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derangedrhythms · 1 year

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Despair is my only strength.

Joyce Carol Oates, from ‘My Sister, My Love’

#joyce carol oates #my sister my love #prose #despair

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junglejim4322 · 1 year

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The Mafu Cage (1978)

#The Mafu Cage #my sister my love #don't ring the doorbell #carol kane #karen arthur #horror film #women directed horror #c

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lazylittledragon · 4 months

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you know what fuck it we’re doing dadstarion

#bg3 #baldur’s gate 3 #astarion #tavstarion #idk if this is canon to the dorianverse yet but he looks like a little hobbit!!!#this is a Long long long time post brain i think. since they’ve sorted out the daywalker thing #i don’t think he’d be affectionate but i think he’d be VERY protective #they’re not bad parents in the way that they neglect or mistreat him or even just don’t love him #i think they love him to death but you just shouldn’t give your small child a KNIFE #this one is my favourite sister bc she reminds me of robin

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xiewho · 1 month

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complaining about high elves and sharing inside job gossip. the sisters ever actually

#fantasy high #dimension 20 #fantasy high junior year #adaine abernant #aelwyn abernant #fhjy #d20 #looking @ my art is like art style roulette #will i render next time? will i abuse the lasso tool? stay tuned !#i love the abernant sisters they are everything 2 me #dimension 20 fanart #also im madly in love with aelywn. just so u guys r aware #my art

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andthebeanstalk · 11 months

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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chloesimaginationthings · 1 month

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Michael Afton let his FNAF trauma slip again…

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majunju · 3 months

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he is so moe

#love and deepspace #my art #drew this for my sister bc that’s her man . Or so she says

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spiderzlover · 4 months

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Onaga kids with their quirky names🔥🔥

#who names their children like that😭#at least it's another coin for my frye-beika sibling headcanon hehe #Frye's sisters are Sear and Simmer! finally named them somehow lol👍#I love Onaga fam💛💛💛#splatoon 3 #frye splatoon #leyko drawz

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jay-birds-fly · 7 months

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A candid image of me cleverly tricking my unsuspecting friends into sharing an interest with me so I have someone to infodump to

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spud-soup · 9 months

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New tumblr banner ✨✨✨ I love these two

#my art #strawberry shortcake #orange blossom #strawberry shortcake fanart #I love them! They remind me of me and my sister #orange blossom my beloved

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bxnnie-bxwl · 6 months

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he tried

#JHDGFKSDG eggs-benedict afton #sorry michael #freddy is not the smartest...#bonbon is the smarter one #was watching a sister location vr video so got the urge to draw them #and also cause i love them so so much they are my scrunklys #art #fnaf #fnaf sister location #funtime freddy #fnaf bonbon #fnaf michael afton

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babybluemohito · 7 months

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I just feel like he blushes a lot

#here I said it #what you gonna do #the guy almost fried Ozai's ass with lightning and fought in an Agni Kai against his prodigy sister but can't take a compliment to the face #you don't understand #i love him so much #zuko #atla #avatar: the last airbender #my art

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puppetmaster13u · 1 month

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Prompt 261

“So is no one going to talk about the eldritch space child or…”

“I mean, do you want to get between a child and Batman? I think the only one who could even get close right now is Superman…”

“No you’re right, I think- oh my god the eldritch space child is playing with batman’s bat-ears and he’s not doing anything about it what the fuck I thought only Robins could get away with that-”