’t decide if i like it in a funny way or a sad way 😭. do you think dragon thought he’d loose his father’s love if he knew he was taken in by a marine. do you think he mourned garp’s favor when he also failed to be a ‘good man’ and turned to revolution, that he wasted garp’s life efforts in saving a child from evil and a life lead to a death sentence. do you think dragon grieves that he managed to disappoint both his fathers. do you think that when he held luffy for the first time he realized he was no different then xebec, that he’d condemned his child to the stake for the crime of existence, a life of loneliness if he lived, a forced marine career and shackled dreams from his only ‘relative’. hey man what if i cried real hard abt it

#god i dont ask much #just one (1) dragon centric fic one shot where he Copes with things #it will never happen and for that i weep #probably definitely not canon but i like to imagine xebec as an Ok father #dudes not great but like 😭 let dragon have a good parent in his life #this au to me is literally ‘at first i loled but then i serioused’. i cant be trusted to have nice dragon thoughts #this au probably exists for the powerscalers BUT I DONT CARE IM RECLAIMING IT FOR THE THEMATICAL VALUES #THE INHERENT DRAMA #AURGHHHHHHHH #monkey d garp #monkey d dragon #one piece #my art!!

[josyuss]

king

#yugioh #ygo #atem #yami yugi #kazuki takahashi #rip legend #yu-gi-oh! #my art #ygo was kindof my gateway to internet fandoms #thank you for a great series honestly one of the most solid from start to finish #bought the manga so many years ago #happened to be visiting parents house so i could read the volumes again right away #flow of time is a weird thing

[blueskittlesart]

being in art school and having basically 0 knowledge about christianity whatsoever is so funny at this point i think you could tell me literally anything was an allegory for jesus and i'd just believe you

#my ass has been to church like twice in my entire life so my peers are like 'this is a biblical allegory' and im like yeah ok sure #makes art history class very annoying tho because everyone just assumes you can look at a stained glass window and know who all the guys ar #also sometimes people will be like this image depicts the story of david or peter or some random other biblical name #and then just. not elaborate. because apparently we all know the stories of every biblical guy who ever existed. #who is peter and why is he in the church window. please #and i dont even have an EXCUSE bc like both ethnically and like in basic practice i am christian. i celebrate christmas or whatever #my parents both just fucking hated church so much as children they were like nah were not doing that #and now i have a deficiency in Identifying White Men In Paintings apparently. #sigh. sorry just got a 5 out of 13 on an art history quiz feeling GREAT

[notsosecretlyalesbian]

"At a time when my life felt scattered and incomplete, the fantasy world of The Parent Trap, and the warm and maternal presence of Chessy, provided me with a dream of gluing the pieces of it together. The film, though not explicitly queer, still provides a sort of utopia of queer acceptance, connection and love. [...] Some days I still think that maybe all I need is a hug from Lisa Ann Walter and I will be all right." - Michael Elias (x)

Lisa Ann Walter as Chessy in The Parent Trap (1998)

#chessy #lisa ann walter #the parent trap #filmgifs #filmedit #my gifs #i love her so so much #she'll always be my comfort character #and oh gOD i'd kill to get a hug from Lisa she seems like she gives great hugs #she could fix me #also my GOD making these gave me a headache because of the colors i'm never giffing old movies again LOL #also tomorrow we go back to Melissa posts at night it's already up and ready on the queue didn't want to post two gifsets so close together #notsosecretlyalesbian.gifs #notsosecretlyalesbian.law.gifs #notsosecretlyalesbian

[revelisms]

Lil' comic of a scene from a fic I haven't gotten around to writing.

(basically Vi and Jinx have reconciled, Silco is alive, and Vi is begrudingly finding herself beginning to look up Silco as a mentor/father figure. She accompanies him on an errand run, one of which winds them up at the old cannery, and emotions bubble up biiig time 🥲)

#y'know the 'makings of greatness' treasure planet scene? #yeah #arcane #arcane fanart #silco #vi #drawing #this is so messy lkg #just going to call these my post-it note doodles #vi with parentification issues resenting that she wasn't the soft image of their mother that powder likely needed #and still not knowing how to work through that - especially since she feels like jinx no longer *needs* her (even though she does) #and dad silco daughter vi just #hits something man #because they *hate* each other and they have every reason to #but there's just #aughghg #so much potential for character development with them #silco and jinx is codependent central and we love it but silco and vi is the hard hitting boundary setting raging arguments and i eat it up #very much hcing that silco sees his inner child in jinx vs. his angry young adult self in vi #and both of those effect his (somewhat disastrous / sometimes okay) parenting #it's a sliding scale